makydebbie:


Ah, so you're like this and you opened thread with sub stories? You deserve whatever you got from this forum, next time don't complain.

She is entitled to her opinions no matter how reprehensible they may be.

makydebbie:


Ah, so you're like this and you opened thread with sub stories? You deserve whatever you got from this forum, next time don't complain.

what's wrong with you?

Ishilove:

She is entitled to her opinions no matter how reprehensible they may be.

thanks dear! please leave her be.


I'm going to give my haters something to gnash their teeth on. I'm gonna own this evil and continue to be a thorn on their puny existence.

Won bi won da!

I owe no one an apology for existing.

funmisticqueen:
thanks dear! please leave her be.


I'm going to give my haters something to gnash their teeth on. I'm gonna own this evil and continue to be a thorn on their puny existence.

Won bi won da!

I owe no one an apology for existing.

Lol. Are you evil? I don't think so. I just think your opinions are unconventional and jarring.

Ishilove:

Lol. Are you evil? I don't think so. I just think your opinions are unconventional and jarring.

unconventional and jarring enough to get me fired from the workplace?

To be honest, I really don't understand. What is so bad about what I said?

funmisticqueen:
unconventional and jarring enough to get me fired from the workplace?

To be honest, I really don't understand. What is so bad about what I said?

Did you get fired from your workplace?

Well, it's not bad although some may view it as unsympathetic. The guy is crying about losing his pants to his wife and you opine that he either hustles or give up the pants to madam. That's cold

Ishilove:

She is entitled to her opinions no matter how reprehensible they may be.

Then she shouldn't be emotional about the way she's treated here since it's the same she dishes out.

Ishilove:

Did you get fired from your workplace?

Well, it's not bad although some may view it as unsympathetic. The guy is crying about losing his pants to his wife and you opine that he either hustles or give up the pants to madam. That's cold

no I didn't, but people keep insinuating it

funmisticqueen:
thanks dear! please leave her be.


I'm going to give my haters something to gnash their teeth on. I'm gonna own this evil and continue to be a thorn on their puny existence.

Won bi won da!

I owe no one an apology for existing.

Fool!

Have you committed the suicide I'll be waiting to see 'Nobody' before this month runs out.

makydebbie:


Then she shouldn't be emotional about the way she's treated here since it's the same she dishes out.

Funny, take note. You've got to be tough if you wanna be tough

Pridestorm:

Fool!

Have you committed the suicide I'll be waiting to see 'Nobody' before this month runs out.

I won't give you that satisfaction.

makydebbie:


Then she shouldn't be emotional about the way she's treated here since it's the same she dishes out.

Rolls eyes

SMH. I now believe a lot of people in Nigeria have mental health issues.

Make God help us. The wahala of this country has turned many—especially our women—to beasts.

I get scared anytime I see some comments. Disturbed people everywhere.

It is well.

funmisticqueen:
I won't give you that satisfaction.

I never asked nor craved for your pathetic satisfaction. Use that satisfaction to satisfy your attitude. Go and look for who'll marry you jareeee..

Pridestorm:


I never asked nor craved for your pathetic satisfaction. Use that satisfaction to satisfy your attitude. Go and look for who'll marry you jareeee..

Eat my dust.

funmisticqueen:
Eat my dust.

Ẹgbin

Ilekokonit:


Your words will come back to bite you.

At 25 you are still a child when it comes to REAL LIFE work experience.

Don't let your qualification as a Doctor deceive you 'cos even those who studied medicine at Cambridge University, UK are still subject to some of us, so before you open your mouth to say silly stuff in response to career saving advice given to you, think deeply than not every one on here gives a hoot about your medical degree as some people on this anonymous forum can employ you and pay you 10 times what you are earning as a Doctor with just the money they spend on socializing monthly.

Try and read between the lines in CALMNESS as your God sent helper that can elevate your finances at record speed may be one of the people you are insulting here daily and remember that it doesn't all end in Nigeria as you may still meet some of the people you have insulted here abroad and they already know your face. So, simmer down and learn as the world is a shrinking global village and you don't want to burn all your bridges as your face is already known from your profile.

