Fareee123:
well, I never asked for it,my dad gives me house rent which he knows about, but he still pays it because when I had issues with my roommate in my first year,the Lady broke my head,so he got me another apartment and told the landlord to call him whenever the rent expires. Not all guys don't have sense like you

U feel your guy has sense abi? If he wants to take full responsibility for your schooling and is very much comfortable financially he should have asked to meet your parents, I just hope he takes the same responsibility for at least one of his siblings or if him scam he Papa e go carry am come give u.

funmisticqueen:
Aunty, this is textbook fuckboy behavior, please do the needful and dump him.

But aunty, you are addicted to the hypergamous lifestyle.

Yeah she should dump him but I still feel she should enjoy his money for as long as possible. Unless his father is a millionaire or he's making easy money illegally I see no reason why he should invest so much in a girl so young who will still leave him. At 21 majority of girls are not mature enough to know if realise a man As husband material so she'll end up with different guys b4 marriage. ..the boy needs to learn sense and she will teach him

Fareee123:
I've done that, he said he'll change, but I don't see the change in him,I even stopped calling so i won't be tagged as clingy

But you didn't stop begging for money so you won't be tagged a burden. Oponku!

Ukodo1123:
U have handwork, n your parent cater for u n u still exploit the young man

That guy is not suppose to pay your rent if u are from a good home

May be he offered to pay of his own volition. You wouldn't call that exploitation, will you? My bf used to supply 70% of my needs in school. I've never for a day asked him to, he just assumed the responsibility. Even if he is away from campus, and he feels he's staying longer than necessary, he still sends money. That, to me is not exploitation. Nobody put a gun to anybody's head!

Nor be your fault sha, nah ”Alhaji Bring” when you jam spoil you. The dude is even doing more than your dad does for you. Must he be the one to originate phone calls?

lomprico:


yahoo boi! he is fattening you for the kill.

U just spoke my mind The girl better be careful

Fareee123:
well, I never asked for it,my dad gives me house rent which he knows about, but he still pays it because when I had issues with my roommate in my first year,the Lady broke my head,so he got me another apartment and told the landlord to call him whenever the rent expires. Not all guys don't have sense like you

I like this Response

What is the love we have for a chicken than to kill it.. I pity your destiny...

Sister. You don't get all what all what you want. Enjoy the ones you get.
You call him but don't pay his bills. Has he gotten all from you?. No.
Stay focus!!!!!!!

Idarammi:
Why are you cursing the girl out like this? At least she cares enough to try to find out if it's normal. A lot of girls would just keep quiet and continue collecting the money. The guy is in final year doesn't mean he can't call once in a while to check up on the person he's claiming to date. In a long distance relationship for that matter. Let's call a spade a spade and not an instrument of labour. It's unacceptable. If you're gonna be busy, there's nothing wrong in communicating to your partner instead of leaving her hanging. Relationships are not for kids abeg
Op,kindly relay your feelings to your boyfriend and ask him what is wrong. He could be going through some issues that he doesn't want to tell you about and plis stop collecting money from him to avoid insults from people like this one. Manage your own money, you won't die.

Na true I talk jare.. Upon his busy schedule, he still sends money every two weeks and the disable girl stil collect it.. Why cant she reject d money as a sign of rebellion, Atleast when she does dt, the guy will no what sup but no, she didn't..

Instead the bitch keep collecting money and she claim she loves him.. I'm sure if another guy comes with attention n money, she will dump d former guy.... Don't quote me again

Victornezzar:

ungrateful fool.Another guy they shark you for body.what else do you want he pays ur rent,take care of all ur needs. yet you can't call.you want his calls 24hrs an want him around 24hrs.if he doesn't go out an work, busy how will he make all the money he is spending on you.what I see here is like you are a confuse being. go huzzle for ur life you get hands an legs ifvu not comfortable with him again. who quote me for saying the truth should hug transformer.

