From your write up, though no one has heard your Employer's side of the story, Your Employer seems to be making you feel you are not enough.(I wouldn't know whether you were giving training on commencement of duty)
You also kept mentioning about your deficiencies, One way to success I know is focussing on your strengths and not your weaknesses bcz you weren't able to successfully complete your study in a particular course in UniAbuja doesn't mean you won't Excel in other fields.
Believe me, You write well, you can draw, Look inward and find those other things you can do very well , Proceed to learn more about those things and stop blaming yourself for the things you can't do well, Everyone has weakness(was)

lighternote:
What the hell are you saying
Can't you see her creative prowess
Most exceptional creative talents ain't good with inter-human relationships. Get that into your thick skull.
Abeg, this is just an inconsequential curve in the growth phase of OP. Let her move on, jare.

Maybe the guy was too blunt but the essence of what he said was correct. Even non-white collar workers should be able to perform basic administrative tasks in this computer age.

Her issue seemed to be more of a psychological one. She felt inadequate in the role so she didnt have confidence in herself plus the school issue wasnt helping. When its time for her to showcase her artwork in huge exhibitions with so many people, choose an agent and negotiate with art dealers, she will still face the same issue if she doesnt boost her self-esteem.

If she's not good at something she can still improve in the future. Being a creative is not an excuse for failure or lack of improvement.

Stop coddling her, she is not a baby.

purples25:
I got a job last year at a private school. I was given the position of a receptionist. To be fair to this narration, i wasn't a very good receptionist because though I tried my best, what i studied had nothing to do with my job. I did my best to get the hang of the job,

I tried to have a good relationship with my boss and all. For her bday we did a large card and i was the one that crafted it in two days. I even told my boss about academic issues i had and how i planned to go back and fix everything next year.

if u are that good as u mentioned.

i need a painter on one job,send me your works let's talk.


i sent u a DM

midnighter:


Maybe the guy was too blunt but the essence of what he said was correct. Even non-white collar workers should be able to perform basic administrative tasks in this computer age.

Her issue seemed to be more of a psychological one. She felt inadequate in the role so she didnt have confidence in herself plus the school issue wasnt helping.

If she's not good at something she can still improve in the future. Being a creative is not an excuse for failure or lack of improvement.

Stop coddling her, she is not a baby.

You and your fake advice again? You went to bed early yesterday. I you are learning from the lessons the mods are teaching you with comment deletions lol

GerogeI:
Dear Purple

Yes

bayulll011:



if u are that good as u mentioned.

i need a painter on one job,send me your works let's talk.

Please what state are you in ? I'm living in Abuja.

purples25:


Please what state are you in ? I'm living in Abuja.

sent u a DM

PqsMike:
Be sincere... Do you need a hug ??

Lol you are just not serious!

are you ashamed of ur self or ashamed of the money that you didn't receive.when it comes to money am never ashamed of my self nor of the money.money is like a pretty gal, who has no bodys time.you have to keep up with her.do anything for her.iv been trying to get married to her but she refused.but she promied me next yr.i belive her.any time she gets into my hand am not quick to give her out without a good reason.money is coming fast to me, faster than the speed of light.3x

purples25:


i blame myself for going back. I was trying to be humble making no real deals. My fam said just for little money that im risking humiliation. I blame myself really. And to a large extent you are right.

Let me correct this notion of yours. Trying to show humility by bringing down yourself to people who appreciate you less is just a waste of time. I do it before but not anymore. Once I leave a place I leave even if you call me to come around I'll just ignore you. Employers and their loyal dogs aren't nice at all no matter how selfless you work. They only care about what benefit you be to them. An employer once told me hope I don't have any plan of marrying anytime soon. Another one told me pointblank that here, forget about your career, I'm here to make money, you work for me, I pay you. No room for self development, I keep saying that expatriates who treat our fellow citizens anyhow aren't to be blamed. If you see how a nigerian treats his fellow citizen you'll be shocked. Let me just rest here. Wish you luck and success in your future endeavours.

