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Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Gloriagee(f): 1:15pm On Jan 14, 2020 |
He's not a bad person but has a history of making bad decisions, including going after a minor and grooming you to do his every wish . What effort has he made towards you acquiring a skill or getting you to live with him as a family. This is 2020... shine ya eye! Ifyjos: 6 Likes |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Ebenezar2020(m): 1:19pm On Jan 14, 2020 |
SlimBrawnie:I can see you're taking it easy on her unlike other girls cursing her already like the dumbo below funmisticqueen: 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Ifyjos(f): 1:26pm On Jan 14, 2020 |
Well is only the beginning of 2020 we are still in January I have more time to learn a skill and do better , right now all I want is to make peace with my family first the rest will come later Gloriagee: 1 Like |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Jayae(f): 2:08pm On Jan 14, 2020 |
Ifyjos:U're welcome. Don't worry about your mum, she'll surely come around. As for her trying to send ur daughter to ur brother in Lagos, I don't support that because u can never tell how they'll treat her there, so u have to act quickly, Sunday is too far, go on a weekday when u're sure she's the only one at home and apologize, even if she tries to chase u out, maintain ur stance and beg, she can do anything to you but she'll never kill u. As for ur bf, don't tell him that u've confessed to ur family, he might get really angry and may kick u out(guys can be really unpredictable), just stylishly tell him that u're considering telling the truth to ur family and know what his reaction will be. If he gets really angry, just know that its not yet time to tell him, so just concentrate on your family forgiving you first before u even consider telling him 6 Likes |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Ehibiggirl(f): 3:29pm On Jan 14, 2020 |
Jayae:guys can be unpredictable? Are you serious? So she should stay with some man that is unpredictable? Some unstable man with a flawed character? Is that the advice you give to your 21 year old sister as a man? Keep indulging her o. Unpredictable Adviser of the century 2 Likes |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Ifyjos(f): 3:49pm On Jan 14, 2020 |
Ok thanks I will tell my cousin anytime during this weekdays to let me know when mom is home alone so I can go over to beg her which is impossible for her to be alone because my dad is home all the time ( he’s sick doesn’t do much , spend most of his days in the bedroom) and since my sister hasn’t been working she is always home apart from going to the hospital and if I cannot do it weekday only Sunday will be best. Yes I will not tell him anything as long I haven’t sort out my problem with my family and I don’t want to add another problem. As long he has welcomed me in his ghetto that means a lot to me I’m proud to know that I’m his only woman and I know our future will be brighter Jayae: |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Jayae(f): 4:00pm On Jan 14, 2020 |
Ehibiggirl: Sister please, , I was not talking to you |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by AdedoyinO(f): 10:06pm On Jan 14, 2020 |
Ifyjos: Ifyjos: Prick is worrying this girl! Did you read " men can be unpredictable"? You are a couple. Really? Are you married to him or you are his baby mama? Don't get it twisted. 7 Likes |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Wiseking00(m): 11:00pm On Jan 14, 2020 |
AdedoyinO: She need someone that will teach her how life works . Like empower herself to fetch for herself in order to make end means so that in the nearest future she will be able to stand upright on her own when she realises that her baby daddy got no plan for better tomorrow than using her to achieve his own purpose 2 Likes |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Nobody: 11:44pm On Jan 14, 2020 |
funmisticqueen:just look at you? If you can attack your fellow female like this how do you expect men to attack her? Abeg lemme keep quiet before you say am silencing your truth/ obstructing your freedom of speech 3 Likes |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Thegeneralqueen(f): 6:25am On Jan 15, 2020 |
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Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Nobody: 8:11am On Jan 15, 2020 |
funmisticqueen:Let me guess to mentioned me because you assumed I will applaud you for castigating her. That means you dont know what I stand for. I have made my post on this issue already,we should not throw a baby along with the bath water. She made an err and regrets it and you still spill vile on her? Take it easy on her she is young and naive. 4 Likes |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Ginaruby: 11:37am On Jan 15, 2020 |
