Harlequeen:
he didn't try every humanly possible thing. He only thought she was good enough for him when he was broke and homeless. How.about coming to get her when he made it. Acrimony is the sad ending that wait for any person who plays the role of come up woman.

Beosten:
What you have to understand is that if you see someone with these credentials, he must have used and dumped a lot of women before you met him. I grew up with a very poor grandfather, and still, I had two girls who were ready to be mine right from secondary school days. Another two women in the university fought each other to a standstill just to have me because they thought I have good future. I married none of the four. I spent 80% of salary from my first big job on a girl by paying her school fees. She ended up leaving me. I married someone who didn't collect Kobo from me before marriage, and I had no job when I married her. Today, I have 3 sources of income.

My advice for you is that you should drop this mentality of listing credentials upandan. If you can, believe God to help in this aspect; not by becoming a church goer, but by chasing righteousness.

GraGra247:


Stick with this no matter what and you will not miss it. Even if you miss it, it would be because you were not lucky and not because you didn't do what you were supposed to do.

I agree with your dad. Focus on building up your career, CV and Qualications and skills. Go from masters to PHD if you can.

All these come with huge bonuses:- Career men and "oil company" men will be competing for your attention. They'll be hunting you and not the reverse.

DanDeeBoss:
You've set high standards for yourself.... it's good though, Maybe you should be a Lil patient, you might meet one who fits in...


BTW Try those highbrow areas as you were advised

Harlequeen:
Yes i am. I am feminine, soft, good company, intelligent, just starting out my career, well read and so much more. The man who i end up with will be truly blessed.

Harlequeen:
I am not under 25 sister, and your christian dogma won't sit with me. If i do become 35 and remain unmarried, i have decided that i will live life, adopt a child and get a boytoy. I have tasted what it is like to settle for a random guy(to be egging on a full grown man on what to do like his mother). Will never go through that again.
But thanks for your opinion but i will be avoiding Shiloh like the plague.

abbiboy:

Ur reply sound more like a more matured than 25yr old lady,u don old aunty over experience is worrying u.No avoid shiloh.

Harlequeen:
Are you interested to know?

Timbuktuo:


If this is your conclusion from the same Acrimony movies everyone watched, then maybe the kind of guys you’re looking for have been avoiding you.

This comment of yours is a MASSIVE red flag. You don’t have to agree, of course.

healthserve:



Let's keep staying away from each other please.


Thanks

Harlequeen:
please show some empathy. What i said is what a lot of women took home from the movie. Let's just agree to disagree

Harlequeen:
I opened this account because my main one is pretty popular.

I've had this issue and don't know what's wrong.
I can't seem to get into a new relationship. I am now 25, about serving, working a normal job

My dating history is not too rich. I dated just one guy for 2 years, i became sexually active with him, we enjoyed each other, but things didn't work out. I tried to be better, have moved on, and he has too. This was mid last year. I have been celibate since then not because i don't like sex, but because i had time to think, i read a lot of books, listened to a lot of relationship counselors on YouTube, reddit, Nairaland and so on. I decided to approach dating differently, with my head and not my heart . i would vet men out who were not in line with some basic standards, to avoid fuckboys and meet high quality men. He should be well spoken, either with a career or into trade, accomplished, way older by at least 10 yrs(no i don't have daddy issues, i just like mature guys because i think like a mature person) he could also have plans to leave the country, because i plan to do that also.


Here's the issue, the men that express interest in me do not fit this criteria. They seem to have no plan for their lives. I get this impression that they are broke, they recycle the same lines all the time, i usually see their bull sh1t tactics a mile away. some are in the army(i can't date men in the armed forces, they lifestyle is not what i want for myself, cannot date doctors either for the same reason)others are artisans, some are plain hustlers who just do whatever to eat. I have a soft spot for ambitious men, and i have not seen a lot in the area that i am in. I have been advised by my friends to try highbrow areas like lekki or VI or go to church, but i don't believe in religion.

But whenever i see these men, i am not attracted to them. I have even tried online dating with some male nairalanders, but i get disinterested easily. I get turned off when someone asks for my normal pics, it is quite frustrating. There's that fear that some of these men could use my pics to masturbate or one other creepy purpose. I block them if they ask for nudes. But the issue is, it is quite exhausting to keep chatting with someone without seeing them in person and some of these guys just want to smash and run which i won't allow. No man will have access to my vagina and womb without investment and commitment. Eventually it becomes hard to keep up communication and we just fizzle out like that.

