Respect55:

Thanks. I appreciate. Happy new month

Good evening bro, I have been following this trend all this while now waiting for the step the lady will take.
Bro i know you have stand your ground of not taking her back, I respect your decision and I know your have right to stand your ground, and truly if u insist that she is no more coming back nobody can blame you
But let me remind u, life is not all about right and wrong sir
we use to offend God he use to forgive us
This lady, to me have tried, although she might not do it the right way In which most of us expect ( coming to u, bring all her family etc) but she shows you mean the world to her.
She could even try to take her life cause of u, (forget the term she is trying to black mail u, Who joke with poison?, her pride is just taking the best out of her) anyone can make a mistake. I believe she will learn from this and it even an opportunity for you to shape her to who ever you want her to be because with this she already knows where her heart belongs.

Bro, to a spiritual man everything is spiritual, don't mind me, it might be devil sees you guys great future together and want to scatter it...
Do u know the next lady u are going to meet? As the matter of fact that lady will also had one time made mistake in the past or u will be her own mistake also, it a stage we will all pass thru in life

No sin is too big to forgive. To err is man
On a final note : A devil we know is better than an angel we never knows.

Bro Pls forgive if you truly love her
Love covereth all sins

zyzxx:
Good evening bro, I have been following this trend all this while now waiting for the step the lady will take.
Bro i know you have stand your ground of not taking her back, I respect your decision and I know your have right to stand your ground, and truly if u insist that she is no more coming back nobody can blame you
But let me remind u, life is not all about right and wrong sir
we use to offend God he use to forgive us
This lady, to me have tried, although she might not do it the right way In which most of us expect ( coming to u, bring all her family etc) but she shows you mean the world to her.
She could even try to take her life cause of u, (forget the term she is trying to black mail u, Who joke with poison?, her pride is just taking the best out of her) anyone can make a mistake. I believe she will learn from this and it even an opportunity for you to shape her to who ever you want her to be because with this she already knows where her heart belongs.

Bro, to a spiritual man everything is spiritual, don't mind me, it might be devil sees you guys great future together and want to scatter it...
Do u know the next lady u are going to meet? As the matter of fact that lady will also had one time made mistake in the past or u will be her own mistake also, it a stage we will all pass thru in life

No sin is too big to forgive. To err is man
On a final note : A devil we know is better than an angel we never knows.

Bro Pls forgive if you truly love her
Love covereth all sins

U have done well. Thanks for the time. Sincerely I don't bear grudges. I don't hate her. I'm not even happy that all our efforts have gone down the gallows. But you see, I have learnt to accept the things I can't change. It's not about me, it's about my heart. My heart is no longer there. This thing called love is one funny thing. You can imagine a situation whereby the person you used to look forward to seeing makes your mood bad at present. It's not my fault

I still went with her people this afternoon to see her. I asked how she was doing she said fine then turned her face to the wall. I didn't say anything again.

I have no ill feelings whatsoever towards her. The love isn't just there anymore. It comes naturally.

Respect55:


U have done well. Thanks for the time. Sincerely I don't bear grudges. I don't hate her. I'm not even happy that all our efforts have gone down the gallows. But you see, I have learnt to accept the things I can't change. It's not about me, it's about my heart. My heart is no longer there. This thing called love is one funny thing. You can imagine a situation whereby the person you used to look forward to seeing makes your mood bad at present. It's not my fault

I still went with her people this afternoon to see her. I asked how she was doing she said fine then turned her face to the wall. I didn't say anything again.

I have no ill feelings whatsoever towards her. The love isn't just there anymore. It comes naturally.

You killed that girl...

Respect55:


U have done well. Thanks for the time. Sincerely I don't bear grudges. I don't hate her. I'm not even happy that all our efforts have gone down the gallows. But you see, I have learnt to accept the things I can't change. It's not about me, it's about my heart. My heart is no longer there. This thing called love is one funny thing. You can imagine a situation whereby the person you used to look forward to seeing makes your mood bad at present. It's not my fault

I still went with her people this afternoon to see her. I asked how she was doing she said fine then turned her face to the wall. I didn't say anything again.

I have no ill feelings whatsoever towards her. The love isn't just there anymore. It comes naturally.

Totally agree with you. Take it easy on her going forward tho. Be as gentle as you can be. But keep your distance if you can. If she comes to you, hear her out, even if it won't change your mind in any way. At least do it for her own sanity. Use kids gloves this time please.

I wouldn't advice you get back with her, for your sanity. But its ok if you want to, you know her much better. More wisdom bro.

I must say, I am very impressed with how you have handled yourself thus far. Cool, calm and astute. More grease bro.

