noisy45:
This life ehn enjoying 2 preeks at the same time. Women

Guy wey u get dis kind pic frm na

Truth be told you are punishing the second guy and u are confused as in u dnt knw what u want. come out clean and continue with ur ex or cut off all connections and love the new guy wholeheaitedly.

Queentee214:
Hi everyone,
Am really confused on what to do right now and I need advice.

I and my ex broke up six months ago...I broke up with him cuz we are always having misunderstandings...not just that..he can't control himself when angry , he always end up insulting me and calling me names but apologize when he is calm.

The last one that led to our break up was when we went to his friend's birthday party..on getting there,,i met an old time friend(a guy) and we talked for few mins .i went back inside where the party was holding and I met my bf angry already,,we end up quarreling there and he called me a prostitute in front of everyone(that wasn't the first time he would embarrass me in public)...

I was hurt and left there...i started ignoring him and the relationship wasn't going well anymore...i broke up with him afterwards ..i love him but I can't accept his flaws ..we tried to get back together but end up blaming each other for everything.

Six months later, I'm in a relationship with another guy..he has his flaws too but not bad...
Now the problem is I still love my ex and we still talk and chat almost everyday...

He is the first person I call when I need advice and vice versa..my ex family thinks we are still together and always call to check up on me....this is causing problems in my new relationship....

I decided to cut contact with my ex but he is isn't ready to let me go and neither am i..

Just last week my bf broke up with me and told me to call him when am ready to cut off contact with my ex...

Am really confused and I don't know how to do what he asked me...pls anyone with advice on how to forget someone should help me

I need to forget and move on from my ex
....pls advice... Thanks

Pls no one should come here and start telling me I met a good guy and toying with his feelings..

My ex is also a good guy, he just has his flaws...I just need advice...

Thanks

How old are you?

Richiebay:


Don’t generalize bro, we have lots of good women out there.

Bro slay mamas everywhere. Even deeper life girls self dey collect now.I dey teach 4 high institution, so i knw dem all.

I'm sure I'm not the only one that doesn't have a tiny bit of feelings for any ex. Once we're done, we are done! No amount of cajoling can make me go back even if he has A1 in 'fuckatology' Op, you need to use your head o, let go of the ex, cut all ties from him starting from the calls and messages. Which advice do you need that you can't get from another mature person that you have to go to him? No go end up with such a man that disgraces you at every given opportunity. There are lots of good men out there, don't miss out

DennisEche:
You never ready to leave, when you ready come let's advice you properly, if he was that good to stick with why was he an ex, ladies keep making same mistake of going to exes Even some married women are guilty of it, at the end destroy their relationship, stop keeping in touch with ur ex, it has never end well. Most exed guys come back to destroy.

There's nothing wrong in keeping in touch with one's ex but to have a whole lot of discipline to maintain a good behaviour around the ex. This is because some ex can be so helpful career wise & supportive - name it.

If you're not disciplined, that level of friendship is not for you I'm sorry.

notoriousbabe:
Walahi if you go back to that modafoka no be your papa burn you be that. Move on and discover something new. Him prick no even size you self, so go out and search for your own size wey go dey sweet you

Dick matter cannot be overemphasized.

Kenturkey048:
I swear to God...Girls are the same everywhere .I wish I had the nerves as the new guy when I was in same dilemma..the modafucker dumped my ass for her ex...I hate girls

me I'm always straight with mine, I told her I made you a woman, I will still get the brand new one even finer than her


I have and would never savage a relationship, when you start to misbehave you're entering relegation. relegation to satisfy my sexual urge till I meet a mental stable lady

You bunch of hypocrites calling me names and saying all sorts of rubbish... Most of u are worst ....I wonder why Nigerians pretend a lot.....
Should I have lied and said no, I don't have feelings for my ex anymore...
People get insulted for speaking out about their feelings .....most of you are just pretenders...

I only asked for advice about how to move on from someone have spent years with cuz its not easy starting all over again with someone else

If u can't read and understand what the thread is about then Bleep off and stop speaking trash...

