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Re: I Hit My Wife by JJOF(m): 12:37pm On Dec 16, 2019 |
LilMissFavvy:Your post was a mixture of sense and senselessness. So make her brother hit am because of say e hear say e hit e sister? No wonder many guys dey kill their fellow guys on top woman matter. Lubbish and Buhari. |
Re: I Hit My Wife by richie240: 12:41pm On Dec 16, 2019 |
daddytime:As in ehn.... How old is this wife by the way? Its not a matter of age o! What u don't have, u don't have! A 70yr old mathematics professor will be lost in d committee of carpenters o. ![]() The action of the mother in law has shown DT she (d mama) herself is #damaged_goods, and does a fruit fall far from d tree? 1 Like |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Nobody: 12:41pm On Dec 16, 2019 |
My brother, if you have been fucking your wife VERY WELL, then, you have nothing to fear. If you hav ebeen giving her ORGASM, you need not worry rara. I mean that back breaking, earth shattering, nerve wrecking SEX. Because after TWO WEEKS when she begin miss her INJECTIONS, even if her mama say make she no return, she go run komot for house come back home. Your wife no act mature, sha. her mama sef no try. Instead of to come broker peace, she came no evacuate. If you have not been fucking her well, you shuld be worried baje baje. Ekene161829: |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Ladycewhy(f): 12:42pm On Dec 16, 2019 |
luminouz:good call. |
Re: I Hit My Wife by babestell(f): 12:43pm On Dec 16, 2019 |
Pack your load and go to your inlaw house too. Tell them you came for vacation too after all her mother is now your mother and her brother is your brother. Ekene161829: 2 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Ladycewhy(f): 12:45pm On Dec 16, 2019 |
niaralandtopuser:how you sure its his first time tho? A person who is not a night crawler will not be that comfortable staying out that late without updating his wife about the development. There is alot of the little details the op seem to have left out . Anyway ,all that being said, what would you advice the op does now to salvage his marriage? 1 Like |
Re: I Hit My Wife by emonis88: 12:46pm On Dec 16, 2019 |
2chukwu:Guy, if I get the money, I go buy brewery say make them just dey supply u anytime u want. U be man. 2 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Ladycewhy(f): 12:46pm On Dec 16, 2019 |
babestell:lol funny but i know someone who can do this . ![]() 1 Like |
Re: I Hit My Wife by jclassiq(m): 12:48pm On Dec 16, 2019 |
madridguy: F- that bruh!!! The OP failed it by hitting her in the first place. I'm sure that a part of the marriage agreement was certainly not to hit their daughter at will...and thats why the mom showed up immediately to send a clear message. Op I suggest you calm down, sleep over the whole incident, send her a Text message of your apology, give her a day or two and call her. Then maybe get a trusted friend to accompany you to their place. By then she would have calmed down. But if she insists she isn't coming back, well, you can let her be for now till further notice. 1 Like |
Re: I Hit My Wife by TheSociopath(m): 12:48pm On Dec 16, 2019 |
LilMissFavvy: Whoever marries this one has married trouble. 3 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by calabardick(m): 12:48pm On Dec 16, 2019 |
Be careful if you must go there lest you look like this
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Re: I Hit My Wife by danilmo: 12:50pm On Dec 16, 2019 |
Yonce: u didn't get the point. on a good day a good mother should react. but the daughter inviting her mum immediately is uncalled for. , meanwhile that was the First time even after so much apology. hmm |
Re: I Hit My Wife by loveliveshere: 12:52pm On Dec 16, 2019 |
Sandypearl: Thank you for your opinion sir |
Re: I Hit My Wife by sylve11: 12:53pm On Dec 16, 2019 |
LilMissFavvy: just read all what you typed again and tell me how far. ![]() ![]() |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Blakjewelry(m): 12:53pm On Dec 16, 2019 |
Dupalmer:dont mind these people giving out anyhow advice because they are not the one, i bet you some of these guys will even act worse. for the fact that the girls family came and carry her without asking questions shows something is fishy 1 Like |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Ilekokonit: 12:55pm On Dec 16, 2019 |
You can't keep apologising forever until she and her family turn you into a fool. At the first sign of trouble which she instigated by pushing you to the wall, she invites her family to insult her husband and desecrate your marital home. Imagine if you were abroad, this your wife will call the police to jail you FOR 8 years at the slightest provocation or she can even accuse you of rape which means you go to jail for 8 years and lose your job and can not get a good job for 5 years after they release you from jail. Borrow your self some brain. Your wife is already tired of you and the marriage and she wants out. Her mother advised her not to marry you. 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Blakjewelry(m): 12:55pm On Dec 16, 2019 |
ugofulfilled:dont mind her 1 Like |
Re: I Hit My Wife by danilmo: 12:56pm On Dec 16, 2019 |
Anextin: and I hope she ll keep loving and marrying herself after the army beating. ![]() |
Re: I Hit My Wife by gloniks: 12:56pm On Dec 16, 2019 |