Awww. She sounds so cute.

So cute that I know people will love to ride her. OP, toughen up. This is small to what you will face when the bigger jobs and contracts start rolling in. Best wishes...

Richdad50:


You have no visible talent in your place of work and you also lack the fundamentals of common sense. You place no value on yourself and like a coin, you are being tossed and teased out of position, comfort, and schedules.

Anyone who offers no value receives no respect and anyone who places no worth on self will not be prized.

A fine artist with creative imaginations and the ability to draw but lacks the power to draw herself out of her own shadows.

With the eyes of a goddess and a nose chiseled into fine lines, you have both the incredible power of looks and creativity. Dont let anyone treat you like trash.


Richdad

Richdad has spoken

bluefilm:



Why don't you just shut up if you don't know what reasonable thing to say?

You probably haven't heard about FreeBasics, huh?

Nonsense.

Won't trade words with your type..

This came because you thought you had a grasp of the issue better than other readers.

kaziblake:
Read it again and comprehend well this time.

purples25:


I talked to someone there. She apologized, told me to take it easy. Parents were coming so i had to leave. Almost every one else there seemed sooo less concerned.

see, this world is a tough one and sometimes you need to be as tough as hell. I also get the same treatment as you do but I always put people in there place sharp sharp. Anyway, sorry for what you went through, you're indeed a soft person.

This thought is not fantastic in the long run, never burn bridges irrespective of circumstances. The future has a lot yet unraveled, don't put yourself in a situation where you'd reget not maintaining proper relationship with your employer.

toluwalopsy:



Let me correct this notion of yours. Trying to show humility by bringing down yourself to people who appreciate you less is just a waste of time. I do it before but not anymore. Once I leave a place I leave even if you call me to come around I'll just ignore you. Employers and their loyal dogs aren't nice at all no matter how selfless you work. They only care about what benefit you be to them. An employer once told me hope I don't have any plan of marrying anytime soon. Another one told me pointblank that here, forget about your career, I'm here to make money, you work for me, I pay you. No room for self development, I keep saying that expatriates who treat our fellow citizens anyhow aren't to be blamed. If you see how a nigerian treats his fellow citizen you'll be shocked. Let me just rest here. Wish you luck and success in your future endeavours.

Purple25,

This is one piece of encouragement you should take seriously, you faced an embarrassment, not humiliation. Do not exaerggerate the situation, these are things you receive with smile, move on and challenge yourself to do greater things.

I do not normally speak on posts not directed at me but I would ask that you please ignore all posts reinforcing the "wickedness" of your employer, they make you feel good, but do nothing to help you move forward.

GerogeI:


Dear Purple,
I do not think the problem is you loosing your Job or your so called inadequacies. I read your writing L.A.Z.Y which I could decided was about you.

So you are in a psychological state where you are trying to choose what to be. Also not finishing school has traumatised you, and finds a way to creep into what ever you do.

So face it, and sort it out. The painting Job they gave you at the school was a soft landing to allow you exit, they also gave you hints about not coming back. So do not be angry about it, they are irrelevant and in your past, let's talk of the future.

You made up your mind that you are a writer, but cause of unfinished school, you are not sure if you are. It seems you are not sure exactly what you are or can be fine artist, teacher, writer.

But one thing that is sure is that you have the artistic flair.

So let's deal with, Problem 1. Who are you?

Sit yourself down, decide what you want to do, not just what you like, but what you like that can pay your bills in future. Where will you want to define success in the line. For example, let's say you want to be a writer, what kind of writer can pay your bills ( definitely not nairaland writing). You've got to be serious and committed to it like a business. So let's say you prefer Movie Script writing. I think that can pay your bills. When are you successful. Maybe when you can produce your own movies? There or alternatives, like becoming a web content developer, blogging, or even specializing in children's books etc.

