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Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by comtem2011: 11:20am On Jan 13, 2020 |
Ifyjos:Pls, as you stay with him, don't allow him to have any sexual intercourse with you. Both of you should be in sober reflection. If I may ask, what was his reaction towards your confession. |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Ginaruby: 12:51pm On Jan 13, 2020 |
CeterisXVII: Didn't you read that it was a continuous lash each time she sees the both of them... Who does that? That was way too much... When a man is pushed to the wall for so long the reaction is disastrous... She got exactly what she wanted... Make she taste that side of life too... |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Ehibiggirl(f): 1:32pm On Jan 13, 2020 |
Ginaruby:you are very irresponsible for supporting this. Irresponsible toad. |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by arewaseye: 2:11pm On Jan 13, 2020 |
Ifyjos:I have been following this thread but I just have to comment. Ifyjos, I really pity you now because your ignorance is out of this world. You really need a THERAPY cos you have lost your senses (don't take it as insult). Pls fellow NAIRALANDERS this girl needs help urgently. Chai, your future is at stake here. Calm down ooo before you commit murder. I now understand why your replies has been this way. You need to check in with a THERAPIST urgently. And my dear stop calling God ooo, you don't know Him at all. Oluwa gba wa lowo omo iya oran. |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Ifyjos(f): 2:26pm On Jan 13, 2020 |
Thank you very much I will go to my mum church on Sunday and see if I can talk with her pastor or his wife Abcruz: 1 Like |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Ifyjos(f): 2:31pm On Jan 13, 2020 |
No comment about sex because we are a couple and it can happen anytime. My guy doesn’t know i confess and coming to stay with him I gave him other reasons. my family disowns me and he is the only one I have now on this world and I don’t want him to leave me because I don’t have anywhere else to go. I just pray that my family will be able to have a place in their heart to forgive me for all the pains I have caused them so things can go back to normal again comtem2011: |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by SlimBrawnie(f): 2:51pm On Jan 13, 2020 |
@Ifyjos. Things will not be normal unless you change. Can you wait till Sunday before seeing your Pastors,not even during midweek service or so? For someone that really wants to be with her daughter I was thinking you'd be desperate to get people to help talk to your sister but seems you are becoming relaxed and comfy... And why are you scared of telling your guy that you've confessed? Don't build any relationship on the foundation of lies,get to know his reaction now. |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Ifyjos(f): 3:01pm On Jan 13, 2020 |
He is my mum pastor I don’t even attend the church and the problem is from my guy place is very far from the church and I don’t know his visiting hours so I taught Sunday morning will be best because I know the services time I can see him after church he will allow me. If you know how much I want to be with my child right now I can do anything that will cause any problem that’s why I don’t want to commit another mistake , I want to take things with patience and in a right way. I have learnt my lesson and I don’t want it to be repeated SlimBrawnie: 3 Likes |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by comtem2011: 3:01pm On Jan 13, 2020 |
Ifyjos:ok hanty 1 Like |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by ffo(m): 3:24pm On Jan 13, 2020 |
Ifyjos:has he paid your dowry? has your parents given you to him? have you wedded? Because you have a child for him does not automatically translate to him being your husband. 10 Likes |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Ifyjos(f): 3:30pm On Jan 13, 2020 |
Ok ffo: |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by MariaAngeles: 5:03pm On Jan 13, 2020 |
Ifyjos:You are a poisonous snake ! Get ready for what is coming to you, because all our actions have consequences . 2 Likes |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by MariaAngeles: 5:14pm On Jan 13, 2020 |
BRATISLAVA:So sad 1 Like |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Ginaruby: 5:18pm On Jan 13, 2020 |
Ehibiggirl: I have seen how irresponsible toad's react for the first time in my life... Thanks for coming through... Your view about life must not be same as everyone at all time so learn to respect other peoples view if you intend to have a happy relationship with people... Learn to always present your arguments without insulting people... 3 Likes |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Ehibiggirl(f): 5:40pm On Jan 13, 2020 |
