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Is My Wife Still Cheating? by Nobody: 9:31am On Jan 25, 2020 |
IS MY WIFE STILL CHEATING? (1) I've been married for ten years now and we have three kids. My wife is everything a man will ever ask in a woman, but for her weakness around men. She's a great cook, a great home caretaker, and a great friend. Four years into our marriage (2014), I discovered that she was always chatting errotically with men. I found out chats of: "Cant wait to see you" "I'm taking my bath now" "Touch your boobs" "I'm feeling you inside me" "I will fvck you crazy" She was reciprocating in all the chats with things like... "I miss you so much" "I will svck u to cum" "I cant wait to see you" Usually there are very deep ones more than these. When I saw those chats I was shocked. I confronted her, she was furious that I dont trust her. I took her to our pastor for counseling, she initially refused going, but after much begging we went. After the counseling she apologised and we moved on. But it didnt stop. Once in a while I would see things like that with other men, different from the ones we've trashed. She was always deleting her calls and chats. I would always be doubtful, but she would always assure me that she was just carried away with the chats and there was no real experience with any other man other than me. She knelt down one day and swore with her life, so I believed her. Then this 2019 (9 Years into our marriage) around August, I stumbled on another chat. In this one, the guy sent her his penix. She thanked the guy for it. Then followed by many video calls. The guy then said, "I wont forget your wet Pvssy and fat ass." She laughed and said, "I feel like fvcking you. The guy said, I feel like drillin you too." She forgot to delete the chats, and I saw it. When I confronted her she said that yes, the guy had licked her before but they didnt do it. That she didnt cheat. I was like, are you for real? I took her to our pastor for counseling. She was mad with me, that i should just trust her and stop following her. I've seen chats of: "I hope your husband is not around." She would say, "yes." Then they would begin to exchange chats of how they miss themselves, and kiss emogis and exchange calls Sometimes I would delete all of them after she says I wont see such again. Around November last year, a woman forwarded my wife's chats with her husband and said she wanted to post them on facebook but discovered that I am a responsible man, and from her town as well. She told me to warn my wife and beg her to leave her husband alone. In the chat, you will see where the man said, "I cant forget the love we made in Lagos." You will see where the man says, "my dick is standing send me pic to view." My wife would say, "why not travel na, come down." The man would say, "I want to see you." My wife would say, " where and when?" etc? I begged the woman and she promised she would not post it. I confronted my wife, she started crying and swearing as usual. Then she later said she has had sex with the man only 3 times, two times before our marriage and only once after our marriage, and that the last time was 2015 (note, that is 5 years in our marriage, that year, she was breastfeeding our baby o). I always forgive her because I love her so much. And I dont want her to be disgraced. And she's really a great person. My family love her so much and revere her. I opened a business for her last year. I do pay her motnhly salary too, and provide monthly upkeep for our 3 kids. I also buy food items in the house, and also give her cooking allowance As we entered this year, 2020 we agreed to love ourselves more. But can you believe that on January 16, the cctv camera I put in her private office without her knowing it, showed her and one man (her former boss) handling themselves (their hands to be honest) and when the man was about to go, they got up and kissed. Note she worked for this man in 2014, 4 years in our marriage. She came home and I confronted her, she cried and cried that I don't trust her. At first she denied ever kissing the man, but when I explained how it happened, she said, she cant remember. She is crying and blaming me for monitoring her. Now on further digging I stumbled on horrible chats. Now this is the summary after confrontation. It took a lot of denials before acceptance: 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Is My Wife Still Cheating? by Nobody: 9:31am On Jan 25, 2020 |
