healthserve:



I respect you. Alot

Have you noticed you're the only proactive female or one of the few speaking on this issue.

Speaks volumes of your ethical standards


See I understand your view and you're right. But that's dignifying her. In the face of her actions, she can keep her explanations or tell them to God. She's undersving or respectful treatment. He will heal with time. Not necessarily by some bickering thrown back and forth

midnighter:


Thanks a lot, I respect you and your view too.

Well, he has already decided that he is no longer interested. So I don't think it will do any harm to have one last bicker

I think you are throwing the baby out with the bathwater. Even though it dignifies her, it still helps him.

He still doesn't even know why she cheated on him. What if he has some bad habit that he doesn't know about and he takes it into the next relationship?

The least that he could get out of a conversation with her would be cause of the cheating.

Gforce2015:


I smell lies in your write-up. You just want to generate traffic on this thread. I dare you if you can swear that this fake story is true.

O Ni kuure. O Ni 'ro oshi..Omo Lai Mohammed

Kaycee54321:



I would have said 'Thunder fire you there'

But I don't like insulting people online.

midnighter:


Thanks

midnighter:


Thanks a lot, I respect you and your view too.

Well, he has already decided that he is no longer interested. So I don't think it will do any harm to have one last bicker

I think you are throwing the baby out with the bathwater. Even though it dignifies her, it still helps him.

He still doesn't even know why she cheated on him. What if he has some bad habit that he doesn't know about and he takes it into the next relationship?

The least that he could get out of a conversation with her would be cause of the cheating.

Respect55:
This life is just a small place. You will think you are sharp but when the time is come, your sin will surely find you out.

Some weeks back, a guy saw my wares online and came around to pick some footwears since we are in same city. He kept on talking on phone with a particular girl (my girl) about the type of shoe she likes. Remember I just gave her a new pair when she requested for one. Not even up to a month.

So this guy selected 3 pairs of shoes - two males shoes and one female own. He just told me to packet them that he would call me when money comes in. Fast-forward to today, he called in the afternoon and gave me a location to bring the shoe that he went out with his girl and will be traveling in the morning.

I dressed up, picked up the shoes at the shop and dashed to the location only to meet him with my girlfriend.

I just pretended like nothing happened, passed the shoes to him. She was shocked to the marrow but the guy never noticed. He asked her to wear the shoe so as to see how it suits but she just told him that he shouldn't bother that it's OK.

He paid me and as I was about leaving, he called me back and introduced me to his girl. I told her my name like we just met and left.

That's just it. I'm out for good. I'm free

WackyJ1:


If he has a bad habit, then he will carry it into the next relationship and the next and the next until he meets a lady who is articulate enough to point it out to him and advice him to change , as well as giving him fair warning that if he refuses to change she will leave him.

See what I did there?

I gave three solid alternatives to cheating.

Is the girl perfect? No.
Is the solution to every flaw in your partner cheating?
No.

So let us not act like "an imaginary" bad habit is the reason why she cheated and the reason why he should stoop low to dignify her by talking to her.

That's what she would want.
Once she smells that he came asking for a reason, she is going to pile everything on his head and make herself look like the victim.
She is capable of that.

He caught her cheating plain and simple and you yourself have already admitted in previous posts that the girl is manipulative.

He handled the matter brilliantly.
Let it end there.

Respect55:
This life is just a small place. You will think you are sharp but when the time is come, your sin will surely find you out.

Some weeks back, a guy saw my wares online and came around to pick some footwears since we are in same city. He kept on talking on phone with a particular girl (my girl) about the type of shoe she likes. Remember I just gave her a new pair when she requested for one. Not even up to a month.

So this guy selected 3 pairs of shoes - two males shoes and one female own. He just told me to packet them that he would call me when money comes in. Fast-forward to today, he called in the afternoon and gave me a location to bring the shoe that he went out with his girl and will be traveling in the morning.

I dressed up, picked up the shoes at the shop and dashed to the location only to meet him with my girlfriend.

I just pretended like nothing happened, passed the shoes to him. She was shocked to the marrow but the guy never noticed. He asked her to wear the shoe so as to see how it suits but she just told him that he shouldn't bother that it's OK.

He paid me and as I was about leaving, he called me back and introduced me to his girl. I told her my name like we just met and left.

That's just it. I'm out for good. I'm free

Respect55:
I'm not bothered about her. Let her conscience eat at her.
Funng beings. She just updated her whatsapp status to "Someone should talk to me before I commit suicide." I just viewed it and blocked her immediately

Respect55:
I'm not bothered about her. Let her conscience eat at her.
Funng beings. She just updated her whatsapp status to "Someone should talk to me before I commit suicide." I just viewed it and blocked her immediately

healthserve:




Midnighter

Respect55



See what I've been saying all along. She's trying to look for a respectable way out when she doesn't deserve it a single bit


OP don't make the slightest mistake of giving her the dignity of a closure. You'll be stopping low and stripping your ego further by consenting to her request

Leave her to process it through other avenues. Same goes to you. Explain to your sisters what transpired the same way you explained it here


If your ex respected your sisters or your family, she would have explained your inadequacies to your family/sisters to call you to order and not cheat


There's no justification for cheating. That's complete disregard for your lover and all other parties combined.


BTW I've e been wandering where franchasng has been all along

Cuccitini:
Op pls dnt listen to any crocodile tears or any sermon dat has love in it if she come begging

Respect55:
I'm not bothered about her. Let her conscience eat at her.
Funng beings. She just updated her whatsapp status to "Someone should talk to me before I commit suicide." I just viewed it and blocked her immediately

franchasng:
We have been busy oh searching for a solution to our kinsman's recent trouble jareh

midnighter:


Thanks a lot, I respect you and your view too.