MissCookie:
Uncle, you are becoming too emotional. Nobody is blaming you for wanting a breakup, infact, every normal human being would want that considering the dirty role your ex had in it.

How you chose to break up is the bone of contention here. Mind you, I really do not care how you choose to handle your shit, but as you clearly stated, "you shared your experience so others would learn from it". Same way, I am putting it out there, clean closure is the way


You said you knew it would get to this, so you knew your ex is a suicidal psychopath?
Wonders!

Correction, clean closure isn't the way, it is your way. But there are merits to your argument granted. But to insinuate that your way is the only way just sounds off to me.

Not everyone one wants clean closure. And surprise surprise not everyone needs it. There are times you've just had enough and don't really care why they did what they did. As in they have broken a trust so strong and real that it has utterly diminished their importance and reasoning.

You can't toy with people's heart upandan. There's a breaking point where it's just doesn't matter what you have to say. As no excuse no matter how big is enough to absolve you of your misconduct.

Everyone must not react the way you want them to. Just because they don't, doesn't in anyway make them any less right. While you crave closure, the op doesn't care for it as his mind is made up. Learn to step out of your own point of view and try understanding others point of view. You don't have the monopoly as to the right way to do things.

No one could have predicted what she did. And you don't know how it would have played out if he had gone for closure. Knowing the op will refused to take her back. She could have come with poison to threaten him. Claiming to take her own life if he doesn't take her back. Am sure the op wouldn't take her back. Causing her to carry out her threat exposing the op more to legal action than he currently is.

There are many right ways to climb a mountain. But there are mountains that will push the boundaries of your skills. Doesn't mean your strategy is wrong. Just means you're on a challenging mountain.

Sultan5:


Totally agree with you. Take it easy on her going forward tho. Be as gentle as you can be. But keep your distance if you can. If she comes to you, hear her out, even if it won't change your mind in any way. At least do it for her own sanity. Use kids gloves this time please.

I wouldn't advice you get back with her, for your sanity. But its ok if you want to, you know her much better. More wisdom bro.

I must say, I am very impressed with how you have handled yourself thus far. Cool, calm and astute. More grease bro.

Taken. U did well. Thanks once again

I888:


You killed that girl...

How do u mean?

Respect55:

How do u mean?

What did I miss?

Did she return to beg you?

It's difficult to follow the thread page by page, kindly tell me the page you posted the updates so I can read up.

Thank you.

zyzxx:
Good evening bro, I have been following this trend all this while now waiting for the step the lady will take.
Bro i know you have stand your ground of not taking her back, I respect your decision and I know your have right to stand your ground, and truly if u insist that she is no more coming back nobody can blame you
But let me remind u, life is not all about right and wrong sir
we use to offend God he use to forgive us
This lady, to me have tried, although she might not do it the right way In which most of us expect ( coming to u, bring all her family etc) but she shows you mean the world to her.
She could even try to take her life cause of u, (forget the term she is trying to black mail u, Who joke with poison?, her pride is just taking the best out of her) anyone can make a mistake. I believe she will learn from this and it even an opportunity for you to shape her to who ever you want her to be because with this she already knows where her heart belongs.

Bro, to a spiritual man everything is spiritual, don't mind me, it might be devil sees you guys great future together and want to scatter it...
Do u know the next lady u are going to meet? As the matter of fact that lady will also had one time made mistake in the past or u will be her own mistake also, it a stage we will all pass thru in life

No sin is too big to forgive. To err is man
On a final note : A devil we know is better than an angel we never knows.

Bro Pls forgive if you truly love her
Love covereth all sins

This is my perspective too. Honestly I felt this exact way 100%%

Respect55:

How do u mean?

the way you handled it is the best way to deal with women...

No emotions, no complaints, no fighting... Just cold composure.

She will eventually come back to beg you.

I888:
the way you handled it is the best way to deal with women...

No emotions, no complaints, no fighting... Just cold composure.

She will eventually come back to beg you.

Alright.

uboma:



What did I miss?

Did she return to beg you?

It's difficult to follow the thread page by page, kindly tell me the page you posted the updates so I can read up.

Thank you.

I can't start searching for updates and pages please. She will be released from hospital today. But then, nothing has happened

Op I like the way you taken up the issue but my little advice is that you should not take her back cheating is a red flag. yes you can be friends with her. a better lady that value you will surely come ur way.

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Dude gets cheated on,he handled it in a matured manner,but still gets crucified for not handling it well. What a world we live in,is it until he kills himself?
Table your matter on Nairaland at your own peril,funny set of people, SMH!!!

