Pls I don't know if am not lucky in rlships......
Sometimes we luv ppl who don't luv us.....or who don't av our interest at heart.... I don't like long distance rlships..soni decided to give this one a trial.
For like days getting to a week,,,,he haven't called.. Even though we r having a church program... But he isn't the general overseer... But dedicated ooo
I wonder y he haven't called for sometime now.....the last time we talked was on Sunday.....
Unlike bf,,,,and I truly likes him a lot.
Can that be a red flag....m patiently waiting for him to call me....
On a second tot ..but no matter how busy u r for days u shld av called ....
What's ur take on this?
I feel am not lucky in rlships.... May be I shld take a break.

M not demanding ...
I don't inconvience him
I try as much as possible to manage what I av....
I don't cheat...

How old are you?

can you just concentrate on something else other than relationships

something like developing yourself to be a better woman.

with your mentality before you reach 30, you might have jump and jump out from relationships

I personally think I shld stay on my own till he calls me ....
Let me preserve my remaining integrity left.....
It hurts much
I don't want to look desperate

M not demanding ...
I don't inconvience him
I try as much as possible to manage what I av....
I don't cheat...

My question is this:
1. can this be a red flag
2.is he tired?
I don't want to look desperate or too cringing....

Phenomenal16:
M not demanding ...
I don't inconvience him
I try as much as possible to manage what I av....
I don't cheat...

He may just be busy, he doesn't have to call everytime

Lightangel65:


He may just be busy, he doesn't have to call everytime

..he doesn't behave this way..

Phenomenal16:
..he doesn't behave this way..

Then you call him relationships are not one sided. Ask him what is going on

Why are you bothered? If you think something is wrong, kindly call him to be sure. It won't take anything from you, rather it will help...

No be u dey do female miseducation forming hard chick and giving bad advice to ladies that would cost them their relationships? So u self dem break ur heart?lol smh just like linda ikeji that was forming feminist and making young girls feel men are not important only fornher to go and get pregnant and tried hard to get the man to marry her,stop the fake life and allow urself to be happy.

As for ur relationship if u know u like him then better drop that ur useless pride and contact him to know y he hasnt been in touch.Goodluck.

torqque7:
No be u dey do female miseducation forming hard chick and giving bad advice to ladies that would cost them their relationships? So u self dem break ur heart?lol smh just like linda ikeji that was forming feminist and making young girls feel men are not important only fornher to go and get pregnant and tried hard to get the man to marry her,stop the fake life and allow urself to be happy.

As for ur relationship if u know u like him then better drop that ur useless pride and contact him to know y he hasnt been in touch.Goodluck.

.....is not by forming miseducation... He's keeping me in suspense..... And I don't wanna cheat....
Good luck to ur too

This advice z an expo n a violation of sec. 14 of the international bro. Code...so keep it.


1.Don't ever call him,its a power game,even if ul submit to him later,4 now u need some power to negotiate where d relationship will lead(if u av no power,he'll so panel beat ur heart ul eventually propose to him)

2. The moment you guys re back on track,don't be do demanding,but always ask him for some things u knw he can afford (even if u can too).a man's heart lies where his money goes....if hez not investing,he'll hardly b committed .

Phenomenal16:
M not demanding ...
I don't inconvience him
I try as much as possible to manage what I av....
I don't cheat...

My dear will it kill u to call him? Do u know why he hasn't been able to call u? The day u girls stop playing relationships like chess and start living it freely is the day u start enjoying it

Yes it is a red flag.
1. He may be going through personal problems. Some guys like to withdraw when having difficulties, very bad attitude.
2. He may not really fancy you that much.
3. He is distracted by another lady, or is in another relationship.
Don't conclude yet, don't call him either. With time you will know his stand and decide on the next move to make.

Phenomenal16:
My question is this:
1. can this be a red flag
2.is he tired?
I don't want to look desperate or too cringing....

I don't know for him

But I don't usually call when am in a relationship except u flash me

I have 3,566# airtime on my phone now and I don't want to call anyone except the person flash me.

Swallow your pride and call him

Maybe he's in police custody or he's phone has lost

LilMissFavvy:
Yes it is a red flag.
1. He may be going through personal problems. Some guys like to withdraw when having difficulties, very bad attitude.
2. He may not really fancy you that much.
3. He is distracted by another lady, or is in another relationship.
Don't conclude yet, don't call him either. With time you will know his stand and decide on the next move to make.

Why that?

