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by Nobody: 10:19am On Dec 05, 2019 |
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Re: by donstan18: 10:22am On Dec 05, 2019 |
He's old enough to know what to say, when to say it and who to say it to. Give him his space on his plans and let him relate it to you when he feels he should. Don't be so sensitive over nothing. Na your type go want make your brother dey tell you everything about his marriage. 5 Likes |
Re: by Nobody: 10:24am On Dec 05, 2019 |
You are too sensitive... I myself don't like discussing my plans until I'm certain it will come to fruition.. Not even with my parents. I found out the more i go on telling people about what i intend doing, it all end up not happening. I believe he will still tell u but not now. Don't hold grudges just try to understand him. 14 Likes 1 Share |
Re: by Mood11: 10:26am On Dec 05, 2019 |
'Work in Silence' , that is a Golden Rule for those who want to go far... Let Results make the Announcement.. 6 Likes |
Re: by Nobody: 10:26am On Dec 05, 2019 |
@R2bees noted � 1 Like |
Re: by CAPSLOCKED: 10:44am On Dec 05, 2019 |
MOST YOUNGER BROTHERS CAN NEVER BE FRIENDS WITH THEIR BIG BROTHERS WHO WOULD ALWAYS WANT TO TELL THEM WHAT TO DO OR NOT DO. YOU KNOW HOW MEN LIKE TO BE IN CHARGE. YOU'RE TRYING TO BE IN CHARGE AND THE OTHER MAN'S NOT ENJOYING IT. BEST FOR YOU IS TO LIVE IN DIFFERENT HOUSES AND WORK INDEPENDENTLY OF EACH OTHER AND KEEP BEING BROTHERS, INSTEAD OF LIVE TOGETHER TO BECOME THE ENEMIES WHICH.... YOU'RE CURRENTLY ON THE PATH TO BECOME. 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: by zed7: 10:45am On Dec 05, 2019 |
I know how you feel, especially as you consider yourselves a team. You feel hurt and betrayed. Let me tell you the truth, in life you are on your own. There is a limit to what others can do for you or what others can give you. Even a little child in kindergarten still has to go to class on his own and write his exams, as a parent you can't do that for him. Never rely on anyone and never set your expectations high when it comes to others. That's the only way not to ever be shocked or heartbroken. No one owes you anything but yourself. Even we as individuals sometimes fail ourselves. 18 Likes 1 Share |
Re: by Richy4(m): 2:59pm On Dec 05, 2019 |
Yea I know that feeling man... Do not hold it against him...though most good/ potential business men are prone to be selfish... He didn't intend doing that to you now, that's just who he is.. Just that you were monopolizing everything as a team player and you fail to pick the signs long time ago and now it came as a rude shock to you. It's just like having lots of friends in which you were always there for them in good time and in bad, but when the time comes for them to be there, u won't find anyone. it hurts.. I will advise you to learn how to be a brother/ friend to people without expecting anything in return.. ie if you can do it.. with that, you won't get hurt.. because you were not expecting much.. 2 Likes |
Re: by babyfaceafrica: 3:07pm On Dec 05, 2019 |
If your brother doesn't want to reveal his plans,don't reveal yours...simple!!!..every mallam with his kettle!!! 3 Likes |
Re: by Nobody: 4:00pm On Dec 05, 2019 |
I like ur brother's character... Though I'm more like u .. Don't automatically include Pple in your plans unless u can pay them well for their services, and also never do business with family. Brothers are meant to compete b4 collaborating 1 Like |
Re: by LewsTherin: 4:55pm On Dec 05, 2019 |
prudent /ˈpruːd(ə)nt/ adjective acting with or showing care and thought for the future. "no prudent money manager would authorize a loan without first knowing its purpose" 2 Likes |
Re: by Saintmary(f): 5:05pm On Dec 05, 2019 |
coker007:That is good for you man, I'm always happy when people show me what I mean to them, it shows me where to place them in my own life. Start spending your money for your own progress and don't tell anyone your own plans if they are not ready to tell you theirs. 4 Likes |
Re: by chii8(f): 6:23pm On Dec 05, 2019 |
If he isn't sharing his plans,stop sharing yours,it's simple. 1 Like |
Re: by iSlayer: 7:50pm On Dec 05, 2019 |
