Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by stabilizer: 11:24pm On Jan 28, 2020 |
stabilizer: Tell her and breakup with her, she will still beg you, 5.2billion on planet earth... I beg no dull am Because at the end of it all, both of u will realize there is no pregnancy |
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by CanadaOrBust: 11:24pm On Jan 28, 2020 |
Champneys:
Ok. Click “modify” and remove the long article from your quote so people don’t have to scroll through it. Be considerate 1 Like |
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by olof(m): 11:24pm On Jan 28, 2020 |
Move out from the area Change your phone no but keep hers Continue with your marriage plans and if after three years you call her and she had the baby confess to your wife,and adopt the child |
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by MrFly(m): 11:24pm On Jan 28, 2020 |
IcraveLove:
You don't even sound remorseful for what you have done. So I will say it's good this happened, you would have cheated later on. Better she finds someone else that respect and love her. How can you say you are planning to get married and you are cheating? I caste and bind men like you from coming my way IJN amen.
u get way? |
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by OmayieHenry(m): 11:25pm On Jan 28, 2020 |
IcraveLove:
You don't even sound remorseful for what you have done. So I will say it's good this happened, you would have cheated later on. Better she finds someone else that respect and love her. How can you say you are planning to get married and you are cheating? I caste and bind men like you from coming my way IJN amen.
Look at kettle calling pot black swear say you are not currently cheat on your boyfriends ni |
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by Solidkay(m): 11:25pm On Jan 28, 2020 |
Alaye, Brace yourself for the worse, If you're not careful, this might destroy everything you've worked for so far. I'm not gonna be the first to throw stones @you, cos I ain't holy either. Don't come to NL seeking advice for sensitive issues like this, You need a counselor. May the good Lord see you through. Honestly bro, I feel what you going through... |
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by Ade1759: 11:25pm On Jan 28, 2020 |
Sweetest story since the sour death of kobe. Now,do what u have to...9 died in a chopper 2 days ago...
I actually gave u no advice.. Lol She'll kill u in your sleep...how do u forget that??....hmmmmm 1 Like |
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by sanmtiago(m): 11:25pm On Jan 28, 2020 |
franchasng: story for Kobe Bryant ok. Your problems are usually directly proportional to your unwise decisions....So be wise and choose your problems wisely as we can’t avoid it totally! 1 Like |
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by gozie112(m): 11:26pm On Jan 28, 2020 |
IcraveLove: Please break up with your girlfriend and focus on your baby mama. seconded |
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by Unrated900(m): 11:26pm On Jan 28, 2020 |
alexmakaay:
Firstly, the reason for all these fidgeting is simply because you really love and want to make future with your girlfriend. which means in the absence of this, you didn't commit any atrocity. I m aware of a married man who contracted HIV, he knows but chose to hide it. his wife died of the disease years later, he is still alive cos he s medicating. so your case na akamu case.
Now pay attention!! you are about to marry a woman that has 70% tendency to kill you, according to what you narrated to us, she'd told you her reaction if such thing ever happened. ..but as usual, you pussy niggas will never learn from people's mistakes, because you're already blinded by love.
now my advice is just two options.. pause your engagement what with her because your house is in fire, observe how things will play out with the pregnant girl and if possible, pesuade her to abort the baby ..now be ready to spend more cash,(cos u are stingy, and maybe that why she decided to keep the baby) with serious guarantors.
another option, having know the reaction of your wife if she finds out, the best bet here is to keep it entirely away from her OR find someone from their family whom she's loyal to to break the news and plead on your behalf. but truth be told, that girl fit kill you finally finally cos na potential husband stabber she be. goodluck My advice is similar to yours too May god bless our knowledge That guy na mugu I told Him to tell the wife to be what has happens and he should not sleep at home wit her that night cos 3 knives will be on his chest If I were him I will marry Lola Cos her fiancée might end up been barren for life I didn’t says this oooooo but APC lifeless did 1 Like |
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by danot1030: 11:26pm On Jan 28, 2020 |
Jeffmonti: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help!