Hypocrites

daviesmania:
they're shouting cut-off cut-off as if its that easy, peeps it isn't easy cutting off from a guy that smell so good when u hug, kiss so good when need be and gist so good when he's calm....... i no what am saying. am exactly that type.... u just can't let go, u just can't stay either.... CLASSICAL DILEMMA!

My bro all this na wash. Except ur hot downstairs nd IMPORTANTLY UVE GOT ENUF CASH.
The best thing is dnt date less dan 3 girlfriends.

Queentee214:
Hi everyone,
Am really confused on what to do right now and I need advice.

I and my ex broke up six months ago...I broke up with him cuz we are always having misunderstandings...not just that..he can't control himself when angry , he always end up insulting me and calling me names but apologize when he is calm.

The last one that led to our break up was when we went to his friend's birthday party..on getting there,,i met an old time friend(a guy) and we talked for few mins .i went back inside where the party was holding and I met my bf angry already,,we end up quarreling there and he called me a prostitute in front of everyone(that wasn't the first time he would embarrass me in public)...

I was hurt and left there...i started ignoring him and the relationship wasn't going well anymore...i broke up with him afterwards ..i love him but I can't accept his flaws ..we tried to get back together but end up blaming each other for everything.

Six months later, I'm in a relationship with another guy..he has his flaws too but not bad...
Now the problem is I still love my ex and we still talk and chat almost everyday...

He is the first person I call when I need advice and vice versa..my ex family thinks we are still together and always call to check up on me....this is causing problems in my new relationship....

I decided to cut contact with my ex but he is isn't ready to let me go and neither am i..

Just last week my bf broke up with me and told me to call him when am ready to cut off contact with my ex...

Am really confused and I don't know how to do what he asked me...pls anyone with advice on how to forget someone should help me

I need to forget and move on from my ex
....pls advice... Thanks

Pls no one should come here and start telling me I met a good guy and toying with his feelings..

My ex is also a good guy, he just has his flaws...I just need advice...

Thanks

Look deep within yourself.

Do you have a parent that abused you when you were a little kid?
Perhaps that is your experience with what Love is from your childhood. So when you see your ex-boyfriend do all those things, you stayed with because he represents something familiar from your past.

OR
Consider this.
Do you really love yourself? Self Love.

Someone who loves himself or herself will not tolerate anything that threatens their peace of mind, their emotional state or their mental state.
If a Knife continues to cut you and make you bleed, will you keep going back to that knife? Someone embarrassed you in public and called you a prostitute, and yet you pine over him.

My ex cheated on me with 7 guys behind my back, she confessed and yet, I never called her a prostitute or a hoe to her face. Anyone will self-respect and self-love will never tolerate that.

What you are feeling for that guy is not Love. It is something like[b] "Codependence"[/b]. Look that word up. It is like being addicted to someone because of the way they made you feel.

You keep going to that guy because he is familiar.
For people like you, Good relationships where you are respected and Loved properly are boring. You always crave abusive relationships.

If you don't love yourself then you cannot show others Love properly because you don't even know what it means. If you don't love yourself, you can never appreciate the proper kind of love, it will look strange and alien to you.

You also have a problem with boundaries and self-control, that is why you can be in a new relationship and still be communicating with your ex every day, not minding who or what you are currently destroying. But how could you mind? When the person you used to destroy your current relationship is someone that was destroying you mentally, emotionally and destroying your public image and yet you still want him.

You need to sit down and currently re-evaluate yourself mentally.

Stay away from relationships and re-evaluate yourself mentally, do research, consult books. Jumping from one relationship to the other will not help you as you will keep destroying good relationships and getting drawn to abusive guys.

Numerouno94:

Guy wey u get dis kind pic frm na

Nah through research

Sweeetheart:
Mafia. hoping to collect two diicks at a time, you're the real MVP



there is no how you can get over your ex unless you get him off your heart. You lack principles and you're not a lady of class


If you've class and principles you won't be falling in love with someone that you ain't comfortable with


you won't be falling in love with someone that rubbish you in public


in fact if you're my sister, I would have taken you to Cele for proper deliverance.


your new bf is a real guy, i love how he suspend the relationship. I can't imagine myself with a lady of low class who lacks principles. a guy that abuse you at any fvcking provocation time doesn't value and respect you

People with class & principles are a rare gem - hard to find.

