I registered on this platform to tell my story and encourage other Nigerian youths who may have humble background like me, not to give up.

I did one of the craziest wedding in human history. I can’t stop laughing now as God has changed our story

COST OF THE WEDDING IN DETAIL:
Statutory marriage (court wedding) – took place in December, 2015

The court wedding was contracted at the marriage registry of Kano State, opposite Emir Sanusi’s palace, Kano municipal. Here are what I spent:
1) Wedding Certificate fee N8,000
2) Wedding ring N1,500
3) Clothes for the wedding for both of us (including sewing) N13, 600
4) Two crates of multina N5000
5) One carton of Digestive biscuit N600
6) Transport for both of us (kake napep) N200 (to and fro)

Total: N 28,900

No reception

Few invitees and no much celebrations


TRADITIONAL WEDDING:
I spent about 35,000 including clothes.

HOW IT STARTED

I was posted to Kano for my NYSC in 2014 August, Batch B. I fell in love with this beautiful lady and we had similar historical background. Before I completed my NYSC, I got admission to Bayero University for my master degree programme (march, 2015). I didn’t have what it takes for marriage and there was no help from anywhere. I really wanted to dump her and focus on my study but she never let me go.

She told me she want to go for master too, we hurriedly applied for her during the late application period, she was lucky she got admission to study community health. She took me to her parents who are based in Kaduna but are from Okrika in River state. Her parents are educated and gave me good advice and encourage us to get serious with our studies. The father told me to pay N5,000 as bride price and I spent about 30,000 for a very quiet traditional wedding.

In Kano, we live in a single room (self contain) opposite Bayero University gate, going to school together. I started a part time teaching with Al-Furkaan Science Academy with 18,000 salary and also work it for her to be teaching there too for 15,000 salary. The school management did not know that we are couple. Some teachers there were even trying to talk to her….
After our coursework, as if God was waiting for us to complete the coursework, boom!!! I was called by an agro allied company based in kano for interview. I applied online for the job. I got the job and we were both happy!!!

Three months later, my wife got a job with an NGO working in communities in Kano and Jigawa. Not long after, we moved to a two bedroom flat and got a car. We had a baby boy now and building a house in Otukpo, Benue state.

THIS IS MY TESTIMONY……
Start little and God we increase it…
I was so ashamed then and the people laughing at us them are now coming to begg us for money and support.

Now my wife is saying we should do a flamboyant, expensive, and gorgeous church wedding and invite all the people we invited during the low-key court and traditional marriage...and invite all friends, foes and all the people laughing at us at that time....

This is pretty nice and it takes a whole great deal of will to pull that off!!!... Kudos

SecretSpy666:
I registered on this platform to tell my story and encourage other Nigerian youths who may have humble background like me, not to give up.

I did one of the craziest wedding in human history. I can’t stop laughing now as God has changed our story

COST OF THE WEDDING IN DETAIL:
Statutory marriage (court wedding) – took place in December, 2015

The court wedding was contracted at the marriage registry of Kano State, opposite Emir Sanusi’s palace, Kano municipal. Here are what I spent:
1) Wedding Certificate fee N8,000
2) Wedding ring N1,500
3) Clothes for the wedding for both of us (including sewing) N13, 600
4) Two crates of multina N5000
5) One carton of Digestive biscuit N600
6) Transport for both of us (kake napep) N200 (to and fro)

Total: N 28,900

No reception

Few invitees and no much celebrations


TRADITIONAL WEDDING:
I spent about 35,000 including clothes.

HOW IT STARTED

I was posted to Kano for my NYSC in 2014 August, Batch B. I fell in love with this beautiful lady and we had similar historical background. Before I completed my NYSC, I got admission to Bayero University for my master degree programme (march, 2015). I didn’t have what it takes for marriage and there was no help from anywhere. I really wanted to dump her and focus on my study but she never let me go.