Problem 2: That nagging feeling that you are not qualified or properly trained.
What can you do to make it go away and boost your self confidence? Frankly, going back to school full time at your age is a waste of your time. School is really overated here, because they hardly teach you the functional skills you need to succeed. What you need now is a highly functional training and a certificate to pat your back and make you feel warm and fluffy with yourself. So why not do a part time training in your chosen area of specialization. You will horn your skills and be working for your self at same time. A lot of private schools offer part-time programs, no body writes part time on your certificate. It is same as others. You can also decide to go to the open University.

At the end the particular school does not matter, it is your skills that do. Most of us, apart from doctors, learnt our job specific skills on the job not in school. Nigerian schools only train your thought pattern, so stop beating your self too much about not finishing it, you did not miss a lot. Infact the inadequacy is likely in your mind, and unintentionally you project it to people. So do something to satisfy your inner mind and have a direction.

I forgot to add, it won't hurt you to have a mentor. Not just any Aunt or Uncle, but someone you know who has succeeded in the path you have choose to walk. Not your parents oh. They are either too emotional or to zealous.

Finally, relax, laugh over that embarrassment or even cry over it, but dust your feet and live life. It is a wonderful place, this Earth. It's awesome if you know where to look, especially an artist like you.

kemkol:


Won't trade words with your type..

Good decision.

It is better to remain silent and be thought a fool, than to open your mouth and remove all doubt...

Your type believe that someone can work in FRSC and collect salary from NIPOST.

That is why you believe someone can use Google or Nairaland services and be paying MTN for it because MTN owns Google and Nairaland, abi?

Onye nzuzu.

bluefilm:


Good decision.

It is better to remain silent and be thought a fool, than to open your mouth and remove all doubt...

Your type believe that someone can work in FRSC and collect salary from NIPOST.

That is why you believe someone can use Google or Nairaland services and be paying MTN for it because MTN owns Google and Nairaland, abi?

Onye nzuzu.

You are just graciously stupid. Aren't you? You keep displaying your ignorance when you know your brain is empty. I won't school you cos I have other things I am doing. Look for people to educate you. Oponu ayirda. Omo abi pabe

Interesting. OP, you are clearly very talented but you seem to be too simple and vulnerable for the world, and Nigerians especially are wolves. You don't need to even do anything, just show a hint of weakness and they would move in. I can bet this is what happened in your narration. If you observe well, this should not be the first time this is happening to you: unprovoked aggression. You seem so so sensitive and express yourself better in writing. It would do you well to be careful where you let your guard down, this won't be the last time people would hurt you.
You started that job from a position of weakness, this built the momentum towards that final event.
There have been a lot of good advice and reassurance for you on this thread, I bet you have the head to know what to pick and what to discard.
To reinforce what others have said. You are gifted, you must believe in yourself. Quit the negative thinking, it does no good. Continue to hone your craft, your time will come. Good luck!

purples25:


i had no idea what to do. I was chased from the house by the elders who said it was disgraceful for me to be at home, after having issues at uniabj. I was rushed to this job and though i brought my CV it was more of a connection thing. I didnt even know what they were giving me until i was told by the boss. Didn't prepare nor know what it entails. I didn't complain as it reduced insults and pressure at home. Rather i tried to do the job. Its an easy job but i knew nil about working under someone.

Oga o

kemkol:


[s]You are just graciously stupid. Aren't you? You keep displaying your ignorance when you know your brain is empty. I won't school you cos I have other things I am doing. Look for people to educate you. Oponu ayirda. Omo abi pabe[/s]

So much for someone who doesn't wanna trade words...

Shame on you.

You won't school me simply because you can't. Obviously, you are operating at the lowest level of dumbness

Nonsense.

purples25:
Why did they humiliate me?

Cheer up sister, that's just the work of busy body teachers, they pushed the proprietor to doing that, but don't worry they will call you back one day and when they do I guessed you know what to do...

Just move on with your life, they are just some jealous set of people...

purples25:
I got a job last year at a private school. I was given the position of a receptionist. To be fair to this narration, i wasn't a very good receptionist because though I tried my best, what i studied had nothing to do with my job. I did my best to get the hang of the job, but i constantly forgot things i was supposed to remember, though i always did the basics.

