Omar09:


I was having a chat with my Kenyan friend a girl. And we were talking, somehow we went into the job aspect and she told me to get a job, I told her I didn't need one that I have a girl who is paying me to date her tho small. And that I'm on the look out for another lady who can pay higher in essence I'm into sugar momma thingy. And she said what happens to the other one if I get a new one. I told her I'd dump her. And she told me never to talk to her, I replied OK. 5min went by and she sent me a text and asked me why I didn't defend myself or beg. I laughed out loud. She said another thing that it takes a real man to beg a woman. I didn't even want to go into arguments with her.

Imagine that I should beg cause I want to be her definition of a REAL MAN. Why?

Classic female shit-testing on men. She tested you by going mute at first. At that point, nice, foolish beta guys would start messaging back typing "Hi" "Baby, I'm sorry" etc. You did the right thing by ignoring her.

To further test your resolve and assess your frame of masculinity, she poked at your ego, by asking you to be a "real man" by apologizing. At this point, a lot of males would apologize to be a real man there by giving themselves off as " weak" to the woman's subconscious. Standing your ground would earn you respect from her and project you as a "strong" male to her subconscious

Skepticus:


Classic female shit-testing on men. She tested you by going mute at first. At that point, nice, foolish beta guys would start messaging back typing "Hi" "Baby, I'm sorry" etc. You did the right thing by ignoring her.

To further test your resolve and assess your frame of masculinity, she poked at your ego, by asking you to be a "real man" by apologizing. At this point, a lot of males would apologize to be a real man there by giving themselves off as " weak" to the woman's subconscious. Standing your ground would earn you respect from her and project you as a "strong" male to her subconscious

I stood my ground and told her I can't defend myself since it's your choice and I can only prolong the inevitable but I can't stop it and I have gone past that stage where one can threaten me with breakup. And she was like "I know deep down you can be threatened" I replied her deep down I feel something and I just know which fight I chose. Long story short, she apologized.

Omar09:


I stood my ground and told her I can't defend myself since it's your choice and I can only prolong the inevitable but I can't stop it and I have gone past that stage where one can threaten me with breakup. And she was like "I know deep down you can be threatened" I replied her deep down I feel something and I just know which fight I chose. Long story short, she apologized.

You are the real man.

Alpha males! Hahaha. If you want to make heaven you can't be an Alpha male.
You have to be Alpha plus plus!! A++
Only few of us are!

Skepticus:

You are the real man.

How women shit test you. I read that ubunja topic. It helped me to realize when I was being shit tested.

Omar09:


I was having a chat with my Kenyan friend a girl. And we were talking, somehow we went into the job aspect and she told me to get a job, I told her I didn't need one that I have a girl who is paying me to date her tho small. And that I'm on the look out for another lady who can pay higher in essence I'm into sugar momma thingy. And she said what happens to the other one if I get a new one. I told her I'd dump her. And she told me never to talk to her, I replied OK. 5min went by and she sent me a text and asked me why I didn't defend myself or beg. I laughed out loud. She said another thing that it takes a real man to beg a woman. I didn't even want to go into arguments with her.

Imagine that I should beg cause I want to be her definition of a REAL MAN. Why?

Now this is pure shit-testing your stugots.

I've stopped apologizing saying sorry and all the cordial crap. Once a chick places demand for appology, explanation etc I simply walk away and delete the contact from my life. Done this shiiit with some now almost seven months, they'll remain where I kept them, in my recycle bin. Unless the crazy mind games stops. No time

sosa993:




you don kill me with laugh.

long time no see Sosa993. Where have you been?

prinsam30:



The bolded, they ar my attributes, trust me, or do u wanna try me out

Being a freelance "impregnator" is not one of the attributes

You can't be responsible and honourable and be the bolded. So let's just leave the alpha male.matter.

luminouz:



Nah,just think your professional touch makes all better and sweeter too!

Put your back into it. Hope it's not weak?

donstan18:
Hustle ooo!!


Make you get time to dey know wetin be Alpha make and Beta Male.

Mad ooh

Preshy561:

Some of you who call your fellow guys pussy think it means weakness?
Something that strong enough to pull out a human being, undergo so many pressure and still bounces, a place you came out from, is what you think means weakness? It really shows you are a representative of such weakness.

relax. That's the same way people call stupid and arrogant people d1ck. A pipe that release the liquid that stopped you from being soaked in Always pad and thrown away is what you regard as stupid and arrogant that's by your logic though

ImaIma1:


Being a freelance "impregnator" is not one of the attributes

You can't be responsible and honourable and be the bolded. So let's just leave the alpha male.matter.

Do u wanna try me, I asked again

BRATISLAVA:


Put your back into it. Hope it's not weak?

