I'm Confused, I Don't Want To Lose Her

There is this girl that I met in lecture theater, we sat down together, we chatted but it was concerning the lecture.

After the lecture, I disappeared because I'm this kind of very shy person, I didn't know what to talk to her aside the lecture.

So I saw her on Facebook, I added her and chatted her, up. It happen that evening I wanted to go eat in a restaurant, I told her she can join me jokingly. Surprisingly, she came, we talked but it was mostly about me and herself. After, we finished eating, I told her to come and know my place, but when she came I was nervous and she did not stay up to 5 mins. I told her we need to go, that her roomie maybe worried about her. The next day when she saw me in school, she was excited to see me.

After then our communication sucks, I will call her and be asking all this boring questions, before I know it, sometimes she will see my chat and will not reply. Now I'm confuse, I don't know what to do again. I don't wanna lose her.

What do you suggest I do from here? pardon my grammatical blunder.

A shy guy for this 21st century? Guy send me her number, let me help you talk to her, she will say yes to me in no time......Oh sorry! She will say yes to you in no time.


Guy, work on yourself, your boldness matters alot. Apart from that Girl, you need boldness for your Seminar Defense, Project Defense and even Interview when you are done with your studies.

Your boldness will make most people believe you even when what you have to say is stupid.

Now when you have boldness, when you have accomplished it, then you will not look for what to say to THAT GIRL you said you dont want to LOSE, what to say WILL COME ITSELF

We Nairalanders won't help you, rather YOU GAT TO HELP YOURSELF. Thank You

Lala! I made it! FTC. I dedicate this to people thriving hard to survive in this country, may SUCCESS locate us all in all our endeavours.

Dude, forget the babe and work on yourself. If she ignores because you couldn't keep up, nah she sabi! You don't know people in a day neither can you have something to say all the time. Just ignore and focus on your life, when talk come una go talk until then dey your lane. That's self respect!

Next time be vibrant, nothing turns a girl off more than being boring... Be ur self, girls love crazy guys..so don't hide ur true self in pretence all in the name of being shy..

Work on ur personality..or u will experience more turn off..

Giving girls too much attention can easily ruin ur communication with her...don't let her predict ur next move just be controversial..

u just lost dat book..go and look for another book.

Call her and tell her you love her and would not like to loose her. Tell her she means the world to you. Tell her it's she or nobody else. Find out what her interests are and talk about it.

mrpoul:
There is dis girl, that I meet in lecture theater, we sat down together, we chatted but it was concerning the lecture. After the lecture, I disappear because im this kind of very shy person, I didn't know what to talk to her aside the lecture. So I saw her on FB I added her and chatted her, up. It happen that evening I wanted to go eat in a restaurant, I told her she can join me jokingly. Surprisingly, she came, we talked but it was mostly about me and herself. After, we finish eating, I told her to come and know my place, but when she came I was nervous and she did not stay up to 5mins. I told her we need to go, dat her roomie maybe worried about her. The next day when she saw me in school, she was excited to see me. After then our communication sucks, I will call her and be asking all this boring questions, before I know it, sometimes she will see my chat and will not reply. Now I'm confuse, I don't know what to do again. I don't wanna lose her. what do u suggest I do from here? pardon my grammatical blunder.

just be honest and upfront that you are a shy person and like her. Your communication isn't the best, but ask her if she really likes you or not. Then proceed from there

And I wonder why it is the guy that must work on his conversation skills and keep the communication on.Is friendship/ relationship a one sided thing? Or communication a gender thing? .

Oga u never had her in the first place, so how can u loose her

Your Grammar sef dislocate my neck.

Girl wey you dey cry for has probably gone fucking in another niggas crib.

You swallow lizard for mouth? What was stopping you from making your intentions known from the first day, just tell her one big talk;

"I can't seem to understand my self since I left you the previous time, I'm losing it and have got no coherent way to put this. Do I like that I've got nothing to say when we see? Not inherently, but please understand that I may be meandering and trying to lull but I've got you and your thoughts full to the brim in my heart"

Two seconds she go..!!

NoGender:



"I can't seem to understand my self since I left you the previous time, I'm losing it and have got no coherent way to put this. Do I like that I've got nothing to say when we see? Not inherently, but please understand that I may be meandering and trying to lull but I've got you and your thoughts full to the brim in my heart"

Two seconds she go..!!

Please translate to English. Thanks in advance.

She came to your place and you did not fvck her?
you've forever lost her

Ariza:
And I wonder why it is the guy that must work on his conversation skills and keep the communication on.Is friendship/ relationship a one sided thing? Or communication a gender thing? .

