missimelda01:
So I get this awkward reaction when a man asks for my position in my family and I say I'm the first child. I really want to know what the issue is...is it just the bride price??

blaise26abj:


Not really the bride price but the responsibility that comes with being a first child. His house might just be filled with all your siblings if care isn’t taken.

missimelda01:
I don't really buy the idea of housing relatives though, I like my space

missimelda01:
So I get this awkward reaction when a man asks for my position in my family and I say I'm the first child. I really want to know what the issue is...is it just the bride price??

missimelda01:
So I get this awkward reaction when a man asks for my position in my family and I say I'm the first child. I really want to know what the issue is...is it just the bride price??

missimelda01:
So I get this awkward reaction when a man asks for my position in my family and I say I'm the first child. I really want to know what the issue is...is it just the bride price??

MrBrownJay1:


stop hanging around immature insecure men... there is nothing wrong with you.

internationalman:
So mature men don't have a choice of who they'd like to marry...

missimelda01:
I don't really buy the idea of housing relatives though, I like my space

thorpido:
The bride price in some cultures but mainly the 'responsibilities' such child is expected to have ...........help in training the younger ones if the parents are not well to do,might have to house one or two of them too

yanabasee:


You do, but when you get married, some decisions will be seen as influence from your husband to divide the family....
First daughters are the mothers of the family... Burial and other celebrations are usually their responsibilities with heavy spending..

Curiouscity:


I am married to a 1st girl, but second child. They initially appeared down to earth. But like play, like play, I trained the last 2 siblings through the University. At the moment, she is expecting me to help set up her married brothers in one business or the other. Everything always falls on my head. It comes with too many responsibilities and expectations.
It is very challenging thing!

decatalyst:


In most cases, it means more responsibilities and stress for the guy.

Let's not even talk about finances, he may not be ready to provide the needed leadership responsibilities for you and your siblings...it could be draining emotionally and financially.

It's a real man that looks beyond this and go for what he wants.

missimelda01:
That's a lot, she should also be supportive.

Curiouscity:


Not supportive in any way.

From my experience, I will always advise anybody to look well and test his patience before marrying a first child.

cococandy:


Does she work? If not, why?

Curiouscity:


Sadly, this thread is not about me and my marriage challenges. But, my partner has a wrong view about money and responsibilities. She is yet to understand what family mean, or where her focus should be.

She works, but she expects me to run the house, and still take care of her extended family members.

missimelda01:
So I get this awkward reaction when a man asks for my position in my family and I say I'm the first child. I really want to know what the issue is...is it just the bride price??

Curiouscity:


I am married to a 1st girl, but second child. They initially appeared down to earth. But like play, like play, I trained the last 2 siblings through the University. At the moment, she is expecting me to help set up her married brothers in one business or the other. Everything always falls on my head. It comes with too many responsibilities and expectations.
It is very challenging thing!

missimelda01:
So I get this awkward reaction when a man asks for my position in my family and I say I'm the first child. I really want to know what the issue is...is it just the bride price??

missimelda01:
So I get this awkward reaction when a man asks for my position in my family and I say I'm the first child. I really want to know what the issue is...is it just the bride price??

crackhaus:

Apologies for presuming, but it might have to do with your family status as well.

If a man feels the girl he is interested in is the first child/daughter from a well-to-do family, it really won't be a problem.

Fixed!

crackhaus:

Apologies for presuming, but it might have to do with your family status as well.

If a man feels the girl he is interested in is the first child/daughter from a well-to-do family, it really won't be a problem.

missimelda01:
But that shouldn't be a problem if both the husband and wife are doing well financially

missimelda01:
Questions like this comes at the early stage of meeting a lady, sometimes they have no idea what the family's financial status is like.. they just assume nonsense and that's what is annoying.

Curiouscity:


Sadly, this thread is not about me and my marriage challenges. But, my partner has a wrong view about money and responsibilities. She is yet to understand what family mean, or where her focus should be.

She works, but she expects me to run the house, and still take care of her extended family members.

missimelda01:
Questions like this comes at the early stage of meeting a lady, sometimes they have no idea what the family's financial status is like.. they just assume nonsense and that's what is annoying.