She told me she want to go for master too, we hurriedly applied for her during the late application period, she was lucky she got admission to study community health. She took me to her parents who are based in Kaduna but are from Okrika in River state. Her parents are educated and gave me good advice and encourage us to get serious with our studies. The father told me to pay N5,000 as bride price and I spent about 30,000 for a very quiet traditional wedding.

In Kano, we live in a single room (self contain) opposite Bayero University gate, going to school together. I started a part time teaching with Al-Furkaan Science Academy with 18,000 salary and also work it for her to be teaching there too for 15,000 salary. The school management did not know that we are couple. Some teachers there were even trying to talk to her….
After our coursework, as if God was waiting for us to complete the coursework, boom!!! I was called by an agro allied company based in kano for interview. I applied online for the job. I got the job and we were both happy!!!

Three months later, my wife got a job with an NGO working in communities in Kano and Jigawa. Not long after, we moved to a two bedroom flat and got a car. We had a baby boy now and building a house in Otukpo, Benue state.

THIS IS MY TESTIMONY……
Start little and God we increase it…
I was so ashamed then and the people laughing at us them are now coming to begg us for money and support.

No my wife is saying we should do a flamboyant, expensive, and gorgeous church wedding and invite all the people we invited during the low-key court and traditional marriage...and invite all friends, foes and all the people laughing at us at that time....

Oine.....me I'm planning a wedding without reception this year with my fiancee. She has agreed to a wedding without reception after persuasion and reasoning along with me. Such ladies are rare. I know people who went into borrowing because of wedding ceremony. I admire your courage oine

And u are showing us pictures with nice wedding gown and suits..U should have posted the 13k suit to encourage the readers more haba!!!

Richy4:
And u are showing us pictures with nice wedding gown and suits..U should have posted the 13k suit to encourage the readers more haba!!!

We did not even use suit. Just plain white material we sewed...

Owiii:

Oine.....me I'm planning a wedding without reception this year with my fiancee. She has agreed to a wedding without reception after persuasion and reasoning along with me. Such ladies are rare. I know people who went into borrowing because of wedding ceremony. I admire your courage oine

She has to agree........the future is bigger......don't use your future to settle debts

SecretSpy666:


We did not even use suit. Just plain white material we sewed...

haba!! Lord have mercy...

It's good that it worked out for you both

Truly he that finds a wife has found a good thing

One can marry with less sef. You both just gotta agree.


You'll get cute rings on Aliexpress for less than 1500 sef

dawnomike:
This is pretty nice and it takes a whole great deal of will to pull that off!!!... Kudos

I wish I get the mind to do like the OP....

My people na celebration and flamboyant wedding all of them want but no one will assist financially

AwkaetitiBabe:
One can marry with less sef. You both just gotta agree.

are you sure? please come and school me.

Mod push this to front page lets people get motivated. We need this kind of motivation in this regime

AwkaetitiBabe:
One can marry with less sef. You both just gotta agree.

Waoh! That will be nice. From which part of Nigeria can someone get a wife at that low expenses?

lawman88:

are you sure? please come and school me.

Mod push this to front page lets people get motivated. We need this kind of motivation in this regime

Court wedding

Yoruba ladies over to you. Can you accept this kind of wedding?

If your wife to be is understandable , it is possible to achieve this but ladies nowadays do not want to settle for SURULERE ( struggling) again, they prefer OLORUNSOGO (high class).


To convince a lady to accept this in Lagos , you have to be on 75 days marathon fasting .

You should have used the real pics nau. Congrats.

SecretSpy666:
I registered on this platform to tell my story and encourage other Nigerian youths who may have humble background like me, not to give up.

