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Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by sadoroy(m): 7:40pm On Jan 04, 2020
ultimate77:


Egbon, sebi I thought Overtaking is allowed. May be she sees better potentials in me.


Look at the way you are talking about it like karma means nothing to you. Let me tell you something I am sure of, "it will end in tears"


This thing you are doing ehn, I did it one time. I was busy snatching girls from their GF's here and there. Bad sharp guy doing survival of the fittest just like you said "overtaking is allowed"

Bro, when I reaped everything I sowed, I cried so much I needed more tears but they were nowhere to be found.

Now them no born me well to dey philander.

Bro, there is always a price for snatching girls all because she fell in love with you and all. If she can meet you within days and forget her guys hustling for her overseas, then who are you "obalende silicon valley?"

The way you will be jilted ehn, even your ancestors will read it on paper.

Best thing, she loves me, infatuation shit, or not, cool. But if you love yourself, let her be please. Imagine you are the guy abroad. Imagine how you felt when your gf treated you the way she did? Imagine the way the guy will feel when she comes. What if it becomes brutal? Cult wars and shit? All for a woman you could have said hi to and moved on.

You will get your own girl, boy. Leave her and face your damn business.

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Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by Offpoint: 8:03pm On Jan 04, 2020
ultimate77:

aaHahahhh my friend says "money can't bring joy and peace if a person is toxic."Besides, I can marry her now comfortably. But it's cool there is extra source of income before this. I am a skilled educated professional and not hungry as well.
Dem dey advise you dey boost of yourself.

They say "Out of sight is out mind" when her nigga is back and start communicating, then you'll know how ladies mind works.

Any lady who say "Yes" to another guy while she's still in a healthy relationship shouldn't be taken serious.

Learn from other people mistakes, it's seems you've been missing out on Romance Section.

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Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by friendl: 8:39pm On Jan 04, 2020
Must all Nigeria ladies have a guy outside ?
Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by DeValmeself(m): 8:55pm On Jan 04, 2020
She's definitely not gonna live the other guy for you. By default, women do go for the prepared than the IN-PROCESS.

Bro, forget about a future with her. She might love you, but, she will definitely go back to the other guy.

But, you can still hope for the Better, anything can still happen.

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Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by abbatoir(m): 9:28pm On Jan 04, 2020
Chi59:

Be very careful with her. Because the truth is, her family might be aware and in support of the guy from abroad. I see you as a sensible and careful guy.
If you can, keep her at arms length, be very professional with her. Teach her the Java, let her pay you. If she wishes to take the relationship any further, she should break it up with the guy in your presence (voice call, video call) and introduce you properly to her people. Nothing else would do.
Bravo!
Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by Sammyblack87: 10:20pm On Jan 04, 2020
Woman wrapper everywhere...
Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by Mypeople2(m): 10:34pm On Jan 04, 2020
samdavjustin:



Bro women don’t leave already made men for potential men ooo. Your love will be put to test when yankee guy comes back with money and gifts for her
I agree with you .Then we will be watching OP ,the guy in abroad and the babe in 3D.
Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by BlindedIrony(m): 11:12pm On Jan 04, 2020
Before i start writing, I must say you sound naive. I will tell you why in a minute. Your naivety puts your age from 25 to 35; either that or you haven't had a lot of experience with women. Now, I am going to tell you why I think you are naive.

Firstly, the fact that you want to marry a girl that you have not had the time to get to know; it shows you don't get laid often. It is a syndrome among men in your situation. You can take a step back and think whether you really know this girl. Does your attraction stem from her beauty? I bet it is because you want to lay a pipe in a certain place. wink

Secondly, the lady clearly wanted sex. She already communicated with you that she has somebody else (a beta male provider), but she wanted you. She wanted to be laid by you because you were not salivating over her earlier like the rest of the 95% of males around her. Women are attracted to men who don't give them approval. She already told you she wanted something with you (and probably hoped you will keep your mouth shut after the hookup). Someone she can bone until the abroad guy comes home.

Thirdly, her attraction level was high. All you had to do was invite her out for a drink the same day she expressed her feelings, and later take her home to satisfy her needs. She already had a high attraction for you, so things would be very easy. You screwed this up with too much talking (probably spending a lot of time chatting or talking on the phone)- now, the alpha personality you projected didn't rhyme with the character she was expecting. She saw you as one, and that's why she was open to you (NB: Women don't usually make that kind of movie especially if you two never have great rapport). She saw you as a distant alpha male working on his purpose, and I sincerely hope you haven't screwed it up that badly.