CeterisXVII: This is no play and I mean every word I type... She had a baby because she decided to keep it... So many persons throwing stones here have had more than 5 abortion's... But the society sees who ever keeps hers as a wayward human... I don't see them as such... She made her mistakes and such mistake should not be rubbed on her face continuously get that... Genevieve Nnaji had her daughter at same age and Is doing better than a lot of people... Her family, her mother should have taken custody of the child while she continue with her education but no they want her to carter for the child with her jobless boyfriend and keep insulting them... They are lucky I am not a member of that family... What nonsense... Ignoring her future isn't enough, that they had to always insult her... Her sister deserve exactly what she got... 2 Likes |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Ehibiggirl(f): 12:35pm On Jan 15, 2020 |
Ginaruby:see your life? You would have killed everything body in the family na abi chairman of anger. They would have taken custody? did you not read that it’s the sister that is the bread winner of the family? The girl made her choice and if she was repentant and saw what she did as a mistake she would have been better than where she is now by trying hard to fix it rather than plot evil and pride herself in premarital sex. You make reference to Genevive did she stay back to defend her mistake at the detriment of her family? Did she not go back to school forgetting about jobless pricks with dirty crowns? In life you help people who want to be helped, if she really wanted to better herself from the moment she made that mistake she would have her family would have saw to it, her sister would have helped her In Fact she made reference to a cousin the sister is currently setting up a biz for. Oga talk with wisdom settle down analyze things first before you jump. 10 Likes |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by HIGHESTPOPORI(m): 1:08pm On Jan 15, 2020 |
Ifyjos:Have been following your thread,I feel for you how you have passed all these at a young age,You have learnt from your mistakes, its good you confessed,so that ur soul can be free,don't worry about your daughter,she is still their daughter. 1 Like |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Ginaruby: 1:08pm On Jan 15, 2020 |
Ehibiggirl: I reserve my comment on this. Go and read the post again in between lines I will reply you then... 1 Like |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by HIGHESTPOPORI(m): 1:17pm On Jan 15, 2020 |
Ifyjos:Going to beg them with ur moms pastor would be better than going alone 1 Like |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Ginaruby: 1:17pm On Jan 15, 2020 |
Ehibiggirl: MADAM WISDOM 'Her guy takes care of their daughters school fees and all' sense of responsibility... but whenever he doesn't have my sister will assist and she will insult the hell... I'm sorry to ask but how do you understand and judge things? There was never a place in this post her elder sister tried to fix her up all she does was remind her of her mistakes... No good woman will have you insult her husband to her face and keep calm... But this girl did until her elder sister pushed her so hard... I still stand my ground her elder sisters actions are wrong... If I am a family member I will have to tell the elder sister to her face how wrong she was... You hate the guy just because he is not educated and wealthy... Least I forget her sister is no bread winner... 2 Likes |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Ifyjos(f): 1:25pm On Jan 15, 2020 |
Thank you sir , this is the only option I have which can work and I will do it on Sunday morning HIGHESTPOPORI: |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by CeterisXVII: 4:51pm On Jan 15, 2020 |
Ginaruby:Really? Anybody who has a sibling like you needs help. Because it shows that you too can do the same evil act, to your own sister. Genevieve Nnaji may have had a kid outside wedlock, but her own mistake happened when she was 17. It is not on record anywhere, that Genevieve exhibited any sense of entitlement. Neither is it written anywhere that she plotted any evil against her siblings, or she beat them up. In Genevieve's case, it was said that she had to leave her parents house, and go to stay with an aunt in Lagos. So please stop comparing apples with cocoyam. 11 Likes |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Ginaruby: 5:02pm On Jan 15, 2020 |
CeterisXVII: Anyone who has a sibling like you needs to be careful of your evil act for supporting evil... A 15 and 17 years old child is rated in same age group... You don't know Genevieve's story so shut up... "Genevieve Nnaji may have had a kid outside wedlock, but her own mistake happened when she was 17. " You see the respect in your comment as regards Genevieve, just because she made it in life... People like you back then talked down on her insulted her and all... But today where are they... Most of our parents got married at 14... Please learn to respect everyone equally and not taking sides because your emotions say so... Do you know the psychological and emotional pains the girl and her boy friend have been through in the hands of the so called sister and family... I will have to pause here... 3 Likes |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by CeterisXVII: 5:09pm On Jan 15, 2020 |
