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Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by AgentNairaland(f): 6:27pm On Feb 02, 2020
Give Am Snipper
Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by TheMubaraqS: 6:36pm On Feb 02, 2020
I don't know what you have told your husband for him to have invited your ex for the naming ceremony... I guess you must have lied about your relationship with him because if you had told him all these stories all along, he would have made you distanced yourself from that nigga...

See ehn, you are sleeping under a burning roof and I must say your life and your husband's life are in danger even your child's life as well...

There is a clear sign from your post I read 2018 that this guy doesn't mean good for you. I don't know how sweet this ur Pussy is but it will surely implicate you if you don't stop this shit asap.

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Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by yommen: 6:39pm On Feb 02, 2020
donstan18:
I see nothing but a married lady who so much miss the magnifying great sex she was getting from her ex and scared she'll one day fall for him if he keeps on visiting.

Seriously? Why is your head so full of nonsense like this? The question you should is 'why is the guy visiting in her husband's absence?' If it's you, can accept such? Her husband needs to buy giga bites of sense abeg!

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Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by dannygood: 6:40pm On Feb 02, 2020
Thank ur husband for being a very understanding and protective husband. If not for him you would have been dead by now. Your ex is a deadly cultist and you know it, he must have threatened you husband with your life. Be came and let your husband do his thing. Hold yourself of lust after your ex and let it out of mind.
Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by Obaakran: 6:43pm On Feb 02, 2020
HacheNoire:
Poison him on one of his coming visits
He will die either enroute home or at home.
lol. mad o
Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by Goalnaldo(m): 6:43pm On Feb 02, 2020
If exes are this harmful, why keep them in the first place? Keep your body until you are ready to marry to prevent occurrences as this. Simple.
Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by SavageMaster: 6:43pm On Feb 02, 2020
NwaAmaikpe:
shocked



You are such an ingrate.
Do you know how many of us that wish that our partners were cool with our exes.

You have the prospect of a 3some on a platter and here you are complaining about a gift from God.

But this does not add up.
If x+10 = u ≤ 40%

Where 10 is your present spouse,
x is your ex
While you are u.
And u is less than in an optimal state.


Then what is y?

Y is simply that you did your ex bad.
He was a great guy but you schemed him away for your present husband out of greed and an addiction for cheating.

I know this because,
You feel sooooo uncomfortable with your ex around. You feel an indescribable amount of guilt each time you see him and it feels like you are staring at Karma in human garb.

For your husband to be that nice to your ex means that
Your husband knew you were cheating on your ex with him. He knows your ex didn't deserve that wrong, this explains why he feels obliged to set him up on life.

So it is either that he is a man of great conscience or a man who needs your ex as an ally to know the true you and decipher all of your trickery for him to feel this indebted to your ex.

Or even better.
Your husband and your ex may be gay and your ex is using this as his best revenge.

But one thing is certain.
You were two-faced and bad to your ex....this is why the bible says that the wicked runs when NOTHING is chasing them.

Get over it, what will be, will be.
This is because I've just found out from your previous post that your ex isn't really an ex but your best and most loyal patron in your prostitution days.

You owe him, an agreement is an agreement.
Your husband is a proper gentleman so he should understand this too.
I don't think your husband will even mind because someone who brings home his wife's ex and someone who marries a hoe doesn't expect much out of marriage.

My only prayer is that your husband is forever able to meet his financial, emotional and sexual obligations because water will surely find it's level.

What do I even know, over to Lalasticlala and the other elders.

What is this fool blabbing?
Overrated trashy comments. Everyday is not for sarcasm

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Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by scondy(f): 6:51pm On Feb 02, 2020
RisenPhoenix:


Run ke? Shey she will not settle her debt? She's a debtor ni. Read her first post on the forum.

@op. I'm willing to bet anything that your husband has no idea of the debt you're owing your ex. You only told your husband that your ex was helping you financially out of the goodness of his heart abi?

Women are the mistresses of half-truths and pretence sha. When I say men sgould only marry virgins they will be shouting upandan.

This here is the truth.....
the husband didn't get the full story.....he probably doesn't know the regular sex part....she probably projected it like a promised sex or relationship....
Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by Kay25(m): 6:54pm On Feb 02, 2020
SifonAbasi:
Good morning friends.

Please how can I politely stop my ex from visiting my home?

Yesterday was the third time my husband returns from work to meet my ex in our house.

After the incident that happened between us, my ex started coming closer to my husband and they became distance friends.
My husband invited him to our child's naming ceremony and that was how he got to know our house.