Now, you have gone ahead and behaved like the rest of the 95% guys she knows. You will be friendzoned. This is because her attraction has probably decreased. Good luck getting what you want. Oh! Also, she has other men screwing her as I write lol You said she had 8 men, and she removed 6, while two (abroad guy and you) only remain. You are so naive about women! grin

Oh let me know how it goes.

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Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by tck2000(m): 11:35pm On Jan 04, 2020
Erediauwa:
"She had told me she has a guy outside the
country who she said want to marry her, she
loves him but then, she doesn't know what is
going on because she can't seem to get over
me and she said she knows it's not infatuation."

















This is simply the "betrayal of trust" and a bitchy attitude from her.

Didn't she know that the dude hustling abroad was uneducated before saying "yes" to him?

And you Op, you're still putting your big head into another man's compound with the hope of chasing him out?

Damn dude, she sees you as the assistant technology boyfriend.

"Commot your hand for soldier man salary"
lol
Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by Nobody: 11:45pm On Jan 04, 2020
bros so you have waved the 40k training cost.
woop! she has brainwashed u just imagine what Delilah did to Samsun.
how sure are you that she will marry you now u have started being a looser
Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by Nobody: 11:53pm On Jan 04, 2020
a dog that is on his way to death doesn't perceive the smell of shit! ...at this point now u wouldn't want to hear the bitter truth...or any criticism... but d fact is that u need to follow women with wisdom...

all those things she told you about admiring you blablabla...she never wanted to pay you the 40k she was sure d relationship will be d only way to get what she wants....

and bet me a 23year old girl wit all d wits as narrated will surely go for d oversea guy
Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by Nobody: 11:55pm On Jan 04, 2020
What a self centred, greedy and lazy guy you are, you don’t have a business yet but you want to get married, I’m irritated by your guts, why can’t you find your own lady and grow with her, you already made up your mind to marry someone under two weeks, honestly you are a joke if you think you’ll succeed. Look at the way you’re comparing yourself with another man like a kid, fam let the girl be, she’s not for you.
Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by kowalsky: 12:01am On Jan 05, 2020
safarigirl:
lol, see advice.

This is the advice some people are looking for here, sleep with her two or three times, that is how your daughter will be slept with and dumped by an idiot.

Later, one unfortunate woman will procreate with this one. God help women

All he said are truths set in stone. Deal with it
Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by PharoahIII: 12:26am On Jan 05, 2020
Our elders say that on the day it is appointed for the goat to die, it asks “what can the butcher do to me?” This op wants to tempt a woman? Ah, would it not be even better to tempt the gods than tempt a woman? This girl dy use op play BTTS. She has put him on a very very long thing indeed, even longer that the River Benue. I can only imagine the shock that he will be in when she finally breaks up with him. The text would read something like this:
...you know I told you right from the very start, right from the onset that I had a boyfriend abroad, and how my whole family likes him, and also how I said I liked him too, and that I could not choose between the two of you. Well, I have now made up my...(this is the point where the op will faint)

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Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by ultimate77(m): 12:54am On Jan 05, 2020
PropaMan:
What a self centred, greedy and lazy guy you are, you don’t have a business yet but you want to get married, I’m irritated by your guts, why can’t you find your own lady and grow with her, you already made up your mind to marry someone under two weeks, honestly you are a joke if you think you’ll succeed. Look at the way you’re comparing yourself with another man like a kid, fam let the girl be, she’s not for you.

Not to sound harsh.. i don't have a business running nigga i am not unemployed. as a matter of fact we mightn't be on same level. that i posted and it graced front page doesn't mean i am a clown. just catch fun and exit bro.
Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by WIZGUY69(m): 1:44am On Jan 05, 2020
ultimate77:


Not to sound harsh.. i don't have a business running nigga i am not unemployed. as a matter of fact we mightn't be on same level. that i posted and it graced front page doesn't mean i am a clown. just catch fun and exit bro.
Biitch ass nigga. undecided
You deserve serious DRILLING.
We know the girl is a foool, because she's still in her hoe phase, how about yuu?
A supposed 30 years old man behaving like a teenager.
Leave the biich with her Indonesian boyfriend.
A word is enough for the wise.

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Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by BSomebody: 3:10am On Jan 05, 2020
That girl seems smarter than you. Sorry to say, but the truth is, she do not love you. She like your techy personality and want your attention for obvious reasons.

She have observed you closely and carefully carved her personality to suit your person and also to portray herself as some amazing angel you have been looking for.