Ginaruby: Whose parents got married at 14? Oga, maybe your own parents did, but mine certainly did NOT. So you cannot speak for everybody's parents. And for your information, Genevieve's story is freely available on the internet. Google it. If condemning an evil act, is taking sides in your own view....then I have no apologies for doing so. Beating up your older sister because she scolds you for your mistakes, and for repeatedly hanging out with the same deadbeat smoker and drunkard, who got you pregnant in the first place, is a sign that you are evil. If you cannot see that, then it means you support the evil actions of Ifyjos and her weird mentality of entitlement. Now that she has confessed and has been chased out of her house, please go and offer her accomodation, a pat on the head and a lifetime award for all what she did, since you are in support of her actions. Nansense! 8 Likes |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Ifyjos(f): 5:12pm On Jan 15, 2020 |
Please don't mind their cheap talk it doesn't affect me at all because nothing will reduce my love for my darling guy I love him the way he is poor , alcoholic , smoker , car washer , uneducated he still my proud and joy and I dont regret having him as a boyfriend and a father to my daughter and in my next world i would like to have him again and again and having my daughter was the best thing I did which I dont regret. Ginaruby: |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Ifyjos(f): 5:14pm On Jan 15, 2020 |
For your information I'm not homeless I'm staying with my guy and the best thing ever sharing the same bed with a hot night sex and waking up with him with another hot morning sex, I'm very happy where I am and I cant wait to have my daughter with me to complete our family. Whether u like or not nothing will change my mind about my guy if u dont like it go hug transformer quote author=CeterisXVII post=85823617] Whose parents got married at 14? Oga, maybe your own parents did, but mine certainly did NOT. So you cannot speak for everybody's parents. And for your information, Genevieve's story is freely available on the internet. Google it. If condemning an evil act, is taking sides in your own view....then I have no apologies for doing so. Beating up your older sister because she scolds you for your mistakes, and for repeatedly hanging out with the same deadbeat smoker and drunkard, who got you pregnant in the first place, is a sign that you are evil. If you cannot see that, then it means you support the evil actions of Ifyjos and her weird mentality of entitlement. Now that she has confessed and has been chased out of her house, please go and offer her accomodation, a pat on the head and a lifetime award for all what she did, since you are in support of her actions. Nansense! [/quote] |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by jendell: 6:21pm On Jan 15, 2020 |
Babe(Ifyjos) I feel at this point you should talk/reply less. If you keep running your mouth ,you will paint a bad picture of how you live at home. If this is the way you act at home then I wonder why your sister won't constantly be at war with you. Please zip the replying biko. As for your daughter, my sister listen to me, the best place for her to be in now is with your people. She will have access to a decent roof over her head and food. Please whatever happens, always think of her future. Don't expose that child to that place your guy is presently squatting. Find a way and redeem your sister's image before her ex fiancee. Find something doing immediately,save up and learn a skill with it. The era of living in denial is over. You have a lot of work to do if truly you want to live a good life. Dont ever do something negative again for this your guy. May God be with you 4 Likes |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Ginaruby: 6:24pm On Jan 15, 2020 |
