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How Did You Cope/How Are You Coping With People Asking You To Get Married by eagleeye259: 12:54pm On Dec 28, 2019 |
Hello NLanders, Compliments of the season. I am a young man in my mid-thirties. I am a professional and a graduate student. I am getting bored by people (family and friends) asking me to get married. Almost all the folks I spoke with on Christmas day said the same to my ears. In the past, friends have invited me to visit them and I discovered they were trying to match-make me. I am looking to get married at some point in the future when I find someone I can live the rest of my life with. The truth is none of these folks will suffer the direct consequence if I get married to the wrong person. Initially, I planned a visit to my family early next year but I am thinking of postponing it till maybe end of 2020 and also reducing the frequency of communicating with folks. To the married folks, how did you cope with this? 1 Like |
Re: How Did You Cope/How Are You Coping With People Asking You To Get Married by sinaj(f): 12:57pm On Dec 28, 2019 |
Ha! mid 30s? Oga go and marry 8 Likes |
Re: How Did You Cope/How Are You Coping With People Asking You To Get Married by johnkey: 12:58pm On Dec 28, 2019 |
Nobody can pressure me into getting married I repeat nobody. 6 Likes |
Re: How Did You Cope/How Are You Coping With People Asking You To Get Married by yomi007k(m): 1:01pm On Dec 28, 2019 |
sinaj: How old are you, are you married? 1 Like |
Re: How Did You Cope/How Are You Coping With People Asking You To Get Married by sinaj(f): 1:04pm On Dec 28, 2019 |
yomi007k:will be16 next year so Im underage and cant marry yet 2 Likes |
Re: How Did You Cope/How Are You Coping With People Asking You To Get Married by Acidosis(m): 1:09pm On Dec 28, 2019 |
Unfortunately, postponing your wedding till Jesus comes is not a license to a great marriage with a great person. You can wait till thy kingdom comes and still fail. Readiness is a thing of the mind. You're ready only when you're ready. 5 Likes |
Re: How Did You Cope/How Are You Coping With People Asking You To Get Married by Nobody: 1:10pm On Dec 28, 2019 |
Keep waiting until your friends child starts saying "guy how far good morning " 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Did You Cope/How Are You Coping With People Asking You To Get Married by eagleeye259: 1:11pm On Dec 28, 2019 |
sinaj: Of course I will when I find the right one. Over the years, I have been trying to put things in order so that my children will live quite comfortable lives. 5 Likes |
Re: How Did You Cope/How Are You Coping With People Asking You To Get Married by SirLiquidGold: 1:14pm On Dec 28, 2019 |
sinaj: 2 Likes
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Re: How Did You Cope/How Are You Coping With People Asking You To Get Married by sinaj(f): 1:17pm On Dec 28, 2019 |
eagleeye259:Relax, I was just pulling your legs. Take your time to avoid rushing in and out, coz whatever you do people will always talk. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Did You Cope/How Are You Coping With People Asking You To Get Married by eagleeye259: 1:22pm On Dec 28, 2019 |
sinaj: I thought so too. Thanks. That's true. An interim solution is to minimize contact with folks. 1 Like |
Re: How Did You Cope/How Are You Coping With People Asking You To Get Married by Larryfest(m): 1:23pm On Dec 28, 2019 |
Guy take your time and don't allow pressure push you to marriage in which you might probably get hooked up to the wrong person or where you can't even handle the financial baggages that comes with being married. Those pressuring you now won't be there to carry the baggages with you when it get much. 8 Likes |
Re: How Did You Cope/How Are You Coping With People Asking You To Get Married by phorget(m): 1:23pm On Dec 28, 2019 |
eagleeye259: Have you ever wondered why some people are never satisfied with what they have? The reason is simply because human wants are insatiable. Ones you acknowledge the fact that you are 'better off' than some individuals that is when you'll learn to always appreciate the 'little' you have. 'Putting things in order' might actually take you eternity because the moment you are driving a Roll Royce then remember that someone is flying a private jet so you can as well keep pushing yourself to having a private jet too. 9 Likes |
Re: How Did You Cope/How Are You Coping With People Asking You To Get Married by phorget(m): 1:26pm On Dec 28, 2019 |
Larryfest: Even if he takes the whole time in this world that won't still guarantee a successful marriage. Marriage is not about the time you take before marrying, it's always a function of grace, patience, attitude,tollerance and your willingness to make it work. 7 Likes |