Respect55:


U have done well. Thanks for the time. Sincerely I don't bear grudges. I don't hate her. I'm not even happy that all our efforts have gone down the gallows. But you see, I have learnt to accept the things I can't change. It's not about me, it's about my heart. My heart is no longer there. This thing called love is one funny thing. You can imagine a situation whereby the person you used to look forward to seeing makes your mood bad at present. It's not my fault

I still went with her people this afternoon to see her. I asked how she was doing she said fine then turned her face to the wall. I didn't say anything again.

I have no ill feelings whatsoever towards her. The love isn't just there anymore. It comes naturally.

I understand you bro
Just please be open minded don't just lock your heart
More wisdom

I love the way you handled the whole situation

dannybrasky:
Dude gets cheated on,he handled it in a matured manner,but still gets crucified for not handling it well. What a world we live in,is it until he kills himself?
Table your matter on Nairaland at your own peril,funny set of people, SMH!!!

. My brother I tire o.

@OP I can only imagine how traumatic it must have been for you. Honestly I admire your cold demeanour and the way you so maturely handled this.

Do not mind those up there trying to shove down their own beliefs down your throat. Ignore them please. They are birds of the same feather with your ex even worse sef. May we never come across their type in our lives ever.

Definitely your plan for people to learn from your story even if its one person is a success. I've taken some tips from you in handling such situations.

Take care bro.

abdeiz:
@OP I can only imagine how traumatic it must have been for you. Honestly I admire your cold demeanour and the way you so maturely handled this.

Do not mind those up there trying to shove down their own beliefs down your throat. Ignore them please. They are birds of the same feather with your ex even worse sef. May we never come across their type in our lives ever.

Definitely your plan for people to learn from your story even if its one person is a success. I've taken some tips from you in handling such situations.

Take care bro.

That sounds nice. I have always told them that I shared so that people will learn and not to criticize me. When such befalls them, let them handle it the best way they would. Their backlass and unguarded utterances can't get close to me. I'm not a weakling.
Let them keep on talking, it doesn't make any difference.

uboma:



What did I miss?

Did she return to beg you?

It's difficult to follow the thread page by page, kindly tell me the page you posted the updates so I can read up.

Thank you.

Rather you should follow him, so that anytime he makes a comment/update, you will see it and you can read all his previous comments/updates it's easier that way

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Sounds to me like you are crushing on the OP

midnighter:


Lol! Shoved our beliefs down his throat like she shoved some noxious substance down her throat and nearly landed him in prison abi

Wtf is wrong with you people! Birds of the same feather that I will be telling somebody I love you John after cheating on the same John with no explanation...rubbish. That's the kind of story they like around here

Advise somebody maturely you people won't...just keep encouraging the wrong thing until he gets himself into more trouble

abdeiz:
Sounds to me like you are crushing on the OP

Modified: Nope

midnighter:


Lol! Shoved our beliefs down his throat like she shoved some noxious substance down her throat and nearly landed him in prison abi

Wtf is wrong with you people! Birds of the same feather that I will be telling somebody I love you John after cheating on the same John with no explanation...rubbish. That's the kind of story they like around here

Advise somebody maturely you people won't...just keep encouraging the wrong thing until he gets himself into more trouble

Why is it difficult for you to mind your own business? Why cry more than the bereaved?
I, John, don't have any problem. I haven't gotten myself into one either. I have faced my fear as a man and I count no loss.This single post of his is more important to me than all u have offered all along.
That been said, I never had you in mind when I shared my story. As such, I won't bother again about whatever thing u say here. Shame on me if I reply u ever again.

abdeiz:
@OP I can only imagine how traumatic it must have been for you. Honestly I admire your cold demeanour and the way you so maturely handled this.

Do not mind those up there trying to shove down their own beliefs down your throat. Ignore them please. They are birds of the same feather with your ex even worse sef. May we never come across their type in our lives ever.

Definitely your plan for people to learn from your story even if its one person is a success. I've taken some tips from you in handling such situations.

Take care bro.

They never expected him to act like that in that situation. They were expecting him to start begging the girl after she cheated on him or want him to say "I don't know what to do. Please help me. I need your advice" like some other guys have been doing in his situation". They just want him to appear weak by force.

Lol, whoever just liked this comment is very funny. Deleted

Okay oo...if you say so

midnighter:


On the contrary, I cannot and will not ever crush on somebody who does not know how to handle a problem.

