midnighter:


Who said the solution to all flaws is cheating What matters is that was her own solution, which was the cause of the break-up. So she should tell him what drove her to it.

Are you trying to say that you'd rather go on to hurt another person than be informed of a character flaw and work on it?

See, you people are getting caught up in having your sweet revenge on the girl which is not the main thing here. The point is for the guy to tie up his loose ends.

Nobody ends a committed relationship like that except if they're not serious. When you want a divorce don't you have to sit down and with the person and sort it out even though you may hate their guts??

If he meets her and she starts talking rubbish or trying to shift the blame to him, no problem! We know she can do something like that. He's already done with her so he's not going to fall for it, is he?

The woman has packed out of his life already but left her combs and cooking utensils. Let him go and return them to her and get rid of her for good.

This one you people are saying is out of emotion and not logic.

And who said that there must have been something he did wrong that made her cheat?

What if she just wanted to double date?
What if she was greedy and wanted someone to spend more money on her. Which is most likely the case because she was caught while the boyfriend was delivering a gift to her.

You see what you're doing is what most manipulative girls do.

They don't want to take responsibility for their actions and they try to make it appear like it was something the guy did that made them react in that manner.

But it is not.

If the solution to every flaw is not cheating then why should he give a Bleep about her solution?

Let me spell this out for you clearly.

He was cheated on

Read that again.

Now read that a second time.

In case you still don't understand after reading it two times, I will explain.

It means that he was the one that was wronged .

It means that he was the one that was betrayed

He is the one that was hurt

She was looking out for her own interests when she cheated.

He gains nothing by signifying her with meeting him.

That's some cold logic for you.

Your advice is the problem Most men encounter when seeking advice from women in this matter.

Why are you contradicting yourself?
If he is done with her why will he go back to meet her?

When you want a divorce and you hate their guts.

You move out and send a lawyer. Let the lawyers sort things out.

If they refuse, y'all sort it out in Court.

Beside this is not a divorce situation.

Go to ask the girl

"what did I do wrong that made you cheat on me"

Is dumb and your advice favors the girl because it allows her to remove some guilt from her conscience by blaming the guy.

midnighter:

The woman has packed out of his life already but left her combs and cooking utensils. Let him go and return them to her and get rid of her for good.

If these are actual physical items that she forgot in his place, perhaps they were living together before she did what she did (Which further implies that kind of dangerous character that she is), then he should simply call her to come collect her things.

After what happened Sunday between us, she haven't called. I'm not expecting her Cann althesame because it's of no effect.
She came to my elder sister's house without my notice and was sobbing uncontrollably(my sis told me so). So my elder sis called me and asked if I'm back to which I told her yes. She asked if I would come and u pleaded with her to give me 30 mins to get some things done.

I got there and met her with my ex who was still crying and my sister consoling her. Moreover, my sister said she hadn't opened her mouth to say anything since she came but have just been crying. I told my sister that I don't have anything to say about that that when she open up to her, let her know what to tell her but that as for me, I'm done with her.


All along, she had her face buried to the ground not being able to look at me maybe her own guilt is eating her up. Let it do more.
I took my leave because she was the last person I was expecting to meet anytime soon.
No other thing have happened. For now I'm just focused on my Hustle and nothing more. No more love.

Respect55:

If she isn't a virgin doesn't mean she isn't good. What I'm after is faithfulness.

You cannot get faithfulness from someone with more than 5 body count.

I would have put it at 10 but I decided to reduce it.

One of Ubunja's miseducation thread explains why
https://www.nairaland.com/5322786/ubunjas-miseducation-sexual-imprint

Respect55:
After what happened Sunday between us, she haven't called. I'm not expecting her Cann althesame because it's of no effect.
She came to my elder sister's house without my notice and was sobbing uncontrollably(my sis told me so). So my elder sis called me and asked if I'm back to which I told her yes. She asked if I would come and u pleaded with her to give me 30 mins to get some things done.

I got there and met her with my ex who was still crying and my sister consoling her. Moreover, my sister said she hadn't opened her mouth to say anything since she came but have just been crying. I told my sister that I don't have anything to say about that that when she open up to her, let her know what to tell her but that as for me, I'm done with her.


All along, she had her face buried to the ground not being able to look at me maybe her own guilt is eating her up. Let it do more.
I took my leave because she was the last person I was expecting to meet anytime soon.
No other thing have happened. For now I'm just focused on my Hustle and nothing more. No more love.