This might turn out to be a lengthy read, please bear with me. The bashing and insults will be unnecessary as i have already told myself hurtful things a thousand times over.
So i am 29 and have a girlfriend who’s 25 we are both graduates; she’s a nurse and i am a practicing engineer and we’ve been dating for 3+ years now and preparations are underway to tie the knot this year God willing. Something happened last year, she suggested i move to a bigger apartment so that we can start buying household items and everything necessary to start a home as we are looking to get married soon which we did; i got a bigger place, met her parents she met mine. In a nutshell everything seems to be going well, we even started a business together and set to take on the future together before the devil struck (i take blames for my actions as i am not overly religious)
Around June last year, i met a girl (very fine girl) in the new area i moved to, although i have been seeing the girl around but one day as i was driving in i saw her hiding somewhere close to my compound avoiding the rain with her friends so i took them in until the rain subsided we exchanged contacts and started texting on WhatsApp a few days later. And soon after we started having sex (protected sex), prior to that time i never cheated on my girlfriend. The sex continued, up to 2 times a week sometimes 3 as it was relatively easy as she lived very close and my girlfriend only visits on the weekend and never sleeps out (she’s from a very good and wealthy family with proper moral upbringing). Most evenings when return from work conji just do me one kind i don cross street other times she calls until we became comfortable having unprotected sex
So late October 2019, the new girl (I’ll call her Lola) texted me that’s she’s not feeling too well and i asked her to visit the hospital to run a test to know what to treat. She came back with a pregnancy test result proving she’s already 3 weeks pregnant, i was sure it was mine but i didn’t panic as she had a bf and i have my gf we were just for the sex at least that’s what we told each other.
So i asked her to remove the pregnancy, but got the shocker when she said she’s never going to remove the pregnancy that she’s 27 and have no desire to marry me or stay with me but she’s going to have the child. Omo my heart flipped. I begged her for like 3 weeks until she got mad and stopped taking my calls, she even moved away from her apartment. So i texted her and arranged a meeting, we sat down and discussed at length but she was still bent on keeping it, i got furious and told her i am not ready to be part of the child’s life if she’s going through with it as i see no reason why she wants to have my child when she knows we are NEVER going to be together, that was when she said she had already told her family that i am not interested in the child and they support her to keep it and let the child bear their family name. I discussed the matter with two friends a boy and a girl and the asked me to let her have the child first.
One month passed fast forward to early December, Lola called 6 times i was so shocked. I couldn’t take her calls. She texted that she’s ready to terminate the pregnancy since i am wicked and unconcerned she rained all manner of derogatory words but i was only concern with her decision to let go. I called and we agreed to meet the following day, I skipped work that day and met with her and her elder sister and elder sister’s friend. The sister and her friend were so mean but i was unmoved; i don already fuckup and ready to take anything to let it all go away because the knowledge of things will destroy my girlfriend.
So Lola entered my vehicle and we drove out, on our way to the hospital for her to terminate the pregnancy plus treatment she’ll take afterwards and for the damages i have caused her. She’s going to need 150k from me, i was furious and told her i don’t have that kind of money talk less of handing it over to her for something like this (i sure don’t know what i cost but i know it’s not up to 50k). She said if i don’t give her what she want she’s going to have the baby and that i should be thankful that she’s coming up with this that if she had listen to her friends advices she would have moved to my house with all sort of troubles (she was right) but i didn’t give in just yet. I dropped her off and ask her to have the child that am not going to give her the money as i don’t have it (I get the money sha).
So two days passed, she called again and after many arguments we agreed at 100k, made her to sign a NDA not to bother me again and all, I transferred her the 100k that night, she confirmed receipt and promised to go with it the following morning and that was the last I have heard or seen or her since then, until 3 weeks ago when another of her sister called from Canada and was asking if i am Me, that she’s been seeking my contact for a while now that Lola friend had to steal the number Lola’s phone and pass it to her as Lola has been hiding my phone number from the rest of the family and she doesn’t know the arrangement i have had with her but i should know that she’s having the child, she just thought i should know that i have a child somewhere when the baby eventually drops.