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From birth ladies were gifted with comm skills, unless they don't like you else they won't engage you...just experience this my assertion this morning from a lest expected junior staff.
I was once like him...it's a skill indeed that needs to be develop and when you do that, menh the feeling is out of this world. Like someone said upfront...try and be controversial, dress neat and ignore her for now then seems to be distracted when with her but don't ignore her gists.

Okay, so you are the boy disturbing my girl in school ?

Your own don be.

mrpoul:
There is dis girl, that I meet in lecture theater, we sat down together, we chatted but it was concerning the lecture. After the lecture, I disappear because im this kind of very shy person, I didn't know what to talk to her aside the lecture. So I saw her on FB I added her and chatted her, up. It happen that evening I wanted to go eat in a restaurant, I told her she can join me jokingly. Surprisingly, she came, we talked but it was mostly about me and herself. After, we finish eating, I told her to come and know my place, but when she came I was nervous and she did not stay up to 5mins. I told her we need to go, dat her roomie maybe worried about her. The next day when she saw me in school, she was excited to see me. After then our communication sucks, I will call her and be asking all this boring questions, before I know it, sometimes she will see my chat and will not reply. Now I'm confuse, I don't know what to do again. I don't wanna lose her. what do u suggest I do from here? pardon my grammatical blunder.

Send her this write up, you will be amazed.

Again, be yourself. That's the key. Girls hate pretenders.

Lastly avoid sex. Thank me later.

mrpoul:
There is dis girl, that I meet in lecture theater, we sat down together, we chatted but it was concerning the lecture. After the lecture, I disappear because im this kind of very shy person, I didn't know what to talk to her aside the lecture. So I saw her on FB I added her and chatted her, up. It happen that evening I wanted to go eat in a restaurant, I told her she can join me jokingly. Surprisingly, she came, we talked but it was mostly about me and herself. After, we finish eating, I told her to come and know my place, but when she came I was nervous and she did not stay up to 5mins. I told her we need to go, dat her roomie maybe worried about her. The next day when she saw me in school, she was excited to see me. After then our communication sucks, I will call her and be asking all this boring questions, before I know it, sometimes she will see my chat and will not reply. Now I'm confuse, I don't know what to do again. I don't wanna lose her. what do u suggest I do from here? pardon my grammatical blunder.

Hmmm...
such a trip.
Seems like you already loose her before you came here to create this tread, the way she behaved are signs that means she isn't interested in you anymore.
anyway i don't know what to say.
But let me suggest this. And what you have to do is:
Tell her the kind of guy you are, that you are the kind of shy guy and you don't know how to communicate properly because it's your first time, and also tell her that things may not work for the both of you because of the kind of person you are.

Look man i know that what i wrote up doesn't sound too good. And the only way to please a lady is to be honest with your situation, and stop trying to act like a boss. Just put yourself together and let her know the truth.
And also try to read some books when facing a mirro, talk whilst looking at the mirro and see your expression while you grow more confidence.

Harlequeen:
just be honest and upfront that you are a shy person and like her. Your communication isn't the best, but ask her if she really likes you or not. Then proceed from there

Look who we av here given r/ship advice ... relationship don suffer

OP, from your previous threads, you seem to lack communication skills + confidence, and need to work on these. Secondly, relax. The girl who will like you will like you irrespective of your imperfections.

totosucker:
Call her and tell her you love her and would not like to loose her. Tell her she means the world to you. Tell her it's she or nobody else. Find out what her interests are and talk about it.

Stay away from this advice.. For your own good..

You been rolling with sluts if you fck girls on first visit.

CreepyBlackpool:
She came to your place and you did not fvck her?

you've forever lost her

LOGOBELT:
A shy guy for this 21st century? Guy send me her number, let me help you talk to her, she will say yes to me in no time......Oh sorry! She will say yes to you in no time.


Guy, work on yourself, your boldness matters alot. Apart from that Girl, you need boldness for your Seminar Defense, Project Defense and even Interview when you are done with your studies.

Your boldness will make most people believe you even when what you have to say is stupid.

Now when you have boldness, when you have accomplished it, then you will not look for what to say to THAT GIRL you said you dont want to LOSE, what to say WILL COME ITSELF

We Nairalanders won't help you, rather YOU GAT TO HELP YOURSELF. Thank You

is there any book you can suggest for me?

mrpoul:

is there any book you can suggest for me?

book, hmmm I will leave that question for the elders in the house

inspirator1:

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From birth ladies were gifted with comm skills, unless they don't like you else they won't engage you...just experience this my assertion this morning from a lest expected junior staff.
I was once like him...it's a skill indeed that needs to be develop and when you do that, menh the feeling is out of this world. Like someone said upfront...try and be controversial, dress neat and ignore her for now then seems to be distracted when with her but don't ignore her gists.

how did u overcome shyness?