Eversince then he has been visiting and I am not comfortable with it.
I told if he must come he should come when my husband is around.

Please what should I do?
pick up a call and warn him not to come closer make u sure u record the call for future purpose.then shun him each time he makes the approach to your home.show him the attitude of him not being welcomed.and try to tell your husband which I know it's hard to just to save guard ur home if u can't tell him inform people who are ur friends or relative ..just make sure u don't get him come closer it's for ur safety
Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by SifonAbasi(f): 6:55pm On Feb 02, 2020
dalass:
Tell him yourself.. Through WhatsApp or text..

He just wanna be startin something. grin grin grin
I don't have his number.
Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by SavageMaster: 6:56pm On Feb 02, 2020
SifonAbasi:
Thank you sir. I've told him. Yesterday when he visited I franked at him and he told me he didn't come for me that my husband was aware of his visit.
He visits and 30mins later my husband drove in. They sat and talked, drank and he went home.

You were not aware of his visit. Did your husband preinform you the guy was coming? If the answer is NO, then you should have kept him outside, let him stay there till your husband arrives. That way, you would have sent a clear message to him and your husband as well.

Take it a step further. Let him.be meeting your husband in his office, and not in your matrimonial home, since it's business matters they're discussing. Or is your husband up to something else?

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Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by SifonAbasi(f): 7:00pm On Feb 02, 2020
uruba23:
After going through your first thread I am curious. ..Have you paid him all his money back. I think he might be black mailing you emotionally have you told your husband what transpired between both of you.
He refuses to collect his money back. Even with interest
Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by Uniquekriss(m): 7:00pm On Feb 02, 2020
NwaAmaikpe:
shocked



You are such an ingrate.
Do you know how many of us that wish that our partners were cool with our exes.

You have the prospect of a 3some on a platter and here you are complaining about a gift from God.

But this does not add up.
If x+10 = u ≤ 40%

Where 10 is your present spouse,
x is your ex
While you are u.
And u is less than in an optimal state.


Then what is y?

Y is simply that you did your ex bad.
He was a great guy but you schemed him away for your present husband out of greed and an addiction for cheating.

I know this because,
You feel sooooo uncomfortable with your ex around. You feel an indescribable amount of guilt each time you see him and it feels like you are staring at Karma in human garb.

For your husband to be that nice to your ex means that
Your husband knew you were cheating on your ex with him. He knows your ex didn't deserve that wrong, this explains why he feels obliged to set him up on life.

So it is either that he is a man of great conscience or a man who needs your ex as an ally to know the true you and decipher all of your trickery for him to feel this indebted to your ex.

Or even better.
Your husband and your ex may be gay and your ex is using this as his best revenge.

But one thing is certain.
You were two-faced and bad to your ex....this is why the bible says that the wicked runs when NOTHING is chasing them.

Get over it, what will be, will be.
This is because I've just found out from your previous post that your ex isn't really an ex but your best and most loyal patron in your prostitution days.

You owe him, an agreement is an agreement.
Your husband is a proper gentleman so he should understand this too.
I don't think your husband will even mind because someone who brings home his wife's ex and someone who marries a hoe doesn't expect much out of marriage.

My only prayer is that your husband is forever able to meet his financial, emotional and sexual obligations because water will surely find it's level.

What do I even know, over to Lalasticlala and the other elders.
beautiful nonsense post
Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by Lexusgs430: 7:02pm On Feb 02, 2020
SifonAbasi:
Good morning friends.

Please how can I politely stop my ex from visiting my home?

Yesterday was the third time my husband returns from work to meet my ex in our house.

After the incident that happened between us, my ex started coming closer to my husband and they became distance friends.
My husband invited him to our child's naming ceremony and that was how he got to know our house.

Eversince then he has been visiting and I am not comfortable with it.
I told if he must come he should come when my husband is around.

Please what should I do?


Have you voiced your concerns with/to your husband?

What happened to not opening the door for/to him?
Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by Nobody: 7:03pm On Feb 02, 2020
SifonAbasi:
Good morning friends.

Please how can I politely stop my ex from visiting my home?

Yesterday was the third time my husband returns from work to meet my ex in our house.

After the incident that happened between us, my ex started coming closer to my husband and they became distance friends.
My husband invited him to our child's naming ceremony and that was how he got to know our house.

Eversince then he has been visiting and I am not comfortable with it.
I told if he must come he should come when my husband is around.