Queentee214:
Hi everyone,
Am really confused on what to do right now and I need advice.

I and my ex broke up six months ago...I broke up with him cuz we are always having misunderstandings...not just that..he can't control himself when angry , he always end up insulting me and calling me names but apologize when he is calm.

The last one that led to our break up was when we went to his friend's birthday party..on getting there,,i met an old time friend(a guy) and we talked for few mins .i went back inside where the party was holding and I met my bf angry already,,we end up quarreling there and he called me a prostitute in front of everyone(that wasn't the first time he would embarrass me in public)...

I was hurt and left there...i started ignoring him and the relationship wasn't going well anymore...i broke up with him afterwards ..i love him but I can't accept his flaws ..we tried to get back together but end up blaming each other for everything.

Six months later, I'm in a relationship with another guy..he has his flaws too but not bad...
Now the problem is I still love my ex and we still talk and chat almost everyday...

He is the first person I call when I need advice and vice versa..my ex family thinks we are still together and always call to check up on me....this is causing problems in my new relationship....

I decided to cut contact with my ex but he is isn't ready to let me go and neither am i..

Just last week my bf broke up with me and told me to call him when am ready to cut off contact with my ex...

Am really confused and I don't know how to do what he asked me...pls anyone with advice on how to forget someone should help me

I need to forget and move on from my ex
....pls advice... Thanks

Pls no one should come here and start telling me I met a good guy and toying with his feelings..

My ex is also a good guy, he just has his flaws...I just need advice...

Thanks

madam, your ex knows who you are, that title he called you at his friends birthday suit you,

Well,am not to judge,only you and your ex know what went wrong before the break up.i believe you both lack understanding.If you are sure you love him,kindly go back to him and genuinely apologize for breakup.The truth is u have to earn his trust now because you broke up and went to another relationship which will definitely reduce the trust he has for you.As for the guy,if he truly loves you then he must forgive you and become a better person. You both should try to settle your misunderstanding. Most times we see relationship different from marriage,if we don't give our best in relationship ,what guarantee us we will give our best in marriage. About the new guy,he may be genuine with his feeling or not,but he should have allow you to heal b4 asking you out,most times we cause our problems because asking someone out when we know the person was out of relationship not too long is bad.we need to give the person time to decide before asking them out.you should also know there is no perfect guy, your new guy may seem better to you because he does everything you like but what guarantee you he won't change in future. So my dear pls follow ur heart.

KanuSE:


There's nothing wrong in keeping in touch with one's ex but to have a whole lot of discipline to maintain a good behaviour around the ex. This is because some ex can be so helpful career wise & supportive - name it.

If you're not disciplined, that level of friendship is not for you I'm sorry.

How many ladies can use their head, when ex start coming back it ends up in sex

KanuSE:


There's nothing wrong in keeping in touch with one's ex but to have a whole lot of discipline to maintain a good behaviour around the ex. This is because some ex can be so helpful career wise & supportive - name it.

If you're not disciplined, that level of friendship is not for you I'm sorry.

How many ladies can use their head, when ex start coming back it ends up in sex, unless the guy no want

DennisEche:

How many ladies can use their head, when ex start coming back it ends up in sex, unless the guy no want

Same applies to men...

Queentee214:
You bunch of hypocrites calling me names and saying all sorts of rubbish... Most of u are worst ....I wonder why Nigerians pretend a lot.....
Should I have lied and said no, I don't have feelings for my ex anymore...
People get insulted for speaking out about their feelings .....most of you are just pretenders...

I only asked for advice about how to move on from someone have spent years with cuz its not easy starting all over again with someone else

If u can't read and understand what the thread is about then Bleep off and stop speaking trash...

Hypocrites

No need getting riled up. Leave the insults and focus on the advice. I have been in your shoes before and i think codependency (like wackj1 said) made me take him back. He begged and cried like he was about to die, taking him back was one of the biggest mistakes I ever made.