Such is too important a quality for my potential spouse to lack.

lool...Honestly i dey feel the OP ahswear...He no send at all

Korllami007:

They never expected him to act like that in that situation. They were expecting him to start begging the girl after she cheated on him or want him to say "I don't know what to do. Please help me. I need your advice" like some other guys have been doing in his situation". They just want him to appear weak by force.

abdeiz:
lool...Honestly the i dey feel the OP ahswear...He no send at all

Someone was even trying to put the blame on him. Op ex is a chronic manipulator. Op caught her red handed and instead of her to leave the scene immediately or some minutes after op left the scene and go straight to his house and beg him, but she didn't and still went to club with the other guy and enjoy herself to the fullest and I'm pretty sure when they finish clubbing, thorough banging would follow. After the whole thing oo, she didn't go to Op house to beg him but uploaded her status that she's going to commit suicide . Then after that again oo, she no go op house to beg him but went straight to op sister's house to beg her. Lol.

To me, if she truly loves op and cares about him, she will never and never go to club with that other guy after op caught her red handed. That's nothing but "See finish". Haba!!

I'm pretty sure she never took sniper but took substance that's not as potent as sniper. The girl knows within herself the other guy won't marry her; they are just using each other to cure konji. She thinks that Op might be her best shot to get married. So, she just doing all that not to lose her best opportunity to get married, not only that but also not to lose husband material that Op is. With all I have seen though, op won't fall for that trick.
Note: this is my opinion oo.

OP, to be candid with you, you deserve this.

Sultan5:


Correction, clean closure isn't the way, it is your way. But there are merits to your argument granted. But to insinuate that your way is the only way just sounds off to me.

Not everyone one wants clean closure. And surprise surprise not everyone needs it. There are times you've just had enough and don't really care why they did what they did. As in they have broken a trust so strong and real that it has utterly diminished their importance and reasoning.

You can't toy with people's heart upandan. There's a breaking point where it's just doesn't matter what you have to say. As no excuse no matter how big is enough to absolve you of your misconduct.

Everyone must not react the way you want them to. Just because they don't, doesn't in anyway make them any less right. While you crave closure, the op doesn't care for it as his mind is made up. Learn to step out of your own point of view and try understanding others point of view. You don't have the monopoly as to the right way to do things.

No one could have predicted what she did. And you don't know how it would have played out if he had gone for closure. Knowing the op will refused to take her back. She could have come with poison to threaten him. Claiming to take her own life if he doesn't take her back. Am sure the op wouldn't take her back. Causing her to carry out her threat exposing the op more to legal action than he currently is.

There are many right ways to climb a mountain. But there are mountains that will push the boundaries of your skills. Doesn't mean your strategy is wrong. Just means you're on a challenging mountain.

You shouldn't expect anything less from a fellow female on a thread like this. They have a way of trying to tilt things in their favour. I had accept they are wrong, If the OP had reacted irrationally, the stupid girl will play tactical maneuver by trying to blame him and also make him feel guilty.

If you read previous post, the OP hinted that the girl had commented on this thread and I saw her following the thread even after 2 days of making an initial post. Her words were that the OP didn't do something and that is what resulted to the outcome, to which OP stated that the only thing he remembers not doing is not FORKING the bittch.

All NOTICE that the number girls that commented on this thread are not even up to 10 because virtually all of them are guilty.

I love the way he really handled this, to be honest.

midnighter:


On the contrary, I cannot and will not ever crush on somebody who does not know how to handle a problem.

Such is too important a quality for my potential spouse to lack.

how does he not know how to handle a problem? See, the OP may have not stated this but I am sure that for him to have reacted this way, he had experienced something similar previously.

I can tell you for a fact that there are some of us who are extremely kind and generous but if a girl abuse whatever privilege we give or take us for granted, I can assure we would not even care if she died.

Respect55:
Let me post here also for the very last time. I know the mod will ban me afterwards but I just chose to keep you all in the know. This will be the last time surely.


The end of a thing is actually the beginning of another. I thought I had gotten over all these issue with my ex only to find out she kept to her words.

I got a call from her mom wound 5pm today that I should as a matter of urgency, come to their house. I said OK. I took some few minutes to take somethings in and lock up where I hustle. I got there only to be told my ex attempted suicide by drinking a poisonous substance. To them, all thanks to the immediate younger sis who rushed to her soon to see her writing in pains. A call was put across to the dad who left his office at Lagos brokiri here in portharcourt, rushed down and took her to the new mile one hospital where it was confirmed she was poisoned.
She left a note where she stated I should be held accountable for her death with my phone number. That was how I was invited. (I used to talk to her my before but never with her dad).
The dad told me that I should reserve whatever I have to say to the police tomorrow because the matter has been reported accordingly at mile one police station.
I have contacted my people here in portharcourt too. Please if u are here in portharcourt and a lawyer, follow me let's talk privately. Treat as urgent.

PS: I won't reply to comments again. I'm been tested.

You be man... AS IN YOU BE REAL MAN OF STEEL!.