I did my best to make up for my defects. Being a nursery and primary school i noticed they needed help with their artworks and since I am good at drawing, anytime there was no work on my table i did a lot of artwork for events or which the school needed for decor. They appreciated it so much and gave me a lot to do which unbelievably the parents were told their kids did it all.

I tried to have a good relationship with my boss and all. For her bday we did a large card and i was the one that crafted it in two days. I even told my boss about academic issues i had and how i planned to go back and fix everything next year.

You have a very good heart. Don't stop being good, which is who you are.

pocohantas:
Awww. She sounds so cute.

So cute that I know people will love to ride her. OP, toughen up. This is small to what you will face when the bigger jobs and contracts start rolling in. Best wishes...

Thanks, i'll do that.

I appreciate you all ; i'm very very grateful for your input.

bluefilm:


So much for someone who doesn't wanna trade words...

Shame on you.

You won't school me simply because you can't. Obviously, you are operating at the lowest level of dumbness

Nonsense.

Oh! You are still displaying your foolishness here. Sorry Dawling. You have enough foolishness to display. Won't really blame you. Display it to your satisfaction even though I know you can't exhaust the foolishness. Last time I am replying you. You aren't worth my typing. You started the insult cos of a little matter. Something whey no even concern you. I didn't quote you but you jumped on my comment and started displaying to me that you are a fool.

kemkol:


Oh! You are still displaying your foolishness here. Sorry Dawling. You have enough foolishness to display. Won't really blame you. Display it to your satisfaction even though I know you can't exhaust the foolishness. Last time I am replying you. You aren't worth my typing. You started the insult cos of a little matter. Something whey no even concern you. I didn't quote you but you jumped on my comment and started displaying to me that you are a fool.

Ewu.

You call thinking and talking foolishly by an adult a little matter?

No wonder you are so blessed with abundant stupidity.

But all the same, continue in your foolery.

My only fear is that you could probably be a teacher in real life and that spells doom for all those unfortunate victims under your 'tutelage'.

Nonsense.

It’s good to know that. Whenever I visited my previous schools I would always plan with a fresh clean shirt because I was sure to be roughened up by the children clutching and jumping on me excitedly. Lols. So much fun.

purples25:


Yeah the kids swarmed on me the first day i came back, they were happy to see me, they shouted my name, hugged me, all of them, telling me how old they are now etc. Some even saw me today and said ' are you going now? '. Kids make us happy abeg, little forming. I was so happy that day that they all got up when they saw me. So happy.

EagleSquare1:
It’s good to know that. Whenever I visited my previous schools I would always plan with a fresh clean shirt because I was sure to be roughened up by the children clutching and jumping on me excitedly. Lols. So much fun.

kids are awesome

Mac2016:


Alaye enugbe! .

I might be wrong tho. I am not above erring!

I read all thru tho and I think I spotted where she declared she wasn't up to the real task she was engaged to do. That's lack of sincerity to the purpose she was engaged for. That's the cause of all her travails

She opted for a typist job and she could not meet up instead of resigning she started camaraderie to cover her lapses. I think that's what I read and conspicuous in her write up.

You read typist job?

leighcon:
Purples25, I have about 14 years od corporate experience and I can tell you for free that your issue is ego, something you need to work on. It is the sole reason you were not able to succeed as a receptionist - it is the most basic of all jobs.

There was no humiliation in the event you narrated, rather, they are the ones that will be too ashamed to ask for your services in future.

Keep working on yourself, every human being is a work in progress. If you must succeed, you have to learn how to overlook embarrassments that come along. Take a cue from bus conductors, they get insulted by even those who cannot afford to pay, yet, they carry on. A number of them become owners of fleet of vehicles later in life.

Dangote started life selling Sugar, Salt etc with no label of his own. Yes, he was from a privileged background and started big, but hey gaddem it, dude was selling Sugar, Salt, groundnut oil, name it. Today, he is a brand.

Keep quiet , read and comprehend what is written there before dishing out uncorrelated advice