I did one of the craziest wedding in human history. I can’t stop laughing now as God has changed our story

COST OF THE WEDDING IN DETAIL:
Statutory marriage (court wedding) – took place in December, 2015

The court wedding was contracted at the marriage registry of Kano State, opposite Emir Sanusi’s palace, Kano municipal. Here are what I spent:
1) Wedding Certificate fee N8,000
2) Wedding ring N1,500
3) Clothes for the wedding for both of us (including sewing) N13, 600
4) Two crates of multina N5000
5) One carton of Digestive biscuit N600
6) Transport for both of us (kake napep) N200 (to and fro)

Total: N 28,900

No reception

Few invitees and no much celebrations


TRADITIONAL WEDDING:
I spent about 35,000 including clothes.

HOW IT STARTED

I was posted to Kano for my NYSC in 2014 August, Batch B. I fell in love with this beautiful lady and we had similar historical background. Before I completed my NYSC, I got admission to Bayero University for my master degree programme (march, 2015). I didn’t have what it takes for marriage and there was no help from anywhere. I really wanted to dump her and focus on my study but she never let me go.

She told me she want to go for master too, we hurriedly applied for her during the late application period, she was lucky she got admission to study community health. She took me to her parents who are based in Kaduna but are from Okrika in River state. Her parents are educated and gave me good advice and encourage us to get serious with our studies. The father told me to pay N5,000 as bride price and I spent about 30,000 for a very quiet traditional wedding.

In Kano, we live in a single room (self contain) opposite Bayero University gate, going to school together. I started a part time teaching with Al-Furkaan Science Academy with 18,000 salary and also work it for her to be teaching there too for 15,000 salary. The school management did not know that we are couple. Some teachers there were even trying to talk to her….
After our coursework, as if God was waiting for us to complete the coursework, boom!!! I was called by an agro allied company based in kano for interview. I applied online for the job. I got the job and we were both happy!!!

Three months later, my wife got a job with an NGO working in communities in Kano and Jigawa. Not long after, we moved to a two bedroom flat and got a car. We had a baby boy now and building a house in Otukpo, Benue state.

THIS IS MY TESTIMONY……
Start little and God we increase it…
I was so ashamed then and the people laughing at us them are now coming to begg us for money and support.

Now my wife is saying we should do a flamboyant, expensive, and gorgeous church wedding and invite all the people we invited during the low-key court and traditional marriage...and invite all friends, foes and all the people laughing at us at that time....

Your story is quite inspiring, and I'm glad things worked out for you. But encouraging people to tow your path doesn't hold sway, cos it may backfire. I know a guy who did something similar, and 10 years down the line, he is poorer than he was.

The truth is, if you can afford a flamboyant wedding, by all means, do it! This is because, weddings are memorable, and are expected to take place once in a life time.

There are three chapters in one's life:birth, marriage and death. If people celebrate births and funerals, then weddings shouldn't be less celebrated.

Nevertheless, if you can't afford a loud wedding, then opt for something small with few guests. But make it simple and classy, and don't be like the OP, cos serving his guests biscuits was in bad taste.

Being poor is one thing, planning right is another. @OP, you shouldn't have entertained your guests with biscuits,(cos I assume they were all adults). Instead, 2 mudus of rice served in take away packs could have done the magic. And if there was less money for malt, then you could have opted for zobo drinks which is cheaper and even more delicious than malt drinks.

The problem most Nigerians have when it comes to weddings is that, while they can afford to cater for only 50 guests, they end up inviting 500, just so they can have more contributions from them.

If your budget can only entertain 50 people, then plan for that number and don't end up inviting more numbers so you don't serve them biscuits just like the OP.

I also don’t want a wedding reception.
I want to go to registry and go for my honey moon.

I have noticed that weddings are only enjoyed by the visitors. The couples families always end up stressing and fighting. I’ve not heard of any wedding that family members did not fight or were unhappy about something. Somebody must complain about something!
I am unwilling to spend obscene amounts of money entertaining and feeding a bunch of people, while the people most important to me are more stressed than happy.

Congrats on your journey so far. As I'm sure you've realised, an elaborate wedding isn't what makes a marriage successful.