Jersuiyjoe:

Hmmm...
such a trip.
Seems like you already loose her before you came here to create this tread, the way she behaved are signs that means she isn't interesting in you anymore.
anyway i don't know what to say.
But let me suggest this. And what you have to do is:
Tell her the kind of guy you are, that you are the kind of shy guy and you don't how to communicate properly because it's your first time, and also tell her that things may not work for the both of you because of the kind of person you are.

Look man i know that what i wrote up doesn't sound too good. And the only way to please a lady is to be honest with your situation, and stop trying to act like a boss. Just put yourself together and let her know the truth.
And also try to read some books when facing a mirro, talk whilst looking at the mirro and see your expression while you grow more confidence.

thanks for the input

Spy360:
Send her this write up, you will be amazed.
Again, be yourself. That's the key. Girls hate pretenders.
Lastly avoid sex. Thank me later.

why do u say, I should avoid sex?

Jersuiyjoe:

Hmmm...
such a trip.
Seems like you already loose her before you came here to create this tread, the way she behaved are signs that means she isn't interesting in you anymore.
anyway i don't know what to say.
But let me suggest this. And what you have to do is:
Tell her the kind of guy you are, that you are the kind of shy guy and you don't how to communicate properly because it's your first time, and also tell her that things may not work for the both of you because of the kind of person you are.

Look man i know that what i wrote up doesn't sound too good. And the only way to please a lady is to be honest with your situation, and stop trying to act like a boss. Just put yourself together and let her know the truth.
And also try to read some books when facing a mirro, talk whilst looking at the mirro and see your expression while you grow more confidence.

You don't need this when you're good looking..

Good looks is the only way to get a girl attention

mrpoul:
There is dis girl, that I meet in lecture theater, we sat down together, we chatted but it was concerning the lecture. After the lecture, I disappear because im this kind of very shy person, I didn't know what to talk to her aside the lecture. So I saw her on FB I added her and chatted her, up. It happen that evening I wanted to go eat in a restaurant, I told her she can join me jokingly. Surprisingly, she came, we talked but it was mostly about me and herself. After, we finish eating, I told her to come and know my place, but when she came I was nervous and she did not stay up to 5mins. I told her we need to go, dat her roomie maybe worried about her. The next day when she saw me in school, she was excited to see me. After then our communication sucks, I will call her and be asking all this boring questions, before I know it, sometimes she will see my chat and will not reply. Now I'm confuse, I don't know what to do again. I don't wanna lose her. what do u suggest I do from here? pardon my grammatical blunder.

Can I be sincerely honest with you?
I just opened this topic and I read it and I had absolutely nothing to say.I said"had".
So I clicked on quote and I saw it again now I'm asking my self.HOW DON'T YOU WANT TO LOSE HER,you barely know this girl,you just met your course mate and she got fond of you till the extent of going to your place and you got talking and all of a sudden she's bored of you.I mean who does that.kindly read your story or topic again.
AND WHY WHERE YOU SHY?THIS IS SO WEIRD I MEAN YOU SOUND LIKE A KID.YOU REALLY HAVE TO LEARN TO BE BOLD BEFORE A LADY,THAT'S WHAT MAKES THEM GIVE YOU ANY FORM OF ATTENTION.EVEN IF SHE REJECTS YOU SHE'LL REMEMBER THAT THIS CUTE GUY ONCE ASKED HER OUT.

isyourboy:


You don't need this when you're good looking..

Good looks is the only way to get a girl attention

Hmmmm.
You maybe right, but most ladies don't care about how handsome you are, they care about your personality

mrpoul:


how did u overcome shyness?

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first..within you there's something that boosts your morale, it might be something people would feel akward to. Invest in that thing with all civility you have; mine was perfume, funny enough i don't even have body odour but it makes me feel i have an edge over others...then i invested into it.
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secondly...try and be versatile.. Know something in every field dear, it builds confidence.
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thirdly...know some stuffs about ladies esp their body anatomy, when you tell them stuffs which they don't know about themselves that's true; they will value you.
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fourthly...be yourself and package well even if you are broke, learn to speak the class language you aspire for. Hope this suffices.

Jersuiyjoe:

Hmmmm.
You maybe right, but most ladies don't care about how handsome you are, they care about your personality

Yeah. U right too at bolded

Jersuiyjoe:

Hmmmm.
You maybe right, but most ladies don't care about how handsome you are, they care about your personality

Yeah. U right too at bolded

Jersuiyjoe:

Hmmmm.
You maybe right, but most ladies don't care about how handsome you are, they care about your personality

Yeah. U right too at bolded

How old are u

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