Lol...I know which 'back' you mean

Nope babe...its long and strong,always ready to deliver


Its almost 7pm ..goan cook dinner naaa

Jezyfreezman:
I just weak, now I'm avoiding the romance section for good, make em no jazz me too with some sissy stories,

OH my God! U guys are killing me, wow, I thought there aren't no strong hearted guys again in this forum, but sissies!
U guys make my day, bro.

luminouz:
Lmaoooo....


Strive?


Alpha male is 90% inborn,you can't wake up and decide to be one.

The 10% left can be learned but you will never be an alpha male with that.


How do I know? I was born as an ALPHA.

I see

HabaHaba:

OH my God! U guys are killing me, wow, I thought there aren't no strong hearted guys again in this forum, but sissies!
U guys make my day, bro.

lol,.... local man can't kill himself

healthserve:




It's always. A cheeky attempt to water down truths

No wonder, we have a non-working country, a country where people can't use their brains for the simplest things.

BigJoe19:
No wonder, we have a non-working country, a country where people can't use their brains for the simplest things.

Kikiki. I call them mentally stunted cretins. A nation where many of his young men are mentally stunted

healthserve:



Healthy esteem you mean. Positive pride or healthy sense of self

Yeah... Positive pride or let me say all of the above!!!


My happiness is that at least someone understands what I'm talking about!!

Thanks healthserve

Omar09:


That is what we have been teaching. Most men for the fear of losing their girlfriend does not do things that will better their life. Always wanna please someone and that is not the definition of a man you want to visualize in your head. Like what was written, it didn't say do these or do that to be an alpha, instead it said put yourself first and your happiness before emotion or anyone.. These teachings are to make us men to go back to our original terrain which is "logic" and leave the emotional terrain for those it was built for. You can't perform in an environment you have not acquainted with before. Anyway all these are written and no one is forced to live by it. The more people don't live by it, the more we are positioned to getting what we want out of life without having issues.

You made so much sense but I stopped reading at "leave the emotional terrair for those it was built for". I hope that sentence isn't what I'm thinking, I may be wrong though. Can you please clarify on that so that I don't assume something else?

TonyeBarcanista:

Alpha male is a class of men that live to their convictions, perfect gentlemen that seek to build real connection rather than "Mr Nice Guys" that simply patronise those around them simply because of they need their validation.

Alpha malerism doesn't set any standard or rules, it is simply, BE YOURSELF AND LIVE ACCORDING TO YOUR CONVICTION - Isn't that what the society needs? The society is filled with fake men that are puppets and is the reason behind platoria of collapsed relationship

That's everything I said, well, without the relationship part

Omar09:


They are threatened by this alpha male thingy because it is against their form of lively hood. Imagine a world where there are no men to control, manipulate and all what not. How will they get to look exotic when they are not. How will they get to make their hair.

@Palehair listen, this "alpha male" isn't only for relationships. You need to see men being rode on just to maintain a friendship that isn't yielding.

On the part of the relationship, don't you get irritated when you are talking with a man and you ask him his favorite color and he tells you blue and then he asks you yours and you tell him pink and next thing you hear is, I like pink too?

Or you don't eat fish, and you both goes to a restaurant to eat and you order a meat and you know he very much likes fish and he doesn't order his own fish instead he orders meat? I need your answers to these questions @Palehair.

Huh.... I'm a guy but I get your point and not all girls like the macho vibe they get from men. Some girls love their men to kick into their feminine side but at the same time still the man in the relationship. That's why communication is key at the early start so that they both know if they are right for one another

TonyeBarcanista:

An Alpha male in toxic relationship take action to address the toxicity with aim of putting a stop of the toxicity or a stop to the relationship if it warrants that. He is not afraid to let go of any relationship that threatens his sanity. He is not afraid of facing conflict in relationship if that will lead to addressing the issue. Alpha males enjoy their relationship as they ensure they eliminate any threat to peace. They live fulfilled lives without regrets

But Beta males in relationship are weak and afraid of addressing their partners toxicity. They are passive that they don't take action because they don't want the society or anyone to blame them for their action. Beta males sulk it up! They are usually afraid of conflict and are always seeking "peace" without addressing the source of the toxicity. Beta males are pretenders that live life of pains and regret!

It's just the term "alpha male" that I have a problem with

The myth that the world can be divided into "alphas" and "betas" has mostly been debunked. Most people are a combination of the two. In many cases, people can act like an "alpha" in the arenas where they are very successful and like "betas" in the arenas where they have more difficulty. For example, someone might be an "alpha" in his job but not in the bedroom. Somebody else might be an "alpha" in her political activism but not in her athleticism. Rather than looking for "alpha" traits, instead consider thinking about arenas that are important to you and find someone who is confident in that arena.

healthserve:
Another perspective. Mature


Martinez39
Ericsmith
Ubunja
JohnnySpute

.. The message is clear. He is damn right.

