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Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by Henvest: 1:35pm On Dec 14, 2019 |
There is this shop I normally stock my house from then. One day I came to buy things as usual, the guy, the owner of the shop introduced one girl to me telling me she is his sister. After that day I stopped seeing the guy but only the girl in the shop. One day I traveled, while on the travel someone called, introduced herself and explained who she is. Obviously she took my number from my younger brother staying with me. She pretended to be angry with me for not telling her am traveling and for me not knowing her name before then. Of course I apologized but she demanded I should take her out when am back before she will accept my apology I obliged. I came back kept to my promise but made it in an open place, National theater precisely. But then she booked another date next week but insisted it won't be open place anymore.. The rest is history. One day I came to her shop to buy something and over heard a close friend calling her Iyawo Ossy, that wasn't the first I heard someone address her as Iyawo Ossy but I become curious this time because this person is a close friend and should know better. She tried to wave it with excuse of anybody is free to call her what they like but when I insisted, she finally opened up..... Ossy was not her brother but her fiance with whom she has been together for 6 six years. But, according to her Ossy is waiting for her to take in before going to see her people. The reason why both of them chose to be telling people they are siblings remain a mystery to me till today.... I got mad and call it quit with her for trying to use me to secure marriage. The whole relationship did not last up to 2 months but obviously it was a bit late already. Weeks later it become obvious she is pregnant, deep inside of me I felt am responsible, but when I ask her she insist it belong to Ossy. I push but she stood her ground insisting it belongs to Ossy. She went further denying the timing of the pregnancy, if doctor is saying 2 months she will be claiming her pregnancy is 1 month. To my greatest surprise become hostile and start avoiding me even go further to claim they went for paternity test and the result shows it belong to the guy. I gave up, dust my self and moved on. Nine months later she put to bed to a girl.. Months later I move out of that area. One day my phone rang it was her, she demanded that she need to see me, that she has an important discussion with me. I opt to recharge and call her for us to do the discussion on phone but she insisted so I sent her my new address. Two days later she came, what she came to tell me was that she is leaving the guy that the marriage thing is not working. She was seriously crying all through I tried all i could to console her but then one thing lead to another sex happened again. When she is about to leave she told me that am the father of her daughter not Ossy. That the story of going for paternity test was true but that the test never happened because the counsellor they meet ask them to go back and rethink it again but the Ossy changed his mind at the process. I laugh off the story and asked her to take her leave because to me she is just trying to activate her option B. Two months later she called to inform that she has not seen her period I told her am not Interested in her stories again but then my conscience was never at peace. I keep asking my self what if pregnancy and the girl truly belong to me? One year plus later I decided to go look for them I told my girl, now fiance and she give her support .. What I saw when I reached there almost make me cry, her condition is so bad. There and then I decide to come in and start assisting her as much as i can pending when I go for DNA. My family kick against my decision, their reason is that the girl story is not to be trusted, on the other hand my girl was supportive but kick against DNA claiming if it is done and they are not mine my feelings for the kids will change. But from then I start taking care of their feeding, schooling, clothing, rent e.t.c After like a year my girl suggest I open business for the girl instead, so that she doesn't have to come to me for everything everytime except school fees and medical bills. I bought the idea and asked the lady to go look for shop ... While on that i told her of the need to open account for the kids. Two days later she came back to tell me that her brothers said she should not change the name of the kids... That the kids will bear the name of who ever that marry her or the name of her family if the person don't want them. Now what happened was that, she once told me that she need to change the girls surname to mine. Before then i don't know their surname nor attach any importance to it. So while discussing the idea of opening the account for the girls I innocently suggest that she go do the change of name before opening the account. I was hit by her responds and her body language so I told her that she and her brothers can go suit theirselves, that from then henceforth I have hands off her matter. Later that day she called and begged but I told her that the only condition for me to keep assisting her is that she will change their names and also release one of them to me. She said i should make out time and come down to her base so that we will discuss it. I discuss it with my fiance and she permit me to go. When I get there and raise the topic she flame up telling me she won't try it, that that is the position of her family. Obviously she was expecting a fight or angry reactions from me so that she can push her terms and agenda to the table .. But was disappointed when I don't fall for that, she start begging that she can change their names but can't