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Re: I Hit My Wife by Newboss(m): 10:17am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Don't ever contact her again. Be a man and quit the stupid apologies. She got what she asked for 3 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by kenchop: 10:18am On Dec 16, 2019 |
[quote author=GraGra247 post=84941054] Op, Please don't listen to this stupid advice. Op you committed two crimes. 1. You came back home by 2am - a thing I'm certain you won't tolerate from your wife. 2. When she complained you had the guts to slap her to the extent she bled from her mouth and nose. You deserve to be in jail. Go and buy goat and 5 cartons of drinks to appease your inlaws and your wife else she shouldn't come back to you. You are a fake man. I'd advice u go for surgery and turn urself to a woman cos you are not a man. even if he comes home at 3am, she should never have reacted that way and at that time. She's an untrained woman. Why engage a man intoxicated by alcohol, she got exactly what she wanted. she was shouting, the man left the bedroom for her,isn't that enough to show he wanted peace? You cannot violently control or correct ur hubby. A wise woman wud have ignored the hubby at that time .she shud be thankful the man came home safely to say the least. There are many nonviolent ways a woman of the house can deal with her hubby, you should never ever raise your hands on ur hubby no matter the situation or circumstances, never.. then tel me what right the in-laws have to come to his house and take his wife and kids? They can take their daughter if they so please, but they have zero right over his child or children. Never. 1 Like |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Ranchhoddas: 10:18am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Ekene161829:Unless there are underlying issues you are not revealing here. If this is the only thing that happened, lock up. Don't call them again, don't pick their calls until they bring your wife back. Then warn them her brother and mother never to interfere in your marriage again. Take your power back. How can they come to tell you rubbish in your house. Abi you dey collect food from them. Cause I don't see why any man who is in charge of his affairs would be worried over this little thing. Na you be first man to come by 2am? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Hit My Wife by LilMissFavvy(f): 10:18am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Get off my mentions....... bloodyfooool. Keep your stupid prayers, I don't need them. No husband who beats his wife deserves her love/respect. If he does not beg and take her back who's gonna lose? Highest is he will remarry, his wife is very very young, she will also remarry. Only the child will suffer. A real man walks out of such situations, real men should not hit women. chinchonglee: 4 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by cooldipo(m): 10:18am On Dec 16, 2019 |
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Re: I Hit My Wife by openmine(m): 10:19am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Op I guess there are two things you need to get rid of.... 1. The kind of friends you mingle with and 2. Alcohol One reason that I don't take any alcoholic drinks is the tendency for one to temporarily lose their self consciousness. Try to make contact with her with the promise that such behavior won't happen again! However,if begging doesn't work,chill and relax,if she loves you,she will show up! 3 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Ranchhoddas: 10:19am On Dec 16, 2019 |
LilMissFavvy:E pain am. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Zannabus98(f): 10:19am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Dear op Getting advice from a forum like this tantamount to more worries about what to do. I'm also in a similar situation in my marriage, married for 2yrs now, no kids yet, sometimes I let my emotions take the best part of me, I verbally abuse my husband n sometimes throw times at him, on one occasion it injured him n he immediately contacted his mom n my uncle, I beg n beg he forgave me. about four months ago we had another quarrel n I hit him , immediately he called his mom n the mom starting advocating for our divorce I have bn begging her since then up till now she refuse my mom too said we should divorce. I begged my husband he said he forgave me, n then we started living fine again, just last week he said he no longer feels the marriage again that we shud divorce n I having bn begging him again since then, but now he said he needs time to think more about d divorce. Tho!, While all these things are happening we still live together o. I be never once pack my things n let not even a night out. Op, what am trying to say it that our emotions leads us astray sometimes n when we realised our mistakes very well or clearly we become better/best version of ourselves. U know wats best for u , ur wife n ur kid fight for your marriage if that's what u want , keep begging if that's all u can do. My husband and I don't leave in Nigeria, I am working n so is he. By Nigeria standard I can live very well without him, move to any country of my choice. But then I cannot live without him. I have bn seriously working on myself n to tell u the truth I am becoming the best version me, I just need him to let me love him best than I do before, I told him what's 2 yrs in 70 yrs plus marriage anniversary we shall celebrate, he shud just see those two years as courtship. Years of endless Love and respect lies ahead. Ekene161829: 4 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Osyxcel(m): 10:19am On Dec 16, 2019 |