So, as a CHILD of 25, take a chill pill and keep quiet and learn for once. If you have mental health issues like you have alluded to on one of your posts then focus on completing your counseling sessions and if need be take anti depressants and stop being so cantankerous especially when people who can help your situation are giving you advise.

That girl is damaged beyond repair. Those who spoil her life did an excellent job. She herself gan gan is vile.

RisenPhoenix:


They once did... until the new cultural farce emerged that a woman must help/support her husband in the home; some dodo interpreting that help to be financial rather than emotional and mental. That was when society started placing an expectation on women to become at least partial breadwinners; and made men give up part or all of their control over the household in exchange. Men opened the door for their own emasculation; no doubt about it.

If it is not natural for women to financially support there spouse without grumblings, then don't you think we should scrap Marriage? So that no party will feel cheated or used.
Let people just date, gf/bf things and when any is tired they can safely break it because with the look of things Marriage is stacked against Men.
Believe me, unless you are from a wealthy home or a civil servant with job security, any other man can easily meet rough weather in this journey of Life and in that case, the average woman will make earth become Hell for him.

DNSPro:
most of you just like making blanket statements. If you can't give break down of how the man can get out of current situation, please do not waste nairaland bandwidth

Don't mind them.
They all will just be saying Hustle! Hustle!! Hustle!!!
From there statements, you will know they have never done any business in their Life before.
My broda, whether you like am Hustle from now till tomorrow, if you are not in the right Clique and path, you will do that until you drop dead.
In a country with high poverty rate with a lot of people working there asses off with little to nothing to show for it, it will take the grace of God to pull out of struggling.

@ Op.

Break down of hustling to my best of knowledge - provided you didn't see any reasonable job of atleast 50k, pls look into business.
Go to Cow market and join the Butchers and learn how they buy cows or combine to buy cows like 3 or 4 people and butcher in the market.
On average, most make nothing less than 5k profit from 1/4 cow per day, some 10k, some more.
They are really doing fine. I know it is degrading for a graduate or a certificate holder but bro you are at an All Time Low and you will need to keep your Ego and mingle with the so called illiterates to make money and spring up.
A 150k or more per month is not a bad one after all.
Or join AFAN (All Farmers Association of Nigeria ) where you meet virtually all farmers planting things growing in your state.
Go to there farms and let them be your mentor and consultants in your own rented farm.
An Acre of land per year in Ogun state as a case study is 6k per year and 15k per year for Hectare.
Acre is 6 standard plots why Hectare is 15 plots.
Plant Ugu, tomatoes, pepper, Okro, cucumber, Ewedu etc They grow within 45 days max and you harvest Weekly after which you can keep leasing more lands to expand.
Other notable mentions -
Learn Scrap metals buying, weighing and selling.
Buying of used cartons from market women and selling to recycling companies.
Meet people in quarry/soft sand/sharp sand miners and buyers to learn the trade.
Producers of charcoal - they buy trees in the forest, burn it at night and butcher it after which they sell to charcoal exporters.
All these businesses are Low capital investment startups that you can start with as Low as 100k.
Look into selling of Ice blocks also - my aunt is doing it in Sagamu and making 5-10k profit every blessed day from selling ice blocks worth 30-50k per day (she is not producing it rather buying from producers). Start up is less than 100k.
Also, buying of crates of Eggs from big poultry and selling in market but you will need to learn this from a successful seller.
With 100k, you can buy 100 crates of egg and make like #100 per crate and you can be selling 100 crates or more per week if you know it.
You can even pair the agricultural planting with selling of eggs. Attend to your crops in the morning before 9am after which you open you egg shop.
Many more, Shallom

Ilekokonit:


I know someone in England who wanted to bring his wife from Naija and she was refused a Visa obviously because she was pregnant and she was delayed by the embassy in Naija until she had the baby in Naija.

The guy went back to England and was paying £100 per hour to a Lawyer to fight her case and eventually she was granted a visa and he took her and the baby to England with him.