Yes, it's easier to go back to what is familiar and romanticise the good times in your head but I want you to sit and remember exactly how he made you feel at those times when he was embarrassing you in public.

Most of the comments are saying the same thing, all us cannot be stupid abi.

He who has ears, let him ear.

Ceenelly:
madam, your ex knows who you are, that title he called you at his friends birthday suit you,

Queentee214 's libido is high, na why she no fit make up her mind !

Queentee214:
Hi everyone,
Am really confused on what to do right now and I need advice.

I and my ex broke up six months ago...I broke up with him cuz we are always having misunderstandings...not just that..he can't control himself when angry , he always end up insulting me and calling me names but apologize when he is calm.

The last one that led to our break up was when we went to his friend's birthday party..on getting there,,i met an old time friend(a guy) and we talked for few mins .i went back inside where the party was holding and I met my bf angry already,,we end up quarreling there and he called me a prostitute in front of everyone(that wasn't the first time he would embarrass me in public)...

I was hurt and left there...i started ignoring him and the relationship wasn't going well anymore...i broke up with him afterwards ..i love him but I can't accept his flaws ..we tried to get back together but end up blaming each other for everything.

Six months later, I'm in a relationship with another guy..he has his flaws too but not bad...
Now the problem is I still love my ex and we still talk and chat almost everyday...

He is the first person I call when I need advice and vice versa..my ex family thinks we are still together and always call to check up on me....this is causing problems in my new relationship....

I decided to cut contact with my ex but he is isn't ready to let me go and neither am i..

Just last week my bf broke up with me and told me to call him when am ready to cut off contact with my ex...

Am really confused and I don't know how to do what he asked me...pls anyone with advice on how to forget someone should help me

I need to forget and move on from my ex
....pls advice... Thanks

Pls no one should come here and start telling me I met a good guy and toying with his feelings..

My ex is also a good guy, he just has his flaws...I just need advice...

Thanks

It's quite easy to advise if you are not in her shoes. Flaw is human, you'll find it in all human.

Why do you think many ladies and guys consult prophets or herbalist to decide on who to marry?

This is where genuine christians enjoy the benefit of superior wisdom and knowledge of the Holy Spirit.

If you're not one, well take your gamble with your ex. If you marry the new guy, bet it, you won't know when you'll start cheating with your ex.

Your emotions are still on the drive for him.

How do you stop his character flaws? He just had to grow up!

If you don't have a pastor whom you should introduce him to for pre-marital counselling, then ensure you get someone he respects and introduce your marriage plans to the person, with that he knows there's someone to report him to when he messes up.

Cut off from the new guy, ask him to take you to the person I spoke about now. He was denied firm home discipline, so he'll need it now.

Above all, get to know Jesus seriously, not just as a church goer, be born again, you'll know how to handle such cases. Genuinely born again, I mean.

kay4kay:


Tell us the truth your ex is good downstairs

Her ex fit don burst her cheeks sef...lol

Sweeetheart:




me I'm always straight with mine, I told her I made you a woman, I will still get the brand new one even finer than her


I have and would never savage a relationship, when you start to misbehave you're entering relegation. relegation to satisfy my sexual urge till I meet a mental stable lady

they say experience is the best teacher...I don learn now...no time again...She know even need do anyhow to see anyhow for my hand now...

IDERAWOLE:


It's quite easy to advise if you are not in her shoes. Flaw is human, you'll find it in all human.

Why do you think many ladies and guys consult prophets or herbalist to decide on who to marry?

This is where genuine christians enjoy the benefit of superior wisdom and knowledge of the Holy Spirit.

If you're not one, well take your gamble with your ex. If you marry the new guy, bet it, you won't know when you'll start cheating with your ex.

Your emotions are still on the drive for him.

How do you stop his character flaws? He just had to grow up!

If you don't have a pastor whom you should introduce him to for pre-marital counselling, then ensure you get someone he respects and introduce your marriage plans to the person, with that he knows there's someone to report him to when he messes up.

Cut off from the new guy, ask him to take you to the person I spoke about now. He was denied firm home discipline, so he'll need it now.

Above all, get to know Jesus seriously, not just as a church goer, be born again, you'll know how to handle such cases. Genuinely born again, I mean.