Knowing fully well that i am a shitty person to have done something terrible to myself and my girlfriend and all our future plans because of cheap sex, but I’ll be a more terribly bad person to have knowledge of a child somewhere and not be in his/her life. I called Lola but she didn’t take i texted her about her sisters call she called back to know who called and was furious, she ended the call (I guess to call her sister back) and called back again in about 20mins and asked me not to ever call her line again. I replied her text she should tell her family not call me as well. I have dodged to her apartment building a coupe times but she’s not been around for weeks as i was made to believe.
So i bought a ring to engage my girl few weeks ago but had to hold first to see how things play out, i can’t go ahead and marry my girlfriend with this kind of secret untold; that will be wickedness from the pit of hell and i still don’t know how to break it to her, it will destroy her.
I jokingly painted a similar scenery to my girlfriend; her response was: she will not marry me because if she does she will kill me in my sleep. That everybody is expecting us to get married this year, she now have high respect from her family because of me and this kind of thing happens both of us will die. Omo fear catch me.
Fellow Nairalanders, this is my predicament please advice a stupid brother. Insults are welcome as I hope to pick a thing or two from your comments. MODs please push this up biko. Guy you have have spoilt the the opportunity you have to correct the situation. I'm sure you can afford the 150k that Lola requested for but because of your stupidity and strong head you refused, You should have made it 200k for her and take her to the doctor for the abortion yourself and make sure you witness the removal of the baby. Since you missed the opportunity the only option before you is to find away to tell your woman, if there's anyone you know can help you in talking to her get the person involve, if she forgive you count yourself lucky and if otherwise then you have to accept your fate. 1 Like |
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by luminouz(m): 11:26pm On Jan 28, 2020 |
IcraveLove:
I won't be sorry if it happens, he deserves it. What's wrong with y'all That girl ain't pregnant!!! What kind of geh bargains for D&C from 150k to 100k? Why on earth would she wanna keep the damn pregnancy when she has a bf? Think,mama,think!!!! Its all a fuqin scam and y'all can't even SEE it! 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by gbemishile: 11:27pm On Jan 28, 2020 |
Best bet Sit ur fiancee down and tell her the whole truth If she is willing to stay with u,then all well and good,but if she is not,then it's best to move on. If ur wife eventually knows,It will be so hard to close your eyes,knowing full well ur wife can do and undo o. 1 Like |
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by jimmyLd101: 11:27pm On Jan 28, 2020 |
Jeffmonti: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help!
This might turn out to be a lengthy read, please bear with me. The bashing and insults will be unnecessary as i have already told myself hurtful things a thousand times over.
So i am 29 and have a girlfriend who’s 25 we are both graduates; she’s a nurse and i am a practicing engineer and we’ve been dating for 3+ years now and preparations are underway to tie the knot this year God willing. Something happened last year, she suggested i move to a bigger apartment so that we can start buying household items and everything necessary to start a home as we are looking to get married soon which we did; i got a bigger place, met her parents she met mine. In a nutshell everything seems to be going well, we even started a business together and set to take on the future together before the devil struck (i take blames for my actions as i am not overly religious)
Around June last year, i met a girl (very fine girl) in the new area i moved to, although i have been seeing the girl around but one day as i was driving in i saw her hiding somewhere close to my compound avoiding the rain with her friends so i took them in until the rain subsided we exchanged contacts and started texting on WhatsApp a few days later. And soon after we started having sex (protected sex), prior to that time i never cheated on my girlfriend. The sex continued, up to 2 times a week sometimes 3 as it was relatively easy as she lived very close and my girlfriend only visits on the weekend and never sleeps out (she’s from a very good and wealthy family with proper moral upbringing). Most evenings when return from work conji just do me one kind i don cross street other times she calls until we became comfortable having unprotected sex
So late October 2019, the new girl (I’ll call her Lola) texted me that’s she’s not feeling too well and i asked her to visit the hospital to run a test to know what to treat. She came back with a pregnancy test result proving she’s already 3 weeks pregnant, i was sure it was mine but i didn’t panic as she had a bf and i have my gf we were just for the sex at least that’s what we told each other.