BlackboiNero:
Nothing to talk na. Maybe he's not the type that always sees something to talk about on the phone but I bet he might be a talkative in person. That one no mean say he no love you. Try to find a lot of things to discuss with him, no dey wait for am to dey do all the calls and talking...

Thank you bro for your boldness to voice out this fact. Some ladies think it's the man's prerogative to talk during calls. But it's both ways. You build relationships by voicing out your feelings and talking about almost anything.
For me when a lady calls & says nothing, I say okay let's talk when we have things to talk about.

Fareee123, abeg show us ur pictures. Maybe the guy sef don use u for yahoo and ur head no get money again.. Abeg make we see u make we no go carry walking dead lady like u as life.. Cox ur type will bring a successful man back to ruins after he marry u....


Pata mi logo benz

Listen, to think he is even in school and he does that for you, it means a lot. The guy is in final year and being in final year is more tasking. You have never been in final year in a university before so you should reason with him or you can go to meet another guy you think gives you more time. That is just the way it is

ungrateful fool.Another guy they shark you for body.what else do you want he pays ur rent,take care of all ur needs. yet you can't call.you want his calls 24hrs an want him around 24hrs.if he doesn't go out an work, busy how will he make all the money he is spending on you.what I see here is like you are a confuse being. go huzzle for ur life you get hands an legs ifvu not comfortable with him again. who quote me for saying the truth should hug transformer. your guy self na mugu how can you spend such money on a little bitch when she will still go around fucking other guys.A bitch who is not ready marriage yet.A bitch that will taste close to 100 Bleep before marriage.when she have even got parent to pay her house rent. boyfriend no be business were you girls obtain money illegally from an call it love.stupid love.let him stop giving you money if you will still love him.you will move to the next guy an dump him.The truth hear you are blindfolded by his money not love.Truth his bitter but I have spoken it.who quote me should hug transformer.

Fareee123:
I do well for myself too,I make and sell wigs and I'm a make up artist,my parents still cater for me too, if I leave him,I can't have a problem financially, I just don't know if I can love someone else the way I love him,I'm sad.

Please what do you know as love.

excel101:
The guy needs some space as a student. He even find time to settle some of your bills in school, you said you are just 21yrs, it invariably means you should concentrate as a student. He's in his final year while you are in your 3rd year like you said, it means that he needs time to focus and likewise yourself. If he starts demanding for sex you will complain, if he doesn't support you financially you will complain, now that he wants you to concentrate in your studies, you are still complaining. At 21, you really need to be focused, get sense.

This is the best advice for OP.
I hope she now understands when men say you can never satisfy a woman. Gbam!

Fareee123:
I'm not leaving him again bro,I've just been unhappy with the new development

Hmm, proud fornicators.
Don't leave him o.
From the comments so far, this generation is doomed.
* spit *

Hum there are many things behind his behaviour thank God you said that your parents still cater for you and you are not lazy ,you need to investigate him deeply tell your mother or close relatives to undergo this for you. Do not be imprisoned by gift .On the day of reckoning he will defeat you . He might be a ritualst or psychotic . It is said he whom you love the house is not too far. If he is in Nigeria and behaving like this something is wrong some where oh

Fareee123, have you considered the following: is he married/or lives with fiancee? The fact that he is in Final year doesn't mean he is single. Have you considered where he gets such money from to pay 20k per month and house rent and still lock up after? This is strange. I am not saying young guys in school from a rich home or with his business can not spend like this or a Yahoo boy too but these set of people have the time in this world. If they can't have the time to call; they fly you down to spend time together. Therefore, babes, in this Nigeria of today, this is a married man behaviour. Check well so you make a decision.
If attention is more important to you, pls let him go if he is not ready to change. You are still young and shouldn't start your life like this, money will not give you the attention/these cravings you deserve or want as time goes on and if he is not married and you end up married, it becomes worse. Marriage sometimes brings out the worst in some men.
Another thing is he may be tired of the relationship but doesn't want to ghost you like since money is not the problem. So he continues to spend but withdraws the attention until you receive sense on your own. #myhunbleopinion.

gowonmaharajah:

Boss,why u con dey paara na? Na so e pain u reach

you well so??