That girl won’t marry you. She is just too smooth for her age. You should becareful.
Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by Nobody: 8:56am On Jan 05, 2020
She only said yes to you because the BF located outside the shores of the country isn't present. Bro, she is 23- she doesn't really kno what she wants. She's just attracted to you probably because you are technology savvy, when her real BF comes back she will forget you, you will only be lucky if you get married to her before the guy comes back.

Don't end up being use to pass time. Forget her and get yourself a single girl rather than competing with someone else's gf.
Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by Nobody: 8:57am On Jan 05, 2020
BSomebody:
That girl seems smarter than you. Sorry to say, but the truth is, she do not love you. She like your techy personality and want your attention for obvious reasons.

She have observed you closely and carefully carved her personality to suit your person and also to portray herself as some amazing angel you have been looking for.

That girl won’t marry you. She is just too smooth for her age. You should becareful.

Exactly my thought. She just like him because he is tech savvy. He is being used.
Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by Bluekapon(m): 9:11am On Jan 05, 2020
What are y'all talking about? Most Nigerian girls who've come of age are currently dating someone. it's very rare to meet a girl that's completely unattached.

Now, if a girl agrees to date you or marry you, it is very likely that she's leaving someone for you.

Quit bashing the OP. We're all guilty of this.
Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by Arinola1990(m): 9:24am On Jan 05, 2020
Erediauwa:
"She had told me she has a guy outside the
country who she said want to marry her, she
loves him but then, she doesn't know what is
going on because she can't seem to get over
me and she said she knows it's not infatuation."



U have spoke well jare













This is simply the "betrayal of trust" and a bitchy attitude from her.

Didn't she know that the dude hustling abroad was uneducated before saying "yes" to him?

And you Op, you're still putting your big head into another man's compound with the hope of chasing him out?

Damn dude, she sees you as the assistant technology boyfriend.

"Commot your hand for soldier man salary"
Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by Kolabalogun(m): 10:01am On Jan 05, 2020
Ladies can be funny a times so bro, brace up for love war because things can fall apart when the guy is back and you might be favored as well regardless. Just thread carefully
Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by DNSPro: 10:09am On Jan 05, 2020
Erediauwa:
"She had told me she has a guy outside the
country who she said want to marry her, she
loves him but then, she doesn't know what is
going on because she can't seem to get over
me and she said she knows it's not infatuation."



God bless you. That is all I have to say















This is simply the "betrayal of trust" and a bitchy attitude from her.

Didn't she know that the dude hustling abroad was uneducated before saying "yes" to him?

And you Op, you're still putting your big head into another man's compound with the hope of chasing him out?

Damn dude, she sees you as the assistant technology boyfriend.

"Commot your hand for soldier man salary"
Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by ucheuzor1(m): 10:11am On Jan 05, 2020
Please op don't base your conclusion on what people on this forum will tell you. Some here are actually childish in response.

Inasmuch as the lady in question still keeps in touch with her BF outside the country, it's very possible she is just infatuated by the fact that she sees you everyday. This things happens, so developing feelings won't be all that hard.

Try suggesting to her that you'll want to meet with her family. If she welcomes the idea, and you guys fix a date to go see them, then something positive might well be on the line. But if she tries differing the meeting citing some possible excuses, then know the abroad guy is the main say. You're just a side guy.

If she agrees to marry you, please go ahead. Almost every lady guys marry was once dating someone else. Don't let people make it look as if you're doing the wrong thing. Go for what makes you happy.
Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by DNSPro: 10:11am On Jan 05, 2020
sadoroy:



Look at the way you are talking about it like karma means nothing to you. Let me tell you something I am sure of, "it will end in tears"


This thing you are doing ehn, I did it one time. I was busy snatching girls from their GF's here and there. Bad sharp guy doing survival of the fittest just like you said "overtaking is allowed"

Bro, when I reaped everything I sowed, I cried so much I needed more tears but they were nowhere to be found.

Now them no born me well to dey philander.

Bro, there is always a price for snatching girls all because she fell in love with you and all. If she can meet you within days and forget her guys hustling for her overseas, then who are you "obalende silicon valley?"

The way you will be jilted ehn, even your ancestors will read it on paper.

Best thing, she loves me, infatuation shit, or not, cool. But if you love yourself, let her be please. Imagine you are the guy abroad. Imagine how you felt when your gf treated you the way she did? Imagine the way the guy will feel when she comes. What if it becomes brutal? Cult wars and shit? All for a woman you could have said hi to and moved on.

You will get your own girl, boy. Leave her and face your damn business.

