martinzjay:
I thought I will never forgive a cheating girlfriend until the girl I madly loved acted funny.
Normally I see cheating in a relationship as a normal thing until I met this girl who mad me believe I can actually have one girl friend. She made me believe that if I ever betray her trust that it’s all over.
When she went for NYSC I noticed she started acting funny by missing my calls and giving excuses. She told me she will be lodging with a female friend after passing out from camp and I suspected that she wants to Bleep with camp boyfriend and when I called that night she told me that she later went to one family church lodge for corpers because all her camp girlfriends wants to party....imagine aunty forming saint for me oo...
Recently I visited her in Abuja with out telling her that I’m coming only to ask her to come outside and take what my cousin bought for her and she came out with one guy around 9pm and I was shocked because her sister whom she is staying with traveled that weekend.
On seeing me she couldn’t believe it and I did as if I’m a casual friend and handed her the cake I bought for her,told her goodnight and she turned to leave...I couldn’t believe my eyes....this is a girl that made me believe she can die for me.
I called her back and asked who was the guy and as if her senses came back she started begging me and that the guy was just a neighbor whom she asked to accompany her to the junction since it’s late and the guy sensing the misunderstanding left the scene.
I had never been SHOCKED in my life but I just have to forgive her even though I thought she cheated because I can never believe my girl can walk out on me because of an ordinary neighbor.
Secondly I cannot break a relationship after spending close to 10hours on the road for it.
So since that day,I made up my mind that we are all cheats especially when not together,no matter how you see it.

lol..I feel you bro, like I use to say 'na girl wey dey your side be your own' . that's why I condition my heart on 'out of sight, out of mind'.

MEGA4BILLION:
Is that what you are about doing?

In as much you can't separate swines from dirt, a cheat will always be a cheat. Be guarded in your decision.

I disagree with you. There is always a room for change and nothing is impossible. Cheating is like a habit and every habit can be stopped with the right motivation

she got pregnant to another man(2 weeks old). and she abort it. am really confused and i don't no wot to do

Fizzymike1:
With 6 invigilator, 4 CCTV cameras I still cheat them no catch me. Na woman won catch me say I dey cheat. We are all cheat abeg no body holy pass

You na the real MVP o. Chai! Your version of hell is a virgin hell. Where nobody don enter

AK481:


Guys are known to fucck and not cheat

Girls will fucck with their emotions, except olosho.

The thing about cheat is not the sex, it’s the care and emotion tied to it.

And here lies the crux of the matter.

What is cheating ?

A man just bleeps. He does that with his body. Once it's done hes gone. No feelings.

A woman has sex with her mind ( except for prostitutes).


An affair is when emotional feelings become involved. Where the man starts to care for another woman. That's the male definition of cheating.

A woman who cheats either lacks some form of emotional need that isnt been met or is just a plain LovePeddler.

So which category are we talking about

Nnemuka:

I did...
Was madly in love, but everything I felt disappeared after seeing the lady he cheated with.
Gradually everything I felt died.

I agree, so many women forgive cheating partners easily but those of us that loves fiercely, breaks down easily but hardly forgive cheats.

I understand your point shaa...just like my girlfriend that keeps telling me that she can never trust me again if she ever finds out that I cheated on her though I doubt if she can let me go because she’s madly in love with me

aishauju:
Ladies and guys in the house, does anyone of you have such experiences?

Forgiving a cheating partner is like expecting a leopard to change its skin which absolutely cannot happen. Cheating in relationship is cruel, callous, bad and killing both physically and emotionally. It is trust already lost. When there is no trust in a relationship, there can't be love because both are like Siamese twins. So, the best approach in this regard is to allow a cheating partner leave in the best interest of peace of mind which is a medicine to longevity.

armadeo:


And here lies the crux of the matter.

What is cheating ?

A man just bleeps. He does that with his body. Once it's done hes gone. No feelings.

A woman has sex with her mind ( except for prostitutes).


An affair is when emotional feelings become involved. Where the man starts to care for another woman. That's the male definition of cheating.

A woman who cheats either lacks some form of emotional need that isnt been met or is just a plain LovePeddler.

