mrsteel:

Lol
But how old are u?
If u are still young, it is okay

I have another friend in the same sch I can say he is an extrovert or in between, he ran during his turn, so it is not an introvert issue but something like stage fright.

scave:


I have another friend in the same sch I can say he is an extrovert or in between, he ran during his turn, so it is not an introvert issue but something like stage fright.

Lol
Is the school that big with many students?
But ordinarily when u are addressing your juniors u shouldn't be getting stage fright. Unless u are addressing a mix of older ages. U need to work on it

JacksonMS:
that's what I say always that introversion is a mental illness. But there are no cure or drugs being developed to cure this.

lmao, this guy ehn, mental illness ke? You be comedian?

callmemercy:


If only my mom can read this and UNDERSTAND that I do not require deliverance, just because I'm not in a relationship at 26.
Sometimes, I feel sorry for her.

You've never been in one?

mrsteel:

Lol
Is the school that big with many students?
But ordinarily when u are addressing your juniors u shouldn't be getting stage fright. Unless u are addressing a mix of older ages. U need to work on it

It's not that big, I can ask question on congregation of thousands but to stand in front and be the main focus, na there wahala dey, but I will work on it.

Lovexme:

Yea, thanks.
You aren't a football fan, are you?

Hope you're still a liverpool fan?

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I'll always be

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YNWA we're d king of europe now

JentuPrinz:


YNWA
we're d king of europe now

YNWA

Olarewajub:
Could it be that introverts don't find anything fascinating about going home for holidays? I per say, i prefer to stay back in school and ENJOY myself.

I'm wit u bro,dahz d best time i luv pass wen i was in uni.Everywhr would be quiet

JentuPrinz:


I'm wit u bro,dahz d best time i luv pass wen i was in uni.Everywhr would be quiet

Lols.. I traveled back once every year and it was always a week to Christmas.January, I was back in Univ.

DivineGrace123:


You can also join "TOASTMASTERS" club. It is a nonprofit organization that usually help individuals to become better communicators through leadership training and public speaking practice.

Where and how do we join em

Hakeem12:
You've never been in one?

I have been in relationships.

okikiosibodu:

Yeah. Thanks. My job is an inhibitjng factor, for my to explore places. I run a shift job... 2days morning (6am-3pm), 2days afternoon shift (12pm-9pm), and 2days night shift, then two days off. Usually day1 is for sleeping off the night shift and the stress of prev week. Day 2 is to do my laundry (washing and ironing of clothes, and then scrub the bathroom) and prep for the next week. I spend an average of 3-4 hrs daily on the road (in summation) between work and house (and no, I have not been able to get an accommodation close to work). I leave at Akute (Ogun State), I work on VI (Lagos).
Any tips for me?
Please accept my profound gratitude in anticipation of your outstanding response

Hi,
I understand that work could be a factor, but the truth is if you really want to do something, then you would make time for it.
On day 2 of your days off, you could finish your chores quickly and take time off.
Going out with close friends is also helpful.

I hope this helps, not that I'm an expert though.

callmemercy:


Hi,
I understand that work could be a factor, but the truth is if you really want to do something, then you would make time for it.
On day 2 of your days off, you could finish your chores quickly and take time off.
Going out with close friends is also helpful.

I hope this helps, not that I'm an expert though.

Will bear it in mind. Thanks for your generous assistance. It is accepted in good arms

JacksonMS:
a lady I cant see and won't see. And if she sees me outside she will regret making that statement.

I have tried doing something about it because the results is failure and insults

Howdy brother... Let me try my input.
I am pretty sure you are a kind of person that flows well chatting and bonding with strangers online, that you have never set eyes on.. You can step it up by introducing verbal communications.
Let me give some tips
Listen to radio programmes, when listeners call into the station to interact with the presenter, then try to study the flow of the presenter, with the caller. His pronunciations, his diction, his command of vocabulary, and how he tries to come in, to breech the silence during the conversation.
Try to watch more of foreign movies, and have a notepad on your phone or actually notepad, handy. Ensure you have a good dictionary app on your phone. When you come across new words in a movie or you notice a strange use of a word you are familiar wit, pause the movie if you can, or snap it if it is subtitled, or jot it somewhere, and then make out time to find out its meaning