release any to me. I told her is no longer an option. The meeting end at that and I took my leave, go with the start up capital i was meant to give her for her business. She sent people to me to beg on her behave but I insisted. Finally she agreed, but with a condition that she (the first girl) must be up to 5years which is few months away then before she release her. I sense lies in the whole thing but my girl insist I should release the fund for her to start the business of which I did when her pressure become much. Since then I still pay their school fees nd medical bills... Late last year the small one did surgery it was on me. The 1st is 7 now the 2nd is 4 years old. This year she said she wanna marry, that someone is asking for her hand in marriage I congratulate her and wish her luck. Then ask her her plan for the kids. What she answered me is " let the will of God be done" I called the woman, her friend who first told me about the marriage thing, after much drilling she open up that they have agreed with the man that he is going to marry her the kids. I don't have any problem with that even though I feel used but my only problem is why lying to me again? At that point am yet to pay their graduation /party fees out of anger I decide am not going to pay it again. I told her to go meet their new father to pay the remaining, but my conscience kept battling me. My fiance is extremely mad at her now and have withdraw her support and insist I cut of with her entirely . I understand her, she has been very understanding, supportive and always fighting for them even without knowing them or them knowing her. I feel so bad for putting her in that position. That becomes a very messy situation for me now becus I cant afford to ruin my relationship / marriage because of a renowed liar. But what will be of those kids if I hands off them keep am awake some times at night because I don't wanna be that father that abandon his kids but I cant afford to do anything which my woman do not approve or take her for granted in anyway. Is obvious she is trying to blackmail me with the kids, But then am not even sure if they are mine ,and she have refused to release them because if she do I can be able to go for DNA. And know what next from there. For a while now we have not talk, She called two weeks ago that the kids wanna talk to me obviously for school fees I turn it down and warn her against calling my line again ... I don't know if that is right, I'm confused now. My another worry now if those kids are mine is, When it comes to Education we are at opposite end. She don't attach importance to education but me I attach so much importance to it. I can't trust her with the education of those kids. Please I need advise on how to handle things. 57 Likes 11 Shares |
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by Nobody: 1:39pm On Dec 14, 2019 |
See where free pussy has landed you. Not once, but twice. A man who has disciplined himself over women has solved half of his problems on earth. Go for a DNA test, know the truth and be free. 1212 Likes 93 Shares |
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by MedicH: 1:41pm On Dec 14, 2019 |
Odikwa risky 32 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by Cutehector(m): 1:45pm On Dec 14, 2019 |
What kind of long story is this 615 Likes 33 Shares |
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by nellyelitz(m): 1:47pm On Dec 14, 2019 |
I'm not an expert in family counselling but if I were u I would've by all means made the DNA tests a priority before I start being involved in those kids life. People below me may have a better say, good day. 380 Likes 16 Shares |
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by Emarvel(m): 1:54pm On Dec 14, 2019 |
Oh my God. This is huge. Lemme wait for the elders to come and say their mind 27 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by overdrive(m): 2:13pm On Dec 14, 2019 |
First and foremost go for a DNA test. If the kids are yours u can continue to assist if not then you take a walk. 134 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by daddytime(m): 2:26pm On Dec 14, 2019 |
This kain tori sef. So, e be like say Osy prick no dey work, him come use style connect you with him babe to help am nack and give am belle, you sef na come go do over time by giving her belle two times. You for stop for the first contract at least the matter for no dey too complicated like this with two children. Laslas na DNA go resolve the matter and free you from this apparent scam wey you fall put like mugu. Na better office dem open for your head brother. 308 Likes 17 Shares |
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by Philipmighty(m): 2:30pm On Dec 14, 2019 |
op nobody get time for all this your long stories just find a way, do a DNA test if the kids are yours... then u take care of them... if they are not then u can decide if u gonna be less supportive or not, remember is not mandatory.. u cannot come and kill your self ...issahlla 32 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by chukwuibuipob: 2:41pm On Dec 14, 2019 |
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Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by Godsonjolly: 2:42pm On Dec 14, 2019 |
Na wa ooo this one big pass goliath oo. Just pray God provides a David that will help u defeat ur goliath. Just do dna and forget it. The girl used u so well. Well, life will take its course. 6 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by luminouz(m): 2:48pm On Dec 14, 2019 |
Jesus Christ of NL. WILL YOU GOAN DO DNA TEST AND LET US HAVE SOME PEACE? Chai, they have really cooked your brains and eaten it. See as man dey talk. Which kain men this generation get oooooooooo? Always opening threads and sobbing, yet somehow failing to see the solution glaringly obvious from their own posts! 150 Likes 12 Shares |
