Foodqueen:
Oki ATI iyawo


Those of you that normally ask for the second side of the story,....he don land o.


But make Una wait o. Why he be say the two of una register today.
Una plan am together?

Oko ati iyawo

Imagine at this young age I put all my expenses down in a book because my husband will always come to say I spent money carelessly, I carefully wrote down how I spent this particular money because I know him... tomorrow i will show a picture of my expenditures because I carefully write them down so I won’t forget

Meanwhile I didn’t ask him to call my father, he was the one that told my mum he was going to call my dad yesterday evening..... today is sunday and since my dad heard he was going to call he hasn’t said anything yet, all you could do is to come here and tell lies, me asked you to call?! All I said is since you said you were going to call please call . I am angry and very angry now ....

You know me now , I have already snapped this one . It’s not fair you still came here to say I asked you to call my dad or you told my mum you were going to call him and all of a sudden you have refused to call

Martins231:
Please I need advice on how to handle this, I gave my wife the sum of 400k for her and my 2 years old daughter around November and this January she’s already calling to tell me that she’s out of cash and I got worried and started questioning her how she spent such amount on feeding within such a short period of time ,that made us got into serious arguments which lasted for 2 days then I have to ask few married friends if is ok to exhaust such amount of money on feeding within 3 months and they gave me their answers which I sent to my wife too ...Now my wife immediately forwarded same messages to his brother living abroad too and also along with some conversations we had long time ago where she got me angry and insulted her by calling her idiot and stupid ...... His brother got angry and ask her to divorce me and immediately she started packing her belongings,I saw so surprised when she called me that she’s leaving my house ....I also learnt that his brother called his friend living in Abuja too to go and drag her out of my house if she doesn’t want to go ...... So I was so surprised when she asked me where to drop my keys I have to start begging her to calm down but she insisted that his family wants her to go ,then I have to call her mother and explained my own part of the story but the mother said there is nothing she can do since her siblings wants her to go . Now the problem is that my wife doesn’t want to go anymore but she doesn’t have the courage to tell her family that we have settled our misunderstand and doesn’t want to go anymore . She wants me to start calling every member of her family including her father to apologize and reassure them my love towards her again but to me I don’t know how to start the conversation with the father more especially because i believe having issues in marriage is normal and everyone understands that fact and since I have made up with her is their any need calling her family again

NB: They brother in abroad gave me the insult of life by sending a message to my wife which she also forwarded to me by calling me all sorts of names like immature and childish husband, and this same guy is of the same age bracket with me. Plz I need ur candid advice don’t mind my English and typos.

Even before the wife's response, I suspected the OP would be verbally abusive against his wife.

The problem of most marriages is poor foundation and immaturity.

Marriage is not bread and butter.

Ijeoma1187:
Meanwhile I didn’t ask him to call my father, he was the one that told my mum he was going to call my dad yesterday evening..... today is sunday and since my dad heard he was going to call he hasn’t said anything yet, all you could do is to come here and tell lies, me asked you to call?! All I said is since you said you were going to call please call . I am angry and very angry now ....

Be wise Ijeoma.
You may not be at fault,but be careful how you decide to handle this hence.First,go to him and ask him to delete this thread, peacefully.

Secondly,take your child for treatment tomorrow.

Thirdly,DO NOT FORCE him to call your dad.Go your normal activities like you don't care if he calls him or not.

A wise woman thinks like a man though a woman.Be silent hence,watch and concentrate on your baby.


Again,Do not comment.Delete your posts and go offline.

If he is still foolish to keep this thread then he is immature as your brother insinuate.

Martins231:
Please I need advice on how to handle this, I gave my wife the sum of 400k for her and my 2 years old daughter around November and this January she’s already calling to tell me that she’s out of cash and I got worried and started questioning her how she spent such amount on feeding within such a short period of time ,that made us got into serious arguments which lasted for 2 days then I have to ask few married friends if is ok to exhaust such amount of money on feeding within 3 months and they gave me their answers which I sent to my wife too ...Now my wife immediately forwarded same messages to his brother living abroad too and also along with some conversations we had long time ago where she got me angry and insulted her by calling her idiot and stupid ...... His brother got angry and ask her to divorce me and immediately she started packing her belongings,I saw so surprised when she called me that she’s leaving my house ....I also learnt that his brother called his friend living in Abuja too to go and drag her out of my house if she doesn’t want to go ...... So I was so surprised when she asked me where to drop my keys I have to start begging her to calm down but she insisted that his family wants her to go ,then I have to call her mother and explained my own part of the story but the mother said there is nothing she can do since her siblings wants her to go . Now the problem is that my wife doesn’t want to go anymore but she doesn’t have the courage to tell her family that we have settled our misunderstand and doesn’t want to go anymore . She wants me to start calling every member of her family including her father to apologize and reassure them my love towards her again but to me I don’t know how to start the conversation with the father more especially because i believe having issues in marriage is normal and everyone understands that fact and since I have made up with her is their any need calling her family again