Please what should I do?

this your ex is a very bad man o! after making friends with your husband he's still trying to fùck the man's wife...where are you people from sef?
Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by Nobody: 7:04pm On Feb 02, 2020
I can't find the rest of them. I will look again.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nJKbtfKZy58&feature=share
Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by 6ixT8: 7:04pm On Feb 02, 2020
Mizwisdom:
Your ex is using your destiny, drive him away as fast as you can. Tell your husband, both of you should plan for him, get him beaten black and blue. After severely beating him, kick him out, his dicck will never stand in your presence again.

Mizwisdom there is no wisdom in your input. From the OP naration, no where did she state That her husband cant confront him rather, the husband is so meek and indiffernce to her concern.

Why will you advice beating the ex? Haba, it hasnt gotten to that na...

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Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by Originalsly: 7:04pm On Feb 02, 2020
Your husband knows he is the ex..... you have let him know you are uncomfortable with him visiting.... there is nothing more you can do. No normal man let alone husband allows that... educated or stark illiterate. A husband coming home and meeting the ex alone with his wife.... the first time it would be a stern warning/fight. The second time somebody would be in ICU...or the mortuary. Your husband may very well be bisexual.
Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by Nobody: 7:06pm On Feb 02, 2020
SifonAbasi:
He refuses to collect his money back. Even with interest
Well you might need to find his bank account and do a transfer.That way he can't hold you ransom on the debt..Tell him the terms had changed. It was okay when you are single but you are married now.
Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by frozen70(f): 7:08pm On Feb 02, 2020
SifonAbasi:
Good morning friends.

Please how can I politely stop my ex from visiting my home?

Yesterday was the third time my husband returns from work to meet my ex in our house.

After the incident that happened between us, my ex started coming closer to my husband and they became distance friends.
My husband invited him to our child's naming ceremony and that was how he got to know our house.

Eversince then he has been visiting and I am not comfortable with it.
I told if he must come he should come when my husband is around.

Please what should I do?

Since your husband was the one that gave him the first visit invitation, pls politely tell him in the presence of your husband that you are not comfortable of his visits to your home and you will appreciate if he out a stop to it

Simple

But if you are still interested in him by whatever means, tell him behind your husband to stop coming
Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by SifonAbasi(f): 7:11pm On Feb 02, 2020
Thegoodone13:
Your husband knew what you didn't tell him through your ex. Your husband does not love you again and you need to work on him. He does not care if your ex sleep with you now. Tell your ex not to come around again and tell your husband not to allow your ex in your house again. If he refuses, tell your pastor or elderly person that your husband can obey. Value your marriage. Let me ask you one question. Did u have sex with your ex after married your husband? If yes, your husband know about it.
No I didn't.
Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by roliks99(f): 7:11pm On Feb 02, 2020
SifonAbasi:
I have told him. He said I shouldn't worry.
My husband promised to sponsor his edding whenever he wants to marry as an appreciation for all he did for me when I was single.
Just to please him, last year my husband awarded him a contract and that contract brought them together.

During my child's naming ceremony he was given our house address.


I think you need to say it sternly
Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by jaxxy(m): 7:18pm On Feb 02, 2020
SifonAbasi:
I have told him. He said I shouldn't worry.
My husband promised to sponsor his edding whenever he wants to marry as an appreciation for all he did for me when I was single.
Just to please him, last year my husband awarded him a contract and that contract brought them together.

During my child's naming ceremony he was given our house address.

Not every ex is a terrible person. Aslong as ur ex was good to u when u were dating and even after and now Ure married and he’s meet ur husband and no longer interested or disturbing u for anything I don’t see any problem here.

For ur husband to still associate with him despite all u told him only means he understand the kind of man he is and knows he isn’t as bad as u think and carries no bad intentions towards u guys. That is a good thing.


I have also gotten to know a cool guy just cos he was dating my ex(kinda) and how we got talking was pretty ackward bt we have a decent conversation and he explained his serious intentions towards her and he didn’t mind us being frnds. Quite unusual bt I respected him for that and even stopped calling or chatting the gal. I chat with him more and we discuss biz together so I don’t see so much negativity in this Aslong as ur ex respects ur marriage and has moved on. Cheers.

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Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by Ebere79: 7:18pm On Feb 02, 2020
Temptation is real. Tell him to keep appointment with your hubby at his office not your house. Unless your hubby is trying to use him to taunt you sha
Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by SirLakes: 7:32pm On Feb 02, 2020
You are toying with fire!

Read your previous post

Why still dinning with the devil.

He's still looking forward to get his payment in the form you promised back then.
(if you wanna catch monkey, act like one).


You better Use your head and send him away for good.
Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by Macon1212: 7:34pm On Feb 02, 2020
SifonAbasi:
Good morning friends.