Mehn I really connect with you on this. It hurts when you have a brother who's not really "it" atimes, especially if you're honestly laying plans for a better life for you and him. I've been there severally. There was a time while in school I was accommodating younger brother who just got admission. Things were terribly tight and I was feeding him from my little money. One time I hatched a plan to get funds from dad so we could finally be free. Everything worked but the money was to be paid to my younger brother's account. Long story short my brother ate that money completely without sparing me anything. And he was even defiant. Someone I was accommodating and trying to give the best. Mehn it hurt, it hurt real bad. So my guy the thing I learnt the hard way with 2 of my brothers is that no matter the love you have for them, you're all different people and they may never reciprocate the exact way you may want. Love them though but put a healthy distance and allow them do their things (especially the younger brothers. They always low key feel they have something to prove). 3 Likes |
Re: by hakeemhakeem(m): 10:08pm On Dec 05, 2019 |
Sorry about that honestly your brother might not view it the way you view it.he talked has human when the time is ripe he will tell you probably he want to surprise you.moreover you should be greatfull you have a brother that thinks for him not you be his thinkers. He allows you to think for yourself with out adding his problems to your (omode ki Mo eko je ko Mara lowo)no matter how a child can eat bake maize it will stained his/her hand forgive him hum |
Re: by sholay2011(m): 10:37pm On Dec 05, 2019 |
zed7: @OP...Take this advice and drill it into your heart (not just your brain). You sound like a good-hearted person though and sometimes, others think they can 'use' such kind of person as a stone to step on while going for something higher. Sadly, what people don't know is life is more than things. But be careful, even as the person with a 'free and open' mind. Don't be naïve. 3 Likes |
Re: by Fountainofyouth(f): 10:56pm On Dec 05, 2019 |
The earlier you realise it is all man to himself in these crazy world, the better for you. 1 Like |
Re: by OgaBuhari: 1:08am On Dec 06, 2019 |
[s] Fountainofyouth:[/s] |
Re: by darfay: 1:33am On Dec 06, 2019 |
Fountainofyouth: I love your moniker, it has this soothing feeling. Lol |
Re: by frozen70(f): 2:21am On Dec 06, 2019 |
coker007: He must have been watching you and your attitude towards everything He has a lot of plans with him and most of them are secret but not harmful to you He is planning to achieve success more than you but he us not God that determines everyone ones faith I will advise you to learn how to keep your own secret and start working harder in academic or any area you find yourself Be focused and be serious so that any other plans he would have been nursing, you will be miles ahead of him 2 Likes |
Re: by Nobody: 2:30am On Dec 06, 2019 |
@Op your Thought pattern is simply how witchcraft or Enemy of progress starts. Simply keep your plans to yourself until fruition too. It's advisable for peeps not to share their life plans until it's well thought out and designed |
Re: by cococandy(f): 5:46am On Dec 06, 2019 |
Being prudent is a good thing. I think your choice of topic is confusing. 1 Like |
Re: by generationz(f): 8:17am On Dec 06, 2019 |
coker007: Maybe he doesn't want to Jinx it. Ask him why he refused to tell you? Sometimes talking too much about your plan is the number one reason why it won't see the light of day. It's on Google. Me I understand your pain. My brother and i too discuss a lot and we share ideas together. In fact, he is better at meeting with people and talking when it comes to business while my gift is in the area of research. There was a time things where things were not moving as planned and we decided to not talk about our plans or deals again. It didn't take us two weeks... It turned out that fear of jinxing it was BS especially with someone you know has clean hands. So, it could also be that your brother doesn't feel as close to you as much as you are to him. The best thing will be for you to ask him on a good day. When you guys are laughing and chatting heartily. 3 Likes |
Re: by Fountainofyouth(f): 1:29am On Dec 09, 2019 |
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Re: by OgaBuhari: 4:09am On Dec 09, 2019 |
[s] Fountainofyouth:[/s] |
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