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Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by ashawopikin(m): 5:36pm On Jan 27, 2020 |
Papanwamaikpe:if woman call you BIG HEAD, just know say u sabi 1 Like |
Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by francisbarrack(m): 5:38pm On Jan 27, 2020 |
He should educate d son n b more friendly to him.... don't know while it taken them enternity to introduce sex education 1 Like |
Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by Chukazu: 6:09pm On Jan 27, 2020 |
I think the best is advise him... afterwards allow people to make their mistakes and learn from it |
Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by Nobody: 7:30pm On Jan 27, 2020 |
Banty6: For God's sake. Don't lay hands on him If you haven't pls. This is him evolving to the stage we all went through. Nigga is still young which is understandable for you correcting or restricting his movements and other little do's and don'ts. Sit him down. Ask him questions about he came about the girl. Make him confine in you. Boy will still try maintain the relationship regardless of the approach you use for him. Just try sit him down and create a father/son relationships of why he shouldn't for now. All the best |
Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by HOLYDICK(m): 7:32pm On Jan 27, 2020 |
Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by Newboss(m): 8:14pm On Jan 27, 2020 |
Tiffbuxas: Banty should be proud that his son can land his own lady. Some grown ass men on Nairaland CANNOT even land just a prostitute for a night. I would advise him to talk to him about women and safe sex. If you slut shame him or abuse him, you will damage him mentally. Remember, that boy is technically an adult. You know he's. He's heading to university already, so use your head because you are also a man |
Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by Nobody: 8:18pm On Jan 27, 2020 |
The day a son of mine turns 16 and sends such poetic messages to a lady, trust me, I am arranging money for them to get married and I will give him a house right away. There is absolutely nothing wrong with him taking responsibility to be a father if he can have sex. 1 Like |
Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by Newboss(m): 8:27pm On Jan 27, 2020 |
kurupt1: A 16 year old male is NOT a kid. We keep getting it all wrong there. Age of adulthood vary across the world. The fact that even in the US some states set the official age of consent to 16 should say a lot about a 16 year old male 1 Like |
Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by themaestro08(m): 8:44pm On Jan 27, 2020 |
Banty6: As far as I am concerned you haven't actually nurtured this kid properly hence him hiding things for you. From your post you sound domineering and authoritarian, it's wrong. Its hardly effective for Teenagers of today. What happens to being engaging with this lad by being kind and friendly to him? How many times have you have a heart to heart discussion with him regarding his current challenges, dreams, and life in general? he is at a very important stage of his life so he needs guidance and mentorship. Am not sure you did this. You were busy imposing ridiculous rules that makes no sense.Stop viewing him as a kid rather treat him as an adult because that is how he view himself. Just because he is your child doesn't permit you to invade his privacy in a disrespectful manner, it ain't Right, and never do that. You may sweep aside my comment but I can tell your method of parenting is not fit-for-purpose. and that kid may in future surprise you when he make a move you never imagine even in your wildest dreams. |
Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by wiseone28: 8:49pm On Jan 27, 2020 |
Not a big deal i had my first hole experience at age 7 ![]() In my 30's now i am still responsible. |
Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by NoToPile: 8:52pm On Jan 27, 2020 |
Times have truly changed ooo Reading these comments made me realize that. 16 year old ![]() Invasion of privacy? ![]() ![]() |
Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by munezo(m): 9:31pm On Jan 27, 2020 |
You need wisdom to handle this delicate issue, may God give you plenty of it. You may also seek counsel from a professional Counsellor. Don't forget to ignore some of the discouraging, senseless and off-point replies you will get here. Peace |
Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by Ay04z(m): 10:07pm On Jan 27, 2020 |
Free the young man. But advice him. And don't check his phone again. |
Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by tunize(m): 10:35pm On Jan 27, 2020 |
Guy man son.. Carry the bros sitdown let am no sey u don ball before advice him no need for beating na normal tin let him understand that they have different kind of women too. For now he should be focused simple. 1 Like |
Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by dinodesmond(m): 11:32pm On Jan 27, 2020 |
eni4real:You are right though. |
Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by luminouz(m): 12:24am On Jan 28, 2020 |
Who else loves his 'I'd rather have you for lunch' Convo part? Dude is smooth like hell ![]() 1 Like |
Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by hausadreturn(m): 12:42am On Jan 28, 2020 |
Vortex369:Easier said than done. |
Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by hausadreturn(m): 12:50am On Jan 28, 2020 |
I don't think the girl is older than the guy, i.e, judging from her constant greetings/trying to be respectful. I'm glad that with the look of things, he's innocent, obedient and not entirely secretive. More like an open book. There're guys his age that same will be happening, and you won't even know/notice because of so much codedness. For one, he respects you. That's a plus. Find out who Mia is, her background, what she does, where she comes from, etc. Let the boy be open about the relationship. If possible, make him invite her and do your own coded observations. I'm just a little worried about one thing. If the guy is 16, how old can the girl possibly be to be begging for money. 15? 14? 16? So weird. 1 Like |
Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by Depressedkidd: 3:07am On Jan 28, 2020 |
It's normal for kids his age to start experimenting with dating and sex. Guess it's time to have "the talk" with him cos I doubt there's anything you can do to actually stop him. Just make sure he understands the consequences and how to protect himself cos if he's prepping for utme then by September or later he'll be out of your sight and care when he leaves for school. And maybe try to meet the girl too and make sure you give them both the talk(embarrassing as it might be for both of them, they need it. And you at least need to meet who he's dating so you can follow up if need be). What I advice against is anger and shouting and trying to use scare tactics, trust me it won't work, it will just build resentment and he'll start actively keeping secrets from you. What you need is to make sure he understands that he can trust you and be open to you cos you'll give him the best advice he can get. Good luck. 1 Like |
Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by Depressedkidd: 3:14am On Jan 28, 2020 |
hausadreturn:Exactly my pov. I think the boy is still kinda innocent and he definitely has respect for his mom. And I think she has built an environment where he can trust her. At 16 I knew if my mom heard anything about relationships from me what would follow would be a beating so I was very coded and secretive, and tbh I could've done better had I been able to open up and get advice from her. Later down the line things happened in my life(she got to find out about my depression, struggles with life and struggles in school) and my mom was crying like have I been such a bad mom that you kept this a secret from me for years(I just had to dodge that question cos yes mom, the way you raised me its either keep my secrets or face the rod for being open and that just led to me being secretive about every and anything) 2 Likes |
Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by Cutehector(m): 4:20am On Jan 28, 2020 |
And who told you they have had sex? |
Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by femi4: 4:43am On Jan 28, 2020 |
OP lives in Ikotun.....no wonder his child is wayward |
Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by Pat081: 5:34am On Jan 28, 2020 |
Banty6:Mia may not b older than him or not what u shuld have done is send text message like this pls i can not ur ur calls let met at so so place 2mao to see maybe she is old or not without ur son knw ooo |
Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by Nobody: 8:08am On Jan 28, 2020 |
hausadreturn: That's actually my plan. To get my son a wife latest at 18. His Life is already planned before birth |
Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by EnterpriseMan(m): 4:49pm On Jan 28, 2020 |
1. That's invasion of privacy, and posting screenshots of his chats on NairaLand? that's low even for you. if he finds out, he will resent you. 2. instead of ending it, why not get to know the girl and guide them together. You might get to like the girl. Just let him know you care about him instead of forcing decisions on him. |
Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by Nobody: 7:01pm On Jan 28, 2020 |
Banty6: Bringing the matter here isn't the best idea (Especially since you didn't cover the part that has his name on it) 1 thing I can deduced from this is that your son is experienced in the oza room and hanty in the picture is just clingy unto him because she sees he has a bright future ahead of him. Your son on the other hand already feels like a man (Heav he's getting so busy with work at 16)and he might feels he needs to be doing what men do. I finished from school early (earlier than him) and I could remember my mom was always taking me to her workplace (Mostly for show offs). My case was a little different because my mom job was a government work so I wasn't getting paid and I was just a added expenses at work Let me cut to the chase... I think you need to counsel your son Let him know the dangers of premarital sex, let him know condoms are never ever safe (They leak or burst and he can get a woman pregnant or contact a STD). S*x will be so enjoyable for a guy of his age (Been there lol) and trying to stop him might be very very hard. I just think you should get him more engaged. Buy him a play station perhaps or let him take a guitar or musical lessons Above all, you need to keep counseling him... Make him listen to confessions from women from the spirit world sent to destroy men with bright future. Let him know STD are real, Mami waters and Co are real.. Just keep talking to him. Give him hope of freedom at age 21 (He'll be done with school, just tell him that it's just a little while longer) I don't know what else to write and I hope that I've been able to make a pint of sense And for the love of God delete the screenshot that carries his name. Abeg I rest my case |
Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by Nobody: 7:09pm On Jan 28, 2020 |
MyVILLAGEpeople: You are 21 and you hmm hmm with over 25 ladies last year Na wa ooooooooooo Are you not scared of STD or Demonly transmitted disease lol 1 Like |
Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by MyVILLAGEpeople(m): 7:49pm On Jan 28, 2020 |
kelvinrhs: I am far above sicknesses and diseases. I am not an ordinary human being. ![]() |
Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by Rules7: 9:05pm On Jan 28, 2020 |
kurupt1: Shut the Bleep up |
Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by Nobody: 9:36pm On Jan 28, 2020 |
MyVILLAGEpeople: Haaaa so it's the ladies that should beware of you |
Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by hausadreturn(m): 2:58pm On Jan 29, 2020 |
Vortex369:Again, easier said than done. |
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