IS MY WIFE STILL CHEATING? (2) After much anger and shouting and reporting to one of her sister who is a woman of God, though I told her to not tell other members of the family. I really don't want my wife disgraced. My wife has confessed to me that she only had an affair with two men since we have been married. And that it was in 2015. That she did it to make some money to take care of herself because according to her, things were rough for us at that time. Although I find that funny because she has never done any major thing at my house since we got married. She has never paid rent, never paid school fees, never paid hospital bills, or even giving me any cash money to support myself. Yes, I know we had some challenges around 2014 and 2015 but we were still okay - compared to most families. I don't know what to believe. About the chats, she says that she may have chatted in those ways but she didn't have an affair with them, that she was just having some chatting fun and letting the chat flow. I insisted that there was a heart connection. But she is denying it. Still, I don't know what to believe. About the licking and sucking, she says yes, that it has happened only once, around 2016, but there was no penetration sex involved. The guy was her gym coach, and she just had that moment of temptation. What should I believe here? About the kissings and others, she says yes, she has kissed some two or three other men, but it wasn't tongue-to-tongue kissing. Just a random fling thing. What should I believe? About the guy she introduced to me as her cousin in 2012 and I let him free in our house, which I later found chats that showed they were not cousins, she says she didn't do anything with him, just kissing twice and nothing more. Now that makes it three major issues. Multiple sex with Two men in the past. Sucking and licking with one man, and kissing with about three or so. Then the continued erotic and sexual chats. But honestly, what should I believe. In the last three days, I have been in a hotel fasting and praying for wisdom in this matter. She visits the hotel and we would talk and talk and talk and it would become tense, then she would go back to her office. The truth is that my wife is a good girl, very hardworking in the home, and also very godly or you could say, loves God and prays. She knows how to take care of family, children, and inlaws. She is insisting that all these are in the past, and would never continue into her future. That she is wiser now. About the January 16th kissing in her office, she says she really has nothing to do with the man. She was just counseling the man about his sex life with his wife and in the end, it just happened, that it wasn't really a kiss, more or less like a peck, but done in the mouth. She is begging me and saying I should let her fulfill the plan of God for her life with me. She says that I should look deep inside her, that I would know she's a good girl. She's always saying things like, "please save my soul. Only you can do that." Although she's always very emotional. Even in her plea she would get annoyed and shout when I shout and express my anger. She does not know how to remain remorseful. She believes that the moment she apologizes that I should just understand her and welcome her back. Now my challenge is this: Is there a chance those are the only men she cheated with? Can she really have those chats without the physical fulfilment? Was she just bored all those years and because of my *low communicating skill*(according to her) she decided to have some fun? Is it possible she continued past those ones she confessed to after much forcing? Is she just naive or manipulative? The truth is I love my wife and my family. And I know she does love me (so I think). I'm willing to let everything go and move on, but I am having all kinds of emotions, moving from sadness to grief, from anger to sorrow, to regrets, to vengeance. The different pictures of the chats, those men, and everything is just playing in my head and making me annoyed. How do I get healed in this? I'm afraid, if I let her go, it will be very disastrous for her. No father, no mother, and unsupportive brothers. Her not remaining remorseful is another challenge I have. She believes that I should just believe her and move on. Please everyone, should I just believe everything she has told me, and stop at this juncture and move on, or I should do something she wouldn't forget? I really don't want her to be disgraced. Am I over dragging the whole thing. I am confused but praying. I just need a heart-to-heart talk. If not that she hates third parties, I would have taken her for counseling again. But she insists we can trash our issues Please, everyone, counsel me. 3 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Is My Wife Still Cheating? by NaijaDonCast(m): 9:36am On Jan 25, 2020 |
Who else did not read this nonesense to the end? So until you see your wife giving a guy mouthAction before you agree with your feeble mind tha she has not stop and will continue to cheat on you, bros ur wife dey knack another mens, if your kids dont look like you, ask her whose their Daddy or go for paternity test whether u go even get luck sef make one of those kids be ur own 104 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Is My Wife Still Cheating? by nlPoster: 9:43am On Jan 25, 2020 |
What's the essence of pastor in this post now? ![]() Why the mentions? You mean to tell me you attend church yet all this balderdash is commonplace to you? 10 Likes |
