funmisticqueen:
I got 99 problems but a man ain't one

the guy who broke your heart did a good job. Send me his number let me thank him.

making money is about hustling

Mr, go and hustle

change line of business

ignore your wife and stop giving her attention, but she no try at all

my advice is simple, if you arent making it, find another location, move there alone and hustle hard, send upkeeping for children to your wife

men arent suppose to be complaining all the time, we are problem solvers, lets use our initiative to provide solutions to our problem

from your advice, you have never hustled! you talk like as if things are scripted

cutefy:


No problem... u are included too.

But bear in mind that just as freely it's given to you, so you should do likewise to others...

reza_persia@protonmail.ch

I will appreciate if I can get the blueprint of the hustle. Thanks.

Okeytus:


from your advice, you have never hustled! you talk like as if things are scripted

A lot of people don’t know it takes grace to succeed. May we all succeed this year in Jesus Name.

CarlsJaz567:


I think you are a very young and inexperienced person If you read my comment well, I said my wife supported me in all ways, but when the time was getting elongated - over 2 years, she started showing signs of emotional strains. That doesn't mean she was downright disrespectful at the time. Women will surely nag when they want you to hear them out, and it seems you are stuck to your own ideas! It only signified to me that I had an urgent decision to take.

Am back to taking charge of my own home now and am not begging - so you are not making any points. I hope your marriage last long when you do eventually get married with this attitude of yours.

Thanks

They speak of dumping wives as if it's dumping rubbish. They don't understand that marriages take two to work and understanding. All they know is how to dump, walk out, travel away to teach her a lesson in suffering, how to belittle, to beat, to deprive of, to hate. They say they would rather pay a woman to have a child for them, not knowing it is still the same thing. Nymphs. They live for their ego.

funmisticqueen:
fact of life, money changes both men and women because it comes with control. It's human nature

Your wife is not emasculating you, you are just losing control of the power and finances in the family. Do you know how much BS women tolerate from men in marriages because he earns more?

Uncle, go and hustle or give your pants over to your wife and stop complaining

Just what I thought, a man can NEVER type this poo

It's unfortunate sir that life has brought into this mess you are presently going through.Issues of this nature though open to everybody to comment doesn't mean anybody could just say whatever comes from your mouth.
Some of you here are not even married or lets say a divorcee so please if you dont have anything tangible to say i expect decorum instead of talking out of point.
Back to the issue sir, i think your wife has truly shown you the real woman in her, you dont know the true colour of people until you find yourself in problem. My advice is simple if exerting force to show your fatherly position in the house will cause more problem for you i advice you meet your pastor if you are a Christian and seek his intervention but if it doesn't work call for a family meeting of both families and see if anything can be done and if otherwise dont overstretch yourself keep praying and pls dont always be at home try to go out everyday no matter how small the work might be keep doing it, its a test of life.
God is watching and at the right time HE will strike for you.
And try not to rely on the food at home all the time, it's another weapon you can use. Eat before returning home, by the time she sees that you dont rely on her meals if she is truly a woman of conscience she should be touched. This is my own little contribution. God will see you through.

I just read through most of the comments on this thread, I have come to the conclusion that majority of the females of this generation are ice-cold with no comparison with women ( our mothers) of the past generation. To them getting Married is a means out of poverty or the desire to check a box in the " Single or Married" option.
Single and Free!!

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youngestgrad:
I just read through most of the comments on this thread, I have come to the conclusion that majority of the females of this generation are ice-cold with no comparison with women ( our mothers) of the past generation. To them getting Married is a means out of poverty or the desire to check a box in the " Single or Married" option.
Single and Free!!

Some of the comments send a chill down my spine.

strungup79:


I'm already out of the house and out of town. I'm not lazy. I've put hands in odd jobs, low paying jobs and different types of business. I just need a little favour. I need the touh of God right now.

Bro, all u need is to go for spiritual solution.. Ur problem isn't of the physical..
Look for a strong church n go for prayers...
May God help u get back on ur feet...
Let me ask this..
When things change for the better, how will u handle ur proud,disrespectful wife??
Are u gonna love her like u had always?
Will u stay in d marriage now that she has shown u her true colours??
I thought marriage was for better...for worse..
This kinda thing discourage men from getting married...

GeneralShepherd:


Convince your wife you are still necessary? Na wah oo.

Na she pay the groom price.. Don't mind the theorist!!

uninspired07:


reza_persia@protonmail.ch

I will appreciate if I can get the blueprint of the hustle. Thanks.

Noted... you'll get some updates starting from next week

Kennedyiheme:
men are the kindess amongst both genders... i tell men who want to get married in these time of civilisation that they are only setting traps for themselves... if any man knows what is good.. dont get married.. american men have it bworse.. alimony and child support wan kill them for there

Lol. As long as they are stupid enough to get married, let no one pity them when they are forced to pay exorbitant amounts in child support and alimony.

funmisticqueen:
fact of life, money changes both men and women because it comes with control. It's human nature

Your wife is not emasculating you, you are just losing control of the power and finances in the family. Do you know how much BS women tolerate from men in marriages because he earns more?