So which category are we talking about

Please learn to call a spade a spade rather than been gulible as to what majority thinks its right...
A man is not a cheat to you because he cheat without emotion or whatever you call it. whereas you deem it fit to call a woman a cheat because she has her emotions tied to it?! Thats very absurd for u to think.
do not try to sugar-coat the word cheat for the men.. dont be misguided!

Equity15:
lol..I feel you bro, like I use to say 'na girl wey dey your side be your own' . that's why I condition my heart on 'out of sight, out of mind'.

I swear bro but dey girl still dey work me full legit ooooo like make I trust her � but I dey fear fear because even my mother told me NEVER to trust a woman but the girl say she trust me full time

If you are married, cheating is a crime but if you are not married, my dear there is no mandate for you not to cheat or to cheat. If you are not married, NO one has the right of faithfulness over you. As I am not married, no lady has the right to claim my faithfulness. If I decide not to cheat, it is a privilege to my girlfriend also if she decides not to cheat, it is a privilege to me.
Though I don't cheat, but cheating alone won't be a reason for me to end a relationship.
When we focus most of our energy to find out if the next person is cheating or not, we loss the energy to care, to love, to have satisfying sex, to indulge in profitable communication, make jokes, spend quality time and money.
The world is filled with imperfections, create your own perfection.

martinzjay:

I swear bro but dey girl still dey work me full legit ooooo like make I trust her � but I dey fear fear because even my mother told me NEVER to trust a woman but the girl say she trust me full time

oboi, guy forget that one oh. na so my previous relationship be oh..very transparent and trust-FULL, we told ourselves everything.but she cheated twice, I still forgive like mumu, now she's finally gone.


NB: don't mistakenly check your gf's fone for any reason whatsoever.

zealadjay:
Life after being forgiven 4 cheating can be hard, you can't even suggest a new sex position...

lmao I swear.

Equity15:
oboi, guy forget that one oh. na so my previous relationship be oh..very transparent and trust-FULL, we told ourselves everything.but she cheated twice, I still forgive like mumu, now she's finally gone.


NB: don't mistakenly check your gf's fone for any reason whatsoever.

I need catch her like red handed so I can relegate her come dey Bleep dey go coz I don’t like the way I just dey love her too much I swear

LabDNA:
I can't cheat, keeping many girls is too expensive.

So I concentrate on one to make her happy but if I catch her cheating. It's better she goes and I won't even utter to her after that while weeks turn months and months turn to year.

Exactly my reasons too for refusing to cheat, the more girlfriends you have, the more money you spend. am married now - happily married if I was a cheat I wouldn't have had the money to sponsor my wedding considering the fact that I married as a youth CORPER. Any money you spend on a woman who's not your wife is a waste...! Women don't really love, they are so smart they stick around you for what they are gaining from u till a better guy comes around, then they dump you and still blame you for it!

Kbs468:

Okolabi

abi nah brother mi

sunrisemed01:
If you are married, cheating is a crime but if you are not married, my dear there is no mandate for you not to cheat or to cheat. If you are not married, NO one has the right of faithfulness over you. As I am not married, no lady has the right to claim my faithfulness. If I decide not to cheat, it is a privilege to my girlfriend also if she decides not to cheat, it is a privilege to me.
Though I don't cheat, but cheating alone won't be a reason for me to end a relationship.
When we focus most of our energy to find out if the next person is cheating or not, we loss the energy to care, to love, to have satisfying sex, to indulge in profitable communication, make jokes, spend quality time and money.
The world is filled with imperfections, create your own perfection.

No be when you dey have raw sex with babe and she come dey urge you never to share her dick with anybody because she hates sharing..
Guy girls dey forget

Birdeyeview:
YES!
so many of y'all do not know the real meaning of true LOVE.
i once dated a guy from Minnesota for 3 years (white skinned), our relationship was a transparent one at that... one time we had a huge argument which led to 2 month of not been in touch. we loved eachother irrespective of our flaws and then decided to bury the hachet and get back together... while we were together he revealed to me how he cheated and with whome (of which i never knew)...
i forgave him because he pleaded and vauge never to repeat it anymore.. it was painful to let go but i had to because i always loved him no matter what... i still do although i lost him to cancer 2017.
my point is; true love never fails and should set no bounds. forgiveness and not keeping an account of any injury should be part of the motivating factors in any outstanding relationship...
ps; forgive my typographical errors if need be.