LilMissFavvy:
Yes it is a red flag.
1. He may be going through personal problems. Some guys like to withdraw when having difficulties, very bad attitude.
2. He may not really fancy you that much.
3. He is distracted by another lady, or is in another relationship.
Don't conclude yet, don't call him either. With time you will know his stand and decide on the next move to make.

withdrawing when having a hard time is not a bad attitude, from what she's posting, any guy's withdrawal is not a bad attitude.

It's all about maturity, he should be mature enough to handle personal issues, without allowing it frustrate his partners emotions. He is supposed to gain strength calling his partner and hearing her voice. Withdrawing and refusing to call is childish if he is having issues.

NB: the OP sounds like it's not an old relationship, if it's a new relationship, then it's too early for bullshiitt, emotional manipulation and stress. Dont call. But if it's an old relationship....... Pls call him o.

Grayjoy:
withdrawing when having a hard time is not a bad attitude, from what she's posting, any guy's withdrawal is not a bad attitude.

LilMissFavvy:
It's all about maturity, he should be mature enough to handle personal issues, without allowing it frustrate his partners emotions. He is supposed to gain strength calling his partner and hearing her voice. Withdrawing and refusing to call is childish if he is having issues.

NB: the OP sounds like it's not an old relationship, if it's a new relationship, then it's too early for bullshiitt, emotional manipulation and stress. Dont call. But if it's an old relationship....... Pls call him o.

lol, why should she call him if it's an old relationship? I believe u know that not all parteners gives strenght, attention seeking girls will aggravate your problems when you get entangled with one and unfornately, the op looks like one. This lead to my last break up, and am so happy with that.

Op drop your number here let me call you since only calling is your problem

Phenomenal16:
Pls I don't know if am not lucky in rlships......
Sometimes we luv ppl who don't luv us.....or who don't av our interest at heart.... I don't like long distance rlships..soni decided to give this one a trial.
For like days getting to a week,,,,he haven't called.. Even though we r having a church program... But he isn't the general overseer... But dedicated ooo
I wonder y he haven't called for sometime now.....the last time we talked was on Sunday.....
Unlike bf,,,,and I truly likes him a lot.
Can that be a red flag....m patiently waiting for him to call me....
On a second tot ..but no matter how busy u r for days u shld av called ....
What's ur take on this?
I feel am not lucky in rlships.... May be I shld take a break.

Call him to know why he didn't call you... If he gives a flimsy excuse, you can then decide if you want to give him a break... talking from experience...so call first to inquire.

Cheers

Mykel51:


Call him to know why he didn't call you... If he gives a flimsy excuse, you can then decide if you want to give him a break... talking from experience...so call first to inquire.

Cheers

..OK,,I will do that ...but I hope am not acting cheap

May we never have a friend who will be angry that we haven't called her, instead of calling to find out what happened.

Pick that damn phone and call him

If you're Hot and dripping wet travel and have him fvck your pvssy like mad.

Deandean:
This advice z an expo n a violation of sec. 14 of the international bro. Code...so keep it.


1.Don't ever call him,its a power game,even if ul submit to him later,4 now u need some power to negotiate where d relationship will lead(if u av no power,he'll so panel beat ur heart ul eventually propose to him)

2. The moment you guys re back on track,don't be do demanding,but always ask him for some things u knw he can afford (even if u can too).a man's heart lies where his money goes....if hez not investing,he'll hardly b committed .

...u made a point especially no 2 ...because I don't demand ....he was even praising me for that ...I come dey feel myself..
Foolish me
I feel like crying a river right now

Phenomenal16:
..OK,,I will do that ...but I hope am not acting cheap

No you are not dear, that is why there is a clause there...if the reason is flimsy... You may discard him

hmm

Mykel51:


No you are not dear, that is why there is a clause there...if the reason is flimsy... You may discard him

..okay..Thanks for d contribution

LilMissFavvy:
It's all about maturity, he should be mature enough to handle personal issues, without allowing it frustrate his partners emotions. He is supposed to gain strength calling his partner and hearing her voice. Withdrawing and refusing to call is childish if he is having issues.

NB: the OP sounds like it's not an old relationship, if it's a new relationship, then it's too early for bullshiitt, emotional manipulation and stress. Dont call. But if it's an old relationship....... Pls call him o.

..like 9 mnths

Updates!!!...OK I had series of dreams
1.he refused to hold my hand in one of d dreams..
2.he left me and was seeing anoda gal
.....this dreams r real...but then I don't if am over thinking lol..
Just felt like sharing...

If U Never Still Call That Boy Up Till Now Since Wen U Open This Thread, Then There Is Bone In Ur Brain.

Anything that wants to happen shld happen tired already