CorporateJay:


You people should get things straight.... You should be able to cater for your children the basic things like... Good food.. Good education.. Good shelter and little fun... And go and check statistics... The chances of a child being successful in life.. Is proportional to the quality of life he lives... The number 1 reason why people succeed is having people around you who can make you succeed... And where Most do you meet them... School and where you are able to work...

Isit a child that was made to go and do househelp.. That has more chances in life to be successful... If you know what those children pass through... Most especially the female ones...you will know that... Give birth to the number of children you can cater for

uninspired07:
I know this my thread might get some people angry but it’s a subject that surprises me whenever I think of it. How do normal Nigerians who are educated have more than 2 children in a country like Nigeria with all the poverty & hopelessness? I am still single but I have it in mind to lay a ground rule that whichever woman I marry must agree to family planing methods after the birth of the 1st child whether male or female. And if the 1st baby is male, we can as well wait for another 5 years before having a baby of either sex as the last.

But I wonder when I see Nigerians that are not so wealthy giving birth to 4 - 5 kids in the midst of grinding economic depression and in a nation that has clearly failed. Don’t these Nigerians know that the country can descend into war anytime due to the instability that is so palpable? I get afraid when I see couples who have 4 children in this day & age so I always wonder how they are coping with the stress & the bills. I also wonder why they are not afraid of Nigeria.

concept65:


But he is telling others how to lead theirs? Shame on him

concept65:

I totally agree with you OP, but may I please ask that you adopt the 2 instead of having them biologically. In the midst of grinding economic depression, please lead by example and take 2 children in in stead of creating more - prove your altruism.

KevinDein:

No, bro, that shouldn't be a source of joy. These kids are just victims of the foolery of their dumb parents.

fatymore:

It depends on your choice. Some are wealthy and likes a full house while some are struggling and would prefer 2 with lot of spacing.

Sometimes it isn't even about the money


The stress is usually when they are still young but believe me when they start working and of age, and they start calling you iya professionals and your children are doing well, you will be fulfilled and happy and forget all the stress.

Either 2 or 6 may God give us the strength to take care of them and reap from our work

I like a full house, so I am going for 3 at least and four at most.


But hubby says 2

uninspired07:


This is a lie & you know it but I won’t argue with you.

You just want more innocent Nigerians to fall into the poverty hole you’ve dug yourself into.

If my education cannot teach me to fear Nigeria, what have my parents gained in educating me? This is a failed contraption & our children deserve better.

Winneygirl:


You can do a vasectomy after your second child.
Birth control is not only for women

uninspired07:


Again, you’re a northerner & you are not qualified to contribute to this discussion because it is against your religion & culture. You can see I directed my message to southerners?

tumababa:


Some people av just 2 and they will still send them to do househelp.

uninspired07:


Lol....this is funny. I will pass, thanks.

Obi1kenobi:


All throughout the West, birth/fertility rates have dropped below population replacement level (around 2 children per woman), which means if not for immigration, many Western countries would have receding populations. China despite relaxing its one child rule has a very low birth rate. It's in the natural cycle of developed or seriously developing economies to have low birth rates due to the empowered, career-focused female population. It's generally mostly the poorest, most poorly educated, underdeveloped countries in the world (like most of subsaharan Africa) where people still breed like rats and cultivate a vicious cycle of poverty.

maasoap:


I'm here to expose your hypocrisy. I'm here to let others realise that you're a kid still living in a world of fantasy. When you are grown up, married and start having kids, come back and tell us your story of ten years in marriage

AmarachiAshawo:

You want to leave for Fulani to take over your fatherland? Are you not a coward Running away from battle? Do you think every sane one will migrate, no, they will sit back and fight for what is theirs.

Run away coward!

vincentjk:
I've always wanted to have just 3 kids, I used to say 2 but 3 would be fine long as they'll feed well and go to school just like my dad did for my siblings and I

AkeNathan:


Other than stating his own stance and asking you lots pertinent questions, I do not see corroboration between what you have said, and what the OP has been saying.

YipadaGadgets1:


[s]Lol, I know a man who had close to 20 kids , 2 of his kids are CEOs of major Banks in Nigeria.. ALL of them are STUPENDOUSLY rich and yet the man was poor.

The fate of the children is not tied to the father, BORN as much as you can... the one who sent them down would provide for them

It may sound counter intellectual but it's always been a fact , Poverty had nothing to do with children... It depends on the way they are raised

If war happens in Nigeria like you predicted , if my 7 kids die ... lol yours too won't die.

The koko is understanding your situation and see if you can provide them the basics of there needs ... then you are fine.

I don't support having children without control, but stopping child birth due to fear of the unknown seems illogical[/s].

James39:
See the minimum and maximum should be 4.

I can't give birth to 1 boy and 1 gal.

That's my take. I don't care what others think.

if your parent were so careful not to go beyond 2 kids you won't be here typing this. I'm sure you are not the 1st neither the 2nd.

we are 10 in numbers and we are doing fine.

uninspired07:


Is that all? Just food & any kind of education?

I will want my kids to have the kinda education I never had.

Limit child birth & you will do much more.

Haddock:


Oga uninspired07, and you still want to have your "one or two kids"? For what?! To become soldiers or nurses in the future war of a failed Nigeria?!

If Nigeria really doesn't have a future & has failed, why don't you just completely understand refrain from bringing any innocent child to the failed State?!

uninspired07:


Get off the thread, it has obviously hit you where it hurts.

My thread is directed at Southerners. Just stop posting on this thread.

We don’t need your kind here.

uninspired07:


I get afraid when I see couples who have 4 children in this day & age so I always wonder how they are coping with the stress & the bills. I also wonder why they are not afraid of Nigeria.

gentleibraheem:
an aboki man like me would want to have 15 or more children. I don't give a damn about what you think

uninspired07:


Get off the thread, it has obviously hit you where it hurts.

My thread is directed at Southerners. Just stop posting on this thread.

We don’t need your kind here.

uninspired07:
I know this my thread might get some people angry but it’s a subject that surprises me whenever I think of it. How do normal Nigerians who are educated have more than 2 children in a country like Nigeria with all the poverty & hopelessness? I am still single but I have it in mind to lay a ground rule that whichever woman I marry must agree to family planing methods after the birth of the 1st child whether male or female. And if the 1st baby is male, we can as well wait for another 5 years before having a baby of either sex as the last.

But I wonder when I see Nigerians that are not so wealthy giving birth to 4 - 5 kids in the midst of grinding economic depression and in a nation that has clearly failed. Don’t these Nigerians know that the country can descend into war anytime due to the instability that is so palpable? I get afraid when I see couples who have 4 children in this day & age so I always wonder how they are coping with the stress & the bills. I also wonder why they are not afraid of Nigeria.

maasoap:


Rush back and modify your title. Kid wants 180 million people have passports ready in case there is a need to flee Nigeria. Lol. Kid's way of thinking is amusing

AkeNathan:


Other than stating his own stance and asking you lots pertinent questions, I do not see corroboration between what you have said, and what the OP has been saying.

vincentjk:


To southerners? Northerners should be your topic and not any other region because majority of them over there are just breeders