Please how can I politely stop my ex from visiting my home?

Yesterday was the third time my husband returns from work to meet my ex in our house.

After the incident that happened between us, my ex started coming closer to my husband and they became distance friends.
My husband invited him to our child's naming ceremony and that was how he got to know our house.

Eversince then he has been visiting and I am not comfortable with it.
I told if he must come he should come when my husband is around.

Please what should I do?

Did your husband know he is your ex?
Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by Mizwisdom(f): 7:36pm On Feb 02, 2020
6ixT8:


Mizwisdom there is no wisdom in your input. From the OP naration, no where did she state That her husband cant confront him rather, the husband is so meek and indiffernce to her concern.

Why will you advice beating the ex? Haba, it hasnt gotten to that na...

I'm sure you didn't bother to read her previous thread about this man. He has been sleeping with her for any favor he grants even while dating her husband. This was happening while she was single and he still continue asking her for sex even as a married woman. Don't you think he needs a violent approach to teach him a lesson? how can he have the guts to sneak into her family through her husband?,he's still demanding for sex and she's physically weak to resist him..she will soon give in again, that's why I suggested it. that's a good way out of this mess

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Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by Iykenuwa(m): 7:37pm On Feb 02, 2020
Your husband is naive. You need to put your foot down and tell him in front of your husband to only come around when your husband is around, or they should meet elsewhere.

Or record his sexual demands and show the evidence to your husband.
Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by SifonAbasi(f): 7:38pm On Feb 02, 2020
Ekaka1:

Several people on here have asked her if her husband is aware ..he is her ex but she's not answered that question yet cheesy
He is aware. Last two years my husband and I went to report my ex to my ex mother.
The problem started again when he was given my address to attend my child's party.

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Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by gbeseun(m): 7:40pm On Feb 02, 2020
If you dont do something on time.
He will.poison your husband so he can have you by force.i pity you.
Better act fast.
Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by InvertedHammer: 7:41pm On Feb 02, 2020
SifonAbasi:
Good morning friends.

Please how can I politely stop my ex from visiting my home?

Yesterday was the third time my husband returns from work to meet my ex in our house.

After the incident that happened between us, my ex started coming closer to my husband and they became distance friends.
My husband invited him to our child's naming ceremony and that was how he got to know our house.

Eversince then he has been visiting and I am not comfortable with it.
I told if he must come he should come when my husband is around.

Please what should I do?
/
Sniper or otapiapia no dey ya area?

Or better, tell your husband not to blame you if you end up banging your ex. Your husband should get the message or else he is a confirmed imbe.

\
Re: How Can I Stop My Ex From Visiting My Matrimonial Home? by na2016: 7:45pm On Feb 02, 2020
NwaAmaikpe:
shocked



You are such an ingrate.
Do you know how many of us that wish that our partners were cool with our exes.

You have the prospect of a 3some on a platter and here you are complaining about a gift from God.

But this does not add up.
If x+10 = u ≤ 40%

Where 10 is your present spouse,
x is your ex
While you are u.
And u is less than in an optimal state.


Then what is y?

Y is simply that you did your ex bad.
He was a great guy but you schemed him away for your present husband out of greed and an addiction for cheating.

I know this because,
You feel sooooo uncomfortable with your ex around. You feel an indescribable amount of guilt each time you see him and it feels like you are staring at Karma in human garb.

For your husband to be that nice to your ex means that
Your husband knew you were cheating on your ex with him. He knows your ex didn't deserve that wrong, this explains why he feels obliged to set him up on life.

So it is either that he is a man of great conscience or a man who needs your ex as an ally to know the true you and decipher all of your trickery for him to feel this indebted to your ex.

Or even better.
Your husband and your ex may be gay and your ex is using this as his best revenge.

But one thing is certain.
You were two-faced and bad to your ex....this is why the bible says that the wicked runs when NOTHING is chasing them.

Get over it, what will be, will be.
This is because I've just found out from your previous post that your ex isn't really an ex but your best and most loyal patron in your prostitution days.

You owe him, an agreement is an agreement.
Your husband is a proper gentleman so he should understand this too.
I don't think your husband will even mind because someone who brings home his wife's ex and someone who marries a hoe doesn't expect much out of marriage.

My only prayer is that your husband is forever able to meet his financial, emotional and sexual obligations because water will surely find it's level.

What do I even know, over to Lalasticlala and the other elders.

Such a dumb and stupid comment.
@sifonabasi, eyeneka mmi, I hope you open up to your husband that this guy was your ex and that you are not comfortable with him around. Any sensible man, will not want an ex to be around his wife!

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