So i asked her to remove the pregnancy, but got the shocker when she said she’s never going to remove the pregnancy that she’s 27 and have no desire to marry me or stay with me but she’s going to have the child. Omo my heart flipped. I begged her for like 3 weeks until she got mad and stopped taking my calls, she even moved away from her apartment. So i texted her and arranged a meeting, we sat down and discussed at length but she was still bent on keeping it, i got furious and told her i am not ready to be part of the child’s life if she’s going through with it as i see no reason why she wants to have my child when she knows we are NEVER going to be together, that was when she said she had already told her family that i am not interested in the child and they support her to keep it and let the child bear their family name. I discussed the matter with two friends a boy and a girl and the asked me to let her have the child first.
One month passed fast forward to early December, Lola called 6 times i was so shocked. I couldn’t take her calls. She texted that she’s ready to terminate the pregnancy since i am wicked and unconcerned she rained all manner of derogatory words but i was only concern with her decision to let go. I called and we agreed to meet the following day, I skipped work that day and met with her and her elder sister and elder sister’s friend. The sister and her friend were so mean but i was unmoved; i don already fuckup and ready to take anything to let it all go away because the knowledge of things will destroy my girlfriend.
So Lola entered my vehicle and we drove out, on our way to the hospital for her to terminate the pregnancy plus treatment she’ll take afterwards and for the damages i have caused her. She’s going to need 150k from me, i was furious and told her i don’t have that kind of money talk less of handing it over to her for something like this (i sure don’t know what i cost but i know it’s not up to 50k). She said if i don’t give her what she want she’s going to have the baby and that i should be thankful that she’s coming up with this that if she had listen to her friends advices she would have moved to my house with all sort of troubles (she was right) but i didn’t give in just yet. I dropped her off and ask her to have the child that am not going to give her the money as i don’t have it (I get the money sha).
So two days passed, she called again and after many arguments we agreed at 100k, made her to sign a NDA not to bother me again and all, I transferred her the 100k that night, she confirmed receipt and promised to go with it the following morning and that was the last I have heard or seen or her since then, until 3 weeks ago when another of her sister called from Canada and was asking if i am Me, that she’s been seeking my contact for a while now that Lola friend had to steal the number Lola’s phone and pass it to her as Lola has been hiding my phone number from the rest of the family and she doesn’t know the arrangement i have had with her but i should know that she’s having the child, she just thought i should know that i have a child somewhere when the baby eventually drops.
Knowing fully well that i am a shitty person to have done something terrible to myself and my girlfriend and all our future plans because of cheap sex, but I’ll be a more terribly bad person to have knowledge of a child somewhere and not be in his/her life. I called Lola but she didn’t take i texted her about her sisters call she called back to know who called and was furious, she ended the call (I guess to call her sister back) and called back again in about 20mins and asked me not to ever call her line again. I replied her text she should tell her family not call me as well. I have dodged to her apartment building a coupe times but she’s not been around for weeks as i was made to believe.
So i bought a ring to engage my girl few weeks ago but had to hold first to see how things play out, i can’t go ahead and marry my girlfriend with this kind of secret untold; that will be wickedness from the pit of hell and i still don’t know how to break it to her, it will destroy her.
I jokingly painted a similar scenery to my girlfriend; her response was: she will not marry me because if she does she will kill me in my sleep. That everybody is expecting us to get married this year, she now have high respect from her family because of me and this kind of thing happens both of us will die. Omo fear catch me.