shilz: Both. |
Re: I Hit My Wife by monerozi5590: 10:19am On Dec 16, 2019 |
madridguy: You have said it all. She ain't a wife at all. 1 Like |
Re: I Hit My Wife by nairalanduseles: 10:19am On Dec 16, 2019 |
niaralandtopuser: So when your kids nag you....what do u do ? When your friends nag u what do u do? Learn self control because when you have a court case you will regret everyday ...... you Will learn the hardway |
Re: I Hit My Wife by oodua1stson: 10:19am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Ekene161829:I'm not the typical knight in shining armour that women crave. Matter of fact I'm usually the asshole in the relationship. Hut damn. Why hit a woman? I no just guys these days. Why didn't you lock yourself in a room to have your peace. And should I add that you are not man enough. If I come home late 2am(I dont do it at all) dem never born the woman wey go yell at me. Did your balls drop off? This is what happens when you lose your manhood in relationship and when you get married the woman wants to be your boss and it would be too late to correct it. Anyways. Live all by yourself for a month. If you enjoy it, wave goodbye to your wife. But if you dont find your peace living alone then apologise to her. P.s I wont ask a woman who leaves my house by her own will to come back |
Re: I Hit My Wife by ngwababe(f): 10:19am On Dec 16, 2019 |
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Re: I Hit My Wife by Sirk2018: 10:19am On Dec 16, 2019 |
nairalanduseles:[q nairalanduseles:uote author=LilMissFavvy post=84940679]How would you have felt if it was your wife who hanged out with her friends and came back by 2am? Any married man or woman who does things without considering the other partner is immature or simply wicked. Your wife's brother should have slapped you back, or is he a weak man? He should have slapped you ensuring that you bleed from your mouth and nose. As for your wife, continue to call her, send messages, give her more time, she will heal and return to you. It's very shameful that her brother was there and did not defend her, by slapping the st-pi---y outta your brains.[/quote] Did her brother pay her diary ? Family should leave couples alone. |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Zenithpeak(m): 10:20am On Dec 16, 2019 |
It is immature to take issues too far..... The guy left the bedroom for you, you followed him to the living room throwing tantrums... He accepted the fact that he's wrong and apologized but you kept on pushing until the issue degenerated into domestic violence. The next thing you connived with your family member and move out of your matrimonial home......... You seriously need a marriage counselor because you are yet to understand the game of slow and steady wins the race..... 1 Like |
Re: I Hit My Wife by nairalanduseles: 10:20am On Dec 16, 2019 |
kulobyno: Its not a sign of weakness its a crime punishable by law dont get it twisted |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Agbowilly: 10:20am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Dear brother. Judge not so dat u will not b judged!! Be calm. Give her few days for her mind to settle down, then visit her wherever she maybe. When u see her just keep apologizing ndd nothing more! It's well wit u. |
Re: I Hit My Wife by monerozi5590: 10:21am On Dec 16, 2019 |
LilMissFavvy: Nonsense. 2 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by dude99(m): 10:21am On Dec 16, 2019 |
emeijeh: You better forget about no third party interference, some husbands are wicked and there need to be check and balance from both couple's sides |
Re: I Hit My Wife by fergie001: 10:21am On Dec 16, 2019 |
dupalmer......thank you! awkaetitibabe.....you surprise me that with your comments...very very healthy observations...thank you. hush15....God bless you. |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Vivonose: 10:21am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Am so disappointed at response of most of the guys on this platform,how would u feel if ur sister reported this case to u,Do u expect the woman to smile at her husband for returning home that late,and to make matters worse,he even slapped her, And you think it's wrong for the family to intervene,what if while he slapped her,she fell,hit her head on the ground,and died.. Pls we need to call a spade,a spade and change from our insensitive ways Let him continue to beg,he is very very wrong 3 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by hush15: 10:21am On Dec 16, 2019 |