NB: They brother in abroad gave me the insult of life by sending a message to my wife which she also forwarded to me by calling me all sorts of names like immature and childish husband, and this same guy is of the same age bracket with me. Plz I need ur candid advice don’t mind my English and typos.

Nwokem delete this thread.

Martins231:
Please I need advice on how to handle this, I gave my wife the sum of 400k for her and my 2 years old daughter around November and this January she’s already calling to tell me that she’s out of cash and I got worried and started questioning her how she spent such amount on feeding within such a short period of time ,that made us got into serious arguments which lasted for 2 days then I have to ask few married friends if is ok to exhaust such amount of money on feeding within 3 months and they gave me their answers which I sent to my wife too ...Now my wife immediately forwarded same messages to his brother living abroad too and also along with some conversations we had long time ago where she got me angry and insulted her by calling her idiot and stupid ...... His brother got angry and ask her to divorce me and immediately she started packing her belongings,I saw so surprised when she called me that she’s leaving my house ....I also learnt that his brother called his friend living in Abuja too to go and drag her out of my house if she doesn’t want to go ...... So I was so surprised when she asked me where to drop my keys I have to start begging her to calm down but she insisted that his family wants her to go ,then I have to call her mother and explained my own part of the story but the mother said there is nothing she can do since her siblings wants her to go . Now the problem is that my wife doesn’t want to go anymore but she doesn’t have the courage to tell her family that we have settled our misunderstand and doesn’t want to go anymore . She wants me to start calling every member of her family including her father to apologize and reassure them my love towards her again but to me I don’t know how to start the conversation with the father more especially because i believe having issues in marriage is normal and everyone understands that fact and since I have made up with her is their any need calling her family again

NB: They brother in abroad gave me the insult of life by sending a message to my wife which she also forwarded to me by calling me all sorts of names like immature and childish husband, and this same guy is of the same age bracket with me. Plz I need ur candid advice don’t mind my English and typos.

Imagine making it seem like they spent the money on food only!? U didn't mention transportation to d east and hospital bills! Better b a man and handle ur marriage instead of involve third parties like a biitch

Ijeoma1187:
You know me now , I have already snapped this one . It’s not fair you still came here to say I asked you to call my dad or you told my mum you were going to call him and all of a sudden you have refused to call

OK seems u need d space from all that negativity

Martins231:
Please I need advice on how to handle this, I gave my wife the sum of 400k for her and my 2 years old daughter around November and this January she’s already calling to tell me that she’s out of cash and I got worried and started questioning her how she spent such amount on feeding within such a short period of time ,that made us got into serious arguments which lasted for 2 days then I have to ask few married friends if is ok to exhaust such amount of money on feeding within 3 months and they gave me their answers which I sent to my wife too ...Now my wife immediately forwarded same messages to his brother living abroad too and also along with some conversations we had long time ago where she got me angry and insulted her by calling her idiot and stupid ...... His brother got angry and ask her to divorce me and immediately she started packing her belongings,I saw so surprised when she called me that she’s leaving my house ....I also learnt that his brother called his friend living in Abuja too to go and drag her out of my house if she doesn’t want to go ...... So I was so surprised when she asked me where to drop my keys I have to start begging her to calm down but she insisted that his family wants her to go ,then I have to call her mother and explained my own part of the story but the mother said there is nothing she can do since her siblings wants her to go . Now the problem is that my wife doesn’t want to go anymore but she doesn’t have the courage to tell her family that we have settled our misunderstand and doesn’t want to go anymore . She wants me to start calling every member of her family including her father to apologize and reassure them my love towards her again but to me I don’t know how to start the conversation with the father more especially because i believe having issues in marriage is normal and everyone understands that fact and since I have made up with her is their any need calling her family again

NB: They brother in abroad gave me the insult of life by sending a message to my wife which she also forwarded to me by calling me all sorts of names like immature and childish husband, and this same guy is of the same age bracket with me. Plz I need ur candid advice don’t mind my English and typos.