@bolded,

Because they have no functioning brain.

First of all, a lady is suppose to value herself, know her worth and have high self esteem for herself and thats y she shud not tolerate any ill treatment from a guy especially the one she claim loved her. We all have our flaws but not to the extend of embarassing and calling the ones we claim to love names in d public. My honest opinion is either u go bk to ur ex nd also b ready to bear anytin dat comes afterworth or cut all communication wit him and move on. Remember you r to be respected and enjoy the relationship and not endure it.

I sighs!!! I’ve been there dear. Just go far off from him . Change to a new number , change you daily lifestyle so he doesn’t have time to come to you.

You have to help yourself too. Stop talking to him . He won’t change , nothing will change .

I think Okafor law is really working,that why she can't let go.

OladimejiRufai:
Beautiful OP

In this case, I have three things to share with you or I want you to consider or reason when making a choice.

The first is, I think in this case, it's a matter of what you wish for and how much capacity you have to withstand the downsides of what you desire.

- it's a matter of what you wish for because - the human heart was fashioned in such a way that it is always longing for what it likes. Although the human mind may influence the body to do something contrary to what the heart longs for because of some reasons but it's quite difficult to stop the heart from longing for that thing.

this is what played out in your life. Your mind thought that that guy wasn't good for you and you were influenced to walk away from his life. But what happens after that? even though your mind may be convinced the guy isn't good for You, your heart cannot stop yearning for the guy simply because you love him.

- then it's a matter of how much you can withstand the downsides sorrouding what you desire. This is simply because it will be FOOLISH for any human to go ahead to follow his desires if he is convinced that desire or wish will lead him to doom. So how much you can withstand the downsides must also be considered.

So what exactly do you wish for OP? for it is achieving what the heart wants that make the heart happy and settled and if the contrary happens, it causes the heart to be restless and sad. So who out of those guys do you WANT, that would cause you not to be longing for another person while with him and will cause your heart to be fulfilled, happy and settled and not the opposite?

Then secondly, I want you to understand that in life, there are times that, to do the right thing and to be safe and free from problems, one must give up on his/her heart desires. Because in life, it's not everything you want you get and in life, there are times you desire something but that thing is not GOOD for you.

So OP, think thoroughly about that ex of yours that you wish for? What is it gonna be like if you go back to him? What problems are you likely to experience, what's the degree of the likelihood and how much can you withstand his troubles? Think very deeply if going back to your ex will be good for you or bad? If it's bad, then you need no one to tell you that you must give up your love for him and cut off communication with him.

Then the third thing is, I want you to understand that there's nobody that cannot change. In this life, we were created and mandated to perform all that's righteous and right and refrain from all that's wrong. And we have also been created in such a fashion that we can achieve doing the right thing and giving up all bad character if we are determined to do and give it its due requirements.

So every human body can achieve righteousness if it's determined. every bad habit can be given up. This has happened in the lives of many people.

So I want you to understand that your ex can change cause there's no one that cannot change. But still, the likelihood of him changing must be put in consideration.

So your ex can be helped to change and he can change for good and if he does, that way, it will be a total win for you.

so these are the three things I want you to consider.

Remember I never suggested anyone of them for you. I only gave you three things you should consider and I want you to use your sense to do the right thing.

I repeat, USE YOUR SENSE!!!

bye bye!!!

Are you a marrige/relationship counsellor?

If yes. I need your contact please!

Queentee214:
Hi everyone,
Am really confused on what to do right now and I need advice.

I and my ex broke up six months ago...I broke up with him cuz we are always having misunderstandings...not just that..he can't control himself when angry , he always end up insulting me and calling me names but apologize when he is calm.

The last one that led to our break up was when we went to his friend's birthday party..on getting there,,i met an old time friend(a guy) and we talked for few mins .i went back inside where the party was holding and I met my bf angry already,,we end up quarreling there and he called me a prostitute in front of everyone(that wasn't the first time he would embarrass me in public)...

I was hurt and left there...i started ignoring him and the relationship wasn't going well anymore...i broke up with him afterwards ..i love him but I can't accept his flaws ..we tried to get back together but end up blaming each other for everything.