I am not under pressure to marry from my parents, infact my dad says he won't allow his daughters marry until they clock 28 and i am the first. He wants us to have a career and a life before moving with a man. I just want to know if what i am doing is right?

To be honest, i just want some words of advice and encouragement, you can ask me questions if you want. This approach of mine? Is it the right thing? Am i being too smart for my own good? Am i afraid of commitment?

Harlequeen:
I am not under 25 sister, and your christian dogma won't sit with me. If i do become 35 and remain unmarried, i have decided that i will live life, adopt a child and get a boytoy. I have tasted what it is like to settle for a random guy(to be egging on a full grown man on what to do like his mother). Will never go through that again.
But thanks for your opinion but i will be avoiding Shiloh like the plague.

jimcaddy:
Your assertion reeks of hurt more than even pride. I think you are really hurt by your last relationship or previous relationships and now you don't even care anymore. Just do whatever that makes you happy. I cannot advice you because you have a mindset already that no one can change quite easily.

oshorstan:



Hmmmm you are sounding like one very Useless girl in my office who has used her high standards to chase away every serious suitor. She's from Etsako. She's 29 and very spoilt. She wants her man to sponsor her PhD outside NIGERIA, cannot leave Catholicism even in Marriage, wants to be the dictator for the Man. No Husband family members seen , she wants to rule the Man, etc.


My dear, boys nor get work for Nigeria. We are just hustlers. It's hard for a Bigger boy to marry ladies from a poor family , except your papa na Ogbu or Top gun in society. Why not drop your standards a little , remember your age day go, your female calendar day count. The small girls day fine daily n they're wise, that's why they're getting married every Saturday to these hustling guys. Use your head, no time

ufotty2001:
Shiloh 2019 have started..

lilwetdick:
i am certain that this is funmisticqueen trolling

CHoccolaTE:
Harlequeen

In threads like this many men will come and tell you to lower your standards and settle for broke subpar guys, infact you will see hundreds of likes on such idiotic posts but when a guy starts a similar thread to this one his fellow men will come in to encourage him and tell him to marry financially independent woman and avoid broke leeches. Somehow it's ok for women to settle for useless guys but men must marry quality women.

My dear find a man you like and will be happy with, go into rich circles, they are there, you sound like you are staying with the wrong crowd, hang out with those who are wealthy and established, up your fashion game, wear neat trendy and classy clothes, shoes and hairdo. You can join a club where rich people are much, find one in your town.
Dont knock down the option of marrying an African American or a Nigerian based abroad who wants a wife, try and find these people too. And widowers too, try them.You sound like you are not so outgoing, sorry if I am wrong. .

abbiboy:
Na olosho wrk u wan teacher o.

healthserve:


Say it nau. Make I come tickle ya waist make you talk?

Harlequeen:
i am a security man

meekme:
One thing I'll tell you is to stop being too quick to block people off like that.
A simple 'No' is enough atimes as some decent men would act indecently momentarily just to test you, to see whether you'd consent to it.
You must be really sexy to have thought guyz will masturbate on your normal picture.
I pray you meet your Mr right soon. Good Luck.

BigBizzy:
There is rule to love or relationship....just flow with it as it comes.

those who drop rules are in real life very much single and lonely.

you must be flexible very much to be in a relationship

hayzed1090:


you can't be more correct. those features she listed actually are not blessing to a man in the long run. she probably did not list others I guess

philsbaba:
the gold digger Wan reap where she no sow...... Rubbish

Harlequeen:
please show some empathy. What i said is what a lot of women took home from the movie. Let's just agree to disagree

Harlequeen:
i am not from a poor family,so scratch that

GraGra247:


Stick with this no matter what and you will not miss it. Even if you miss it, it would be because you were not lucky and not because you didn't do what you were supposed to do.

I agree with your dad. Focus on building up your career, CV and Qualications and skills. Go from masters to PHD if you can.

All these come with huge bonuses:- Career men and "oil company" men will be competing for your attention. They'll be hunting you and not the reverse.