Palehair:

It's just the term "alpha male" that I have a problem with

The myth that the world can be divided into "alphas" and "betas" has mostly been debunked. Most people are a combination of the two. In many cases, people can act like an "alpha" in the arenas where they are very successful and like "betas" in the arenas where they have more difficulty. For example, someone might be an "alpha" in his job but not in the bedroom. Somebody else might be an "alpha" in her political activism but not in her athleticism. Rather than looking for "alpha" traits, instead consider thinking about arenas that are important to you and find someone who is confident in that arena.

Lol, this has been repeatedly proven. I believe this puts the children like hardon and Ubunja finally to bed. Well said.

Palehair:

Huh.... I'm a guy but I get your point and not all girls like the macho vibe they get from men. Some girls love their men to kick into their feminine side but at the same time still the man in the relationship. That's why communication is key at the early start so that they both know if they are right for one another

I rest my case.

Palehair:

You made so much sense but I stopped reading at "leave the emotional terrain for those it was built for". I hope that sentence isn't what I'm thinking, I may be wrong though. Can you please clarify on that so that I don't assume something else?

Emotional terrain is knowing what's right and instead doing what feels right. Logical terrain is knowing what's right and doing it.
Emotion is trying to avoid one's problems knowing fully well the only to make it go away is by facing it head on. Whilst logical terrain is facing your problems head on.

I'd give you an example. A lady who is in a relationship knows that sleeping with another guy who is not her boyfriend or husband is not right and will hurt the significant other if he finds out, but will go ahead to sleep with that guy who is not her significant other because it feels right and satisfies her emotions.

Now men move into the emotional terrain by recharging a girl's phone and calling to know if it was successful. That is being emotional and it doesn't fit men. You will see men who will provide money for their girl to abort a baby that isn't his own and still get yelled on by the girl for not providing enough or on time. Men move into that terrain by when their girl visits and goes home, they call to know if she has reached home safely whilst it's the duty of the person who came to call and let the host know he/she has reached their place of abode safely. You see all these things feels right, but they are not right. What is right?
Recharging your partner with top up and that partner calling to tell you they've received it.
A girl being able to take care of herself and bills when aborting a baby that she fully knows is not her boyfriend's.
A partner calling the other partner that he/she has reached her place of abode successfully.

Modified:
Emotional terrain is built for them women and not men. It's their weapon nature gave them.
Capiche?

Omar09:


Emotional terrain is knowing what's right and instead doing what feels right. Logical terrain is knowing what's right and doing it.
Emotion is trying to avoid one's problems knowing fully well the only to make it go away is by facing it head on. Whilst logical terrain is facing your problems head on.

I'd give you an example. A lady who is in a relationship knows that sleeping with another guy who is not her boyfriend or husband is not right and will hurt the significant other if he finds out, but will go ahead to sleep with that guy who is not her significant other because it feels right and satisfies her emotions.

Now men move into the emotional terrain by recharging a girl's phone and calling to know if it was successful. That is being emotional and it doesn't fit men. You will see men who will provide money for their girl to abort a baby that isn't his own and still get yelled on by the girl for not providing enough or on time. Men move into that terrain by when their girl visits and goes home, they call to know if she has reached home safely whilst it's the duty of the person who came to call and let the host know he/she has reached their place of abode safely. You see all these things feels right, but they are not right. What is right?
Recharging your partner with top up and that partner calling to tell you they've received it.
A girl being able to take care of herself and bills when aborting a baby that she fully knows is not her boyfriend's.
A partner calling the other partner that he/she has reached her place of abode successfully.

Modified:
Emotional terrain is built for them women and not men. It's their weapon nature gave them.
Capiche?

Capisco

Nowadays, some men out perform the women in their own territory and the women do fall for it

Palehair:

Capisco

Nowadays, some men out perform the women in their own territory and the women do fall for it

That is just being simpish and sissy-ish.

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JayPeeOham:
Well said or written OP!!!

But I beg to differ on the part you said "Alpha Males are not proud!"

Alpha Males are proud but in a good way!

I mean the kind of pride you use when one says..."I AM SO PROUD OF YOU"

Without this "good pride" you can will never be an Alpha Male...only end up being a BETA MALE..

I know this because I AM an ALPHA MALE, ALWAYS AND FOREVER WILL BE!!!

And lastly "NO 'REAL MAN' CAN RUN A HOME WITHOUT A BIT OF WHAT I CALL THE 'GOOD PRIDE"....Take it to the bank!!!

Cc:TonyeBarcanista

Perhaps you should comprehend my statement.

Being proud is a vice not a virtue. Humility is the virtue.

What you are talking about is confidence and having high self-esteem. These are necessities for one to call himself a man!!!

But being proud and haughty aren't good trait. Most times proud people are empty!