Oshare we just read the other part of the story, if what IJ typed is true, then you are wrong, call her people and settle things out.

Please I need advice on how to handle this, I gave my wife the sum of 400k for her and my 2 years old daughter around November and this January she’s already calling to tell me that she’s out of cash and I got worried and started questioning her how she spent such amount on feeding within such a short period of time ,that made us got into serious arguments which lasted for 2 days then I have to ask few married friends if is ok to exhaust such amount of money on feeding within 3 months and they gave me their answers which I sent to my wife too ...Now my wife immediately forwarded same messages to his brother living abroad too and also along with some conversations we had long time ago where she got me angry and insulted her by calling her idiot and stupid ...... His brother got angry and ask her to divorce me and immediately she started packing her belongings,I saw so surprised when she called me that she’s leaving my house ....I also learnt that his brother called his friend living in Abuja too to go and drag her out of my house if she doesn’t want to go ...... So I was so surprised when she asked me where to drop my keys I have to start begging her to calm down but she insisted that his family wants her to go ,then I have to call her mother and explained my own part of the story but the mother said there is nothing she can do since her siblings wants her to go . Now the problem is that my wife doesn’t want to go anymore but she doesn’t have the courage to tell her family that we have settled our misunderstand and doesn’t want to go anymore . She wants me to start calling every member of her family including her father to apologize and reassure them my love towards her again but to me I don’t know how to start the conversation with the father more especially because i believe having issues in marriage is normal and everyone understands that fact and since I have made up with her is their any need calling her family again

NB: They brother in abroad gave me the insult of life by sending a message to my wife which she also forwarded to me by calling me all sorts of names like immature and childish husband, and this same guy is of the same age bracket with me. Plz I need ur candid advice don’t mind my English and typos.

Don’t ever beg ur wife or any person to come back to your house. You didn’t ask anyone to leave at first. When she’s tire she will tell u den u give her ur conditions for staying.

Second of all, u don’t give a woman money for feeding. If u give her 1m she will waste it. I give my wife money when she needs it not giving u money for feeding. Women don’t eat. If giving her money when she’s out of cash would make her control her spending, why would u make her know u have millions to give. She would waste it and the day u tell her u don’t have, that is the begging of another issue

I just don't give a damn.
My own craze is for the Op to catch the brother and beat him with plank men.

Remove this thing pls... now see what my brother sent to me ..

Aboy don’t allow this family to use you like this. You should have shut down the brother the moment he interfered without reaching out to you first. In fact, your wife’s brother is a very stupid guy, I don’t even want to talk about the money ish, you should have called her bluff when she tried to leave. Don’t go about apologizing when you have done nothing wrong

Ijeoma1187:
Should I continue to let the cat out of the bag?? It’s really not nice when you come here to make other people look bad .... since your pride won’t let you call my dad. Well Tuesday I am leaving.... how will you marry a woman just for one year and leave without even calling and speaking to them, are you just satisfied with seeing pictures of your baby?? Just picture..... well it’s so sad since we have started this remember my brothers too are on nairaland I will tell them to come and read as well .. you have come to seek 3rd party opinion.... in all these mess I never told my people or involved anybody but you keep telling people is this how you want to handle your family.... I am really really angry imagine him seeking 3rd party opinion from him divorced friend whose marriage didn’t last up to a year...: be there and watch me go, in all honesty I have tried as a woman and you won’t find any woman like me

Madam, please calm down.
I'm believing this is a kind of arrangee marriage and a loveless one too(maybe one sided).

Is it possible he starts up a business for you so you can take care of your kid and yourself without always asking him.?

400k is not a lot of money... anymore ,in this present Nigeria.

I hate men who reports alot.. .Always victimizing! Smh.
If you were not here to defend yourself and tell your side of the story now,trust Nairalanders to give you enough insults to last you a lifetime.

He verbally abuses someone and they do the same to him and he's here playing the perfect victim.Smh

Please stay safe for your baby .

Please get a job or start a business so you don't have to depend on your husband biko.

I wish you well .

Ijeoma1187:
Remove this thing pls... now see what my brother sent to me ..

If una story is true, pls no vex again.

You all need to stop reporting unaself to your family and friends.