Fast forward to a few years of her being in England and every thing was going fairly well until he lost his job but he got a good redundancy payout such that he was able to keep paying the monthly mortgage on the house he bought for a few years and look after wife and kids without stress. Note that he bought the house putting down the initial deposit and the wife did not contribute a penny as she was unemployed BUT he still put the house purchase in joint names - Mr and Mrs.

When he lost his job and he, wife and kids had almost exhausted his redundancy pay and savings on daily living, they sold the house and downsized to a smaller rented house.

Half of the profit on the sale of the house was used to pay 6 months rent upfront for the newly rented house and Bros took the other half to try his hands at business in Naija in 2004 not knowing that Naija was very expensive.

After 2 months Bros came back to England to meet an UNCOOPERATIVE WIFE who wanted him out of the house at all costs.

Little did Bros know that the minute he departed for Naija 2 months earlier, his scheming wife WHO HE BROUGHT TO ENGLAND AGAINST ALL ODDS INCLUDING VISA DENIAL - went straight to the authorities and "claimed" that her husband had abandoned them and England being anti family and being the single parent capital of Europe started giving her single parent money on top of her part time salary.

This same Bros had to pack out of the house less than one hour after returning from Naija with all his unopened luggage to a hotel as the wife made the house so hot that he had no option but to pack out.

Her game plan was to make the house so hostile for him so that she becomes genuinely a single mother and continue enjoying the single parent money from the marriage breaking UK Government.

There was a time Bros had to sleep in his car in the cold winter when his wife told him he was using her for shelter - just because the 6 month rent Bros paid had expired and she was now paying the rent and Bros was job hunting.

His son on the way to school saw him sleeping in the car in the cold winter and just shook his head. The same man who gave the wife British papers, bought a house when she didn't have a job and put her name on it as joint owner is now using her for shelter because she has started paying rent just for 2 months

They have been separated for the past 14 years but the wicked wife has managed to turn their children against him including the one born in Naija during her visa denial period.

When I see such stories as above, it strengthens my resolve against ever setting up a woman financially or helping a woman in any way as most of them are back stabbing ingrates.

A woman's game plan is to expend a young mans energy and finances on looking after her and her kids and once the man has set her up financially, she has no need for him again and she starts acting like a witch so that the man will get the message and leave the house for her so that she can become the lawmaker in the house.

BOTTOM LINE IS THAT AN EDUCATED WOMAN CAN NEVER EVER BE SUBMISSIVE "LONG TERM".

Hmmmmmmmmmmm
That is why i don't ever support all these Abroad guys coming home to pick Local Wives, it is really really Dangerous.
If you are poor, your wife will be praying for you to Die so that she can have her Freedom to be fvcking around without much criticism because people will say afterall she has no husband and if you Decide not to Die, Worst case scenario she packs out of the house to get the Freedom she wants.
If you are verryy verryyy Rich also, your wife will be praying Hard for you to Die to that she can Inherit your wealth and become the Boss at home without Restrictions.

If you are Average, you are safe for now but your Wife will be praying for you to be Rich and encouraging you to Hustle more so that you can be Rich and after been Rich....... Then read about what i wrote Above about been Rich.
Inside Life.

emmaodet:


If it is not natural for women to financially support there spouse without grumblings, then don't you think we should scrap Marriage? So that no party will feel cheated or used.
Let people just date, gf/bf things and when any is tired they can safely break it because with the look of things Marriage is stacked against Men.
Believe me, unless you are from a wealthy home or a civil servant with job security, any other man can easily meet rough weather in this journey of Life and in that case, the average woman will make earth become Hell for him.

Marriage is not stacked against anyone when done fairly. The woman gets children, and support for herself and them, the man gets children and more safe regular sex as well as emotional support. It's a fair exchange if done right.

If you scrap marriage, how does the population continue to propagate itself? Who is responsible for the upkeep of the pregnant woman, her post childbirth expenses, as well as the resulting children? and how do you ensure that incest is prevented without going through expensive DNA testing for every bf/gf that wish to have a child together? Besides, do you really think that throwing an additional 3 billion currently non-employed housewives into the already scarce workplace is a sustainable concept?
Scrapping marriage creates more problems in society than it solves.