Most of these comments are so heartbreaking, seeing also that some of these guys talking are not yet married, I feel so so sorry. Most people think the woman's action of calling her mom and brother was too far, chai, really so she should wait till from a slap it gets to punches and then one day you will beat her blue black till she dies or becomes deformed and then you see her unpresentable as a wife abi.....so her calling her family was too much but your own slap was not too much..... Thank God you said you have a female child imagine her married and her getting a slap from her husband how will you feel So she was shouting and yelling so that justifies your actions? you said that was the first time you came back late so I believe she had never seen you coming back that late and you don't think she must have been sick and worried about you with the security issues especially in this festive season? You were not drunk so where you were with your friends you didn't bother about her maybe to give her a call, you didn't consider her feelings at all? If she was the one who came back late I am sure that house would have been hot for her, I am sure you would have been soooooo angry infact even if it was just dinner she didn't prepare it wouldn't have been condoned Come to talk more of coming back late I am not judgemental here but I think a slap was too fast And all majority of the guys here can say is that she shouldn't have yelled or she should have left you in the room or maybe she should have said "bravo my husband for coming back late" and most guys are saying you should leave her alone fine you have done a mistake continue tendering your apologies she will definitely come back that's after you've signed an undertaking never to do such again but I shake my head for most guys #egocentric #violent soon all of them will say they don't support domestic violence Mtcheew 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Hit My Wife by kayfx2(m): 12:58pm On Dec 16, 2019 |
crackhaus:Now i just like intellectually sound people like this.A bottle of cold Heineken for you..I believe strongly in marriage honestly ..But, I see comments from some girls here! and i am like ha ha !! that's the reason most guys are scared to get married nowadays..If 9 out of 10 thinks like this...Then lets just live with it or just be single forever.Marriage is not by force.For me personally,I have zero tolerance for violent people either physically or emotionally..I can't even marry a woman that is too confrontational,yell or nag...Hell No, you are not gon turn me to what i am not...I have a family member i grew up with..He is such a mild person and i have never known him to be violent in any way for the 20 years we have been friends together..Guess what!! My guy slap the wife on top nag oh ! His story is quite similar to this ...God help us .. 1 Like |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Leonel55(m): 1:00pm On Dec 16, 2019 |
Baller45653: Your entire story is quite fuzzy: a little bit on point in some context and a lot more off point in others It is poor understanding of the concept of marriage and the roles and functions of the two individuals involved that usually leads to all manner of interpretations and, as a result, all forms of abuse that follow True, the wife is not your slave but neither is the husband her master. He is only the coordinating center of the marriage, like the captain of an Aircraft, not captain of a ship. The captain of an aircraft works hand in hand with a copilot, in this case, the wife: she's not a mere cabin crew. You can't say the man is the master without inferring that the wife is a slave or servant cos only slaves and servants have masters and only masters are justified to beat their slaves because they are their slaves If a husband has to beat his wife in order to contain her excesses then he either got into marriage with the wrong information or he's married to the wrong woman Submission of the wife in marriage, must not, at anytime, come at that expense of physical or emotional violence. If you have to hit her to contain her then you've got your marriage wired wrongly Submission here does not mean submission to him being Lord and master but rather, that he coordinates, as far their marriage is concerned. It is not submission to his whims and caprices or inordinate demands which can all get muddled up in the idea of submission in marriage It is part of the husband's role to lead and for the wife to submit to that leadership in order for their marriage to work but that doesn't make him king or lord or master. The husband leading effectively allows the wife to carry out her own roles and functions effectively, so it is to her benefit that she submits to his leading. The fact that she has to submit to the husband coordinating does not make her inferior. Her individual personality, capacity and prospects must not be subsumed in the process The husband is not superior to the wife and neither is the wife inferior to the husband and vice versa. They're not equal either cos the roles they're meant to play in the marriage are not exactly the same. In the real concept of marriage there is nothing like equality or inequality: there are just roles and functions The problem most men have is the misconception of the idea of "headship" in marriage, a lot of it due to cultural misdirection. It is totally misunderstood. The headship in marriage is in reference to the head in a living organism, not the head, like a king, in a kingdom. The head in an organism is the coordinating center hence all other parts submit to its coordinating role This is not to condemn you or whatever has been working for you but to correct the notion that others might pick from it that the husband is the master of the wife or that hitting your wife, for whatever reason, is at anytime ok. For those who are Christians, the scriptures never indicated it was ok to beat your wife in order to correct her or that the man is master. It only referenced that the man is the head of the wife just as Christ is the head of the Church: not in reference to the context of Christ being Lord and King of all, rather in the context of Christ being the head and Church the body - same goes for marriage Blessings! 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Hit My Wife by farady(m): 1:01pm On Dec 16, 2019 |
