lopsoj:
This is to seek for your honest solution to this situation, no insult pls.

My younger sister is very friendly, and cynical, but this attitude of hers, is always to the extreme, she mostly lived with our elderly sister and her husband, while they leave her alone at home with their children often, this continue for long. During this time, i was away from home, because my work took me out of town.

Before my return, I was informed that my sister was pregnant for a thug she met whenever she was sent on an errand. According to her, this guy always waylaid her on the road threatening her to have sex with him, but she said it happened after she frolic with him and some other friends around the neighborhood, before he started making advances toward her. She is in her early twenties

To cut the story short, how they get to become intimate was a surprise to us. Because right now she is with a child and he wants the child to be born, yet he has no regard for any of us in our family, he insult us at will, and he is also a muslim.

Recently his family came over to apologise for his misconduct and demand we release the mother and the unborn child to them. meanwhile we do not want to have anything to do with a thug, that has no regard for the family with no sign of remorse. what do you think we can possible do on this issue

what is your tribe first?, where do you people live?, what is your customs? when you want advise from public there's bases information you need to include. I have to know all this before I can advise every tribe in Nigeria have custom before government law or support. and a man whom start impregnate a lady before demanding for marriage should also ask about the girl tribe culture because you as a man can't force your culuture or religion to someone that have to given to you in marriage. so tells tribe first?, where do you people live?, what is your customs? when you want advise from public.

uninspired07:


Exactly. The OP’s sister fell for the guy. She cannot tell us or her family that nice, well behaved Christian guys didn’t disturb her but she fell for a thug—and a Muslim one at that. Shameful!!!

ever heard about a serial killer called the night stalker
this was a guy who would sneak into a lady"s room she was sleeping and gut the victim's inside open.he was a very vicious serial killer.the day he was arrested many young ladies were crying for his attention.he even had a huge female fan base and many ladies thought him good looking and sexy even though he was a vicious serial killer.some ladies just love bad boys.they are wired that way.its the same way ladies run after cultist when in the univ cos they believe cult guys are real men .

lopsoj:
This is to seek for your honest solution to this situation, no insult pls.

My younger sister is very friendly, and cynical, but this attitude of hers, is always to the extreme, she mostly lived with our elderly sister and her husband, while they leave her alone at home with their children often, this continue for long. During this time, i was away from home, because my work took me out of town.

Before my return, I was informed that my sister was pregnant for a thug she met whenever she was sent on an errand. According to her, this guy always waylaid her on the road threatening her to have sex with him, but she said it happened after she frolic with him and some other friends around the neighborhood, before he started making advances toward her. She is in her early twenties

To cut the story short, how they get to become intimate was a surprise to us. Because right now she is with a child and he wants the child to be born, yet he has no regard for any of us in our family, he insult us at will, and he is also a muslim.

Recently his family came over to apologise for his misconduct and demand we release the mother and the unborn child to them. meanwhile we do not want to have anything to do with a thug, that has no regard for the family with no sign of remorse. what do you think we can possible do on this issue

U abandoned ur sister and she found attention in the arms of a thug and now u complaining or did she say she was raped??

The deed has been done u have to care for her till she has the baby and work out Smtn, maybe vistation with the thug and his family. Invoke the police if necessary.

No u can’t had over ur dear pregnant sisters to complete strangers and parents to a thug. Hell no! Ur family will care for her as she is not planning to marry the thug or is she?

I don't understand why u have to call him a thug when he did not rape ur sister,neither did he deny the pregnancy or tried to beat or molest her.or did he Bluetooth the pregnancy to her? No be ur sister carry Toto give am?
What does that make ur sister?
Ndi ala to the two of you.

AfroKnight:


This your comment comes from a place of wounded ego only because he dismissed your advice on abortion. Lol. Calm down. Even you cannot instill flawless religion into your own children. They will choose what to believe when they grow up, except you manipulate them into religious zombies for your purposes.

The OP clearly wrote that she met the thug whenever they sent her on errands. But you must rub the situation in his face just cos he politely didn’t subscribe to your views.

So people dismissing your advice wounds your ego and therefore everyone must feel the same way as you do. Very petty and pathetic of you.

A 20 year old lady that is well thought from childhood to refuse advances from men will not easily give in to a wealthy responsible man let alone a filthy thug.

The lady wasn't well thought. I maintain my point.

lefulefu:
ever heard about a serial killer called the night stalker
this was a guy who would sneak into a lady"s room she was sleeping and gut the victim's inside open.he was a very vicious serial killer.the day he was arrested many young ladies were crying for his attention.he even had a huge female fan base and many ladies thought him good looking and sexy even though he was a vicious serial killer.some ladies just love bad boys.they are wired that way.its the same way ladies run after cultist when in the univ cos they believe cult guys are real men .

Na soooo. That’s why I don’t pity them when they fall pregnant. And I also don’t support a single, never married guy marrying a baby mama and single parent.

It’s not fair for a good guy to inherit the left over of a bad boy.

OP dont give out your sister to a thug or area boy, they will maltreat her.