Re: How Did You Cope/How Are You Coping With People Asking You To Get Married by eagleeye259: 1:30pm On Dec 28, 2019 |
Acidosis: Absolutely. |
Re: How Did You Cope/How Are You Coping With People Asking You To Get Married by Nobody: 1:31pm On Dec 28, 2019 |
If u are a lady, what will u do They will remind her menopause is nearby or call her evening newspaper. People don't know that not everybody will marry very early. It's not how far but how well. If u have not find one who suits you like 45%, dont listen to anybody. Just stay away from such people. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Did You Cope/How Are You Coping With People Asking You To Get Married by eagleeye259: 1:31pm On Dec 28, 2019 |
Larryfest: So true. By His grace, I am financially independent. Thanks. |
Re: How Did You Cope/How Are You Coping With People Asking You To Get Married by eagleeye259: 1:37pm On Dec 28, 2019 |
phorget: That's true. For me, putting thing in order mean being able to take care of the needs of my family. I don't want my children to experience the hardship I passed through growing up. Thanks. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Did You Cope/How Are You Coping With People Asking You To Get Married by eagleeye259: 1:38pm On Dec 28, 2019 |
sassysure: So true. Thanks |
Re: How Did You Cope/How Are You Coping With People Asking You To Get Married by murphyibiam15(m): 1:43pm On Dec 28, 2019 |
phorget:Lol..your analysis makes some sense |
Re: How Did You Cope/How Are You Coping With People Asking You To Get Married by Mrford(m): 2:07pm On Dec 28, 2019 |
sinaj: |
Re: How Did You Cope/How Are You Coping With People Asking You To Get Married by yomi007k(m): 2:39pm On Dec 28, 2019 |
sinaj:Thought as much |
Re: How Did You Cope/How Are You Coping With People Asking You To Get Married by GrossPrice: 2:43pm On Dec 28, 2019 |
eagleeye259: You are on a journey to nowhere if at this age your not interested in getting married. Mid 30's is 35 ish. Be willing to have a wife and not finding one is totally different from having no interest in marriage. At this age, you should be interested in marriage. Perhaps some issues here and there may make it difficult, but you must have an interest in marriage and be willing to get married once you meet a girl. If you have zero interest in marriage ... you are on a journey to nowhere! Even Don Jazzy is interested in marriage but claims he has not found his ideal config. 3 Likes |
Re: How Did You Cope/How Are You Coping With People Asking You To Get Married by Westernlove: 2:58pm On Dec 28, 2019 |
eagleeye259: When they are tired asking, They will leave you alone lol....Some fools are currently doing same to me as well. I noticed some have gotten tired and they no longer disturb me again.... 5 Likes
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Re: How Did You Cope/How Are You Coping With People Asking You To Get Married by Westernlove: 3:04pm On Dec 28, 2019 |
Shibaraba: Mumuson.... 5 Likes
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Re: How Did You Cope/How Are You Coping With People Asking You To Get Married by Fundamentalist: 3:28pm On Dec 28, 2019 |
Don't fall for pressure take your time. No one will share marriage responsibility with you including your closest family member. Everyone carries his/her own cross. 5 Likes |
Re: How Did You Cope/How Are You Coping With People Asking You To Get Married by Nephilim: 3:59pm On Dec 28, 2019 |
Go and marry! Those that married at early age doesn't have two heads. 1 Like |
Re: How Did You Cope/How Are You Coping With People Asking You To Get Married by olabrinks(f): 4:03pm On Dec 28, 2019 |
Young man? Mid thirties? You are approaching middle age you are no more young oh. eagleeye259: 1 Like |
Re: How Did You Cope/How Are You Coping With People Asking You To Get Married by eagleeye259: 4:33pm On Dec 28, 2019 |
GrossPrice: Thanks for your reply. I am interested in getting married but I have not found the one yet. My last relationship ended about two years ago because of financial bottleneck. 3 Likes |
Re: How Did You Cope/How Are You Coping With People Asking You To Get Married by eagleeye259: 4:37pm On Dec 28, 2019 |
Shibaraba: |
Re: How Did You Cope/How Are You Coping With People Asking You To Get Married by eagleeye259: 5:00pm On Dec 28, 2019 |
olabrinks: Yes, I know I am getting old. Should I have used "old man" rather than "young man"? Thanks. 1 Like |
Re: How Did You Cope/How Are You Coping With People Asking You To Get Married by fasayoblog(m): 6:02pm On Dec 28, 2019 |
sinaj:Me that now want to marry you tomorrow nko? |
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