This girl na pikin.

Manipulative pikin.

How old is she?

Up to 24?

Sleevia:
Only few women commented on this... wackyj1, you showed up bro.

Yea!

I have read many of your comments and I will reply to the ones that called me out in particular. Though bit by bit. Some said the story is mere fiction, others said I copied it from Facebook, pocochants even mocked my relationship struggle. They are all preposterous and unguided. I dare any of u that think so to come out with concrete evidence to buttress their claim or just learn to keep mute when they have nothing to say. I will reply all of them personally

Respect55:
After what happened Sunday between us, she haven't called. I'm not expecting her Cann althesame because it's of no effect.
She came to my elder sister's house without my notice and was sobbing uncontrollably(my sis told me so). So my elder sis called me and asked if I'm back to which I told her yes. She asked if I would come and u pleaded with her to give me 30 mins to get some things done.

I got there and met her with my ex who was still crying and my sister consoling her. Moreover, my sister said she hadn't opened her mouth to say anything since she came but have just been crying. I told my sister that I don't have anything to say about that that when she open up to her, let her know what to tell her but that as for me, I'm done with her.


All along, she had her face buried to the ground not being able to look at me maybe her own guilt is eating her up. Let it do more.
I took my leave because she was the last person I was expecting to meet anytime soon.
No other thing have happened. For now I'm just focused on my Hustle and nothing more. No more love.

Op ur a real niqqur...u have my respect.

U deserve a bottle of chilled Budweiser

Ilovebigboobs:


Op ur a real niqqur...u have my respect.

U deserve a bottle of chilled Budweiser

U dey pH?

Respect55:
This life is just a small place. You will think you are sharp but when the time is come, your sin will surely find you out.

Some weeks back, a guy saw my wares online and came around to pick some footwears since we are in same city. He kept on talking on phone with a particular girl (my girl) about the type of shoe she likes. Remember I just gave her a new pair when she requested for one. Not even up to a month.

So this guy selected 3 pairs of shoes - two males shoes and one female own. He just told me to packet them that he would call me when money comes in. Fast-forward to today, he called in the afternoon and gave me a location to bring the shoe that he went out with his girl and will be traveling in the morning.

I dressed up, picked up the shoes at the shop and dashed to the location only to meet him with my girlfriend.

I just pretended like nothing happened, passed the shoes to him. She was shocked to the marrow but the guy never noticed. He asked her to wear the shoe so as to see how it suits but she just told him that he shouldn't bother that it's OK.

He paid me and as I was about leaving, he called me back and introduced me to his girl. I told her my name like we just met and left.

That's just it. I'm out for good. I'm free

I hate to break it to you but you were the side nigga

WackyJ1:


This girl na pikin.

Manipulative pikin.

How old is she?

Up to 24?

24

healthserve:



Risk it. The spotlights on you.

Tell me why I was banned yesterday

Respect55:

Tell me why I was banned yesterday

Maybe you lied small and her head caught you

Olanre05:


I like your healing process and the way you handled it with utmost maturity. Here is my take on the issue, there are two sides to a coin, you must have given her heaven and earth, make her better off what she used to look like and the likes,and there is one thing you ain't doing right which she might have spoken to you about severally and you ain't changing. Which she is getting from the other guy aside from the materialistic and monetary aspect of it...

Don't make excuses for a Cheater please! Nobody is perfect but this man must've tried

My page on Facebook is Joh Shoe Classics
Insta is John Respect. Business pages

healthserve:



Maybe you lied small and her head caught you

What rule exactly did I break?
Could it be because I said she is also here on Nairaland, following the thread and has commented

virago:



I hate to break it to you but you were the side nigga

You can't be right

Respect55:
After what happened Sunday between us, she haven't called. I'm not expecting her Cann althesame because it's of no effect.
She came to my elder sister's house without my notice and was sobbing uncontrollably(my sis told me so). So my elder sis called me and asked if I'm back to which I told her yes. She asked if I would come and u pleaded with her to give me 30 mins to get some things done.

I got there and met her with my ex who was still crying and my sister consoling her. Moreover, my sister said she hadn't opened her mouth to say anything since she came but have just been crying. I told my sister that I don't have anything to say about that that when she open up to her, let her know what to tell her but that as for me, I'm done with her.