Fellow Nairalanders, this is my predicament please advice a stupid brother. Insults are welcome as I hope to pick a thing or two from your comments. MODs please push this up biko. First thing first find one excuse pack comot for that area 1 Like |
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by Unrated900(m): 11:27pm On Jan 28, 2020 |
franchasng: marry Lola ke
Oya come here for deliverance, take am!! Lol believe me ooooo From The analysis Lola fine pass the girl The guy will end up loosing her fiancée and loose Lola as well 1 Like |
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by IcraveLove(f): 11:27pm On Jan 28, 2020 |
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Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by mkoabiola: 11:28pm On Jan 28, 2020 |
Tales by moonlight |
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by kayneri(m): 11:29pm On Jan 28, 2020 |
Bro, you would be restless for the rest of your life, if you don't tell your gf the truth. Only the truth will set you free. Engage her and then tell her the truth. Tell her everything and let her know you regret ur mistake, then let her know you want to marry her but you can't do that without telling her this and you can't carry that burden for the rest of ur life. 2 Likes |
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by paix(m): 11:29pm On Jan 28, 2020 |
superfitsez: abeg guys,stop lamenting....focus on yourself,. make money, forget about ladies now, I hail you. |
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by Bollaskem(f): 11:29pm On Jan 28, 2020 |
Sweet things dey run belle,prepared to become for baby father,that is it. |
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by kolaaderin: 11:29pm On Jan 28, 2020 |
Youngkingjaey1: This story long o
But the story sweet sha
Tell her the truth and if she did not forgive you Run away for your life. Mk your case no be like mayram
But free Toto dey sweet Chai #100 will have save you from this mess you put yourself into
#100 crest on every visit would have prevented this mess my brother. 1 Like |
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by djon78(m): 11:31pm On Jan 28, 2020 |
EmzyT: Some humans are more Wicked than the Devil himself i swear, What do SOME men really want? See how this one just Lost a Precious Diamond while chasing Stones, Chaii.. As in eh. The guy has set himself backward but he doesn't know it yet. He may never come across a decent woman again in his life time. His only savior will be grace and mercy of God. He sold his birthright for a meal of porridge. And this is a very big warning to people. Whenever good thing is coming your way, the devil will bring temptation to make you loose that good thing. And from his narrative he thinks this is a laughing matter not knowing that forces that fight over our destinies wants to play lottery, baba ijebu, Kalou kalou with his destiny. And he is playing into there hands His redemption starts with 1.tell your fiance the truth 2.never abort that baby Every other thing depends on this two outcome on whether God will have mercy on your evil and wicked soul 3 Likes |
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by Lamanii22(f): 11:31pm On Jan 28, 2020 |
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Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by InvertedHammer: 11:33pm On Jan 28, 2020 |
Jeffmonti: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help!
This might turn out to be a lengthy read, please bear with me. The bashing and insults will be unnecessary as i have already told myself hurtful things a thousand times over.
So i am 29 and have a girlfriend who’s 25 we are both graduates; she’s a nurse and i am a practicing engineer and we’ve been dating for 3+ years now and preparations are underway to tie the knot this year God willing. Something happened last year, she suggested i move to a bigger apartment so that we can start buying household items and everything necessary to start a home as we are looking to get married soon which we did; i got a bigger place, met her parents she met mine. In a nutshell everything seems to be going well, we even started a business together and set to take on the future together before the devil struck (i take blames for my actions as i am not overly religious)
Around June last year, i met a girl (very fine girl) in the new area i moved to, although i have been seeing the girl around but one day as i was driving in i saw her hiding somewhere close to my compound avoiding the rain with her friends so i took them in until the rain subsided we exchanged contacts and started texting on WhatsApp a few days later. And soon after we started having sex (protected sex), prior to that time i never cheated on my girlfriend. The sex continued, up to 2 times a week sometimes 3 as it was relatively easy as she lived very close and my girlfriend only visits on the weekend and never sleeps out (she’s from a very good and wealthy family with proper moral upbringing). Most evenings when return from work conji just do me one kind i don cross street other times she calls until we became comfortable having unprotected sex
So late October 2019, the new girl (I’ll call her Lola) texted me that’s she’s not feeling too well and i asked her to visit the hospital to run a test to know what to treat. She came back with a pregnancy test result proving she’s already 3 weeks pregnant, i was sure it was mine but i didn’t panic as she had a bf and i have my gf we were just for the sex at least that’s what we told each other.
