okikiosibodu:

I think you being in 300l should have given you enough time to handpick your clique. During my days, I used to sit in front (was war before I could achieve that though. Trick is, coming to class early before many people), and the front sir usually doesn't command the lecturers attention as backbenchers think. Over time, I built confidence, and then would ask questions when no clear about something, right there in class (cos I had many "mumu" course mates that won't understand what the lecturer taught, they have no plans of making researches afterwards, and will never admit they don't know it. So I don't wait til exam time), plus I learn better by asking questions cos the lecturer tries to use relatable phenomena to explain, and it sticks better. Don't be ashamed to ask questions, cos you will be surprised how many people are in the class that has absolutely no clue what the lecturer is talking about, they will never seek clarity until exam time, and yet these same set of people will be giving you negative vibes when you are asking intelligent questions. I got respected in class the day I asked a question and people where giving their bad vibes. The lecturer then started asking everyone one after the other to give the ans. To my perplexity, not a single person among the block heads mubbling, could ans. Lecturer warned them sternly never to mumble or grumble when next I ask questions and they don't know the ans. Truth is, the intelligent ones will never give you bad energy, so don't be disturbed.
Overtime, your confidence should grow. I want to believe to defend a group work, you most likely will sit in groups or larger chunch of people being in your group. Try to imagine you are talking to them during the group presentation. If you goof (its not always a bad thing), they will laugh at you and you won't feel bad cos they are in your clique. You can even end up adding humour to the presentation "accidentally" while you try to correct your goof. Don't overthink it, don't overdo it, just let it flow naturally. Practice, makes perfect. You will get an hang of it, trust me.
Lets see what others have to say

TeeBabss:


I used to have this problem too, check this out;

1- Strong determination - I've always had this dream to go into academics. How would I become a lecturer with such attitude, how would I present, defend my assertions, address protesting students etc, I said to myself 'Oh Man, You Need To Be Strong'
Then I would raise my hand in class to answer question, did a little politics (I was our class honourable/SRC), led my group pre&post data presentation and final defense and now I'm teaching as a Corper.

2- Preparedness - Just like the Scout motto 'Be Prepared'. Before raising your hand, talking to them or going up that stage, you need to be really prepared and confident of what you'll say and likely questions that could be asked. Sometimes you can jot down the main point and practise very well before you go up, but pls don't cram.

...during our professional induction, the anchor just came to me and said "give me your name, when prof is done talking, I'll call you to come and do the vote of thanks.....
If I haven't gotten off the 'stage shii' I would've disgraced my ancestors that day, lol

R2bees:
Any of you heard of spiritual awakening. like awakening in to higher consciousness?

AquariusRising:


Yeah! I have heard about it...I'm also making loose assumptions that what you are talking about is what I think you are talking about....

R2bees:
One mystery about this is that you will never understand until it happens to you. The crazy part is that the more i try to explain to the people the more I'm called delusional.. As in i just woke up one day and everything felt different... This shiit is real.

R2bees:
One mystery about this is that you will never understand until it happens to you. The crazy part is that the more i try to explain to the people the more I'm called delusional.. As in i just woke up one day and everything felt different... This shiit is real.

Route99:

I have heard of Spiritual Awakening. What really happened in your case? share with us.

R2bees:
One mystery about this is that you will never understand until it happens to you. The crazy part is that the more i try to explain to the people the more I'm called delusional.. As in i just woke up one day and everything felt different... This shiit is real.

AquariusRising:


I do not think you are delusional and I think this discussion is not for everyone's consumption. You have to pick and choose who you discuss this with, otherwise you will keep being called delusional.

R2bees:
Exactly bro... I even fell out with a couple friends due to this...

AquariusRising:


Well, stop falling out with your friends. They are your friends and total agreement in everything is not a requisite for friendship. Allow them be who they are while you retain the essence of you.

If you are a true introvert, you know what to do. Turn your attention inwards and conserve your energy.

R2bees:
I don't know how to put this... I'm still at the first stage, i hope to drop everything here once i grasp all that's going on.. But here are the things that's changed in me.