Re: Is My Wife Still Cheating? by chiemmanuel(m): 9:47am On Jan 25, 2020 |
How can I unread this thing i just read. 43 Likes 1 Share
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Re: Is My Wife Still Cheating? by Nobody: 9:47am On Jan 25, 2020 |
This man is not strong. May be manipulated. 17 Likes |
Re: Is My Wife Still Cheating? by Ayoothniel1(m): 9:49am On Jan 25, 2020 |
Bro...marriage is different from mere dating..you need to find a way to work things out..divorce isn’t an option, seek spiritual counseling and then put mercenaries in place to keep her busy in an open area..and also f*ck her very well(she is your wife) you’re going to have to fight to keep your marriage� 2 Likes |
Re: Is My Wife Still Cheating? by GOFRONT(m): 9:51am On Jan 25, 2020 |
Pastors pastors everywhere in the post..... How am I sure it is not the same pastor that is fvcking the Adulterous woman?? It is no wonder why they it keep kicking up dust whenever the topic 'IS IT ADVISABLE TO ALLOW YOUR SPOUSE HAVE ACCESS TO YOUR PHONE'? Is thrown up On this platform and twitter......Cans of worms everywhere, Skeletons in cupboards everywhere..... Even me too no holy pass... 15 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is My Wife Still Cheating? by nzeobi(m): 9:53am On Jan 25, 2020 |
Op is a mad man is looking for who will tell him. You don't want to disgrace her until one of her numerous boyfriends kills you so as to inherit her. Let me tell you the best thing way out if you are really serious about sorting out the problem. Call a family meeting between her family and yours and explain what happened and also tell them that you will not tolerate it again except you wish to continue as a part time husband. 35 Likes |
Re: Is My Wife Still Cheating? by Nobody: 9:59am On Jan 25, 2020 |
nlPoster: Please your man needs advise |
Re: Is My Wife Still Cheating? by Nobody: 10:00am On Jan 25, 2020 |
nzeobi: How sir? 1 Like |
Re: Is My Wife Still Cheating? by Nobody: 10:01am On Jan 25, 2020 |
GOFRONT: Please can you leave pastors for now and give me an honest advise |
Re: Is My Wife Still Cheating? by Nobody: 10:02am On Jan 25, 2020 |
freedomest: How do you mean? I'm trying to love and serve God. I'm not perfect. I just need advice now please 1 Like |
Re: Is My Wife Still Cheating? by Nobody: 10:11am On Jan 25, 2020 |
whatdowomenwant:you are going through a lot of pain and misery. Your wife is unfaithful. And I admire that you want to make your marriage work. But Can you keep on tolerating a cheating spouse? What exactly do you want? You can't change her o, she will continue to cheat. I promise you. They never change. Make sure that this time, her cheating has consequences. She cheats because there is no repercussion for her cheating except 'counselling' with hypocritical men of God. But are you sure you satisfy her sexually? Are you also cheating? The problem seems to be her and not you. Why haven't you sent her packing. You are swimming against the current, alone. 27 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Is My Wife Still Cheating? by HarunaWest(m): 10:11am On Jan 25, 2020 |
Mr Man.. You married a flirty lady.. She can't and won't stop.. (In Posterity) Truth is me I flirt as well, if my wife cheats, fine I go vex buh I won't send her packing as far as say e no much..From the post so far, you haven't been really faithful to your wife as well so it seems your feeling guilty sending her packing. Meanwhile change her phone and SIM cards, restrict her movement, put tight measures in place.. Forget pastor and prayers it won't solve any problem.. You might even be shocked that pastor sef is eyeing your wife too. You have to ask her what the problem is, have a heart to see art talk, ask her if she's still in love with you or not so you guys will know what to do. Marriage isn't by force nowadays, fvck till death do us part..That one na old slogan.. Speak to your wife. 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is My Wife Still Cheating? by Nobody: 10:13am On Jan 25, 2020 |
Restrictions will only make the cheating more exciting. Forbidden fruit is sweetest. HarunaWest: 2 Likes |
Re: Is My Wife Still Cheating? by Mouthgag: 10:15am On Jan 25, 2020 |
whatdowomenwant:The truth is bitter... You married an unrepentant whọre honestly. There are things a man shouldn't condone or compromise for and cheating is one. The truth is, SHE CAN NEVER CHANGE! It will do you good to divorce her before she plans your death. A cheating wife is as dangerous as a timebomb. First, report her to her parents . TELL THEM EVERYTHING! 2. Threaten her that you'll also tell your children. 3. Divorce her and move on with your life. 13 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is My Wife Still Cheating? by sola12(m): 10:20am On Jan 25, 2020 |
If a cheating wife doesnt kill herself she will eventually kill her husband.... Bros run a paternity test and flee as soon as possible!!! 15 Likes |