I am trying to break my post so it doesn't appear as a long read and then boring
So you can get a catalogue of new words you learn weekly and they try to memorise their uses (synonyms, homonyms, antonyms, etc). I am sure you are using an andriod phone, tru to download scrabble, it will help you put the learnt words into use, then you can master your vocabulary better.
So first thing is, upgrade your vocabulary, so you will be able to sustain a conversation, even if you can't initiate one (it works for me. I am a terrible conversation starter and stil trying to keep conversation apt....
When you have made noticeable progress (you don't have to be perfect at it (you can't be too perfect), try a phone conversation, esp with people that are inclined to be nice to you. Eg customer care agent, receptionists, secretaries, etc. By default they are meant to be nice to you, but in your own bid, try to initiate the "niceness".
I think this is long enough

Truth be told, it's not everyone you interact nicely with, that will reciprocate the gesture, but chances are, they most likely will give you back the good vibe. Ask caring questions like "how is your shift going? How are you today? Etc.
I work as an inbound call center agent, and I do get nasty callers that talk shabbishly at you, they expect a really descent and polite response from you, and at the same time want their issues (usually complaints) resolved ASAP. For many of them, I try to cook up excuse in my head that they had a bad day and it is transfered aggression, and that usually (not always) work for me. Many customers end up apologising to me before hanging up, for their unruly behaviour. For some others that done meet requirements for what they called for, I usually try to make compromises for those that show care and concern to me, from the beginning of the conversation. HOW IS YOU SHIFT GOING is enough to make me pleased with a customer and inclined to helping out with everything within my disposal... I hope you get the thrift
So you can just pick up your phone, call your telecoms customer care, and call for any reason. It doesn't have to make sense, so don't over think it. The agent picks the call and says... Good morning my name is Kola, how may I help you.. Pay attention to the name.. And use it back.... Oh Kola, how is your day goin? (you don't overdo this too, its important cos agents have call target and the more time is soent with a caller, the less their performance even if several issues are resolved). A quick one, can you tell me about your tarrif plans
You let him rant and just pretend as if you are interested. Use listening words like... OK.... Oh.... Alright,... Really... When he is done, make him feel appreciated.. Oh Kola, thank you very much, that will be all, enjoy your shift

You don't have to use my words, but use something that will come naturally to you. You can hang up, and call back. There is a high degree you won't speak with the exact agent again (though it happens otherwise sometimes). Call again using same format (be nice) and the ask on say... Tell me about you tarrif plans that give bonus to browse (mb). Try to ask one issue per time from an agent cos the more questions you ask, the more cranky they get, and you will easily pick up the vibe cis by default, you are a lil scared on your own end, and that might knock you off balance.. If you are not too good with the vibe, you can hang up (I will prefer you don't. Good thing the agent can't see you. If you are worried the agent might trace you, you can use an elderly person's line to call customer care, so the agent will know for sure the line isn't your wen details is cross checked with your voice to determine your age.... All these don't matter though, it's just for you to feel OK). So if you are feeling a negative vibe from the agent, tell the agent to patch you through to his supervisor/ superior. There is a 99% chance that he will sit up and give you utmost attention. He will try to ask why you what the call transfered, and try to manage you so he doesn't have to transfer the call cos if it is done, he most likely will face disciplinary actions if it was investigated and he goofed in anyway (even if you initiated the goofing)

You can call again, and ask for tariff plans that give only voice bonuses, call as many times as you wish, you know behind you the move for calling, perhaps it will build your confidence. You can even call the agent and say you called to say hello. We c all agents love such calls. It helps us meet our daily targets.. We give such customers full attention cos the call usually last less than 30 secs, except we intentionally stall the caller.
I hope all this helps. Occasionally, go to the cinema with about two of your friends you bond with. Go to one quite some distance from your house, that noone will know you. Go during week days, target movies before 4pm which is quite a rush hours, with many people.. Get to the cinema about 30-60mins before the time. Walk around the vicinity to get accustomed to it (it will help build your confidence). When goin to the theatre, go with your friends and ensure you sitn really close to each other. Possible for the first time, you stay in their middle so you don't have issues with total strangers. I am sure from there, you will pick your bearing.
I hope my epistle is worth the long read. Hoping to see progress from you

scave:


I am currently teaching in a sch, last term they set assembly time table for teachers, when it got to my turn I just dey run away from my duties, some female teacher were d ones that hlped me that week.