Uncle, go and hustle or give your pants over to your wife and stop complaining

Best advice to op. Forget respect and continue to huslte. What you are facing is the reality of life. A wealthier child is even more respected by his parents than others. There are things you can't change. You are here saying you weren't maltreating her, she's not maltreating you either. Give her some credit abeg. You are sounding like this when you are not bringing food to the table. Only God knows how you treated her when you were buoyant. Whatever gave you guys the impression that a man has the final say in every relationship.

funmisticqueen:
marriage is not about control. Money is what gives control. Stop misquoting me from your place of pain.

Also stop this 'poor me' 'boohoo' victim mentality, it is irritating and pathetic. You are the one emasculating yourself, by allowing yourself to be emasculated.

Most likely money was all you had to offer in the marriage and now that you have lost that, you are just like an appendix in your marriage. Existing without function, but capable of causing hell because no one cares about it anymore.

It is not about bringing more money but showing that you are a leader, and being her support. Give her a reason to trust you by showing initiative. Do you think women like to be bread winners? She is picking up your slack.Of course She will be pissed at you subconsciously.

Be proactive, anticipate needs in the marriage that you can provide and meet them without being told or nagged. Convince her that you are still necessary in your marriage. Get your head out of your asshole and be man.


This is the most candid advice you will get from me or on your thread

funmisticqueen:
It wasn't the women who changed, it was simply a role reversal. And men do not like the experience being in a woman's shoes. So they cry and wail that they are being emasculated because they can't take what they mete out to womem

youngestgrad:
I just read through most of the comments on this thread, I have come to the conclusion that majority of the females of this generation are ice-cold with no comparison with women ( our mothers) of the past generation. To them getting Married is a means out of poverty or the desire to check a box in the " Single or Married" option.
Single and Free!!

Women are very heartless and cold in their scheme. #singleandfree

cutefy:


Noted... you'll get some updates starting from next week

Thank you so much.

I eagerly anticipate your email.

Cheers to a wonderful year ahead.

Korllami007:


At bolded.
When someone said most women here are replica of your wife and you should stop explaining to them, you thought he was joking.

Don't mind him. I know these girls very well.

Martinez39:
Don't mind him. I know these girls very well.

LOL.
See how they blame the op for the ungratefulness and arrogance of her wife and turn his wife to angel and turn him to devil despite explaining in the 2nd or 3rd page that he didnt treat his wife bad and he also open joint account with his wife when everything was going well for him.

LordKO:
If you're a Mech. Engr. with at least 2 years previous work experience in the petroleum industry, send me a PM immediately.

As for your wife and her recent attitude, it's obvious that you've been living with a frenemy all this while. Only few men are lucky, and can be lucky, to marry virtuous/submissive women. Since she's of the small-minded stock, you've to master the art of treating small-minded people and mete out same to her - if you aren't small-minded like her too.

I am interested sir..studied mech.engr unn..
In need of a job sir

Madam don't vex abeg. What you called backward reasoning has made many a husband to lose their value and integrity as men. When you pursue a lady and end up marrying her because of her social class and wealth, be ready to face the music whenever it starts playing.

Though l agree with you that it takes good upbringing and individual character for a woman not to lord it over her husband in marriage, but the percentage of such ladies is very low in the reality of our society today.

My candid opinion is still for guys to marry down and never marry up their social class. But for ladies, they can marry up or down.

midnighter:


Stop reasoning in a backward manner.

Whether the lady will submit to you or not depends on so many things, including her individual character and upbringing. Some women are heading multinationals but still rush home to cater to their man yet some will come from the village without even 2 kobo to rub together and begin to drag remote with him.

Earning power and social class should be considered for what they are and not to judge whether a woman will be arrogant or not.

BRATISLAVA:


They speak of dumping wives as if it's dumping rubbish. They don't understand that marriages take two to work and understanding. All they know is how to dump, walk out, travel away to teach her a lesson in suffering, how to belittle, to beat, to deprive of, to hate. They say they would rather pay a woman to have a child for them, not knowing it is still the same thing. Nymphs. They live for their ego.

Its like you just learned this new word " ego"...the way it is shakking you today.

Kobicove:
This is every man's worst nightmare

My brother..... It's terrible ooo
My situation is different though I don't work anymore I'm still the breadwinner by Gods grace.
My wife attacks me all day cos pepper no flow like before

Na so ..

henryobinna:
and trust me you're never going to say anything because you're never going to hear from the wife.

Dehindepgenius:
I am almost completely sure you are not giving us the full picture. It would be really interesting to hear your wife's version of this story. As human beings, we tend to tell stories in a way that favors us and make us garner pity. If your wife is the breadwinner at the moment, she deserves your loyalty, respect and understanding. Taking care of the financial responsibilities of a home is not easy. You plan, you worry, you get afraid, you have sleepless nights...especially if your spouse does not pitch in.
Here's what happens. When a man loses his source of livelihood, every little move by a woman suddenly becomes emaaculating. The woman is already under a terrible strain and you are here to barmouth her to strangers.