Your sister is young and naive, thug and area boy, dont respect women, they are higly irresposible.

This is experience .

GraGra247:


So people dismissing your advice wounds your ego and therefore everyone must feel the same way as you do. Very petty and pathetic of you.

A 20 year old lady that is well thought from childhood to refuse advances from men will not easily give in to a wealthy responsible man let alone a filthy thug.

The lady wasn't well thought. I maintain my point.

Lol.

Your gra gra shows that you were pained when he dismissed your advice.

Not everyone views abortion from your perspective.

Even you who are talking here; your parents didn’t raise you to become a troll on Nairaland. Have they failed? So calm down.

..what u sow,u reap

Explicit02:
Firstly it is wrong to call your in-law thug

I guess because he knew you call him a thug that makes him have no regard for you guys...

Be kind to him and fix a date for intro and accept the fate unless your sister will become a baby mama and that stigma may affect her later in future


My view on this

Islam is not allowing you to think straight. You picked so much interest because you want the poor girl to marry a Muslim. You must be an idiot. I pray your sister end up with a thug so that you can give this same advice. Religion bigots

uninspired07:


That’s why I was asking the OP what kind of girl his sister is because normal girl of 20 will not allow you fvck her if she doesn’t like you.

OP’s sister must have fallen for the guy’s strong personality & it’s unfortunate that he’s the wrong kind of guy for her.

no mind op and his sister, the guy did not force her, girls of now fuvk at ease, she like the guy final!

athorello:
We're christians
We can fvck
We can take postinor 2
But we can't abort.

Your options before the matter escalated. Now, you can't even abort if you want to. Wahala wa!

Anyway, if I had my way when I was in your shoes I would have prevented a distasteful experience. My late didnt let me have my way, the girl sef no gree take my advice. Now, it's a pain in the arse.
That someone impregnated your sister doesn't mean you should alter the course of her life (oh, we don't even know the true course of her life).
I have seen thugs/cultists who later became threatening big men in the society, legislators, even house speakers.
I have also seen thugs who after putting unwise girls in the family way (and the girls family allow them be), lost their lives or became useless after their ogas lost political relevance, lost power or they fell out.
So there are different possibilities.
Follow ya heart but your sisters heart matters too. This might be her destiny.
If I advise people in real life, they'll say I'm confused. I will tell them that I don't really know how to advice people but my instincts (first thoughts) are mostly right.

Don't deceive yourself.
Any contraceptive is the same as abortion.
Postinor 2 is a contraceptive.

Airforce1:
That man you called "Thug" could become a governor tomorow

Example is Yaya Bello and Lagos future governor, MC OLUOMO.

Badass!

uninspired07:


Being Muslim has a lot to do ooo.

Which sensible Christian will allow his daughter marry a Muslim?

A real "sensible Christian" loves everyone and accepts them regardless their background or religion. Btw let your sister make her own decision for herself. From what you said she's in her early 20s and is old enough to know who she wants to have sex with and what she wants to do with her baby.

jclassiq:


Obviously you are a single mother. Weldone.

Nah...

lopsoj:
This is to seek for your honest solution to this situation, no insult pls.

My younger sister is very friendly, and cynical, but this attitude of hers, is always to the extreme, she mostly lived with our elderly sister and her husband, while they leave her alone at home with their children often, this continue for long. During this time, i was away from home, because my work took me out of town.

Before my return, I was informed that my sister was pregnant for a thug she met whenever she was sent on an errand. According to her, this guy always waylaid her on the road threatening her to have sex with him, but she said it happened after she frolic with him and some other friends around the neighborhood, before he started making advances toward her. She is in her early twenties

To cut the story short, how they get to become intimate was a surprise to us. Because right now she is with a child and he wants the child to be born, yet he has no regard for any of us in our family, he insult us at will, and he is also a muslim.

Recently his family came over to apologise for his misconduct and demand we release the mother and the unborn child to them. meanwhile we do not want to have anything to do with a thug, that has no regard for the family with no sign of remorse. what do you think we can possible do on this issue

Op don't be naive. Most of the ppl advising you to marry off your sister to that guy are doing so for religious reasons. I can tell you that many of them are Muslims and what they want is the eventual conversion of your sister into Islam. Let me tell you from experience that a thug will always be a thug, if you are unable to talk to that guy now when he still needs your consent to marry your sister, DON'T EVER think that you will be able to deliver your sister from his hands WHEN(not if) he starts to maltreat her. I have an example right in front of my family house here in Ilorin. The unfortunate girl has now had 2 kids for the thug who is also a suspected cultist and was forcefully converted to Islam. The last time I heard, the girl has ran away from him when she could no longer bear the humiliation and is now at large

maasoap:


The fact that the guy is a thug doesn't border you a bit. But the fact he's a Muslim is your own headache. Una well done. Fanatics everywhere

.its not about fanatics....As a muslim, would u allow your daughter marry a non muslim

A thug? Was she asleep?

remove the girl from that area forever and be done with it.

lanreHeda:
.its not about fanatics....As a muslim, would u allow your daughter marry a non muslim

This is nothing of a big deal in Yoruba land. My sister married a Christian, my brother married a Christian. Your children can be forced to practise your religion but the moment they are on their own, there is little you can do on whatever the religion they decide to identify with

maasoap:


This is nothing of a big deal in Yoruba land. My sister married a Christian, my brother married a Christian. Your children can be forced to practise your religion but the moment they are on their own, there is little you can do on whatever the religion they decide to identify with

.Well thats for you.....to some people its a big deals and it doesnt make them fanatics

Michellekabod2:
everyone makes mistakes.