I have become more compassionate

Fake people most especially Narcissist make me sick in the stomach.
I can now see through people's weakness
I subconsciously predict stuffs and it comes to past.
I tend to lose focus a lot( which i have started working on with meditation).

People and animals are drawn to me, a dog can never bark at me.

If i need something, all i have to do is to think about it and it will come to past.

I have trimmed down the number of friends i had.. Right it's just family and two close friends out of over 2 thousand friends i made in high school.

People always want to help me all the time and it's creepy especially coming from those u least expect...

See guys, there is a lot going on in this world that we don't know about, this might sound stupid, but like i said u will never understand until it happen to you.... I learned it's not something u will experience over night, u will have undergo a lot of suffering and stress for u to see these. I read somewhere that near death experiences can lead to this..

I created this thread as far back May, and i had my first awakening experience by july...I had a weird dream and quickly created this thread hoping i would get an answer, knowing Nigerians na, they all called it a bluff, Aside one guy "Billyonaire" who as at that time wasn't making sense to me until now.. This is crazy
https://www.nairaland.com/5206637/feel-strange-seems-universe-preparing

AquariusRising:


I do not think you are delusional and I think this discussion is not for everyone's consumption. You have to pick and choose who you discuss this with, otherwise you will keep being called delusional.

okikiosibodu:

Will bear it in mind. Thanks for your generous assistance. It is accepted in good arms

R2bees:
Any of you heard of spiritual awakening. like awakening in to higher consciousness?

Tundexi:


What felt different exactly? From being introvert to Extrovert?

R2bees:
I don't know how to put this... I'm still at the first stage, i hope to drop everything here once i grasp all that's going on.. But here are the things that's changed in me.

I have become more compassionate

Fake people most especially Narcissist make me sick in the stomach.
I can now see through people's weakness
I subconsciously predict stuffs and it comes to past.
I tend to lose focus a lot( which i have started working on with meditation).

People and animals are drawn to me, a dog can never bark at me.

If i need something, all i have to do is to think about it and it will come to past.

I have trimmed down the number of friends i had.. Right it's just family and two close friends out of over 2 thousand friends i made in high school.

People always want to help me all the time and it's creepy especially coming from those u least expect...

See guys, there is a lot going on in this world that we don't know about, this might sound stupid, but like i said u will never understand until it happen to you.... I learned it's not something u will experience over night, u will have undergo a lot of suffering and stress for u to see these. I read somewhere that near death experiences can lead to this..

I created this thread as far back May, and i had my first awakening experience by july...I had a weird dream and quickly created this thread hoping i would get an answer, knowing Nigerians na, they all called it a bluff, Aside one guy "Billyonaire" who as at that time wasn't making sense to me until now.. This is crazy
https://www.nairaland.com/5206637/feel-strange-seems-universe-preparing



I think ure experiencing mindfulness... Ur separate and dispersed chi concentrating it's force to ur present existence.. Thereby multiplying ur evry efforts by a 1000% ... Enjoy while it last cos it doesn't last too long

R2bees:
Trust me, i wasn't the one at fault... When one experience these things it is easier for them detect subtle jealousy brewing in their faces, especially when they witness everything falling in place for me. They see every contribution from me as an avenue to counter or to make you seem dumb... I just detach and only discuss with like minds.

DivineGrace123:


Your siblings? That is serious. That is definitely not a trait of an introvert.

JacksonMS:
me too. Even the whole family. I get sick when my family members wants to take me out.

johnhood:
My own problem is talking to women.

mrsteel:

Lol
How old are u?

johnhood:

21yrs

mrsteel:

U are still young, so your case is normal as regards talking to women. But u need to start working on it. First are u are student?

daniddan1999:
I just moved into the hostel off campus as a fresher and i don't associate with other students living here in fact i love being alone seems some people are complaining already i don't come out, i don't move with crowd and i don't know what to do now.

daniddan1999:
I just moved into the hostel off campus as a fresher and i don't associate with other students living here in fact i love being alone seems some people are complaining already i don't come out, i don't move with crowd and i don't know what to do now.