donstan18:
Virginity. Her virginity must be intact. That's what a lady must have to grant her the qualifications of choosing the kind of man she wants.

You have no right as a non-virgin lady to set standard for the kind of man you want.

OladimejiRufai:


I agree with you to some extent, but to a larger extent, I disagree with you bro.

Virginity? Is it not that thing that it has been proven that it can be lost by virtue of other things aside sex like exercise or accident?

Is it in today's world where we hear many stories of how many girls are being raped and molested? In a world where many parents do not take care of or look after children and this has exposed the girls to the trials and evils of those men who take advantage of women out there? In a world where many people were born into families and environment that has deterred them from having the proper orientation concerning how much of value a woman keeping her virginity is?

Is it in a world when we humans live - the same weak humans whom the devil has managed to influence many of us into making mistakes we have always regretted and wished we never did?

Virginity should not necessarily be a yardstick to determine the kind of woman that should set standards for a spouse because it can be lost in ways in which the girl had little or no control.

Even if the girl had control, it still remains so

Wait a second, what exactly is the beauty of marrying a virgin except for the sweetness and the satisfaction that arises from realising that no man has touched her before you?

Is virginity the factor that determines the character of a woman or will determine how much of a good wife and good mother she will be?

After the first night, when you break her virginity, will she not then become like the other women who have had theirs broken before marriage?

Indeed, the character and personage of a woman is far more important that virginity. It's her character that will determine how well she can perform wifely duties, how much of a good wife and mother she will be, how much of a good home she will make, how much of happiness and peace of mind she will give you as her husband, how less of worries you will experience in that marriage and other important and major benefits a man seeks to experience in marriage.

Virginity has little or nothing to do with all that while character and virtuousness has a lot to do.

Look around you and observe or ask questions or do research and you will see how many women out there of whom they were married as virgins cause their husbands worries and troubles of different sorts.

I'm not saying this to justify sex before marriage oo. I've always been an advocate against it.

But I want you to understand that virginity does little in the making of a good wife. And I want you to understand that the present is what matters and not the past. There have been people in this world who were amongst the worst of creatures but their lives were turned around and they became the best of people. And conversely, there were some that were good but turned so worse.

What matters is the present brother. As long as the non virgin lady has kept her misdeeds in the past and is now a virtuous woman at present, then she should be entitled to that chance of setting standards in a man of whom she hopes would complement and help her improve on her present character and virtuousness.

my piece!

donstan18:
Virginity. Her virginity must be intact. That's what a lady must have to grant her the qualifications of choosing the kind of man she wants.

You have no right as a non-virgin lady to set standard for the kind of man you want.

ImaIma1:


You finish work!

While virginity is admirable and good to maintain till marriage, it is not as important as a good character and a wife that gives her husband piece of mind and support.

crackhaus:

So what must a woman have?

Only good character?

yenereal:
It is a joyous thing to behold and great feeling of ecstasy when one gets married. However, some certain things do prevent guys from getting married apart from getting to find the right person to marry.
Some girls say a man must have everything (job, car(s), house and money) before they get married. My question is: if a man must have car, house and job before marriage, what must a woman have before marriage?


Mods push to FP please.

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Lalasticlala, mynd44.

ImaIma1:


I guess you didn't see "support" there. Or you saw it but you don't know what it means.

bukatyne:


Depends what the man she wants to marry deems important.

Your OP just lists the wants/needs of a set of women.

crackhaus:

Oh I did, but my above human intelligence tells me it's a good character that brings about a supportive personality - and even on this, the concept of this support is still very vague.

Are you implying that the 'support' a man will get from a woman is different or more special from the one he already gets from the friends he's known for say 15/20yrs, or from the family he's known all his life?

crackhaus:

Oh I did, but my above human intelligence tells me it's a good character that brings about a supportive personality - and even on this, the concept of this support is still very vague.

Are you implying that the 'support' a man will get from a woman is different or more special from the one he already gets from the friends he's known for say 15/20yrs, or from the family he's known all his life?

ImaIma1:


[s]You finish work!

While virginity is admirable and good to maintain till marriage, it is not as important as a good character and a wife that gives her husband piece of mind and support.[/s]

crackhaus:

Oh I did, but my above human intelligence tells me it's a good character that brings about a supportive personality - and even on this, the concept of this support is still very vague.

Are you implying that the 'support' a man will get from a woman is different or more special from the one he already gets from the friends he's known for say 15/20yrs, or from the family he's known all his life?

ImaIma1:


Then he should marry his friends or his family

crackhaus:

Yeah, as if I didn't already see this textbook response coming a thousand miles away.

Now you understand that the reason why a man probably needs to marry a woman is ONLY to have legal access to puccci, legal kids too, since he can't get any of these from family/friends.

No need to get upset though because this is just what you just implied by that short unsurprising response. I only interpreted it for everyone to see the kind of mindset most of your kind have, not like most of us aren't already aware.

donstan18:

No female Nairalander alive can answer this question correctly with good explanations.

E too sure me like shoki.

ImaIma1:


As you grow older, you will understand better the reason for marriage. But for now, just bother your head with other things that you have knowledge about

crackhaus:

Tell that to Oprah Winfrey, she's twice your age and will have very good answers to the questions you are still struggling to answer.

When you've been depending on men all your life, it will be very hard to have anything else than good character & 'support'.

ImaIma1:


Ok. I have noticed you. As you were!

sassysure:

Sometimes yes.

U see a thread where a woman and her bridal train were on wheechairs, look at the pictures very well. That guy is in it because of the money. She brings in the money and connections. His friends and family couldn't do that for him. He even look hungry

As far as Abuja is concerned, guys do Wed because of the support he can get o.
I attended 2. U guys always make it look like women bring nothing to the table.

Left to me, they should not bring anything. Leaving my family to go and answer your name,give birth to kids that bears your surname is more than all other support combined.

Some of the guys will realise u are evening newspaper after setting them up.

ImaIma1:


I thought you were smart. Smart people don't jump into baseless conclusions.

Why not go ask Oprah the questions then? Why bothering with me?

CHoccolaTE:
For heavens sake what type of question is this thread asking?
Society and religions determine gender roles in marriage. When you have the bible saying women should submit and be home builders while men who can't provide are called infidels what on earth do you think people will subsequently regard as their roles in marriage?
Gender roles are even stricter and more defined in islam where a woman can divorce a man for failing to provide for her and a man can beat his wife for not submitting or pleasing him.

Of course women in such societies will look for men who can provide because they see it as what God ordained while men look for obedient submissive housebuilding women.

I dont know why a lot of men like being willfully ignorant. Buharis economy is hard and you want financial support from women its known but make una sofri dey deceive yourselves.

crackhaus:

Bukatyne, generally speaking, what should a woman have before marriage?

I fancy questions like this because it is such a proof of a woman's inherently inferior nature (due to her own perception of herself), and it is exactly why a lot of women will keep receiving the short end of the stick in every society on earth.

This thread can get to 50pages and I bet NL women will not list anything different from good character, support, etc - it will always be intangible things, never anything of substance.

It's embarrassing.

crackhaus:

Na wah oo.

Didn't you already say it was ONLY good character and support you had to offer before you got married?

If you had something else, talk na before accusing me of jumping into anything.

Lmao...

healthserve:



Yawns. We know your kinds. My words are priceless. I won't waste them on you

CHoccolaTE:


But you quoted me to post your words naa........



Oga unfollow me if you no like my posts abeg, I can't be dealing with your emotional heartbroken posts everytime I write what you dont like.

healthserve:



Bruhahahaha S.M and funny e-fights sha. Nice one. I'll clap to this one.

Lol. My belle o