Six months later, I'm in a relationship with another guy..he has his flaws too but not bad...
Now the problem is I still love my ex and we still talk and chat almost everyday...

He is the first person I call when I need advice and vice versa..my ex family thinks we are still together and always call to check up on me....this is causing problems in my new relationship....

I decided to cut contact with my ex but he is isn't ready to let me go and neither am i..

Just last week my bf broke up with me and told me to call him when am ready to cut off contact with my ex...

Am really confused and I don't know how to do what he asked me...pls anyone with advice on how to forget someone should help me

I need to forget and move on from my ex
....pls advice... Thanks

Pls no one should come here and start telling me I met a good guy and toying with his feelings..

My ex is also a good guy, he just has his flaws...I just need advice...

Thanks

you are enjoying it,.if not

delete everything that reminds you of him,.and keep around friends only for now

let the new guy be till you heal,.

If u still want Ur ex back just help him work on his bad side (women dnt have patience to help their men work on their flaws they just want it already made,cinderella dreams).

their is never a complete package in rship,just make sure the quality Ur partner has is atleast 40 to 50 percent of Ur desire and help them work on the undesired side to make it manageable

Ehhn relationship analyst uote author=OladimejiRufai post=84268509]Beautiful OP

In this case, I have three things to share with you or I want you to consider or reason when making a choice.

The first is, I think in this case, it's a matter of what you wish for and how much capacity you have to withstand the downsides of what you desire.

- it's a matter of what you wish for because - the human heart was fashioned in such a way that it is always longing for what it likes. Although the human mind may influence the body to do something contrary to what the heart longs for because of some reasons but it's quite difficult to stop the heart from longing for that thing.

this is what played out in your life. Your mind thought that that guy wasn't good for you and you were influenced to walk away from his life. But what happens after that? even though your mind may be convinced the guy isn't good for You, your heart cannot stop yearning for the guy simply because you love him.

- then it's a matter of how much you can withstand the downsides sorrouding what you desire. This is simply because it will be FOOLISH for any human to go ahead to follow his desires if he is convinced that desire or wish will lead him to doom. So how much you can withstand the downsides must also be considered.

So what exactly do you wish for OP? for it is achieving what the heart wants that make the heart happy and settled and if the contrary happens, it causes the heart to be restless and sad. So who out of those guys do you WANT, that would cause you not to be longing for another person while with him and will cause your heart to be fulfilled, happy and settled and not the opposite?

Then secondly, I want you to understand that in life, there are times that, to do the right thing and to be safe and free from problems, one must give up on his/her heart desires. Because in life, it's not everything you want you get and in life, there are times you desire something but that thing is not GOOD for you.

So OP, think thoroughly about that ex of yours that you wish for? What is it gonna be like if you go back to him? What problems are you likely to experience, what's the degree of the likelihood and how much can you withstand his troubles? Think very deeply if going back to your ex will be good for you or bad? If it's bad, then you need no one to tell you that you must give up your love for him and cut off communication with him.

Then the third thing is, I want you to understand that there's nobody that cannot change. In this life, we were created and mandated to perform all that's righteous and right and refrain from all that's wrong. And we have also been created in such a fashion that we can achieve doing the right thing and giving up all bad character if we are determined to do and give it its due requirements.

So every human body can achieve righteousness if it's determined. every bad habit can be given up. This has happened in the lives of many people.

So I want you to understand that your ex can change cause there's no one that cannot change. But still, the likelihood of him changing must be put in consideration.

So your ex can be helped to change and he can change for good and if he does, that way, it will be a total win for you.

so these are the three things I want you to consider.

Remember I never suggested anyone of them for you. I only gave you three things you should consider and I want you to use your sense to do the right thing.

I repeat, USE YOUR SENSE!!!

bye bye!!![/quote]

UnclePrincipal:
You know what to do my dear.

Stop the communication and let him go or rather go back to your ex and accept his flaws simple.

Oil dey your head

Firstorderwizard:
Dating naija babes is a waste of time.
Botswana girls here I come.

Please wait for me