See as you've both become a laughing stock?

Oga husband, respect yaself too...

It's not everytime you do chochochocho about

Ijeoma1187:
Remove this thing pls... now see what my brother sent to me ..

The Lord is your strength.
I can't even imagine myself in your situation
The marriage was arranged yes?

Please I need advice on how to handle this, I gave my wife the sum of 400k for her and my 2 years old daughter around November and this January she’s already calling to tell me that she’s out of cash and I got worried and started questioning her how she spent such amount on feeding within such a short period of time ,that made us got into serious arguments which lasted for 2 days then I have to ask few married friends if is ok to exhaust such amount of money on feeding within 3 months and they gave me their answers which I sent to my wife too ...Now my wife immediately forwarded same messages to his brother living abroad too and also along with some conversations we had long time ago where she got me angry and insulted her by calling her idiot and stupid ...... His brother got angry and ask her to divorce me and immediately she started packing her belongings,I saw so surprised when she called me that she’s leaving my house ....I also learnt that his brother called his friend living in Abuja too to go and drag her out of my house if she doesn’t want to go ...... So I was so surprised when she asked me where to drop my keys I have to start begging her to calm down but she insisted that his family wants her to go ,then I have to call her mother and explained my own part of the story but the mother said there is nothing she can do since her siblings wants her to go . Now the problem is that my wife doesn’t want to go anymore but she doesn’t have the courage to tell her family that we have settled our misunderstand and doesn’t want to go anymore . She wants me to start calling every member of her family including her father to apologize and reassure them my love towards her again but to me I don’t know how to start the conversation with the father more especially because i believe having issues in marriage is normal and everyone understands that fact and since I have made up with her is their any need calling her family again

NB: They brother in abroad gave me the insult of life by sending a message to my wife which she also forwarded to me by calling me all sorts of names like immature and childish husband, and this same guy is of the same age bracket with me. Plz I need ur candid advice don’t mind my English and typos.

Oga , please go and sleep.
Stop embarrassing yourself and family on Nairaland.
Why didn't you include that she's using part of the money to treat your sick daughter ,used part to travel and all?

You're the type that will use your wife's gist to drink kaikai at every joint

Start a business and make her financially stable so you both can stop being at each other's throats or better still come back and be counting each grain of rice in the sack and every cube of Maggi in the packet .

Delete the thread and stop disgracing yourself before the world.

"Deer horseband" is probably viewing the thread with a new monicker

Breeze don blow, fowl nyash don open laslas
Wicked man!

y’all advising him hope he keeps the energy.
And I pray ur sisters get to marry such indecisive and immature dude like this and may they be in a toxic and abusive marriage like this one. Some one who talks from both sides of his mouth and can’t protect his family like a real husband.
Sheabi dem say make u plank, call the bluff and all.. keep the energy dude! One love!

How can my husabnd write such a story and said he didn’t write it to make me a bad person

Ij, forgive him.
Frm nw on let feeding money be separate from miscellaneous.
Stop reporting him to your family.you humiliate him by doing so.
Both of you go and make peace and delete this thread.

Op, ask for ur wife's forgiveness and put restraint on ur verbal abuse on her. Be a man and learn to speak less.

Triniti:
Aboy don’t allow this family to use you like this. You should have shut down the brother the moment he interfered without reaching out to you first. In fact, your wife’s brother is a very stupid guy, I don’t even want to talk about the money ish, you should have called her bluff when she tried to leave. Don’t go about apologizing when you have done nothing wrong

Nwanne no talk Wetin u no sabi.. sustain the moral weh u dey give ooh.. one love!

It wasn’t arranged oooh... in fact I have known him since my university days

Mariangeles:

The Lord is your strength.
I can't even imagine myself in your situation
The marriage was arranged yes?

LadySarah:
Ij, forgive him.
Frm nw on let feeding money be separate from miscellaneous.
Stop reporting him to your family.you humiliate him by doing so.
Both of you go and make peace and delete this thread.

Op, ask for ur wife's forgiveness and put restraint on ur verbal abuse on her. Be a man and learn to speak less.

