MrBrownJay1:


yes, i also blame parents who dont instill the proper values to their children... these same children that are obviously seriously lacking. how can a man just come and tell you any rubbish under the moon, and you just believe it, regardless of his ACTIONS?! these people are so damaged that they will put these cheating people's words "above" their unfaithful/deceitful actions, while their actions should be the ONLY thing that matters here.... because any sane person knows that a cheater's words are WORTHLESS the minute they are caught cheating.

we can clearly see from this thread that many Nigerian women/men are emotionally blinded and/or brainwashed while in relationship with people who obviously dont care about them. its very sad, and says a lot about how easy so many are tricked/defrauded/fooled in Nigeria. it seems like NOBODY uses their brain any longer.

it doesnt matter how much YOU love someone, if your partner doesnt love/respect you back equally, then you are simply wasting your life away.

Omotaday:
She will still cheat again. Trust me.

She has seen your weakness.

Mindfulness:


Well .. where do I start? I think this isn't a Nigerian problem, first of all. I think this is a problem many women around the world have although Nigerian women seem to take the trophy when it comes to tolerating humiliation and disrespect. It seems many women love their men more than they love themselves. How do you teach people to love themselves enough? But I fully agree with you that actions speak louder than words. Words are nice but talk is cheap and must be in alignment with a person's actions. Women need to have standards and communicate them clearly. I don't want to sound like I am blaming the "victims" but it is a form of empowerment to understand what part they play in the abuse of trust and their dignity. How can anyone love someone who doesn't respect herself?

You have always been very clear on and strict with infidelity issues. I applaud you for that.

emsheddy:


Lolzzzzzz no be only weakness. I do not regret forgiving her. Neither do I even make reference to it during lil quarrels.
And yes, she knows she is gone for good if it happens again. My forgiving her isn't a sign of weakness. Bros I be person wey dey counsel folks on relationship matters. No be today

Twoclans:


They trail behind Bello

Why dont you drop your story ,I saw you mention something about memories of Bello Hall.

emsheddy:


Lolzzzzzz no be only weakness. I do not regret forgiving her. Neither do I even make reference to it during lil quarrels.
And yes, she knows she is gone for good if it happens again. My forgiving her isn't a sign of weakness. Bros I be person wey dey counsel folks on relationship matters. No be today

MrBrownJay1:


a man who cheats certainly does NOT love you, no matter how much BS he tells you and/or how foolish you are to believe it.
here is a simple clue: how would you know whether someone loves you if it isnt by their ACTION? thats the "only" way you can have a confirmation that someone loves you or not, and sadly, the minute they cheat is a confirmation that they dont give a damn about you (or the r/ship you guys have). this man is ready to disregard you and your r/ship for a piece of coochie... and thats a FACT!!!



stop listening to the ARRANT RUBBISH men are telling you in order to treat you like dirt. men who say these things are animals...and if that was actually true, they STILL wouldnt need to cheat. if a man care for you and has to cheat, then he will come correct and tell you exactly that (before he goes to cheat).... not after when he has been busted with his pants down.



lol, you have been thoroughly BRAINWASHED.... there is no way on this green earth that anyone can "cheat respectfully". the minute they decide to sleep with another person, thats a LACK OF RESPECT for you and your r/ship.



that woman will have RESPECT for herself... thats what is more important here....rather than being a doormat, used and abused by a man who doesnt give a damn about her. what you are saying is that women should settle for good for nothing useless cheating men ***spit on floor***. a woman should go from men to men until she finds the perfect one, and should NEVER settle for less. a cheating man is a useless good for nothing man, unless both of you have no respect for one another and cheat too.



yes we all know that men can do that, but these men dont love their partner, and actually have no clue about what love is... if they did, they wouldnt knowingly hurt their partner by sleeping around. duh! think about it.....THINK.... so a man loves a woman but he will go and fukc around with other babes while knowing fully well that such action hurts his woman to her chore and damages what you guys have?!?!?!?!?!? makes no damn sense.

sadly, as we can see from this thread, so many women are "damaged" that they will accept any rubbish under the moon from men....in order to stay in that r/ship at any cost.