So i asked her to remove the pregnancy, but got the shocker when she said she’s never going to remove the pregnancy that she’s 27 and have no desire to marry me or stay with me but she’s going to have the child. Omo my heart flipped. I begged her for like 3 weeks until she got mad and stopped taking my calls, she even moved away from her apartment. So i texted her and arranged a meeting, we sat down and discussed at length but she was still bent on keeping it, i got furious and told her i am not ready to be part of the child’s life if she’s going through with it as i see no reason why she wants to have my child when she knows we are NEVER going to be together, that was when she said she had already told her family that i am not interested in the child and they support her to keep it and let the child bear their family name. I discussed the matter with two friends a boy and a girl and the asked me to let her have the child first.
One month passed fast forward to early December, Lola called 6 times i was so shocked. I couldn’t take her calls. She texted that she’s ready to terminate the pregnancy since i am wicked and unconcerned she rained all manner of derogatory words but i was only concern with her decision to let go. I called and we agreed to meet the following day, I skipped work that day and met with her and her elder sister and elder sister’s friend. The sister and her friend were so mean but i was unmoved; i don already fuckup and ready to take anything to let it all go away because the knowledge of things will destroy my girlfriend.
So Lola entered my vehicle and we drove out, on our way to the hospital for her to terminate the pregnancy plus treatment she’ll take afterwards and for the damages i have caused her. She’s going to need 150k from me, i was furious and told her i don’t have that kind of money talk less of handing it over to her for something like this (i sure don’t know what i cost but i know it’s not up to 50k). She said if i don’t give her what she want she’s going to have the baby and that i should be thankful that she’s coming up with this that if she had listen to her friends advices she would have moved to my house with all sort of troubles (she was right) but i didn’t give in just yet. I dropped her off and ask her to have the child that am not going to give her the money as i don’t have it (I get the money sha).
So two days passed, she called again and after many arguments we agreed at 100k, made her to sign a NDA not to bother me again and all, I transferred her the 100k that night, she confirmed receipt and promised to go with it the following morning and that was the last I have heard or seen or her since then, until 3 weeks ago when another of her sister called from Canada and was asking if i am Me, that she’s been seeking my contact for a while now that Lola friend had to steal the number Lola’s phone and pass it to her as Lola has been hiding my phone number from the rest of the family and she doesn’t know the arrangement i have had with her but i should know that she’s having the child, she just thought i should know that i have a child somewhere when the baby eventually drops.
Knowing fully well that i am a shitty person to have done something terrible to myself and my girlfriend and all our future plans because of cheap sex, but I’ll be a more terribly bad person to have knowledge of a child somewhere and not be in his/her life. I called Lola but she didn’t take i texted her about her sisters call she called back to know who called and was furious, she ended the call (I guess to call her sister back) and called back again in about 20mins and asked me not to ever call her line again. I replied her text she should tell her family not call me as well. I have dodged to her apartment building a coupe times but she’s not been around for weeks as i was made to believe.
So i bought a ring to engage my girl few weeks ago but had to hold first to see how things play out, i can’t go ahead and marry my girlfriend with this kind of secret untold; that will be wickedness from the pit of hell and i still don’t know how to break it to her, it will destroy her.
I jokingly painted a similar scenery to my girlfriend; her response was: she will not marry me because if she does she will kill me in my sleep. That everybody is expecting us to get married this year, she now have high respect from her family because of me and this kind of thing happens both of us will die. Omo fear catch me.
Fellow Nairalanders, this is my predicament please advice a stupid brother. Insults are welcome as I hope to pick a thing or two from your comments. MODs please push this up biko. / Nothing to fear. Dead man feels no pain. People who kill don't talk. Tell your gf. / |
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by iLegendd(m): 11:34pm On Jan 28, 2020 |
Read.