Ginaruby:sorry I called you a toad Oga. But I can imagine your own relationships with people when you strongly supported a vengeful act after reading what the op had posted. I’m surprised you talk about respect to be honest, if you have gone through all 36 pages of this s thread you would have made a saner comment than instigate the lady to more violence against her family. And yes people view of life are different that’s why we have people who act more responsible than others. 5 Likes |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Ginaruby: 5:56pm On Jan 13, 2020 |
Ehibiggirl: Now we are on same page... I am not in support of her actions in any way but fair verdict needs to be served... Something lead to something that lead to the stage of the OP family, while judging u don't just cut from up you cut at all angles... I try to put my self in the shoes of all the parties involved to be able to know how I will react in each... Our people say after blaming the person that killed the dead you also blame the dead for prompting what caused it's death... I hope you learn one thing out of this argument... Nigerians judge so much with emotions and not logically... Next time her sister will mind her business... N/B I have been following this thread from day one... 1 Like |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Ehibiggirl(f): 6:24pm On Jan 13, 2020 |
Ginaruby:” you also blame the dead for prompting what caused it's death” I have nothing more to say to you after reading this. Maybe when you experience this story from the sisters position you will learn a thing or two about life. 3 Likes |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by CeterisXVII: 9:19pm On Jan 13, 2020 |
Ginaruby:Abeg, if na play make you just stop am. The girl got pregnant at 14, gave birth at 15 which truncated her education, and made nonsense of all their parent's efforts, and the money spent to send her to school. Did she expect her family or her sister to pat her on the back, applaud her misdemeanor and give her an award, for it? Or was she expecting a chieftaincy title, for her waywardness? Please, even if she was insulted on a daily basis, she brought it upon herself as she did NOT do anything in 5 years, to improve herself or better her lot. I repeat: she was NOT justified in anyway, to beat up her sister, especially when that sister has helped to pay her bills, on more than one occasion. If she did not want to be insulted, then she should NOT have gotten pregnant, in the first place!! Or she could have moved out of the house to live with the boyfriend who impregnated her, after marrying him! 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Zainab20198(f): 9:25pm On Jan 13, 2020 |
Hmmmm.....this is so sad,one thing im happy for u realise it,it shows u acted based on your reasoning....you thought everything your sister did was out of hatred,no but love....what i will advice is please go and meet with her husband to be,beg him to keep everything you are going to tell him as secret for now.open up to him,plead with him to forgive your sister that she is innocent,also let him no u did all that thinking your sister hates u and guy.i pray he understand...after that he should also join u and your guy to plead with your sis.with this things might change.no harm in trying.please help a dieing sis and never do such evil....God knows how to reward those who hurts us badly,revenge is not ours and sisters,women,please lets try to stop this act of destroying ourselves ......hmmmm 3 Likes |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Nobody: 10:35pm On Jan 13, 2020 |
CeterisXVII:hallelujah 1 Like |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by SlimBrawnie(f): 11:13pm On Jan 13, 2020 |
Zainab20198:This would have been the best(the fiancee coming along with Ify to talk to the sister), but he doesn't seem like he loved her sister that much, I wonder how he was able to easily let go like that... No trust whatsoever and you say you want to marry the lady? He probably had other options or thought it through & decided he doesn't want to be a part of that family and used the calls as an escape route... What has happened has happened, she has received enough backlash, it's remaining for her to receive enough sense...laslas I blame both she & her sister, imagine the gap in age yet it's looking like they are age mates, haba. |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by LilMissFavvy(f): 11:51pm On Jan 13, 2020 |
You have confessed the evils and abominations which you did to your blood sister, face the consequences and do not complain. In your previous comment, you told me that your sister should have gone to live with her fiance or rent an apartment. This is the time for you to do same, live with your baby daddy, remember you have no shame, such has been your lifestyle right from teen. I don't know what your parents are keeping your baby for, they should dump your baby with you since you are ungrateful that they are keeping your baby. Bear the consequences of your actions and stop complaining, you never valued your family or blood sister, so live like an outcast with your baby daddy, you said he is your crown/everything. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Nobody: 11:56pm On Jan 13, 2020 |