The guy might even be the one sponsoring her education.
Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by ekoson95(m): 10:24am On Jan 05, 2020
Nigger, have you thought about why she wanted you to fall in love with her from the first day? Even though she has a janded boyfriend.


It's either she's looking for something, or she wanna use you to fill a void?
She's just feeding you with what you want to hear or see. Don't be deceived.... na audio love.

My guy....don't allow love to cloud your judgement. It is good to fall in love oh, but carry your brain along.


But should you still proceed and get your heart battered, we will be hear to cushion the blow.

Happy Sunday.
Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by narit: 10:29am On Jan 05, 2020
You have not taken the redpill, l presume, go and do that now and you will just know what to do, you will definitely be reborn. To get it read the Creator post, Lord ubunja.

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Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by ultimate77(m): 10:48am On Jan 05, 2020
DNSPro:


The guy might even be the one sponsoring her education.
Her family is in charge...
Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by Smoke55: 10:54am On Jan 05, 2020
Sikay19:
shocked
This is too much for me to read this morning. I will comment when i get the summary of the whole story from the comments section. Btw, try to proofread your post next time, too many typo errors herein, good morning.
you Couldn't Finish Reading The Write Up Because U Think Its Too Much,but The Little You Read Instead Of Making A Meaning Out Of It U Ended Up Looking For Err's. Typical Nigerian Guy.
Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by CsRockefeller(m): 12:23pm On Jan 05, 2020
PharoahIII:
Our elders say that on the day it is appointed for the goat to die, it asks “what can the butcher do to me?” This op wants to tempt a woman? Ah, would it not be even better to tempt the gods than tempt a woman? This girl dy use op play BTTS. She has put him on a very very long thing indeed, even longer that the River Benue. I can only imagine the shock that he will be in when she finally breaks up with him. The text would read something like this:
...you know I told you right from the very start, right from the onset that I had a boyfriend abroad, and how my whole family likes him, and also how I said I liked him too, and that I could not choose between the two of you. Well, I have now made up my...(this is the point where the op will faint)

grin

No place like Nairaland, you guys "kill" me everyday. grin
Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by CsRockefeller(m): 12:28pm On Jan 05, 2020
BlindedIrony:
Before i start writing, I must say you sound naive. I will tell you why in a minute. Your naivety puts your age from 25 to 35; either that or you haven't had a lot of experience with women. Now, I am going to tell you why I think you are naive.

Firstly, the fact that you want to marry a girl that you have not had the time to get to know; it shows you don't get laid often. It is a syndrome among men in your situation. You can take a step back and think whether you really know this girl. Does your attraction stem from her beauty? I bet it is because you want to lay a pipe in a certain place. wink

Secondly, the lady clearly wanted sex. She already communicated with you that she has somebody else (a beta male provider), but she wanted you. She wanted to be laid by you because you were not salivating over her earlier like the rest of the 95% of males around her. Women are attracted to men who don't give them approval. She already told you she wanted something with you (and probably hoped you will keep your mouth shut after the hookup). Someone she can bone until the abroad guy comes home.

Thirdly, her attraction level was high. All you had to do was invite her out for a drink the same day she expressed her feelings, and later take her home to satisfy her needs. She already had a high attraction for you, so things would be very easy. You screwed this up with too much talking (probably spending a lot of time chatting or talking on the phone)- now, the alpha personality you projected didn't rhyme with the character she was expecting. She saw you as one, and that's why she was open to you (NB: Women don't usually make that kind of movie especially if you two never have great rapport). She saw you as a distant alpha male working on his purpose, and I sincerely hope you haven't screwed it up that badly.

Now, you have gone ahead and behaved like the rest of the 95% guys she knows. You will be friendzoned. This is because her attraction has probably decreased. Good luck getting what you want. Oh! Also, she has other men screwing her as I write lol You said she had 8 men, and she removed 6, while two (abroad guy and you) only remain. You are so naive about women! grin

Oh let me know how it goes.
Good analysis, I stan.
Re: Am I Taking The Right Decision To Love This Girl? by ZaOzaRoom(m): 2:23pm On Jan 05, 2020
ultimate77:

aaHahahhh my friend says "money can't bring joy and peace if a person is toxic."Besides, I can marry her now comfortably. But it's cool there is extra source of income before this. I am a skilled educated professional and not hungry as well.
I beg you in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.
Forget that girl and look for someone else.
I'm a married man and I know what I am telling u.

Please my brother, forget that girl.
If you want to fvck her fine but please don't marry her.

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