My comment? Hmm. |
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by osazsky(m): 11:34pm On Jan 28, 2020 |
Pls suspend all wedding arrangements what if u go on with d wedding without telling ur girlfriend and on ur wedding day d lola shows up wearing a gown too to spoil ur marriage with her big belle or a child that will be a bigger shame to u and ur entire family in d presence of ur friends and colleague....this lola to me she looks desperate and I guess she is above 30 and she only saw an intending investment and quickly placed a market and u go buy her goods without helmet I feel for u though....if it were me I for done they on drugs by now guy u b strong man o.....tell ur girlfriend d thruth anything way one happen make he happen pls dont tell any pastor to go and tell her or family members cuz when u were carrying out these exploits they were not there .this thing u are worrying ur self for how are u sure u are d owner of d pregnancy or dont u think she must have calculated ur move , allow her boyfriend impregnate her then put it on u maybe cuz she saw u driving and her bf doesn't drive do a DNA test first after that before u can take any decision NB do not disclose anything to ur girlfriend until u have confirmed dat d child is urs so that u wont shoot urself by urself goodluck 2 Likes |
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by SpartanKing: 11:34pm On Jan 28, 2020 |
Jeffmonti: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help!
This might turn out to be a lengthy read, please bear with me. The bashing and insults will be unnecessary as i have already told myself hurtful things a thousand times over.
So i am 29 and have a girlfriend who’s 25 we are both graduates; she’s a nurse and i am a practicing engineer and we’ve been dating for 3+ years now and preparations are underway to tie the knot this year God willing. Something happened last year, she suggested i move to a bigger apartment so that we can start buying household items and everything necessary to start a home as we are looking to get married soon which we did; i got a bigger place, met her parents she met mine. In a nutshell everything seems to be going well, we even started a business together and set to take on the future together before the devil struck (i take blames for my actions as i am not overly religious)
Around June last year, i met a girl (very fine girl) in the new area i moved to, although i have been seeing the girl around but one day as i was driving in i saw her hiding somewhere close to my compound avoiding the rain with her friends so i took them in until the rain subsided we exchanged contacts and started texting on WhatsApp a few days later. And soon after we started having sex (protected sex), prior to that time i never cheated on my girlfriend. The sex continued, up to 2 times a week sometimes 3 as it was relatively easy as she lived very close and my girlfriend only visits on the weekend and never sleeps out (she’s from a very good and wealthy family with proper moral upbringing). Most evenings when return from work conji just do me one kind i don cross street other times she calls until we became comfortable having unprotected sex
So late October 2019, the new girl (I’ll call her Lola) texted me that’s she’s not feeling too well and i asked her to visit the hospital to run a test to know what to treat. She came back with a pregnancy test result proving she’s already 3 weeks pregnant, i was sure it was mine but i didn’t panic as she had a bf and i have my gf we were just for the sex at least that’s what we told each other.
So i asked her to remove the pregnancy, but got the shocker when she said she’s never going to remove the pregnancy that she’s 27 and have no desire to marry me or stay with me but she’s going to have the child. Omo my heart flipped. I begged her for like 3 weeks until she got mad and stopped taking my calls, she even moved away from her apartment. So i texted her and arranged a meeting, we sat down and discussed at length but she was still bent on keeping it, i got furious and told her i am not ready to be part of the child’s life if she’s going through with it as i see no reason why she wants to have my child when she knows we are NEVER going to be together, that was when she said she had already told her family that i am not interested in the child and they support her to keep it and let the child bear their family name. I discussed the matter with two friends a boy and a girl and the asked me to let her have the child first.
One month passed fast forward to early December, Lola called 6 times i was so shocked. I couldn’t take her calls. She texted that she’s ready to terminate the pregnancy since i am wicked and unconcerned she rained all manner of derogatory words but i was only concern with her decision to let go. I called and we agreed to meet the following day, I skipped work that day and met with her and her elder sister and elder sister’s friend. The sister and her friend were so mean but i was unmoved; i don already fuckup and ready to take anything to let it all go away because the knowledge of things will destroy my girlfriend.