LilMissFavvy: Op, you see why you can't kill yourself over a woman, jes imagine you marry this one, are you not finished? Dudes, marriage or datin, don't ever pray you meet their type. 5 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Acidosis(m): 10:22am On Dec 16, 2019 |
dfrost: The moment you're married, you cease to be in total or partial submission and subject to your biological parents. |
Re: I Hit My Wife by donbachi(m): 10:22am On Dec 16, 2019 |
989900:gracias 1 Like |
Re: I Hit My Wife by MrFly(m): 10:22am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Imagine the kind of inlaws we have nowadays. Nonsense! |
Re: I Hit My Wife by nairalanduseles: 10:22am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Sirk2018: Grow up ....what is dowry .......I can't really believe Nigerians are this backward 1 Like |
Re: I Hit My Wife by SURElee(f): 10:22am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Ekene161829: Since back hand slap leading to bleeding of the mouth is the only way to calm a wife/woman you left with a 7months old baby at home to return 2am after a night out with the work buddies, now her people have also come within hours to tell you she didn't fall from the skies. She isn't a deity that doesn't know her origin. Today is back hand slap, tomorrow it will be kicks sakpaing of her head or stabbing when she can't take it anymore. Now be sincere with yourself. With the turn out of events, are you happy with that your outing? What responsible man leaves his family for flexing abi outing to return 2am?God forbid in your absence something happened to your family, what account will you give? Nothing. Your wife reacted the way she did because a woman nursing a baby gets exhausted and would want the support of her hubby who will help even if it's for 30mins alone. Na you Sabi o! If you like dey follow colleagues Waka upandan till you use your own hand scatter your marriage wey God give you like chicken wey dey use leg scatter him food. A word is enough for the wise. She is your wife, love her and correct her in love. Know what annoys both of you. Love yourselves. Have effective communication between you two that no one can intrude. He who has an ear, let him hear what the spirit is saying to him concerning his marriage and his lifestyle as the man of his home. The ball is jn your court. Do as you deem fit. If you want peace and a loving home and marriage and parental legacy for your kids, begin to turn things around. If you want otherwise, don't change continue with your 2am and violent attitude and show that to your kids. But remember an apple doesn't fall far from a tree. It is what your kids see you do and mirror to them as marriage, that is what they will pick up and replicate in their marriage hence leading to Generational trend in your lineage. Assignment: look at some families with divorces, check very well, there have divorces and unhappy homes in those family trend. The ball is in your court. 2 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Jabioro: 10:23am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Let her go please,she was never meant for you.She is more into her family than into her build her own family.Dont beg her again..Do not make any effort for her to return,if she wish let her come and whenever she I back giver a serious warning that would turn the table..What a nonsense!!! |
Re: I Hit My Wife by fergie001: 10:23am On Dec 16, 2019 |
monerozi5590:You can imagine the hogwash......you will stand there and excite yourself with your brother slapping or beating your husband in your presence? God forbid bad thing....my eyes have seen my ears..... My bro...na wetin person go carry put for house say e marry wife... 2 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Nobody: 10:23am On Dec 16, 2019 |
hush15:very mature advice. op should not allow himself to be blackmail. both did wrong . his staying out very late, her aggressive nagging, he slapping her and her getting outsiders involved |
Re: I Hit My Wife by sparko1(m): 10:23am On Dec 16, 2019 |
luminouz: Sure, the emotional blackmail is a woman thing, the only reason I mention yoruba is the aspect of leaving their husband house and running to their parents, particularly their mother place (completely supported by their mother I must add) at any sign of dispute, what happens to working things out with your husband. |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Vivonose: 10:24am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Most guys would be forming tough here,blabla rubbish,while in real life,they practically worship the feet their wives/gfs walks on# smh Someone even said he should leave her,that there other ladies willing to be 2nd or 3rd wives Can u imagine?? |
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