They annoy me so much. If the sister had protected herself, OP would not be worrying about a thug becoming a part of his family.

It takes two to tango

uninspired07:


I am not a fanatic. I am just being realistic.

Nothing realistic about this because it is not you. You are just a third party.

I won’t want any woman in my family to fall into such a ditch (marrying a Muslim). It’s not hate, I just don’t like it.

If I were the OP ooo, I will either abort the baby or we keep the baby & rename the baby to our family name.

If you go for abortion without the consent of the girl, you may end up in prison because if it becomes police and court case, the girl may testify against you. This is not a case of minor girl.

About the renaming, how is that even possible when the father didn't reject being responsible for the pregnancy?

Explicit02:
Firstly it is wrong to call your in-law thug

I guess because he knew you call him a thug that makes him have no regard for you guys...

Be kind to him and fix a date for intro and accept the fate unless your sister will become a baby mama and that stigma may affect her later in future


My view on this

The the person in question a doctor? That's what he is....a thug.
Your point should be that this thug is a local man, yet to blow like MC Olumo

Ebenezar2020:
abort ke?
are u sick in the head? don't u have regards for human life?

Look around Nigeria, do they regard human life?

How well are unwanted children looked after?

Would YOU ever consider adopting an unwanted child?

Ndibunna:



This is your picture below and you have right to call another person a thug.

Where do I start to Judge now.

With the way u have described this guy don't even think of marrying your sister to the guy, no matter what anyone says, if you love your sister and want her to have a happy life.

What to do now?
1. Once the baby is born if the guy or his family, insist on having custody of the baby, give the baby to them but keep in mind ooo if ur sister or your family doesn't want to give the baby away you can keep the baby, legally under the law in issues like this 90% of the time the court of law will give custody to the mother of the child and considering the circumstances surrounding this case, if the custody of the child ever becomes an issue and the case gets to court, be rest assured that custody will be given to your sister.

2. After the baby is born take your sister away from that area, to another place entirely, if possible another state, let her further her education (university) or learn a trade, by now she is already a mother and she also needs to step up to the plate and contribute her own quota to the upbringing of the child.

Lastly ur sister needs your support and that of the whole family, this is not the time to play the blame game or condemn her, but rather encourage her and show her love, keep in mind the decisions you take now over this issue will go a long way in shaping your sisters future.

I pray God hives you the wisdom to handle this matter appropriately.

A thug plus Muslim hmmmmm

GraGra247:



Please don't follow the advice of this possible fellow thug. Maybe he's even the person himself. A thug is a thug and should have nothing to do with normal human beings.

Get your sister to abort. If its too late, let her have the baby but hand it over to the baby daddy's family if they insist they want the baby.

Seek a future for your sister with a responsible man elsewhere.

Your family is paying the price of neglect of your sister. They shouldn't make the mistake twice.

you think the sister who opens her leg for a thug is actually okay too. Was she raped? If No, there is a chance she will still open her legs for the same thug. This is a girl in her early twenties, so she is some way aware of what she is doing. Some girls like those gangsters .. I tell you... her sister should be examined first as this is his problem not the thug! There are other girls available for the thug !

GraGra247:


Your family is Christian and yet failed woefully in the responsibility of teaching your sister till she's strong enough to overcome the deceit of wayward men.

She must have been taught... Ko GBA eko ni... She chose to do what was in her mind all along...

lopsoj:
This is to seek for your honest solution to this situation, no insult pls.

My younger sister is very friendly, and cynical, but this attitude of hers, is always to the extreme, she mostly lived with our elderly sister and her husband, while they leave her alone at home with their children often, this continue for long. During this time, i was away from home, because my work took me out of town.

Before my return, I was informed that my sister was pregnant for a thug she met whenever she was sent on an errand. According to her, this guy always waylaid her on the road threatening her to have sex with him, but she said it happened after she frolic with him and some other friends around the neighborhood, before he started making advances toward her. She is in her early twenties

To cut the story short, how they get to become intimate was a surprise to us. Because right now she is with a child and he wants the child to be born, yet he has no regard for any of us in our family, he insult us at will, and he is also a muslim.

Recently his family came over to apologise for his misconduct and demand we release the mother and the unborn child to them. meanwhile we do not want to have anything to do with a thug, that has no regard for the family with no sign of remorse. what do you think we can possible do on this issue

laff won kill me here

e b like say all dis small girls no know say dk dey cum.. not just to screw only