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Re: I Hit My Wife by bnovative(m): 10:24am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Did you hangout with married friends till 2am? I doubt. Majority of the posts hailing you here are singles who had their warped and bias views about women. I've been married for almost a decade now and I can say you were wrong. Did you call her while you were with friends, to inform that you may likely get home late? You thought it wasn't necessary? With a 7 month old baby, you don't think leaving her alone for friends could hurt? And immediately you said sorry, she should be very grateful and happy? Is she a robot to have her angst reverse immediately you said sorry? Go and bring your wife back and apologize to your in-laws 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Hit My Wife by shadeyinka(m): 10:24am On Dec 16, 2019 |
kulobyno:Then you should exercise maturity by NEVER EVER beating/slapping your wife. When sacrilegious acts are committed, it only leads to equally sacrilegious reactions and repercussions! 1 Like |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Kendollar696(m): 10:24am On Dec 16, 2019 |
ugofulfilled: Thank you don't mention.. My wife brother slap me... Na baby mama she don be like that.. In my home.. He did wrong yes, he tried to avoid it. 2am to dawn.. she's leaving and her mum to him to get out of their face.. bro, calm down.. just call to check on her and the baby.. send money for up keeps.. text her with am deeply sorry, also let her know through the text that, if only she didn't follow you around the house like that, it wouldn't have gotten to that.. 1 Like |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Nobody: 10:25am On Dec 16, 2019 |
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Re: I Hit My Wife by luminouz(m): 10:25am On Dec 16, 2019 |
hush15: Nice points. |
Re: I Hit My Wife by minayeconsult: 10:25am On Dec 16, 2019 |
There is a lot i presume you have not told us. For insatance, when you know you cannot come home as usual did you call her? Did she call you and refused to pick her calls while you were hanging out? Are you fond of this sort of hanging out? Her actions can only speak of two things: 1. She is tired of your selfishness and immaturity, and she feels insecure in your hands. It is not just about the slap, if that was actaually your first attempt. No normal person will judge you by a singular mistake you are sorry for. 2. If all you have said is true then she is immature and childish and requires marriage counselling. I honestly doubt if she loves you. She has stronger attachment and allegiance to her previous family than the one she is to build with you. If this is true, i can assure you begging is not a permanent solution. Begging can bring her back but will not build your home. She needs proper counselling. With the action of her mum and brother, i actual doubt if this 2nd premise is correct. But if it is correct you don't need those kind of inlaws. you need to draw the line and make your wife understand why, after she has succumbed to counselling, if not i bet; this will happen again and again. 1 Like |
Re: I Hit My Wife by midnighter(f): 10:25am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Vivonose: He has begged her already! What is he begging again! Shes supposed to beg him too, they should both beg each other 3 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Ikpeabujo(m): 10:26am On Dec 16, 2019 |
going through the write up as a man I have this to say..... your wife knows you very well and she is aware that your lateness has to do with some stuff like womanising with your friends as a married man you have no right to be away at such time knowing you have a wife at home. the deed has been done and remember she is your wife and not girlfriend so anything you can do to bring her is allowed even if you have to promise her heaven and earth. summary... nagging aspect is part of all women so you have to bear that and pick no offense at that because at one time in life your mother did that 4 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by SURElee(f): 10:26am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Sirk2018: Clap for yourself. Families should leave couples alone in domestic violence. I eagerly await the day you come here to tell the nairaland community on how your entire family left your female relative alone to face a violent spouse. Till then. Only when it happens to blood relatives do we know what they go through. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Adeola4619(m): 10:26am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Her mother are wrong they don't suppose to accept their daughter words abt leaving your house....but all the way go and beg them with your frnd or frnds and neva repeat such act again......may God be with you |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Sandypearl: 10:27am On Dec 16, 2019 |