Fareee123:
Hi elders in the house, I'm a lady, I'm 21 years old. There's this guy I've been dating for about 3 years, we got along so fast that it feels like I've known him all my life, he's in his final year and I'm in my third year, not in the same school though.

He used to call and text often until middle last year, he stopped calling like he used to, I still do the calling, but I got tired, he wasn't reciprocating, when I complained, he said he's always busy, I feel that if he loves me like he claims, he will always check on me, whenever we're together, the vibes of the relationship is still there, but when we aren't together, he's a different person.

There was a time I broke up, I blocked him, he found a way to reach me and we ironed things out, he changed for 2 weeks before he went to his normal self. He answers to my needs guys, he has been paying my rent since my first year in school, he gives me 10k every 2 weeks, he pays for my hair when I need him to + other stuffs too.

Do you think he can change or do I just leave the relationship?? Please ignore the errors, I'm not perfect.

Whenever you call him use it to make memories with him and make sire you give him something to look forward to it during your next call. This is your fight just fight it

Fareee123:
well, I never asked for it,my dad gives me house rent which he knows about, but he still pays it because when I had issues with my roommate in my first year,the Lady broke my head,so he got me another apartment and told the landlord to call him whenever the rent expires. Not all guys don't have sense like you

you’re claiming to be ok Financially but I know very well you’re still coming here to seek for people’s opinions because of what you’re getting from him if he stops it pinm you won’t ask for anyone’s opinion before you’ll call it off.some girls are not ok financially but most times they still reject financial offers from their boyfriend in other for him to be able to safe or for him not to think they are after money

DominusPrime:

Yeah she should dump him but I still feel she should enjoy his money for as long as possible. Unless his father is a millionaire or he's making easy money illegally I see no reason why he should invest so much in a girl so young who will still leave him. At 21 majority of girls are not mature enough to know if realise a man As husband material so she'll end up with different guys b4 marriage. ..the boy needs to learn sense and she will teach him

you have a very good point. I agree with you. Op is a smart lady

KomonSense:


come collect bitter kola joooor.... you get sesne

Lol

MariaAngeles:

You read the part where she stated that dude was in his final year right ?
Oh! I forgot. Op is female and that's no issue .
She's right as long as she's a she .

Well, I guess you didn't see my comments in the thread where some dumb girl got pregnant for some idiot who has ghosted her because of a pregnancy before again.

@op,I don't know about your boyfriend,but me as somewhat introverted,I really dislike making phone calls be it girlfriend,family or friends.I prefer talking face to face and once in a while,and it doesn't mean I don't love or care about you.Any phone call I do is strictly business.Azzin phone call chat is so boring to me.

This thing goes perri-persu
weting dis girl dey talk fit be true
When i was staying with my sister some years back, my inlaws brother who was a business guy and always busy had a girl of 18-19 yrs, the guy paid all the girls bills
but im no see her pant,
I was the one laashing this girl 247, but my inlaw brother no no,
one day i reason my guy say mek him find time nack dis babe now, the guy laugh tell me say evryting dey im hand
this girl the buy me stuffs , and fruits, i nack this girl so tey i tire.
this is just the nature of women, if u no naack them so tey them run ,or carry belle come born come they busy their brain no fit return to default settings
I wish i go jus catch this kain bird of a girl
chai! ! I no even know why some guys dey mumu like dis sef
if na me i 4 don give u mmezi garri, after dat ur eye go clear wela, ........

If he gives you all the attention you want but stops giving u the 20k or paying your rent...will that be fine

He has supplied everything now . The attention has become the issue . Smh . Girls tho