Youngearnny:
I did it once and i regret, she started acting as if i was caging her. A cheater will always be a cheater no matter what. And moreover, cheating takes a long process to be called a mistake. Once you caught your partner cheating, i guess the best is to let go...

Birdeyeview:
YES!
so many of y'all do not know the real meaning of true LOVE.
i once dated a guy from Minnesota for 3 years (white skinned), our relationship was a transparent one at that... one time we had a huge argument which led to 2 month of not been in touch. we loved eachother irrespective of our flaws and then decided to bury the hachet and get back together... while we were together he revealed to me how he cheated and with whome (of which i never knew)...
i forgave him because he pleaded and vauge never to repeat it anymore.. it was painful to let go but i had to because i always loved him no matter what... i still do although i lost him to cancer 2017.
my point is; true love never fails and should set no bounds. forgiveness and not keeping an account of any injury should be part of the motivating factors in any outstanding relationship...
ps; forgive my typographical errors if need be.

EmekusTHEgreat:


Your examples are misleading, you're calling past Head of States and leaders, for all we know the women stayed because of the power and position. talk about regular people like Mr Ndubueze who's wife left after a small disagreement or the mechanic (Friday) on my street whose wife left with their children after he cheated.

Birdeyeview:

If i tell you i understand a bit of what you typed i LIED

EmekusTHEgreat:



My point is this, no sensible woman who is married to a president would divorce him if he cheated, it wouldn't benefit her.

EmekusTHEgreat:



My point is this, no sensible woman who is married to a president would divorce him if he cheated, it wouldn't benefit her.

Twoclans:
@ OP the answer is yes ,I was dating one of the hottest guys on campus while I was at the university .The relationship was not a sexual one just normal hugs and sweet talks but yes I loved him to the moon and back .

He was a lectures kid and stayed in the parents boys quarters ,I am the type that when I date you I can count how many times I will ever come to your apartment I have that character up till tommorrow.This faithful day I just decided to go to his house ,I knocked and went in hmmmmmm my guy had imported chic for the night .I just drew a seat and sat down in my mind we die here today .After ten minutes he had to tell the lady to leave ,that girl hated me from the depth of her heart after that incidence. And i enjoyed myself for a long time with the plenty begging , petting and blackmail from my end.

Guss what?After that incidence we still went on to date for so long until destiny played a trick on us, we are still the best of friends .

UNN Bello Hall room 327 will never forget our love affair .

Birdeyeview:

Whatever man!
there ain't no sense in what you typed.

Birdeyeview:

Whatever man!
there ain't no sense in what you typed.

Birdeyeview:
Lalasticlala please we need to shed more light on this topic... kindly do the needful sir

Twoclans:
@ OP the answer is yes ,I was dating one of the hottest guys on campus while I was at the university .The relationship was not a sexual one just normal hugs and sweet talks but yes I loved him to the moon and back .

He was a lectures kid and stayed in the parents boys quarters ,I am the type that when I date you I can count how many times I will ever come to your apartment I have that character up till tommorrow.This faithful day I just decided to go to his house ,I knocked and went in hmmmmmm my guy had imported chic for the night .I just drew a seat and sat down in my mind we die here today .After ten minutes he had to tell the lady to leave ,that girl hated me from the depth of her heart after that incidence. And i enjoyed myself for a long time with the plenty begging , petting and blackmail from my end.

Guss what?After that incidence we still went on to date for so long until destiny played a trick on us, we are still the best of friends .

UNN Bello Hall room 327 will never forget our love affair .

Tgifted:
Yes now,we even do the do to crown the forgiveness�,we move jawe�.

abidem4real:
Forgiving a cheating partner is like expecting a leopard to change its skin which absolutely cannot happen. Cheating in relationship is cruel, callous, bad and killing both physically and emotionally. It is trust already lost. When there is no trust in a relationship, there can't be love because both are like Siemens twins. So, the best approach in this regard is to allow a cheating partner leave in the best interest of peace of mind which is a medicine to longevity.

UnBanEbenezer:
hi I'd love to communicate with you via email

Tgifted:
okay

UnBanEbenezer:
your mail address please