Something that helps me during public speaking till date (when I unavoidablly can't dodge it), I get a piece no paper... Say a leaflet of 40leaves book... A leaflet, not the whole book. I cut it, and fold into half. I keep folding to halves til the 5th or 6th time (no matter its thickness, a paper can't be folded more than 7 times... That is if you can achieve the 7th time sef).
I conceal the foldered paper on my palm (usually my left hand cos I am right handed) and then I keep a straight face with my audience. I exert all my anxiety energy into the paper on my left hand as I press my thumb against it (remember it is concealed, so noone really notices it), and I try to make gestures wit my right hand, so the kinda juxtapose each other. I also look into my audience and pin point a particular person and focuse on him (I avoided ladies cos I am a male... Shy me...) and try to maintain a faze of say 30secs... The gaze is not a gaze really... Avoid looking into the black eyeballs, just focus in between them, just above the nose, it does the trick. You then look at another direction and fix on another person, youndo so through out the duration of your speech. If it is with familiar faces, avoid those faces you know will surely make you laugh, make you no go goof
Usually when I am done, the paper is usually damp and soiled, thanks to the exasperation from the thumb, and rechanneled enegry. I hope it helps you too.
Identify a teacher you discover address the students well, and ask for one or two tips on how to command attention
If a student tries to distract you, find a way of focusing attention to the students, such that everybody looks at the person (a tool I found highly effective during my nysc days). You can tell the person to come keep your company in the front and probably close his eye.. Others will compult. It works for secondary schools though.

DivineGrace123, you are sighted. More inks to your pen
GloryIsaac, where art thou

okikiosibodu:

GloryIsaac, where art thou

Been off for a while. Good to see that this thread is still very active, thanks to you and every other poster/contributor.

I hope to visit more frequently, while avoiding the sports section ofcourse

okikiosibodu:

Something that helps me during public speaking till date (when I unavoidablly can't dodge it), I get a piece no paper... Say a leaflet of 40leaves book... A leaflet, not the whole book. I cut it, and fold into half. I keep folding to halves til the 5th or 6th time (no matter its thickness, a paper can't be folded more than 7 times... That is if you can achieve the 7th time sef).
I conceal the foldered paper on my palm (usually my left hand cos I am right handed) and then I keep a straight face with my audience. I exert all my anxiety energy into the paper on my left hand as I press my thumb against it (remember it is concealed, so noone really notices it), and I try to make gestures wit my right hand, so the kinda juxtapose each other. I also look into my audience and pin point a particular person and focuse on him (I avoided ladies cos I am a male... Shy me...) and try to maintain a faze of say 30secs... The gaze is not a gaze really... Avoid looking into the black eyeballs, just focus in between them, just above the nose, it does the trick. You then look at another direction and fix on another person, youndo so through out the duration of your speech. If it is with familiar faces, avoid those faces you know will surely make you laugh, make you no go goof
Usually when I am done, the paper is usually damp and soiled, thanks to the exasperation from the thumb, and rechanneled enegry. I hope it helps you too.
Identify a teacher you discover address the students well, and ask for one or two tips on how to command attention
If a student tries to distract you, find a way of focusing attention to the students, such that everybody looks at the person (a tool I found highly effective during my nysc days). You can tell the person to come keep your company in the front and probably close his eye.. Others will compult. It works for secondary schools though.

DivineGrace123, you are sighted. More inks to your pen
GloryIsaac, where art thou

Thanks bro, I really appreciate. I will try it.

DivineGrace123:


Hi boss. Hope your side is cool

We dey push am. Just got discharged about 3days ago.. Spent r days of this new war on hospital bed
Doc said I had "resistive malaria". Used two anti malaria drugs withing two month, the parasite no even shake at all. Doc was forced to admit me. Injections and drips everywhere. Recuperating now sha

GloryIsaac:


Been off for a while. Good to see that this thread is still very active, thanks to you and every other poster/contributor.

I hope to visit more frequently, while avoiding the sports section ofcourse

I noticed. Had to check your profile in the early hours of today, more than 4 pages, sports thread, not a single topic away from it. I knew you to be a sports fan, but not to this extent. (I no stalk you sha )
We hope to have ym more of you, here
See you at the top

I'm struggling to combat with stage fright. Several times, I will dodge presentation for my department. My course mates do believe in my academic strength and how grammatic I could be in our group chats. Little do they know that, that's where my "capability" ends. They think it's pride. I also don't like answering questions in class, even when it will "liberate" my department from shame (as we have like 5 other agricultural departments taking same courses as we do and lecturers can be specific when dishing out questions in class). I used to be eager to be the "saviour" in my primary and secondary school days but it's different now.