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by IDFWU(m): 3:15pm On Dec 14, 2019 |
Why can’t y’all get a latex handy ![]() What if this babe got some very bad STDs or even AIDS nah so you for carry am? ![]() Men una dey try oo ![]() 126 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by Biglittlelois(f): 3:30pm On Dec 14, 2019 |
Your fiancé is the real MVP, she has a heart of gold for her to stay with you through all that, And please, go for a DNA test. 295 Likes 13 Shares |
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by luvyaself95(m): 3:38pm On Dec 14, 2019 |
Mister man Go for DNA to stop stress yourself from all this problems. the money you have been spending on the kids for the past 7 years you can't spend the half on DNA. 40 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by Nobody: 3:41pm On Dec 14, 2019 |
I did not read even a line. 6 Likes |
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by jeff1607(m): 3:43pm On Dec 14, 2019 |
Henvest: if you can please go for a DNA test, if you can't take the kids from her ,if she refuses cut all ties from her n the kids and focus on your life The girl you are with , hope you marry her sharp sharp cos as it is ,it won't be easy telling a new person all these stories and expect her to believe you, make sure you assure your wife that her kids gets everything in terms of inheritance and make her happy cos she deserves it. you can still have all your kids under one roof and give them all the training and mentoring they deserve else they will become a liability to you wen u have advanced in age 27 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by Martinez39(m): 3:46pm On Dec 14, 2019 |
What a very stupid and indisciplined fellow. If you can't figure out the right thing to do in this situation as an adult male then rot in your situation. I have no sympathy for you. At this rate, you can't be helped. 124 Likes 8 Shares |
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by Nobody: 3:57pm On Dec 14, 2019 |
Henvest: So long a story. Couldn't even finish it. Got bored half way and stopped. Men!!!... When will you ever learn? With all the news of STDs flying around, youll meet a girl and still go in raw... To marry now gan tire me. "Baba God abeg no vex" I'm tired... No strong willed men in this generation again. 45 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by ambivert27(f): 3:58pm On Dec 14, 2019 |
The long post in itself is a nightmare! 12 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by Triniti(m): 4:15pm On Dec 14, 2019 |
You should have done DNA before taking responsibilities of the children. You don’t even if you are the real father, since this woman is a serial liar. Do dna bro, don’t waste money for this buhari regime on top such a mischievous woman 9 Likes |
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by IamPlato(m): 4:16pm On Dec 14, 2019 |
Why Your Story Long Like This. But You People Are Wicked why Una Just De Quote This Long Epistle See What Fvck have Caused. Just Look At The Long Term Chain Reaction. This Is Why You Need To Buy My Book 7 Likes |
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by Nobody: 4:27pm On Dec 14, 2019 |
Biglittlelois: team no time .... we salute you 5 Likes |
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by Lamanii22(f): 4:37pm On Dec 14, 2019 |
Sleeping with her the second time was a mistake**.. Although I couldn't finish the story.... Are you the owner of the two kids? 8 Likes |
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by SmellingAnus(m): 5:02pm On Dec 14, 2019 |
Even your woman no be better person .... See how she manipulate you with the following statement... " on the other hand my girl was supportive but kick against DNA claiming if it is done and they are not mine my feelings for the kids will change"... It will take a genius to know that the above statement was a high level manipulation... A simple DNA would have saved you lots of stress but your woman was scared that if it comes out that you are their father, you will give your kids more attention than her and her potential kids for you... My brother, you are just in the midst of two manipulative women... I pity for you ... 290 Likes 33 Shares |
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by EzendiEgo1: 5:40pm On Dec 14, 2019 |
How can you have sex without condom guy. Now you are here giving us long story. If you didn't used condom on that faithful day and you cum inside her pussy know that the children are yours. 13 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by enawt: 5:49pm On Dec 14, 2019 |
Are you telling us you and your wife can't conceive yet cos I don't see how both of you can be so stupid and coming to unison in all ur decisions. Abi you dey give us lamba? ![]() If this is true, Simple advice, go to the kids school one lovely day and drive em straight to the hospital. That's if they even know you in the school mahn cos you even sound ret@rded.... Like is ur name charity? If you no get anything to do with money, come gimme na 40 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by FlutterDollar99(m): 5:50pm On Dec 14, 2019 |
Henvest:if you were my brother and you come home to tell me all these, I would have suggested a paternity test to be done on you 1. By now you should have learnt not to fall for female shenanigans. Don't ever form Mr nice guy to whoever that stole your contact. Psychologically, it means you are weak and can be easily manipulated if you make them feel wanted 2. She can only demand you take her out if the two of you have been on talking terms... If not, it means you are thirsty and she's hungry 51 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by Dollarheist: 5:55pm On Dec 14, 2019 |
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