Well, he has already decided that he is no longer interested. So I don't think it will do any harm to have one last bicker

I think you are throwing the baby out with the bathwater. Even though it dignifies her, it still helps him.

He still doesn't even know why she cheated on him. What if he has some bad habit that he doesn't know about and he takes it into the next relationship?

The least that he could get out of a conversation with her would be cause of the cheating.

franchasng:
To tell you that 99.99% of Nigerian ladies are all cheats and guilty of what this op experienced, check the first page of this thread, no single lady commented because they were all scared and wondering what if it was them that their main boyfriend caught like this, many are already re-assessing their relationship and crubcade ways after reading this thread.

Fear black women, they are highly predictable

peepydelano:
so na that olanre babe,with her comments sef,u go know say na she

Respect55:
This life is just a small place. You will think you are sharp but when the time is come, your sin will surely find you out.

Some weeks back, a guy saw my wares online and came around to pick some footwears since we are in same city. He kept on talking on phone with a particular girl (my girl) about the type of shoe she likes. Remember I just gave her a new pair when she requested for one. Not even up to a month.

So this guy selected 3 pairs of shoes - two males shoes and one female own. He just told me to packet them that he would call me when money comes in. Fast-forward to today, he called in the afternoon and gave me a location to bring the shoe that he went out with his girl and will be traveling in the morning.

I dressed up, picked up the shoes at the shop and dashed to the location only to meet him with my girlfriend.

I just pretended like nothing happened, passed the shoes to him. She was shocked to the marrow but the guy never noticed. He asked her to wear the shoe so as to see how it suits but she just told him that he shouldn't bother that it's OK.

He paid me and as I was about leaving, he called me back and introduced me to his girl. I told her my name like we just met and left.

That's just it. I'm out for good. I'm free

Sunshine009:
And ive been looking for a man that will agree to no sex relationship since I'm practicing chastity, but because I'm beautiful the ones I see don't agree or agree and break my heart .. OP I'm sorry for what you went through but then again thank you for your post.. At least I still have hope that a man like you is out there and like never before i know my God will bless me with a good man. God saves the ones he loves from somethings, that's what my heartbreak experiences have taught me..

WackyJ1:


If he has a bad habit, then he will carry it into the next relationship and the next and the next until he meets a lady who is articulate enough to point it out to him and advice him to change , as well as giving him fair warning that if he refuses to change she will leave him.

See what I did there?

I gave three solid alternatives to cheating.

Is the girl perfect? No.
Is the solution to every flaw in your partner cheating?
No.

So let us not act like "an imaginary" bad habit is the reason why she cheated and the reason why he should stoop low to dignify her by talking to her.

That's what she would want.
Once she smells that he came asking for a reason, she is going to pile everything on his head and make herself look like the victim.
She is capable of that.

He caught her cheating plain and simple and you yourself have already admitted in previous posts that the girl is manipulative.

He handled the matter brilliantly.
Let it end there.

midnighter:


If you have ever witnessed a messy divorce, you will know how stupid and irresponsible it makes the man look to his family and friends when he suddenly dumps the woman, without any explanation except that he's "not marrying her again" and goes and picks up with a new one.

You should be able to explain your grouse clearly except if you're so hurt that you can't stand to talk about it.

At least he is the man, people are always wiling to believe that the woman is at fault so no problem there.

Except if he's ready for them to be nagging him about "whatever happened to our wife". Because that's what happens in African families, whether we like their interference or not

midnighter:


Who said the solution to all flaws is cheating What matters is that was her own solution, which was the cause of the break-up. So she should tell him what drove her to it.

Are you trying to say that you'd rather go on to hurt another person than be informed of a character flaw and work on it?

See, you people are getting caught up in having your sweet revenge on the girl which is not the main thing here. The point is for the guy to tie up his loose ends.

Nobody ends a committed relationship like that except if they're not serious. When you want a divorce don't you have to sit down and with the person and sort it out even though you may hate their guts??

If he meets her and she starts talking rubbish or trying to shift the blame to him, no problem! We know she can do something like that. He's already done with her so he's not going to fall for it, is he?

The woman has packed out of his life already but left her combs and cooking utensils. Let him go and return them to her and get rid of her for good.

This one you people are saying is out of emotion and not logic.

danigbo:
Sounds like ZEEWORLD film

midnighter:


Who said the solution to all flaws is cheating What matters is that was her own solution, which was the cause of the break-up. So she should tell him what drove her to it.

Are you trying to say that you'd rather go on to hurt another person than be informed of a character flaw and work on it?

See, you people are getting caught up in having your sweet revenge on the girl which is not the main thing here. The point is for the guy to tie up his loose ends.

Nobody ends a committed relationship like that except if they're not serious. When you want a divorce don't you have to sit down and with the person and sort it out even though you may hate their guts??

If he meets her and she starts talking rubbish or trying to shift the blame to him, no problem! We know she can do something like that. He's already done with her so he's not going to fall for it, is he?

The woman has packed out of his life already but left her combs and cooking utensils. Let him go and return them to her and get rid of her for good.

This one you people are saying is out of emotion and not logic.

Olanre05:


I like your healing process and the way you handled it with utmost maturity. Here is my take on the issue, there are two sides to a coin, you must have given her heaven and earth, make her better off what she used to look like and the likes,and there is one thing you ain't doing right which she might have spoken to you about severally and you ain't changing. Which she is getting from the other guy aside from the materialistic and monetary aspect of it...