All along, she had her face buried to the ground not being able to look at me maybe her own guilt is eating her up. Let it do more.
I took my leave because she was the last person I was expecting to meet anytime soon.
No other thing have happened. For now I'm just focused on my Hustle and nothing more. No more love.

Op! make that girl no take sniper cus of this mata ooh, her death go dey for ur head ooh, make sure u forgive her as ur signature says, u can be a good friend to her not her lover........... love na scam,

Thank you for the update, please keep them coming

I showed my colleagues and they are all interested in the story and subsequent updates, myself included.

Plenty lessons to be learned. Some of we ladies love "attention" from more than one reasonable guy but babe should have called the weaker relationship quit immediately marriage entered the equation. Haba!

See how she got busted in a very embarrassing manner.
This is a catch of the century...

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What is this babe?

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Hope you are okay

monichannel:
Op, you be real mahn

Do give us update as it unveils, many will learn from you

I will

emkz:
Bro, in a year's time, you'd be grateful that she's no longer in your life. Someone mentioned that no matter how much you try to upgrade some of them, they'd still act their class, while another said a woman who leaves you for another man is undeserving of you. You have done your best. It is not until you sacrifice your life that someone can see your value. Pack your love and give it to someone deserving.

For every badly behaved girl, there are ten well-behaved girls. I can assure you. Some of them are on this forum. I know because I interact with them.

Good to know. But I'm done

Depressed101:
at last someone with sense, I've been in op's shoe before, it is grossly immature to walk away from a relationship without talking/venting your anger through. How can you be ok.

Wether or not op likes it, dieing in silence is what will happen to him, he wrote somewhere that he will not try another relationship until he is ready for marriage.. Unknowing to him, he is indirectly punishing himself (an evidence that he is dieing silently).

U u don't know what you are saying

MissCookie:


Thank you for the update, please keep them coming

I showed my colleagues and they are all interested in the story and subsequent updates, myself included.

Plenty lessons to be learned. Some of we ladies love "attention" from more than one reasonable guy but babe should have called the weaker relationship quit immediately marriage entered the equation. Haba!

See how she got busted in a very embarrassing manner.
This is a catch of the century...

It is called " head".


The OP's head is strong


This bust is as you tagged it, catch of the century, so much more than the Mexican drug cartel busts

A virgin has no ex to worry about you are her first love and that bond between you two will be very strong imaging two virgins getting married that y our parent marriage stud the test of time couse our mothers kept them selvs you cant compare their marriage to our generation where most marriage breakeup are caused by ex for a lady to keep her self against all temptation in the uni and her day to day live with many toasters you as a man will have total trust for her i know of many marriage with out the fruit of the woumb but the husband stud by the wife because her met her a virgin most of them thould me, imagine if she had many ex the husband may think they cant have a child due to an abortion she may have commited in the past so my brother not being a virgin does not mean a lady is bad but.......virgins should mary virgins

Respect55:

If she isn't a virgin doesn't mean she isn't good. What I'm after is faithfulness.

midnighter:


Yes, they can arrange a time to meet and thrash the issue out later down the line so that they will both get their stories straight and get some closure.

What I am disagreeing with here is the notion that the OP should indulge her childish antics and bow down to her cheap manipulations. She is the one who should to do the running here and not him.

Why is she writing rubbish on whatsapp instead of going to meet her husband Is he a monster that she can't go to his house or has she suddenly been struck dumb that she can't call him?

If she wants to get a message across to him she should behave like an adult and explain what happened, and not resort to cheap emotional blackmail and subliminal messages on whatsapp.

You guys are acting like she made so much effort and went through so many channels to communicate with him but he's not listening, which is not the case

Thrash what exactly other than what I saw with my two eyes?
Sorry I won't

Respect55:

U u don't know what you are saying

oga how many times will you reply me, since you said you are OK.,fine.. You are you and not me.. Thank you for the rejected advice.. Now kindly don't mention me again, I hereby withdraw my statement. Are you OK now..

rozario01:
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Your opinion anyway. I'm indifferent to that

nedekid:

Has she called you?

No

RillJ:
U played it cool like a gentleman. Hope u continue as a complete gentleman and dont buy the shits she will likely come up with later to say she is 'sorry'?

There will be no chance for that

Respect55:

What rule exactly did I break?
Could it be because I said she is also here on Nairaland, following the thread and has commented

you mean she has commented on this thread?