My Son recently turned 16, he’s actually preparing for Utme and while he does, he works with me partime at my Firm. I do alot of traveling and he knows the business. He fills in for me.. last night, we were eating dinner and his phone won’t stop ringing and everytime it rings, he tries to silence it. I was watching him..then phone rings again and he tries to excuse himself from the table but i asked him to not move an inch until everyone has left the table.. then out of the blues i asked him to hand me his phone.. he knows the rules (never bring your phone to the dining) so he hands me his phone then i set it aside.. it wasn’t even up to one minute this number calls again and the caller name was Mia.. .. i got curious i asked him and he said she was his friend.. fast forward i asked him for his unlock code, he gave it and I didn’t use it right away.. i held on to his phone and later after dinner i checked around and the same Mia and himself they’ve been exchanging text messages and calls.. what do i make of this? My guess is they been having sex too and i guess aunty Mia is older.. how can i stop this?

This one too

Better use for money or fortification rituals before he disappoints you finally

SangoOlukosoOba:
Better use for money or fortification rituals before he disappoints you finally

Shut Up �

SangoOlukosoOba:
Better use for money or fortification rituals before he disappoints you finally

h.m

Stop invading your Son's privacy Nwokem.

Shelloween:
Stop invading your Son's privacy Nwokem.

He’s not even 18 yet I’m responsible for him so thank you

That boy why has he chosen to expose himself that way. instead of keeping his phone inside room. common sense people don't have.Smh.

The "my called me there is nothing at home...." ish

Sounds as if your son is not just a bedmate but a cashcow. The leech is milking your sons dick and pocket.

Meet up with the girl,access her and put a stop to the relationship. Also, I think the girl is working in your firm too.

Your boy is too young for such.

Banty6:


He’s not even 18 yet I’m responsible for him so thank you

Ignore such comments. By their comments you should know they are your sons mate.

I did this when I was his age. How can I advise?

Well Mia doesn't look older from their chats; Mia may be 15 or same age with him.
No matter how over-protective you are, he may still find other options.
He has entered the bloom of youth, so beating him may not make any difference. You may seize his phone.
But most importantly, you need to advise him. Tell him he's not up to the age of being in a relationship yet, the consequences he'll face and the shame he'll bring to the family should he get the girl pregnant. This should be the time you need to become more friendly with him.
He needs advice.

Open communication is basically the key.... Present him with the facts and give him an opportunity to come clean. Let him know the consequences of his actions both short term and long term.
Contact aunty Mia not to quarrel o buh be firm in making your point.
Your son like a lot of young ones in his age bracket thinks he's a big boy especially since he's smart and getting a lot of attention.

Situations like this don't just disappear especially if he's already sexually involved so continuous evaluation and communication will really help you know what's going on in his head.
God help us all

Christmasdon:
That boy why has he chosen to expose himself that way. instead of keeping his phone inside room. common sense people don't have.Smh.

you're not a child....you should know wen to joke and wen to be serious...if it was your son or sibling I guess you're be super proud of his actions

Christmasdon:
That boy why has he chosen to expose himself that way. instead of keeping his phone inside room. common sense people don't have.Smh.

you're not a child....you should know wen to joke and wen to be serious...if it was your son or sibling I guess you're be supe proud of his actions

This is the world we found ourselves.

Well, am happy your son is a cheerful giver, and am sure he will grow up to be a responsible man.

Call him and give him some piece words of advise, let him know how much he need to concentrate on his education and career for now.

Just sit him down and giv him some advice. Look for girl and advice her also as a father

The part that got me is when she sai she will pray 4 him �� she fit pray

Banty6:


He’s not even 18 yet I’m responsible for him so thank you

Hmmmm!

Tell us, did you provide him with sex education while growing up as a teen?

Whatever you do, please do not flog him. This will only make matters worse. Do have a father to son talk right away and explain to him the dangers of engaging in sex at his age. He may loose the chances to complete his schooling. He may put Mia or whoever in the family way which he is not ready yet. The list goes on.

This is the time to draw closer to your son and gain his trust.

Banty6:
My Son recently turned 16, he’s actually preparing for Utme and while he does, he works with me partime at my Firm. I do alot of traveling and he knows the business. He fills in for me.. last night, we were eating dinner and his phone won’t stop ringing and everytime it rings, he tries to silence it. I was watching him..then phone rings again and he tries to excuse himself from the table but i asked him to not move an inch until everyone has left the table.. then out of the blues i asked him to hand me his phone.. he knows the rules (never bring your phone to the dining) so he hands me his phone then i set it aside.. it wasn’t even up to one minute this number calls again and the caller name was Mia.. .. i got curious i asked him and he said she was his friend.. fast forward i asked him for his unlock code, he gave it and I didn’t use it right away.. i held on to his phone and later after dinner i checked around and the same Mia and himself they’ve been exchanging text messages and calls.. what do i make of this? My guess is they been having sex too and i guess aunty Mia is older.. how can i stop this?

Tank God ur son is a boy wit a dick. Let his fvck jare..... No be pussy na, na rod him get... Leave the young boy alone.... Na iPhone e dey use sef, abeg let the fvcking go on and dont disrupt them


Ur son is fvcking a bigger pussy... He is starboy ol

I stand with the first poster....that clearly said u should use him for money ritual b4 its too late.

Just think about it....if not I don't see the need for u to intrude into someone's privacy .....
African parents and there over protectiveness..... Stopping him from keeping relationship because u feel 18 is d date fix for people to start dating when u probably started doing stuffs even b4 17

Boys will always be boys....

Your son is the MAN. It's his time, just keep calm and be free with him. Advise him to be careful but don't bully or punish him. If you do, he will become secretive and can decide to do what you dread the most.

Sir the most you can do now is to just advice him

Your the cause of ur problems! What is a sixteen year old doing with a smart phone??See a lot of you parents are spoiling these kids

African parents and their nonsense

Just let him know that he should be using condoms to avoid stories that touch.

Banty6:


Shut Up �

Don't fight him, otherwise he'll do alot and u won't know. Talk to him like a friend. If he likes the girl, invite her and make her your friend. You can make it work out for them when they get to part 2.
Let him grow with a responsible mind
Dunno how to say it better than this.

what is your son doing with such a clingy girl do you want your firm to go down the drain? the girl is using him for sex and money yet your asking for advice ? jeeez poor parenting is writen all over you mr man .

and you had no way to take it to

Nah Nairaland of all places

CHAII!!

Happyguy201:
what is your son doing with such a clingy girl do you want your firm to go down the drain? the girl is using him for sex and money yet your asking for advice ? jeeez poor parenting is writen all over you mr man .

Mr Perfect �