Ladysarah in as much as I totally support what u said, but y would a responsible, sensible man discuss and digress he’s wife with his friends?? Not even family!!!! Friends for crying out loud!! How would u want her to stand among those friends on the long run.. common u need to listen to one of the audios and then judge for urself.. this abusive and toxic shit has been going on for long and yet my sister kept this all by herself.. only got to hear about it 2 days ago.. which sensible brother will allow this to go on U dey abroad and yet u never call ur “so called wife” on phone u only chat her up... really?? And u know what that means? Well I leave it to ur imagination.. and now he’s here ranting and seeking for cheap moral.. have u ever dealt with an indecisive person before We all have marital issues but for once I have never discussed my marital issues with my family and not even with this my beloved sister talk more of friends.. in fact I fight with my wife almost everyday but never will i talk down on her neither will I make her feel bad.. we should all know our spouses weakness and work on that.. but every little thing this guy go come dey ask people, involving third parties just to feel good.. now I ask u.. would u allow ur siblings to go through such?? Who started this involvement of third parties?? Now he’s ranting and seeking for cheap moral.. honestly he should just keep the energy.. las las scores go count.. one love!

Ijeoma1187:
It wasn’t arranged oooh... in fact I have known him since my university days

And we all had our doubts.. yet she fought, stuck and convinced us to accept him despite numerous decent suitors that came.. and yet this nigga can’t even do same for her.. protect, fight respect and treat her like a wife.. only prefers to abuse her at every slightest opportunity.. my sister now has a long list of book where she calculates every penny and kobo she spends.. made her loose herself confidence and worth.. guy! I swear.. lemme just respect her sanity.. let her heal first..

Danteeee:


And we all had our doubts.. yet she fought, stuck and convinced us to accept him despite numerous decent suitors that came.. and yet this nigga can’t even do same for her.. protect, fight respect and treat her like a wife.. only prefers to abuse her at every slightest opportunity.. my sister now has a long list of book where she calculates every penny and kobo she spends.. made her loose herself confidence and worth.. guy! I swear.. lemme just respect her sanity.. let her heal first..

He has deactivated.

This is what I get anytime money comes up

Since you are all shameless, I am patiently waiting to read arguments from the following people.
Father in laws
Mother in-laws
Grandparents
Siblings
Cousins
Uncles
Aunts
Musa the gateman,
Akpan the house boy
Kazeem the mechanic
Iya-Alata

Rubbish!!!

I love to see a woman’s family stand up for her .
Some idi.ot men think women drop out of thin air to come and slave for them and their family.
Just look at the way this husband is throwing around insults. Calling his wife foolish,idiot. How can you treat someone’s child like this? You think her family raised her to come and be collecting insults?
And the mad man went to tell everyone around town that his wife spent 400K on “feeding”.
Did you send separate money for hospital bills? No.
Did you think your baby’s treatment is free? Is it your father that own Garki hospital?
Did you send separate money for transportation? No.
Just look at the way he is complaining about money. The way these men will be talking you will think they are providing some kind big money. That is why when men are making mouth about providing money, I just laugh. Most of them are like this idi.ot husband. They will give their wives crayfish money and be expecting afang soup with assorted meat from her.

Danteeee:


Ladysarah in as much as I totally support what u said, but y would a responsible, sensible man discuss and digress he’s wife with his friends?? Not even family!!!! Friends for crying out loud!! How would u want her to stand among those friends on the long run.. common u need to listen to one of the audios and then judge for urself.. this abusive and toxic shit has been going on for long and yet my sister kept this all by herself.. only got to hear about it 2 days ago.. which sensible brother will allow this to go on U dey abroad and yet u never call ur “so called wife” on phone u only chat her up... really?? And u know what that means? Well I leave it to ur imagination.. and now he’s here ranting and seeking for cheap moral.. have u ever dealt with an indecisive person before We all have marital issues but for once I have never discussed my marital issues with my family and not even with this my beloved sister talk more of friends.. in fact I fight with my wife almost everyday but never will i talk down on her neither will I make her feel bad.. we should all know our spouses weakness and work on that.. but every little thing this guy go come dey ask people, involving third parties just to feel good.. now I ask u.. would u allow ur siblings to go through such?? Who started this involvement of third parties?? Now he’s ranting and seeking for cheap moral.. honestly he should just keep the energy.. las las scores go count.. one love!

my guy he Neva reach to count scores na abeg make una make peace. The marriage is too young for this.

A woman you married decided to leave, on the order
Of her brother/siblings not even her parents.

The next line of action you took was to start begging?
This really shows the kind of man you are.

I don't pity you because you deserve whatever treatment
You get from her family.