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Re: I Hit My Wife by Graxie(f): 11:19am On Dec 16, 2019 |
BRATISLAVA:I see most of them as kids that are craving for attention. When you don't have proper upbringing from a good father, it's possible to treat your wife same way you saw your dad doing it. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Nobody: 11:19am On Dec 16, 2019 |
As far as this issue is concerned, all parties are at fault. The O.P was wrong to come in late (He failed to communicate with her while he was out) The wife was wrong to nag at him continually The O.P was wrong to walk out on her without apologizing The wife was wrong to follow up on her nagging by following him to the sitting room He was wrong to slap her She was wrong to call on her mum and her brother The in-laws were wrong to come help destroy the marriage. These has many implications and are pointers to underlying issues that may have been swept under the carpet I guess there are underlying issues in the wife’s family that she has held unto. Probably, tied to how her father treated them and her mum. Now is not the time to prove who’s right, O.P should continue to plead with the wife and both should be ready to invest every effort to sustain their marriage. I wish you God’s speed and wisdom in your marriage. Shalom 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Theophinio(m): 11:19am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Dupalmer: Exactly Op, do as it is written here |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Nobody: 11:20am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Y’all better stop mentioning me ![]() ![]() 1 Like |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Baller45653: 11:20am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Ekene161829:. |
Re: I Hit My Wife by tunjilana: 11:20am On Dec 16, 2019 |
You did very wrong...coming home that late, you should have called to brief her and let her know you will unavoidable come home late....And immediately you got home, apologize sincerely and romantically....U could have contained your anger when she was ranting cos you were clearly on the wrong....As for her, she shouldnt have brought in family considering this is the first time and u have apologized sincerely |
Re: I Hit My Wife by olab059(m): 11:21am On Dec 16, 2019 |
freecocoahubby: But females on Nairaland won't see this o. To them, the woman is always right. I am not supporting a man hitting his wife, but women can provoke person ehn! Chai! 1 Like |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Zenithpeak(m): 11:21am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Darls247: There should never be a first time beating your wife. As per the Op. The deed has been done already, just handle in such a way that you'll have your marriage back and intact. Only that I hate the role of your in-laws play in the whole matter. 1 Like |
Re: I Hit My Wife by DonroxyII: 11:21am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Dupalmer: ![]() ![]() 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Hit My Wife by yomi007k(m): 11:22am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Sandypearl:If I was the man, I would have kept quiet while she was ranting. Two wrongs don't make a right. Sometimes you need to calm down to make peace reign. 1 Like |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Ladycewhy(f): 11:22am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Sammiejokes:oh thank the universe you do agree the op made a mistake , hurray! |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Coolgent(m): 11:22am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Ekene161829:You stayed out till 2am, your Wife complained and u wickedly slapped her! Brother are u out of your mind? or were u high on alcohol? Well, she did the right thing, on the other hand since u realised your mistake, do everything humanly possible to bring your family back. Goodluck 2 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Nobody: 11:23am On Dec 16, 2019 |
LilMissFavvy:I like you. Can we meet? I promise I will never slap the shit out of you. 1 Like |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Hedonisco: 11:24am On Dec 16, 2019 |
The plight of all these mumu men never ceases to amaze me. That's why it's a bad boy's world. Go to any of the correct lounges, joints, clubs and fun spots in Lagos or Abuja, you will see bad married men catching their groove until 3.am, or 4.am, on the regular. Dem no born any stupid wife to make an issue out of that. I'm a man about town, and you have to accept me like that. If you can't deal, then get lost. In fact from even before we get married, you should know and accept that, or no deal. The only reason why your wife would be forming tigress on top this matter and even daring to call her mum and brother for ordinary slap that she brought upon herself is that you are a Day 1 mumu man. You can't be a good boy husband from Day 1 and then later learn bad habits such as hanging out late. Most women would never agree to such transformation. But if you're bad from Day 1, they would take it for what it is and fall in line. 1 Like |
Re: I Hit My Wife by luminouz(m): 11:24am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Ladycewhy: OP may be manipulating narrative, yes but the point I'm trying to make you see is if it was a one-time thing my ex did, I wouldn't have minded. She repeated shiit. So if OP's transgression was just that one time and he had apologised, he deserves a second chance. One thing I can also tell is that as a woman, know your man's strengths or weaknesses and try not to exploit it. No matter how how much we blame the man,I also blame her for not leaving him be(at least till the alcoholic effects are off) Like I did for my ex. He clearly had no intentions of beating her but with her agressivesnes and insults joined to trigger his own alcohol-laced aggression. I see things for from both perspectives while you seem to see it from the woman's. You never did condemn anything OP's wife did. |
Re: I Hit My Wife by yomi007k(m): 11:24am On Dec 16, 2019 |
realabraham:Thank you sir. |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Nobody: 11:24am On Dec 16, 2019 |
LilMissFavvy:I like you. Can we meet? I promise I will never slap the sh*t out of you. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Hit My Wife by olab059(m): 11:25am On Dec 16, 2019 |
ugofulfilled:lol 1 Like |
Re: I Hit My Wife by DRPAIT123(m): 11:26am On Dec 16, 2019 |
LilMissFavvy:which part of your body are you thinking from, coming here to spell out of bullshit, you must think you are a better judge than everyone else, you are highly Superstitious indeed |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Coolgent(m): 11:28am On Dec 16, 2019 |