Re: Is My Wife Still Cheating? by hisroyalrealnes(m): 10:35am On Jan 25, 2020 |
Time wey u go use conduct DNA test na im u use dey type 4 nairaland....throw that fucking bitch OUT!!!...throw that good 4 nothing jazebel the Bleep OUT b4 she kill u...what kinda fuckery be this?...why this thing come dey vex me like this sef... 39 Likes |
Re: Is My Wife Still Cheating? by Mouthgag: 11:19am On Jan 25, 2020 |
whatdowomenwant:She's just manipulating you and taking advantage of your weakness. YOU ARE A VERY WEAK MAN. You're forming stupîd religious bullshîts... Even the Bible doesn't condone adultery. Wake up man before you die prematurely. That woman will never change. Once a whọre, ALWAYS A WHỌRE. 39 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Is My Wife Still Cheating? by Nicklaus619(m): 11:32am On Jan 25, 2020 |
Oop sorry to say bro, your wife is an adulterous unrepentant cheat, and for. You seeing all. The evidence staring you in the face and still decide to live in denial makes you a fvcking whimp and a sissy How do you Even know that those kids are yours, ![]() Get your ass outta that hotel, this is not praying and fasting time, this is time to take action, take those kids. For. A. DNA test, if they are yours. Keep them and send her parking. She is playing emotional blackmails. With you and you are sucking it up Don't be a whimp be a man 18 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is My Wife Still Cheating? by Margy: 11:54am On Jan 25, 2020 |
See op... if you are truly in love with your wife, and you are sure you are the father of those kids, and your wife loves you but can't stop flirting.... and even after counsel she hasn't changed. And you truly want your family to work. Take this advice!.. when having a heart to heart talk with her... boom.. do a blood covenant.. who ever flirts..cheats or in any sexual mood with any person...madness straight.. make sure the blood is flowing plenty during the covenant.. i swear.. this will put fear into her! Which lady wanna be mad ![]() ![]() ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: Is My Wife Still Cheating? by AmazingDesigns: 12:00pm On Jan 25, 2020 |
![]() I don't even know what to say. But I know this. The fact that u re finally talking about this is commendable because when Nairaland guys finish you en, you will really understand the severity of her acts. I learnt quite recently and the hard way if I might add that as a good man, you need to be wicked and ruthless to the wrong persons. 12 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Is My Wife Still Cheating? by Nobody: 12:00pm On Jan 25, 2020 |
Brother wey mumu ![]() ![]() BTW who produced d movie ![]() 13 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is My Wife Still Cheating? by Lamanii22(f): 12:01pm On Jan 25, 2020 |
NaijaDonCast: I finished the story.. And it was completely stupid and I'm really pained I did lol... Until they Start having sex on their matrimonial bed that's when he would realize that she's cheating on him... Shey he's not being manipulated bayii... 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is My Wife Still Cheating? by ExBachelor: 12:05pm On Jan 25, 2020 |
Telemundo 3 Likes |
Re: Is My Wife Still Cheating? by MajorWarren: 12:07pm On Jan 25, 2020 |
Brotha, your wife is simply a ho. Take your kids and leave, you can’t turn a go into a housewife. She has no respect for you, she’s not even good at covering her tracks what an idiot. Leave before she gives you some deadly STI. This is the most gangster whoreish hoeish story I’ve read so far. 6 Likes |
Re: Is My Wife Still Cheating? by lewis512(m): 12:14pm On Jan 25, 2020 |
What’s the title of this movie please, I did like to act and be part of it 1 Like |
Re: Is My Wife Still Cheating? by MPESA(m): 12:20pm On Jan 25, 2020 |
RUN A DNA TEST ON ALL YOUR CHILDREN FIRST TO BE EVEN SURE IF YOU ARE THEIR BIOLOGICAL FATHER.... 5 Likes |
Re: Is My Wife Still Cheating? by jagaban002(m): 12:21pm On Jan 25, 2020 |
You are a very dumb man sorry to say , even your slut or ashewo wife knows u No 1 mags because saying u love a woman that’s sleeping around make me think does a man like this exist just please don’t turn ur kid to fatherless kid because this ur Malian wife will kill u soon and Stop exposing your foolishness on a National forum. There’s diffferce between mother of your kids and ur wife dump that public Dog u called wife so u can live long Mr 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Is My Wife Still Cheating? by Ken4agent(m): 12:35pm On Jan 25, 2020 |
Margy: Blood covenant na long thing.......just plant magun on her and d rest is story ![]() 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is My Wife Still Cheating? by superfitsez(m): 12:44pm On Jan 25, 2020 |
some men are very stupid, I can never be friend with someone like you, imagine this op tufiakwa,,nkea bu aturu 12 Likes |
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