Sterope:
I have heard. My advice to you is that don't be poor.

No story kind of response from you above. This got me laughing, wicked truth. Most of you, women on Nairaland are special breed or we should call you new generation.

Kekereekun123:
my dad was one of MKOs trusted staff before he went to set up us own business in the 80s. One of MKO's wife came for my naming ceremony self. My father has only one house he built in 1992. He so much believed in helping people. By 2010 when my mama came back to nigeria. She bought a jeep of 4m while my father has no car lol( in 2001 he had 2 cars and a bus).She later built duplex and moved there . Same man wey buy her benz in 1998 hahahahaha. I have learnt the hard way. I only date working class ladies. Once you ask me for money for tfare, hair or uber its over . The last one i dated earns 276k in a bank as an assistant banking officer but was asking for uber money.

And the irony of it all is that most of them actually need relationships that will lead to marriage. Why can't they be in relationship without asking for money? In most cases, they simply put men off by their incessant demands for money no matter how comfortable they are on their own. Na curse?

bizgenera:

My proposition.

What if 1,000 nairalanders can donate just 1k each, making it a million and we invest it on behalf of this couple with MBA ( a legit investment management company)
That company will be sending them 150k monthly as profit

Is this actually possible in Nigeria? Invest of 1Investment million naira will be yielding 150k naira monthly when one is not actively involved in the business!

strungup79:
I'm 42 years old and married with 3 children (2 boys and a girl). I got married to this beatiful lady 13 years ago and everything was bliss until three years ago when my business experienced a serious down turn.

My wife on the other hand witnessed an upturn in fortunes and practically became the bread winner in the home.

Her good financial fortune had me focussed on trying to get myself back on track. I tried getting a job, but it was not forth coming.

My business continued to dwindle and then I resorted to doing small odd jobs just so I could contribute to the family upkeep.

My wife's upturn in fortune however brought out the ugliness in her. She started trying to assume control of the home. She stopped consulting me on decisions concerning our home, rather consulting her parents. She practically turned my kids against me as she painted me as irresponsible.

We initially had assess to each other's account, but now she has accounts hidden from me. I just found out she bought land somewhere, though she doesn't know I have that knowledge.

She has become rude and disrespectful and her parents and siblings have taken over my home. I am so pained because all I ever did was show her love and respect.

She didn't like the fact i tried to have order in my home and that seems to be my sin. I have never hit her or been wicked to her.

Right now, I'm pained and confused. I don't know what to do. Someone please help.

Hello Everybody,
I'd like to thank you all for your support, all the advice, reprimands and rebuke. My only interest was saving my marriage which I felt was on the cusp of collapse. Things are being fixed as I write. It's been a case of misconstrued intentions and ultimately my wife is not an evil person. We burt each other by things that we didn't understand especially on my part. I love my wife dearly and it's never been about money. True, my wife currently earns more than I do and shoulders the bulk of the responsibility. I guess the pressure got to us both especially me for being unable to meet my financial obligations.
The story I posted was not real, but a representation of what I felt was going on to protect our identities. Truthwillout is my wife. Once again I thank you all. Right now we're trying to heal and fix the cracks that led to this unfortunate scenario.
Thank you all.

NB: She didn't turn the children against me. She didn't buy land anywhere and she has never referred to me as irresponsible.

Kekereekun123:
same thing happened to by father. But he is not without blame. He never took advices my mother gave e.g build a school, build houses for rent. Stop father chrismas. My father was the largest donor to our church building project, he sponsored many inlaws and siblings in school and abroad , encouraged an apprentice that used to repair our lister generator to go to school and sponsored him. His driver built house in ota with his assistance. He believed givers never lacked. At the turn of the century technology made his business obsolete. Every other business he tried all failed or was duped till he became broke. Those who built schools were already cashing in my mum used to tell him. My mum would later go to hustle abroad she used his usa account. He took 4000 usd from her money . Still could not get back on his feet. To pay our school fees na beg we beg tire as she said its our papa duty. By the time by mum came back to nigeria after 9 years she don build 3 houses (12 flats) and started a thriving business. My dad also went to usa for 3 year could not hustle like my mama. Had to come back. We sha rough am. My mama later begin dey do the needful to us but not to my father. Today our last born twins don graduate. My mother is still a big madam while my father na me and my big bro dey send am 70k combined monthly.