So Lola entered my vehicle and we drove out, on our way to the hospital for her to terminate the pregnancy plus treatment she’ll take afterwards and for the damages i have caused her. She’s going to need 150k from me, i was furious and told her i don’t have that kind of money talk less of handing it over to her for something like this (i sure don’t know what i cost but i know it’s not up to 50k). She said if i don’t give her what she want she’s going to have the baby and that i should be thankful that she’s coming up with this that if she had listen to her friends advices she would have moved to my house with all sort of troubles (she was right) but i didn’t give in just yet. I dropped her off and ask her to have the child that am not going to give her the money as i don’t have it (I get the money sha).
So two days passed, she called again and after many arguments we agreed at 100k, made her to sign a NDA not to bother me again and all, I transferred her the 100k that night, she confirmed receipt and promised to go with it the following morning and that was the last I have heard or seen or her since then, until 3 weeks ago when another of her sister called from Canada and was asking if i am Me, that she’s been seeking my contact for a while now that Lola friend had to steal the number Lola’s phone and pass it to her as Lola has been hiding my phone number from the rest of the family and she doesn’t know the arrangement i have had with her but i should know that she’s having the child, she just thought i should know that i have a child somewhere when the baby eventually drops.
Knowing fully well that i am a shitty person to have done something terrible to myself and my girlfriend and all our future plans because of cheap sex, but I’ll be a more terribly bad person to have knowledge of a child somewhere and not be in his/her life. I called Lola but she didn’t take i texted her about her sisters call she called back to know who called and was furious, she ended the call (I guess to call her sister back) and called back again in about 20mins and asked me not to ever call her line again. I replied her text she should tell her family not call me as well. I have dodged to her apartment building a coupe times but she’s not been around for weeks as i was made to believe.
So i bought a ring to engage my girl few weeks ago but had to hold first to see how things play out, i can’t go ahead and marry my girlfriend with this kind of secret untold; that will be wickedness from the pit of hell and i still don’t know how to break it to her, it will destroy her.
I jokingly painted a similar scenery to my girlfriend; her response was: she will not marry me because if she does she will kill me in my sleep. That everybody is expecting us to get married this year, she now have high respect from her family because of me and this kind of thing happens both of us will die. Omo fear catch me.
Fellow Nairalanders, this is my predicament please advice a stupid brother. Insults are welcome as I hope to pick a thing or two from your comments. MODs please push this up biko. It may cost a man the price of a loaf of bread to take woman to bed; but, the consequence may cost him as that he has! 1 Like |
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by deebrain(m): 11:34pm On Jan 28, 2020 |
Tell your girlfriend.
Won't say more. 1 Like |
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by stabilizer: 11:36pm On Jan 28, 2020 |
You must laughing and smoking igbo while reading comments |
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by gozie112(m): 11:36pm On Jan 28, 2020 |
Youngkingjaey1:
Haa egbon The only advice I can borrow you is that call your pastor,cleric or close family member and explain everything to them, that they should help you to beg your gf and you have realized your mistake and make she forgive you. And if she insist that she wan break up with Let her go ahead, at least you try your best to tell her the truth before you engage her.
Pay your unborn child bill and look for another girl to marry
But free Toto dey sweet aha
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Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by luminouz(m): 11:37pm On Jan 28, 2020 |
mkoabiola: Tales by moonlight Finally,someone sees the light. Look at those guys yelling 'expert advice' upandan without even reading the damn story well. |
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by Exodora: 11:37pm On Jan 28, 2020 |
You are the most stupid person I have ever read about.You should be greatful that she wants to keep the baby and then stay away from your life expect the fact that you will take responsibility of the child when he is birthed The first fruit that proves that you are a man , this is how you want to rubbish it.What ensures you that your girlfriend will give you a child after marriage. Don't know why some people are intentionally bringing course upon themselves. You really need a heavy hammar to help reconnect your brain. If she wants to have the baby let her it . As for your girlfriend let her go , she has indirectly told you her mind and that is exactly what she will do , so to avoid rest in peace in near future call that relationship off. And as for you , even if your girlfriend did not kill you someone will still kill you if you don't change your life style. Just have it at the back of your mind that your death may come from a woman. Is a revelation .And you know the definittion of revelation , don't you? 1 Like |