Am glad it works out fine for you and you were lucky with your woman who reasoned with you and planned with you which made your story a success story. Not everyone is lucky! The fear of not being lucky with such plan is what is holding most people. You know people who planned this kind of small wedding are mostly not financially capable, so the fear of how they gonna cope with their meagre income is that fear that's holding most people. One party may not have such fear, another party may have the fear hence the two parties will go their separate ways. It just takes the understanding of the two parties and planning as well. May God help us all.

outside life not INSIDE LIFE

jidamsel43:
Yoruba ladies over to you. Can you accept this kind of wedding?

If your wife to be is understandable , it is possible to achieve this but ladies nowadays do not want to settle for SURULERE ( struggling) again, they prefer OLORUNSOGO (high class).


To convince a lady to accept this in Lagos , you have to be on 75 days marathon fasting .

Lol! SURULERE as a start up with an educated man is not bad. Sometimes OLORUNSOGO from a disguise yahoo boy or a man at the peak of his dreams could turn out to be SURULERE in no distant time.

Oluwa ko rowa lowo, ni oruko jesu.

Kendumazy:
Am glad it works out fine for you and you were lucky with your woman who reasoned with you and planned with you which made your story a success story. Not everyone is lucky! The fear of not being lucky with such plan is what is holding most people. You know people who planned this kind of small wedding are mostly not financially capable, so the fear of how they gonna cope with their meagre income is that fear that's holding most people. One party may not have such fear, another party may have the fear hence the two parties will go their separate ways. It just takes the understanding of the two parties and planning as well. May God help us all.

Amen. Thanks. We planned we are not going to have a child until we finish our masters degree if our condition didn't improve, thanks to God that the condition improve....
I was somehow afraid of getting married to a lady from Okrika, River state. Thankgod she turned out to be a great blessing to me

We4all:


Your story is quite inspiring, and I'm glad things worked out for you. But encouraging people to tow your path doesn't hold sway, cos it may backfire. I know a guy who did something similar, and 10 years down the line, he is poorer than he was.

The truth is, if you can afford a flamboyant wedding, by all means, do it! This is because, weddings are memorable, and are expected to take place once in a life time.

There are three chapters in one's life:birth, marriage and death. If people celebrate births and funerals, then weddings shouldn't be less celebrated.

Nevertheless, if you can't afford a loud wedding, then opt for something small with few guests. But make it simple and classy, and don't be like the OP, cos serving his guests biscuits was in bad taste.

Being poor is one thing, planning right is another. @OP, you shouldn't have entertained your guests with biscuits,(cos I assume they were all adults). Instead, 2 mudus of rice served in take away packs could have done the magic. And if there was less money for malt, then you could have opted for zobo drinks which is cheaper and even more delicious than malt drinks.

The problem most Nigerians have when it comes to weddings is that, while they can afford to cater for only 50 guests, they end up inviting 500, just so they can have more contributions from them.

If your budget can only entertain 50 people, then plan for that number and don't end up inviting more numbers so you don't serve them biscuits just like the OP.

Try and take a bottle of maltina and digestive biscuit together and see. They go together and enjoyable.

Beside, the OP is not saying we should go and serve malt and biscuits in our weddings, he is trying to say that we should plan according to our pocket and no borrowing to please those that don't give a damn

We4all:


Your story is quite inspiring, and I'm glad things worked out for you. But encouraging people to tow your path doesn't hold sway, cos it may backfire. I know a guy who did something similar, and 10 years down the line, he is poorer than he was.

The truth is, if you can afford a flamboyant wedding, by all means, do it! This is because, weddings are memorable, and are expected to take place once in a life time.

There are three chapters in one's life:birth, marriage and death. If people celebrate births and funerals, then weddings shouldn't be less celebrated.

Nevertheless, if you can't afford a loud wedding, then opt for something small with few guests. But make it simple and classy, and don't be like the OP, cos serving his guests biscuits was in bad taste.