Marriage wahala sef. E no dey finish, new dimension of wahala everyday. Hmmm OP I am not a judge. I am sure you both are Christians and if yes, the bible will ever remain the manual. Neglect it at your own peril. The rules are simple but very, very difficult for us to abide with. I will just quote some for us: 1. Genesis 2:24 "Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh." 2. Ephesians 5:25 "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her." If you do why should you be coming that late without pre-informing her. 3. Romans 12:10 "Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves." 4. 1 Corinthians 7:3-4 A man should fulfill his duty as a husband, and a woman should fulfill her duty as a wife, and each should satisfy the other’s needs. A wife is not the master of her own body, but her husband is; in the same way a husband is not the master of his own body, but his wife is. 5. Ephesians 5:21-25 Submit yourselves to one another because of your reverence for Christ. Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands as to the Lord. For a husband has authority over his wife just as Christ has authority over the church; and Christ is himself the Savior of the church, his body. And so wives must submit themselves completely to their husbands just as the church submits itself to Christ. Husbands, love your wives just as Christ loved the church and gave his life for it 6. Colossians 3:18-19 Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands, for that is what you should do as Christians. Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them 7. Ephesians 4:32 Instead, be kind and tender-hearted to one another, and forgive one another, as God has forgiven you through Christ 8. 1 Peter 4:8 Above everything, love one another earnestly, because love covers over many sins 9. 1 Corinthians 11:11 In our life in the Lord, however, woman is not independent of man, nor is man independent of woman. 10. 1 Peter 3:7 Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers. (NIV) The above doesn't mean there will not be times of misunderstanding, quarrels etc. They will because you both are from different backgrounds and have different upbringing. Once you both have a deep (and spiritual) knowledge of what you guys have signed into it is easier. If only one partner knows, the struggling will be there. If both don't know, what you described above happens. There are plenty of advise already given. I will add mine by saying, continue to plead with her. Of all the bible passage wey dey up there, if you no fear anyone, make you fear the last one - it says if you do not treat your wife well with respect, your prayers no go pass ceiling. That is the word of God, no be me talk am. |
Re: I Hit My Wife by 12inchDickson: 1:02pm On Dec 16, 2019 |
xendra:you won't open door to your house àbi... Seems you watch zee world alot 1 Like |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Yinibixema: 1:03pm On Dec 16, 2019 |
AwkaetitiBabe:Can you pay 4k? |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Truckpusher(m): 1:03pm On Dec 16, 2019 |
Simple drama would have saved you lots of headache. when we tell you guys to come learn some basic survival instinct when it comes to women ,you won't listen. |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Emmanuelhector(m): 1:04pm On Dec 16, 2019 |
Anextin:Its better she leave my house, Than letting her whine mouth on threats and abuses because she gat an army, or maybe, the army should marry her. |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Saintmary(f): 1:08pm On Dec 16, 2019 |
babestell:They will sharpally arrange family meeting
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Re: I Hit My Wife by Ilekokonit: 1:09pm On Dec 16, 2019 |
Ekene161829: When a wife wants to deal with a man, they isolate you from your friends and family or anyone who can give you good advise You married a child who is being controlled by her mother who did and still does not like you and feels you are not good enough for her daughter. BE A MAN AND CALL THEIR BLUFF. NEVER beg her to return. NEVER send anyone to beg her and if she comes back begging, make her sign an undertaking to abide by your list of written down rules which must include keeping her mum and her family out of your affairs. And you can police whether or not she is gossiping / bad mouthing you to her family by installing a voice recorder in your house or even tracking her phone. Since she can go to the extreme of inviting her mother to disrespect you in your house then, the gloves are off and any way to knock sense back into her disobedient head is a way. 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Hit My Wife by victorian(f): 1:09pm On Dec 16, 2019 |
madridguy: Exactly. Maybe she feels, she's till young and guys will still be rushing her even if she's divorced. At least there are lots of babymamas out there with lovers. So she feel, another man will quickly rush her like hot cake. Lol She never know anything yet.. She's still a kid. Anyways Op, don't beg her again. Let her stay with her parents for a long time. Later only she go call your number when her mom is tired of buying baby food and pampers including feeding her join.. In fact her elder brother will be the first to mock her, and go back to you. It's simple logic. Most People even families don't like extra mouths to feed and cloth. ![]() When I hear wives locking their husbands outside because he comes home late, such stories infuriates me. And I'm like really? She get mind o When I hear ladies nag and nag and nag until the husband either slaps her or box her to keep quiet, I sigh and I'm like the wife doesn't value her face or body. Personally I hate nagging. Silent treatment is how I handle things . I hate noise 2 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Nobody: 1:20pm On Dec 16, 2019 |
xendra: At some point, it takes great self control not to slap a woman. The man has obviously done something wrong. There are ways to scold him without entering into a tirade of insults. Even when the man retreated, she persisted. Such action would usually end in a slap |
Re: I Hit My Wife by zimach(f): 1:20pm On Dec 16, 2019 |
Oga don't take all the advice hear. Use your head. what you did was absolutely wrong. Go and get your wife back and do not let such repeat itself. You don't blame her o. Na from slap e dey start. Give her time to heal too. |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Baamm(m): 1:22pm On Dec 16, 2019 |
The mistake has occurred. 1.Go with your parent to beg 2. If you a Christian. Go and meet ur pastor to follow you to beg /same if u a Muslim 3. Beg and beg till you forgiven. And don’t ever hit your woman again. 1 Like |
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