loveliveshere:what is this girl saying.Marry first then you will understand what marriage is all about,cos I am sure you are very much single |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Emmanuel226(m): 10:27am On Dec 16, 2019 |
dfrost:guy I jus dey confused oh,I no know wetin to comment self,dis one weak me
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Re: I Hit My Wife by Omotakins(m): 10:28am On Dec 16, 2019 |
The fact that you attended a party, came back 2 a.m without any valid justification was a sign of disrespect to your wife and display of irresponsibility. You didn't stop there but rather took that irresponsible act a notch higher by slapping your better half. Those were your mistakes. However, your acknowledgement of wrongdoing and immediate move to placate your wife gave me that belief that you ain't a bad man after all. Your wife didn't handle the matter well and manifested immaturity in her conducts! As much as she was annoyed and wanted to vent it, arousing provocation should have been avoided. Also, calling a third party over a conjugal infraction which u deeply tried to resolve is puerile. You were profoundly remorseful; that ought to settle it. Issues will always arise in a marriage and you just have to resolve them as they come up. The coming of ur in-laws shouldn't have been to take away their daughter but to bring about an amicable resolution. Are they gonna marry her or give her out to another man to marry? Except you are hiding the fact that you've been beating ur wife before now, the step taken by your in-laws was inappropriate and absurd. I'm not gonna ask you to stop begging cos you need to do all you can to have your wife back with u. Involve all u need to involve and do all u need to do. After this matter is resolved, you definitely need to have a tete-a-tete with ur wife. Marriage is for two. 2 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Vivonose: 10:28am On Dec 16, 2019 |
midnighter:let him continue begging Begging no dey finish for market Call her,call her mum,..if he really loves her,that's won't be a problem 1 Like |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Nobody: 10:28am On Dec 16, 2019 |
LilMissFavvy: No he is not a weak man. Rather he's a wise man. The wise never act on intuition. He responds and never reacts. And finally, he dissects the line btw thoughtfulness and temperament. 1 Like |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Zenithpeak(m): 10:30am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Dupalmer: I wander ooo. Leyin aponle nko? abuku lokan. Never allow minor issue degenerate into serious and bigger crises. 1 Like |
Re: I Hit My Wife by jaymichael(m): 10:30am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Ekene161829:Bro, under no circumstances should you kneel down for a woman (except maybe it involves life and death situation) verbal apology and sincere penitence is enough. You reacted wrongly but don't dwell on it too much because even the whole of humanity offend God and we receive forgiveness when we ask for it. If your in-laws feel they can control their own home and yours, let them marry their daughter. Just be strong and let nothing in this life hold you to ransom. My bosses at work and my wife at home all see and know me as someone that nothing disturbs and i hold nothing too important as not to ne able to let go when it wants to choke me. I am the only one that know my strong and weak points. Good luck. 1 Like |
Re: I Hit My Wife by deltateam: 10:30am On Dec 16, 2019 |
emeijeh: The wife went too far but the irresponsible man didn't go too far for coming home by 2am when he's married with a new baby thus exposing his family to harms way. The type of friends that will keep a married man away from his family until 2am should be reexamined. He's reckless and lacks respect for his wife. Enough of this double standards. Nonsense! Cc Ekene161829 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Afamed: 10:31am On Dec 16, 2019 |
etrange:God would have packed us out if he has to go by your illustration. What happens to giving someone a second chance, especially when such person has apologised and he has no history of domestic violence? |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Nobody: 10:31am On Dec 16, 2019 |
nairalanduseles:there will always be a boundary to what is acceptable from both kids and. my friend should know when to stop . my kids will be corrected with the cane if it get above a reasonable level |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Nobody: 10:32am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Ekene161829:You made a mistake but your wife's people must be very mad. Leave her and ignore. She'll realize how stùpid her decision to leave soon is. In the end, she'll start begging or start stalking and forcing you to apologize so that she can come back. Nonsense ego! |
Re: I Hit My Wife by luminouz(m): 10:32am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Vivonose: Lol, where do you ladies get this info from anyways? That online alphas are lambs outside! If you react to everything people say here, your high BP no go be here o... |
