Good day FAM.

So i met this Lady around November Last year. My Company and hers did a business transaction. We started talking and became just friends. We didn't see face to face we only communicated via social media. She is 28 and i am 32

During one of my Guys Child dedication around May this year we met at my Guy's church. They worship in the same church together. So we talked and decided to hang out that Sunday. We saw a movie and we started developing affections for each other.

To cut the log story short. We started dating around July this year. Every now and then she brings up a topic about Marriage, then i thought it was romantic and all. Then it became very frequent and serious.

She will send me wedding pictures from IG and all.. She also sends pictures of asoebi, nice Venues, food etc about wedding.

I really Love this Woman, she is Beautiful, Hardworking and Earns good salary. I also earn good money too.

I talked to her about it and nothing changed instead it got worse, She has been requesting i see her Parents, i asked her to calm down lets take it slow. Nothing changed. Every little conversation we she has a way of bringing in marriage.

She asked me to be her date to one of her friends wedding, i agreed. We got there and she introduced me to her Parents, siblings and friends as her Fiance i just played along and was smiling through out the occasion. Deep down i was mad.. The Friend in question is actually her Cousin, She didn't tell me her parents were attending and also i cant remember engaging her.

Her Mom Siblings have been calling to check up on me, this actually very weird. During her Moms birthday she called me aside to ask how far with the wedding and also requested i start up the marriage stuffs things this December.

I had a straight talk with her that i am not ready for marriage mentally even financially she said we'll split the expenses. I tried explaining they marriage is a big deal and we should take our time it all end in quarrels then crying and all.

I asked my Guy about her and he said she actually joined the church about a year ago and she doesn't know much about her besides her being committed in church activities.

Truth be told. I actually love this Lady, she shows me so much Love and seems like an ideal Woman. I am really scared,

Its really stressing me out. We've not been talking for like a week now. Truth i actually miss her.

Please How do i go about this. Please i am really confused. Please pardon the typo error.
I need as many advice as possible. MOD help push this to a larger audience.

...Aunty Wants To Marry Before December ooo....Do a lil background check on that lady,am sure there's a problem somewhere...And never give in to her demands, she doesn't love yah,she just wants to get married.....Meanwhile, Sai Baba

Hmmmmm....... Please calm down before engaging..... Have you studied her very well, are your interests aligned, do you really genuine love her, can you catch up with the haste and pressure, are you ready for one
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Her biological clock is running out.
She's looking for who to latch on.
Make your choice. Na you get woman

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What do you want us to do bro?
We don't know this lady plus you should know what you want at the moment.

If I may say something,
My opinion is that you shouldn't rush into anything, try to know more about her because it may be that she's one of those whose parents have been disturbing her o get married.

Know her well by doing some background checks on her. Also remove emotions at his moment as you are trying to know her true personality.
I'm tired of failed marriages being bundled here everyday.

Bro, to study a woman u like u don't need too much, marry this lady if u like her and stop complaining.

From what I have read , u keep bringing up one reason or the other just to run away from marriage.


This could also be an opportunity for u, don't u think so?

Badbunny:
She is showing you love and care because she wants to get married. Marry her, and you will see something
Shikinah.

Best advice.

Bro please go and do investigations. That's all I can say now

I have a feeling that your girlfriend loves the term marriage more than she loves you. You'll get to find out how little she cares about what you think you share now only after the wedding and believe me, it may not be good.
Stand your ground and get married only when you're mentally ready, your own wife will always be available by then.

Never let any woman force you into marriage against your will...

The marriage will be shorter than my erection before it went flaccid.

NO LET I LOVE HER BLIND YOUR EYES, marriage couples LOVE fades max 3 months of marriage.

FuckBots:
Her biological clock is running out. She's looking for who to latch on. Make your choice. Na you get woman

cant u borrow sense?

Offpoint:
Never let any woman force you into marriage against your will...

The marriage will be shorter than my erection before it went flaccid.

NO LET I LOVE HER BLIND YOUR EYES, marriage couples LOVE fades max 3 months of marriage.

Naso u mumu reach! A dog doesnt advise people. Ode get atta here!

Marry her joor nothing do you, even if y'all been dating since y2k it doesnt determine the quality of the marriage go on egbon i repeat nothing do you

guy, use your head and your brain, ask yourself why she never marry all these while, don't fall for the pressure bro, like someone said up there, something is definitely wrong... it's glaring.
any woman that's this desperate for marriage sure is hiding something and the fact that her parents are always checking up on you ( parents: Kai, make THIS ONE just marry this girl komot na, God Abeg)

daben1:
guy, use your head and your brain, ask yourself why she never marry all these while, don't fall for the pressure bro, like someone said up there, something is definitely wrong... it's glaring.

And how sure are you that the person he is going to meet after her will have no problem..... Change that thought bro

Dollarheist:

And how sure are you that the person he is going to meet after her will have no problem..... Change that thought bro

problem pass problem, hope you know that...

The issue should be one of these;
1. Her mum has been pressuring her to get married
2. Her parent are demanding for grand children
3. She has set her standards in life to get married before the age of 30

Do your investigations well. She might not have any negative motive though rather just want to settle down

Dollarheist:

And how sure are you that the person he is going to meet after her will have no problem..... Change that thought bro

... But that doesn’t justify the lady act now plus the op said he is not ready mentally, hope you know the meaning?.
And this is a lifetime contract where you can’t rush out when you’re in so it’s better you take your time, be ready financially, mentally, spiritually and physically cuz marriage isn’t easy the way you guys see it.
I wish the op all the best.

Sit her down that you are not ready for any relationship that can lead to marriage soonest, let her know now, so that she would not be disappointed

When it's time for you to settle and you start the chase will you see the one that will love proportionately and not for your money? Test her if she truly loves you. If so abeg bro settle down and forget the stress.when a woman truly loves you and really wants to settle down with you, it saves you alot of stress. Use your head Bro

You said u love her, but from your reactions n excuses it seems u don't really love her, she is working, earning salary, she is pretty n churchly, u r also working, this is someone u av been dating for a long period of time, if it is d wedding finances u r scared of, u r gonna get support easily from family n friends. If u don't love her n don't want marry her, pls I beg u in d name of God, stop leading her on n stop giving her false hope, let her go, She is not getting any younger

If I were in your shoes and as you just described the situation I'd defo marry her

Desclaimer: I am basing this on what you just described here unless there are other bad stuffs you dont think is right about her

MissGhosted:
Naso u mumu reach! A dog doesnt advise people. Ode get atta here!

A frustrated married man spotted
You're in it forever sir

I don't blame her.

Like most nairalanders will say, she's getting to the "Evening Newspaper Stage"

If you're not ready, then quit.

it's about time you know if she is your type, in marriage terms if yes go ahead or tell her to give you more time, if no quit before you break her heart

At 32 ur still not ready mentally

u have a problem
let her be and stop complaining that your missing her

Thr truth is that she is too desperate for marriage while you are too desperate in wanting to waste her time... Forget that I love her bullshit... You will end up dumping her so it's better you let her be so that she can look for the man that will marry her...

don't be forced into marriage,na so ladies will be doing innocent before you marry them,once the ring enters their hand ,you will see the real Jezebel, maintain your stand

The question should be why is she desperate for marriage? Age?, lost womb?, Family Pressure?, Peer pressure? FIRST DAUGHTER?.

NOW I DIDN'T SAY YOU SHOULD ASK HER. FIND OUT MORE ABOUT HER. AND SEE IF ANYTHING PHONY IS TRIGGERING THIS ATTITUDE OF HERS..