You said your guy doesn't know you confessed? Well, for now, is okay because he is the only one that can provide you shelter at the moment but, you have to let him know someday soon. He will eventually find out one day that you have confessed. Hiding the fact that you confessed from him will make him see you as a very secretive person who can harm him. I want you to be prepared for the worst when he learns you have confessed (either from you or someone else). |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by bigpicture001: 12:18am On Jan 14, 2020 |
SlimBrawnie: You at this Cruz UV not been threatened by cult group |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by SlimBrawnie(f): 12:51am On Jan 14, 2020 |
bigpicture001:I left my first University because of that but I didn't just leave, investigations were made to get to the root of the matter, so you don't just come and draw conclusion about me solely based on what I'm writing here. I still maintain my stand that if he really trusted her, both of them would have put heads together to get to the root of the matter. Imagine someone calls to threaten my husband and he decides to leave the marriage, just calls o,no real threat. Threats don't work that way. |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Ifyjos(f): 8:30am On Jan 14, 2020 |
Thank you . I will tell him when the right time comes unikmaureen: |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Ehibiggirl(f): 9:57am On Jan 14, 2020 |
It seems you are afraid of this your guy, he may throw you out or stop loving you if he finds out that you are trying to make amends and peace with your sister, I know that’s your number one fear right now.Thats totally unhealthy for true genuine love expels fear. Tell him and see how he reacts atleast you can confirm the love you believe he has for you and prove all naysayers wrong, most importantly so that this amendment mission with your family would be more genuine, easy and who knows your family may give you two their blessings while forgiving you. 7 Likes |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Ifyjos(f): 10:46am On Jan 14, 2020 |
Ok thank you Ehibiggirl: |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Jayae(f): 12:37pm On Jan 14, 2020 |
@ifyjos I advise you go to your mum to beg for forgiveness because right now she's the only one that will still have a change of heart. She's ur mother and u're her daughter, go the house when u know she's the only one around and beg her, make sure u cry wella and let her see that u're remorseful, nothing touches a mum's heart more than to see her own child being genuinely sorry for whatever bad she may have caused. So long as u can get ur mum to forgive you, ur other family members will later come around because she'll surely try to convince them to forgive you too. 2 Likes |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Gloriagee(f): 12:58pm On Jan 14, 2020 |
Hello Ifyjos - if you have really confessed to your sis, blessings be upon you for doing the right things . Years later, you will thank yourself for taking this right step. You have done a good thing and the fact that you have to hide it from ur BF tells a lot about his character n how he's influencing u to do stuff against ur conscience. You know the right thing, keep doing it. Oyibo ppl say: to urself be true, cos at the end u have urself to answer to. Reason why women that have aborted typically blame any instances of childlessness on the abortions, meanwhile some people may have no such issues but still have challenges. N never stop bettering urself, there's so much ahead to stay fixated on doing better than ur sis. The sky is ur limit, so don't be afraid to start small. 3 Likes |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Ifyjos(f): 12:59pm On Jan 14, 2020 |
Thank you so much for your advice , I really appreciate it, I had this in mind too I want to go and beg my mom with all my heart to forgive me and I was thinking to do it with the help of her pastor , I will go to her church on Sunday morning to plead with her pastor to go with me to beg my mom. I know that I have hurt her a lot and she supported me many times but for her to hate and abandon me this time I just pray she will be able to forgive me. Right now I know she is angry for her to block my number means she don’t want anything to do with me , plus my cousin that lives with us chatted me on WhatsApp telling me she heard my mom pleading with my brother from Lagos if she can come and leave my child there but my cousin say the way my mum was pleading a lot it seemed like he didn’t want to have my child with him I’m so happy he didn’t agree but I will act fast before anything happened to her. I told my cousin to keep informing me about the situation in the house in a secret way because I don’t want her to end up like me Jayae: |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Ifyjos(f): 1:01pm On Jan 14, 2020 |
Thank you so much . He is not a bad person but I just don’t know how to tell him about this but I promise when the right time come I will tell him Gloriagee: |
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