I frankly do not believe you are doing enough. Factories abound, uber is there, the keke business is there, even uneducated teenagers from the north are hustling and making a good living riding bikes.

Yea, sometimes a man experiences setbacks, my dad did. The true measure of manhood lies in dusting yourself off the ground and trying again. These days sadly, there are too many lazy men who whine instead of actually being men. If you are here bad mouthing your wife, then I'm willing to bet, you do it everywhere. My cousin went through this. Everybody called her wicked. The husband's elder brother was like come and stay with me and I'll fix you up with something. They no tell the brother. Las Las he chases the man out of his home and told everyone to ignore the man because he is lazy. All he does is play video games and sleep.

Society is particularly unfair to women. A quick look through this site will convince any unbiased person of that. You already have men pitying you and condemning your wife which is exactly what you wanted. Oga poster, you came here seeking pity, looking for people to condemn your wife and soothe your ego and you already have faceless strangers doing that, but the truth is you are failing as a husband and a father. These people cheering you on and telling you your wife is wicked are in their ow homes hustling and taking care of their business.

I am a man like you and I will not lie to you. You are your own problem. Take these steps.

1. First of all, love and appreciate your wife. Thank her for all she does.

2. Pray hard and ask God to show you why you are experiencing hard luck. Folks here might not tell you the truth, but you may have a character flaw that is working against you. You may actually be lazy, most lazy people won't admit it. It may also be karma. You may have treated others, including your wife badly in the past hence the problems. Yes, it happens. Find out what the problem is and fix it.

3. Hustle, hustle, hustle! I don't believe in excuses. Real men don't. Meanwhile, what do you do? You can mail me your cv at dehindep@gmail.com.

Good day sir..the email is bouncing back..i need ur help n i want to send my cv

That's women for you,my prayers for we men is that God will continually lift us up,my brother just be prayerful,you will be lifted again in Jesus name.Please do not pick any quarrel with her,if she gives you food fine and if not fine. It could be difficult when you think about it for you never treated her like that but that's just the way they were created. You shall be lifted in Jesus name brother

strungup79:
I'm 42 years old and married with 3 children (2 boys and a girl). I got married to this beatiful lady 13 years ago and everything was bliss until three years ago when my business experienced a serious down turn.

My wife on the other hand witnessed an upturn in fortunes and practically became the bread winner in the home.

Her good financial fortune had me focussed on trying to get myself back on track. I tried getting a job, but it was not forth coming.

My business continued to dwindle and then I resorted to doing small odd jobs just so I could contribute to the family upkeep.

My wife's upturn in fortune however brought out the ugliness in her. She started trying to assume control of the home. She stopped consulting me on decisions concerning our home, rather consulting her parents. She practically turned my kids against me as she painted me as irresponsible.

We initially had assess to each other's account, but now she has accounts hidden from me. I just found out she bought land somewhere, though she doesn't know I have that knowledge.

She has become rude and disrespectful and her parents and siblings have taken over my home. I am so pained because all I ever did was show her love and respect.

She didn't like the fact i tried to have order in my home and that seems to be my sin. I have never hit her or been wicked to her.

Right now, I'm pained and confused. I don't know what to do. Someone please help.

2020 will and must surely be your year.Have faith in God and dont be pushed to do illegal stuffs cos of money.You shall conquer.........

maak400:

Sorry about your predicament sir, I can only imagine what you’re going through. That’s the nature of women who suddenly become richer than their husband, similar cases like yours abound everywhere. God did not create women to be the provider of the house, so anytime circumstances happen to make a woman the provider, they simply become proud and treat the husband like shit. Just keep praying and hoping that your business bounces back. Also, ensure that you still put your foot down as the head of your home no matter what attitude your wife is displaying.

Many of us shout 'A-yam a Christian... A-yam a Christian...' upandan but konji won't allow them follow Christ's coded directive as concerns marriage. Let everybody be deceiving themselves dt DT part of d bible does not exist


Matthew 19:10-12 (KJV)
His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, It is not good to marry.

But he (Jesus) said unto them, "all men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given.

For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it".

LordKO:
If you're a Mech. Engr. with at least 2 years previous work experience in the petroleum industry, send me a PM immediately.

As for your wife and her recent attitude, it's obvious that you've been living with a frenemy all this while. Only few men are lucky, and can be lucky, to marry virtuous/submissive women. Since she's of the small-minded stock, you've to master the art of treating small-minded people and mete out same to her - if you aren't small-minded like her too.

Best advice. Peoples circumstances change not their character.

Martinez39:
Lol. As long as they are stupid enough to get married, let no one pity them when they are forced to pay exorbitant amounts in child support and alimony.

ones of my cousins that has been there for 20 15 years says the courts still mandates he pays child support for kids that arent his... the biological father is active in the kid's lives but he still has to pay child support...these women are dangerous.. africans and americans.. women have the same nature.. americans are worse because there is law there, the law is against men in relationships