Re: I Hit My Wife by luckydion(m): 10:33am On Dec 16, 2019 |
u return home from outing 2am? hmmm! U're Strong, it shouldn't be ur first time. Probably ur late night escalated. however depends on the location u're. 2 years marriage is too young for this EXTREME hang out if the "HOME IS HOME". Were U drunk to have use slap to silent her? Young father of a 7 months old child "u steered the stereo so u have to dance to its tone". For your Wife to call heaven and earth because that.... Bros! I'm sorry to say she too need counselling "BIG ONE" Again, if ur wife is ready for marriage she can't just park and walk out.... It seemed to me, those your said in-laws of yours are your sponsor and they help u with the girl for marriage. too wrong.... Such people are not In-laws...... I just advice U go home and involve ur people, or Ur religious leaders, which ever one u belong. However, U have to let your in-law know there boundary except they don't want u to continue in marriage with their daughter. I just have to stop here... cus I this matter is pregnant......... One need time and the involved parties to diagnose better. 1 Like |
Re: I Hit My Wife by kodakred: 10:33am On Dec 16, 2019 |
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Re: I Hit My Wife by stevenchiil(m): 10:33am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Ekene161829:OP seriously u messed up by slapping your wife but am glad u have profusely apologized but on no condition should u go to her family and beg because it's an insult to u as a husband that the mother would come pick her daughter without making an effort at crisis management. |
Re: I Hit My Wife by yoged(m): 10:33am On Dec 16, 2019 |
madridguy:. Well said . she has been looking for an excuse to leave all this while |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Nnahokwudiri: 10:33am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Bro to be honest with you. What you did was absolutely wrong. The best advice is in Gods word the Bible. No marriage is perfect but this isn't an excuse to hit your wife. Hitting you wife anytime shows you are really a weak man. And if your child grows up to see the kind of father he has he might end doing same. Your wife has to heal because you hurt her. You need to speak your family members and inform them about the current development. Its now a family thing. When she comes back try and make here understand the importance of your love for her. And involvement of a 3rd party in a marriage might not be too good on all matters. Then you need to ask God for wisdom to handle this matter. Social Media will give you wrong advice. . Ask older and reasonable men around you. They will give you the best advice not social Media. |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Ladycewhy(f): 10:33am On Dec 16, 2019 |
luminouz:Have you heard of the term "blood boil"?that is a rush and its called adrenaline and it can become consistent with pattern of behavior. I strongly disagree, so let me rephrase your comment "any one can get angry but not everyone reacts violently". Lets even the steps that led to the back hand slap. The op went out, it was getting late, a responsible man who is not in the habit of staying out late will definitely inform his wife about the development, i am sure they both have phones, i am assuming he should have called to let his wife know he will be staying out that late ,atleast if it were me i am sure i will be worried sick about my husband and be checking in every 30mins cos i personally hate staying out late, too many dangers lurking in the dark. If this aspect was sorted i doubt she will be that upset ,infact na gist for follow . Now he came home ,she was upset,yes i know it can be difficult to calm a situation like that down,but instead of addressing it he decided to ignore ,wishing it will go away, when he saw it didn't work out he decided to use physical assualt. This is the pattern i am concern about,that op ignored and switched to physical assault, until he learns to stop ignoring issues and seek for solutions before he looses his temper this pattern will continue. 2 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by mapet: 10:34am On Dec 16, 2019 |
madridguy: I'm even wondering if the whole thing is not a script... |
Re: I Hit My Wife by bukatyne(f): 10:35am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Ekene161829: So you have never hit her before? You have not stayed out that late before? I blame your in-laws: they should have listened to both sides of the story and go for a peaceful resolution. I am thinking for someone who doesn't do late nights, the first thing should be concern that all is well and not shouting & yelling. ![]() Well, several posters have told you never to hit her again and I join them to say so. |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Nobody: 10:35am On Dec 16, 2019 |
xendra:Good I like you. I don't support nonsense. 1 Like |
Re: I Hit My Wife by luminouz(m): 10:35am On Dec 16, 2019 |
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