Being poor is one thing, planning right is another. @OP, you shouldn't have entertained your guests with biscuits,(cos I assume they were all adults). Instead, 2 mudus of rice served in take away packs could have done the magic. And if there was less money for malt, then you could have opted for zobo drinks which is cheaper and even more delicious than malt drinks.

The problem most Nigerians have when it comes to weddings is that, while they can afford to cater for only 50 guests, they end up inviting 500, just so they can have more contributions from them.

If your budget can only entertain 50 people, then plan for that number and don't end up inviting more numbers so you don't serve them biscuits just like the OP.

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Try and take a bottle of maltina and digestive biscuit together and see. They go together and enjoyable.

Beside, the OP is not saying we should go and serve malt and biscuits in our weddings, he is trying to say that we should plan according to our pocket and no borrowing to please those that don't give a damn

Nice and inspirational. Some also did a low key wedding and are now living in squalor.
Everyone should study his situation. It's also okay to wait till you are comfortable. Like Socrates says, 'know thyself'.
I'm glad you both knew yourselves and took your decisions accordingly.

sisisioge:

You should have used the real pics nau. Congrats.

I also want to see the real picturez. Op try and upload them

Awwwwn this is amazing...

SecretSpy666:


Waoh! That will be nice. From which part of Nigeria can someone get a wife at that low expenses?

Mostly the South South and some parts of the South West. The problem with the latter is that most of the families live for parties, so even when the bride price is cheap, you might not escape the reception.

As per the South South, most of them are so cheap that you are good to go with very little and wouldn't bother with party sef.

You do have an amazing lady. Most ladies around today live for the glamour of their weddings and wouldn't compromise the Bella Naija kind of wedding in their heads. A friend said she must have all the three weddings, particularly the church's because she wants to use it to 'honour God'. Crazy.

Big, small, medium, quiet or loud, it is most about staying married and not just getting married. Congratulations, brother.

jidamsel43:
Yoruba ladies over to you. Can you accept this kind of wedding?

If your wife to be is understandable , it is possible to achieve this but ladies nowadays do not want to settle for SURULERE ( struggling) again, they prefer OLORUNSOGO (high class).


To convince a lady to accept this in Lagos , you have to be on 75 days marathon fasting .

I think is her desperation to get married and the love he has for the guy that make her to accept the low budget wedding because deep down she wanted it and she's clamouring for it now which is obviously her real self still wanting to showcase her flamboyant lifestyle.

24kmagic:
First, I'd have to say congratulations.
Secondly, i'd have to say LUCKY YOU!

It happened 2014, that's some six years ago.
The number of reasonable girls have drastically reduced. Cos whether we like it or not, the more the days passes by, the more materialistic and slutty our girls become, which also means LESS WIFE MATERIALS .

In say five years time, there will be very, very few girls of marriageable features. Baby mama will be the order of the day.

9ja girls don cast.


Again, I'd assume she grew up in the north, you know us now, we don't do PEPPER THEM here.

But last last, nothing will ever make me pull that stunt. I can't do it.

You try!

Thank you bro

Sanchez01:

Mostly the South South and some parts of the South West. The problem with the latter is that most of the families live for parties, so even when the bride price is cheap, you might not escape the reception.

As per the South South, most of them are so cheap that you are good to go with very little and wouldn't bother with party sef.

You do have an amazing lady. Most ladies around today live for the glamour of their weddings and wouldn't compromise the Bella Naija kind of wedding in their heads. A friend said she must have all the three weddings, particularly the church's because she wants to use it to 'honour God'. Crazy.

Big, small, medium, quiet or loud, it is most about staying married and not just getting married. Congratulations, brother.

I think the lady grew up in the north and the parents in the north that make it possible for the OP. In my south south, even the family want to pity you, the community no go gree for this low budget traditional wedding.

May God help me find this kind lady and this kind family.....very understandable