CeterisXVII: Oga please take census or you can ask your parents... Most of our parents and grand parents got married so early... 14 years a girl child was already ripe for marriage... That aside... Genevieve's story is readily available on the internet as you said do yourself little good by reading it... So you stop quoting wrongly... Her life almost got shattered at the age of 17 as a result of pregnancy but her parents accepted her and took care of the child as she continued her education... Genevieve had issues with the father of her baby may be he denied her showing high level of irresponsibility and that is why Genevieve decided to stay alone even till now... If he was responsible you think she will leave him... This young man is not doing well but has shown high level of responsibility by accepting his child and taking care as little as he can... If she had a good family support then there will be no limit for her... But because of a bad sister and family who feels her life ended in getting pregnant they are still struggling to survive... Some one made mention of education in one of the post... Most of the world know men are either not educated or school dropouts yet they achieved much more than the so called educated and even employ them... What we should encourage is entrepreneurship spirit amongst our youth and a source for capital... Beating up your elder sister for continually assaulting and insulting you is no crime for me... Her parents should have talked to the elder sister but because they failed to she had to take laws into her hands... Is he a dead beat because he smokes and drinks or because he has no money... If it's former I hope you can tell Wizkid, Davido, Olamide, Lil Wayne, etc the list is endless to their face that they are all dead beats... I would have said someone's brain is a dead beat but NO I still love you... 2 Likes |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Ifyjos(f): 6:38pm On Jan 15, 2020 |
Thanks dear, I dont care about what they are saying or thinks about me as long as no body in here feed me or take care of my bill it wont bother me at all not even a bit , It makes me much stronger , I did the best part which is confessing to my sister of my bad doing, even God in heaven has forgiven me and I dont need any of them to keep reminding me about what I did , because I'm not the first neither I will be the last and they are many people that did worse than me and they are forgiven, if God forgive and who are they to judge me ? Some of them here men are insulting my guy to be honest my guy is doing better than some of them has left all their responsibilities for their wives they are still living in face me I face you house , one room with plenty children , they cant even afford to pay rent ,feed their children 3 square meals neither school fees but they will come here and talk as if they are doing well like they are landlords or own car and has made it in life instead they have nothing some are even jobless and married and you should come and see in this Facebook group that I belongs how they wives and so called married woman as turned into beggars begging for money to feed their kids and to pay school fees and they are married but they are here talking bad on a guy who is doing better than them , he doesn't have much but me his girlfriend and our child are his number 1 priority shame on them because if you are waiting for me to leave my guy you will twist for eternity. As for my child I would rather suffer with my child than leaving her with my family I choose to have her and I will keep her anywhere with me jendell: |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Resurgent2016: 6:48pm On Jan 15, 2020 |
Ifyjos: Madam, you talk too much!!! Your being too defensive is probably what got you into this situation in the first instance. You need to learn to be calm and more reflective 9 Likes |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Ifyjos(f): 6:57pm On Jan 15, 2020 |
I dont care quote author=Resurgent2016 post=85826014] Madam, you talk too much!!! Your being too defensive is probably what got you into this situation in the first instance. You need to learn to be calm and more reflective[/quote] |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Nobody: 7:28pm On Jan 15, 2020 |
Ifyjos: A guy that loves you would have at least paid your bride price or taken you to a court registry for marriage or would have taken you to a church for blessing of marriage. Whatever you are doing now may seem right to you. When I was your age, I thought I was the smartest person in the world but now when I look back at things I did, I only shake my head. I can see you love this guy. I mean, he doesn't cheat on you and provides for you. Now, you need some security, ask him to go and pay your bride price, even if it's 5000 naira. At least you can proudly answer wife and stop engaging in premarital sex. Let him prove his love once more by doing it. Start from there. Then when that is settled, think of learning a skill. It's not a must to go to school, you can always do that later. Learning a skill is important. It could be hair dressing, tailoring, etc. At least to ensure the future of your daughter is secured. So that if your man doesn't have money you can support him. That way nobody will insult you guys. 6 Likes |
Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Nobody: 7:33pm On Jan 15, 2020 |
Ifyjos:still young and naive. Anyway best of luck in your endeavor and choice 4 Likes
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