Some men are serial liars and cheaters.


I do appreciate a man who is discipline than a religious man that has no boundaries

I can forgive but the trust is dead

MrBrownJay1:


dont mix apples with oranges....just because a man can fukc without any feeling for the babe, does NOT mean he loves his babe, does it?!

here is the important question: how do you women know/confirm that a man loves you, if not by his actions?! ...or do you just believe any rubbish a man tells you?

a man's ACTIONS is the only thing that will prove to you that a man loves you (or not). cheating is a confirmation that he doesnt care about you nor your r/ship.

Every woman should be taught this from an early age on. The moment they are old enough to understand it (teenage years) they should be told, repeatedly. It would save many ladies a lot of headache, heartache and time.

Twoclans:
@ OP the answer is yes ,I was dating one of the hottest guys on campus while I was at the university .The relationship was not a sexual one just normal hugs and sweet talks but yes I loved him to the moon and back .

He was a lectures kid and stayed in the parents boys quarters ,I am the type that when I date you I can count how many times I will ever come to your apartment I have that character up till tommorrow.This faithful day I just decided to go to his house ,I knocked and went in hmmmmmm my guy had imported chic for the night .I just drew a seat and sat down in my mind we die here today .After ten minutes he had to tell the lady to leave ,that girl hated me from the depth of her heart after that incidence. And i enjoyed myself for a long time with the plenty begging , petting and blackmail from my end.

Guss what?After that incidence we still went on to date for so long until destiny played a trick on us, we are still the best of friends .

UNN Bello Hall room 327 will never forget our love affair .

you just reminded me of my ordeal in Bello

aishauju:
Ladies and guys in the house, does anyone of you have such experiences?

My Girl Cheatd On Me With The Excuse Of Not Getting Attention,she Pleaded Months I Forgave Her But The Problem Now Is I Find It Hard To Trust Her.. And A Relationship Wit No Trust Leads No Where..

Mindfulness:
Every woman should be taught this from an early age on. The moment they are old enough to understand it (teenage years) they should be told, repeatedly. It would save many ladies a lot of headache, heartache and time.

yes, i also blame parents who dont instill the proper values to their children... these same children that are obviously seriously lacking. how can a man just come and tell you any rubbish under the moon, and you just believe it, regardless of his ACTIONS?! these people are so damaged that they will put these cheating people's words "above" their unfaithful/deceitful actions, while their actions should be the ONLY thing that matters here.... because any sane person knows that a cheater's words are WORTHLESS the minute they are caught cheating.

we can clearly see from this thread that many Nigerian women/men are emotionally blinded and/or brainwashed while in relationship with people who obviously dont care about them. its very sad, and says a lot about how easy so many are tricked/defrauded/fooled in Nigeria. it seems like NOBODY uses their brain any longer.

it doesnt matter how much YOU love someone, if your partner doesnt love/respect you back equally, then you are simply wasting your life away.

Ikennablue:
honestly true love doesn't stop a man from cheating. True love can stop a man from loving another woman but not from bleeping another woman. Men can Bleep without any emotion attached to it

WORD!!!

Women.... Yes
Men..... No

Sir!!!!!

go4gr8ness:
PheelzAlmighty

Njeps:


you just reminded me of my ordeal in Bello

Lol

I guss you are a lioness

Bello Hall is the harem of Queen's

Twoclans:



Lol

I guss you are a lioness

Bello Hall is the harem of Queen's

why are u hyping nah. what happens to alexandria, Okpara, Awo and Flat

Birdeyeview:

Yes i'm one of jw... thats why i have a diff view

Yeah! I thought as much...are you based in the US?

boja28:

Yeah! I thought as much...are you based in the US?

Yeah, downtown cleaveland

What's the title of this movie?

Njeps:


why are u hyping nah. what happens to alexandria, Okpara, Awo and Flat

They trail behind Bello

Why dont you drop your story ,I saw you mention something about memories of Bello Hall.

Twoclans:


They trail behind Bello

Why dont you drop your story ,I saw you mention something about memories of Bello Hall.

Im guessing a lot of ppl got disvirgined there. Some forcefully