Now, the problem is, I don't have a loud voice. You can barely hear me from the end of the room. Again, I find myself stuttering and energy-drained when in a (long) conversation, even with very familiar persons.

I will be in 300L in weeks to come and I want to get rid of this phobia as soon as I can. I'm in my early 20s.


okikiosibodu
GloryIsaac
Healthserve

Epositive:

I'm struggling to combat with stage fright. Several times, I will dodge presentation for my department. My course mates do believe in my academic strength and how grammatic I could be in our group chats. Little do they know that, that's where my "capability" ends. They think it's pride. I also don't like answering questions in class, even when it will "liberate" my department from shame (as we have like 5 other agricultural departments taking same courses as we do and lecturers can be specific when dishing out questions in class). I used to be eager to be the "saviour" in my primary and secondary school days but it's different now.

Now, the problem is, I don't have a loud voice. You can barely hear me from the end of the room. Again, I find myself stuttering and energy-drained when in a (long) conversation, even with very familiar persons.

I will be in 300L in weeks to come and I want to get rid of this phobia as soon as I can. I'm in my early 20s.


okiki. osibodu
Glory. Isaac
Health. serve

I think you being in 300l should have given you enough time to handpick your clique. During my days, I used to sit in front (was war before I could achieve that though. Trick is, coming to class early before many people), and the front sir usually doesn't command the lecturers attention as backbenchers think. Over time, I built confidence, and then would ask questions when no clear about something, right there in class (cos I had many "mumu" course mates that won't understand what the lecturer taught, they have no plans of making researches afterwards, and will never admit they don't know it. So I don't wait til exam time), plus I learn better by asking questions cos the lecturer tries to use relatable phenomena to explain, and it sticks better. Don't be ashamed to ask questions, cos you will be surprised how many people are in the class that has absolutely no clue what the lecturer is talking about, they will never seek clarity until exam time, and yet these same set of people will be giving you negative vibes when you are asking intelligent questions. I got respected in class the day I asked a question and people where giving their bad vibes. The lecturer then started asking everyone one after the other to give the ans. To my perplexity, not a single person among the block heads mubbling, could ans. Lecturer warned them sternly never to mumble or grumble when next I ask questions and they don't know the ans. Truth is, the intelligent ones will never give you bad energy, so don't be disturbed.
Overtime, your confidence should grow. I want to believe to defend a group work, you most likely will sit in groups or larger chunch of people being in your group. Try to imagine you are talking to them during the group presentation. If you goof (its not always a bad thing), they will laugh at you and you won't feel bad cos they are in your clique. You can even end up adding humour to the presentation "accidentally" while you try to correct your goof. Don't overthink it, don't overdo it, just let it flow naturally. Practice, makes perfect. You will get an hang of it, trust me.
Lets see what others have to say

Epositive:

I'm struggling to combat with stage fright. Several times, I will dodge presentation for my department. My course mates do believe in my academic strength and how grammatic I could be in our group chats. Little do they know that, that's where my "capability" ends. They think it's pride. I also don't like answering questions in class, even when it will "liberate" my department from shame (as we have like 5 other agricultural departments taking same courses as we do and lecturers can be specific when dishing out questions in class). I used to be eager to be the "saviour" in my primary and secondary school days but it's different now.

Now, the problem is, I don't have a loud voice. You can barely hear me from the end of the room. Again, I find myself stuttering and energy-drained when in a (long) conversation, even with very familiar persons.

I will be in 300L in weeks to come and I want to get rid of this phobia as soon as I can. I'm in my early 20s.


okikiosibodu
GloryIsaac
Healthserve

I used to have this problem too, check this out;

1- Strong determination - I've always had this dream to go into academics. How would I become a lecturer with such attitude, how would I present, defend my assertions, address protesting students etc, I said to myself 'Oh Man, You Need To Be Strong'
Then I would raise my hand in class to answer question, did a little politics (I was our class honourable/SRC), led my group pre&post data presentation and final defense and now I'm teaching as a Corper.

2- Preparedness - Just like the Scout motto 'Be Prepared'. Before raising your hand, talking to them or going up that stage, you need to be really prepared and confident of what you'll say and likely questions that could be asked. Sometimes you can jot down the main point and practise very well before you go up, but pls don't cram.

...during our professional induction, the anchor just came to me and said "give me your name, when prof is done talking, I'll call you to come and do the vote of thanks.....
If I haven't gotten off the 'stage shii' I would've disgraced my ancestors that day, lol