olabrinks:One of the best advice. |
Re: I Hit My Wife by kowopealajo: 11:30am On Dec 16, 2019 |
You are of all men most miserable by coming home at that odd time, what an abysmal. But still yet, i condemn the egregious act that was shown by your weak inlaws.after the tons of apology, i will give you a standing order to let the immatured lady be for a while.she is at the lossing end, you have got nothing to loss except for the fact that you are a night crawler.... Be good son. Ekene161829: |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Ladycewhy(f): 11:31am On Dec 16, 2019 |
luminouz:Action reaction and counter reaction, everything has let to this point, everyone has traded blames. The question here is does the op want to salvage his marriage? Cos in my personal opinion since the girl's parents are involved already there is no way this issue will be resolved quietly without him getting someone from his own side to join in the appeal, maybe an elder or a pastor. He has to let the elder negotiate on the phone with her parents and go to her house with wine and kolanut. What do you suggest? |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Nobody: 11:32am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Ladycewhy:I didn't say it was right that he hit her. all I a saying a mature wife will figure out a better way to handle the situation. nagging a drunk is one of the worst thing to do. confronting a drunk is not the best way to protect yourself from domestic violence. if he kill you , he end up in prison while you go to the grave. always learn to protect yourself |
Re: I Hit My Wife by alexola20(m): 11:32am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Re: I Hit My Wife by opomulero(m): 11:32am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Wao..... you've allowed d devil to come in. All well and good what has happened as happened. Though let me judge as if you were saying the truth since I haven't heard Ur wife part of the story. Tell me here if your wife has been complaining about u staying out late? (gimme honest answer). If she's been complaining since and u are adamant, I won't blame her Dts how women are u are all to be blamed, even if u won't sleep at home there is a way u will call her or come back home to inform her on how Ur movement will be. If this is the very first time this will happen, I will still blame u 80% cos u are d man of d house, immediately u enter u suppose no matter how imature she is to calm her down n if u can't u should av left her nagging and never react to whatever she's saying to u and by morning, thing would have taken shape and u will apologized to her, she's just been protective nobody wwanna be a widow at tender age... But to be honest with you as I dey see this matter wey u talk so u are to be blamed totally. Women don't bring there family into there marriage for first time offense like this, for her mother nd brother to come just like that means u have not been faithful or truthful to her since, there is no comunication BTW d 2 of u, u have been hurting her since and u r not sensitive to what Ur wife has been telling u, guy u r at fault, leave her for like 3 to 4 days, don't involve Ur parents call her to apologize, I know she will forgive u, know that she tends to behave more like that to u like a small child she's 28 yrs, take her like that don't think she should be reasoning like an old woman in marriage. U r d man of d house bury Ur ego and u will tame her....lobatan And if what u said was just true as u said it assuming Ur wife confirm it to me to be true as u said it, I will blame her, her brother, lemme not talk abt her mother her brother suppose talk to her mother to resolve the matter amicably since she's (imature) just experiencing d bad side of what's not suppose to happen in marriage but they shouldn't av park her load out of her matrimonial home, dt singular act IMO will cast a negative image in d lady's mind, they should av settle it dt day and give another chance (so any quarel na to park out of marriage Dts d sign dy r giving the lady) so for them not to give u my guy a second chance maybe u av bn trespassing since, no family will like to break marriage like that. Just amend Ur ways with her and apologised for what u av bn doing to her since all those bad bad things wey u dey do her cos I am convinced dt u don offend he well well and she will forgive u, if she no gree call me I know how to beg her for u 1 Like |
Re: I Hit My Wife by kowopealajo: 11:33am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Persons like you shouldnt get any access to the internet.an eye for an eye? You are such a big plantation baby, you suck.get out of here you trouble maker. LilMissFavvy: |
Re: I Hit My Wife by NnamdiN: 11:34am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Ask their people to return the bride price... |
Re: I Hit My Wife by hanymasahun: 11:34am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Humm don't even know what to say but if i were you i will just park her remaining belonging and dump it to there family house. They will come beg me, if they don't case close, i will just move on. |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Ladycewhy(f): 11:34am On Dec 16, 2019 |
niaralandtopuser:Yeah you are right, drunks are better left alone, maybe she should have let him sleep outside till the drink wears out,will that be a good idea too? |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Ekene161829: 11:35am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Thanks for your advice . Just to clarify im not an alcoholic and I rarely ever goes out with my friends. I have no interest in clubbing and drinking to get drunk. I like to being home relaxing with my family helping around the house and taking care of our baby.but whenever my friends want to hang out she is extremely unhappy if I go out with friends for a beer which is once in a while.She says it's unfair that she stays alone with the baby. I love my wife and baby so much but I just want to socialize with my friends outside of work even just 2-3 times a year but when I do it brings my wife to yell at me, tears of frustration and accusations that I dont love her.i have compromises to include her by bringing my friends to the house but she rejected it. Am I wrong from wanting some social time outside of of my family ? Does being married with a child mean having no friends at all? 8 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by nick50(m): 11:36am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Oga just move on with ur life, if possible request for the refund of the dowry u paid to her family,u got nothing to loose bro |
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