The effect of this in my life is i dont trust any woman with money. Any woman wey no fit spend on me freely is not a wife.

what of all these bundle of people your dad helped?

Godsfavour78:
what of all these bundle of people your dad helped?

nawa for you o. U no sabi as he dey go ni. Only one inlaw (na him pay for hin usa runs in 87 or 88 )helped him in usa. Free house for 6 months. The rest no where to be found. I don't help people financially today. Every money i get i invest asap. Some of abiola's kids today cannot pay their school fees. Naso life be

midnighter:

But seriously, he has a point dear.

It won't be nice for all this to come up if you want to travel. Maybe you should try going underground

Thanks for your contribution above.

She doesn't know how the Western world of work works and the DETAILED scrutiny and checks - offline and online - that is carried out on EVERYONE who will work with vulnerable children and adults and she will not listen to advise that can protect her young career.

If she was content to stay put in Nigeria forever without travelling out to work in Western countries then fair enough but if you want to work as a Medic in Western countries you have to be open to all sort of scrutiny - offline and online.

I've got 2 Ex School mates who have their own successful General Medical Practice in America and search their names all you can on the internet and you will never find any social media trace and all that will be returned are pages that state their Medical Specialties and Practice address. Now that is being pre-emptively smart because the internet never forgets.

funmisticqueen:
thanks dear! please leave her be.


I'm going to give my haters something to gnash their teeth on. I'm gonna own this evil and continue to be a thorn on their puny existence.

Won bi won da!

I owe no one an apology for existing.

nnaeyes6:


I.personally weep for u because u are a stupid woman.
Don't u know when a man tends to have more money he takes more care of the wife and family and give more and more without thinking or insulting the wife?

A man is telling u her pain of a woman whom when she had no money, was respectful and taking care of the husband and u are here trying to justify that money changes both men and women.

Money changes women a lot especially when they feel they are the ones in charge of the family.


OGA with wahala
This is my advice!

For the sake of ur life, just leave that home and rent another apartment to calm down ur head. Women can frustrate ones life when they have the means to do so.

And as for ur kids, don't worry, they are seeing everything. They won't wish to have a domineering wife like their mother tomorrow. Is just the girls. They will want to control their husband like their mother is doing now.
However, give that home some space.
Bible didn't support divorce but it supports tentative separation.
Go get urself fixed up and take care of ur kids in sincerity. U will reap from them someday.

And as for sex. Collect it anywhere to maintain life.

Enjoy

bible don't support collecting sex from anywhere except your wife sir.

Ilekokonit:


Thanks for your contribution above.

She doesn't know how the Western world of work works and the DETAILED scrutiny and checks - offline and online - that is carried out on EVERYONE who will work with vulnerable children and adults and she will not listen to advise that can protect her young career.

If she was content to stay put in Nigeria forever without travelling out to work in Western countries then fair enough but if you want to work as a Medic in Western countries you have to be open to all sort of scrutiny - offline and online.

I've got 2 Ex School mates who have their own successful General Medical Practice in America and search their names all you can on the internet and you will never find any social media trace and all that will be returned are pages that state their Medical Specialties and Practice address. Now that is being pre-emptively smart because the internet never forgets.

I disagree with almost everything you have said concerning this thread, but in this case, this comment is going to be very short because youre totally correct.

I really dont have anything to add but I hope she takes your advice, as in "dont shoot the messenger".

Godsfavour78:
what of all these bundle of people your dad helped?

Of course, as soon as they realised that cash was no longer flowing, they all ran away! Are you not a Nigerian

Youre supposed to know the end of this kind of story by now.