As Gazzuzz and lefulefu are hypothetically tired of their spouses over certain issues... but the spouses still remain great in other aspects... Would you advise them to divorce or go polygamous?

Smartchoiice:
I am asking this question because you see people calling for divorce every second due to flimsy differences that has crept into the marriage over time...can polygamy come to the rescue? Especially when you have a career woman getting a housewife should complement your career woman

Polygamy. The guy should take 2nd wife.

I am asking this question because you see people calling for divorce every second due to flimsy differences that has crept into the marriage over time...can polygamy come to the rescue?

Polygamy will not solve issues affecting marriage, it will only worsen it.
When he brings in another woman, the issue continues as the other woman will bring her own flaws too.

If you are tired of your spouse, just opt for open marriage, that way, everyone will be happy.

Vyolet:
Polygamy will not solve issues affecting marriage, it will only worsen it.
When he brings in another woman, the issue continues as the other woman will bring have her own flaws too.

If you are tired of your spouse, just opt for open marriage, that way, everyone will be happy.

I believe that for a man with a career woman getting a housewife should complement the absence of the first wife... what do you think?

ok

Nigeria's biggest problem today is polygamy...ask north.

Smartchoiice:

I believe that for a man with a career woman getting a housewife should complement the absence of the first wife... what do you think?

If he wanted a housewife, he should have gone for that initially, you can't know she is a career woman before marrying her and still use her career as an excuse to cheat or bring in another woman.

None of the above.

My sister, opening marriage is not our way of life in Nigeria.

Vyolet:
Polygamy will not solve issues affecting marriage, it will only worsen it.
When he brings in another woman, the issue continues as the other woman will bring her own flaws too.

If you are tired of your spouse, just opt for open marriage, that way, everyone will be happy.

donbachi:
Nigeria's biggest problem today is polygamy...ask north.

How?

None of the above.

I can't be married to more than one woman at a time and I don't want my children to be products of broken home (cos I'm not one).

A mistress or mistresses would be ok.

Vyolet:

If he wanted a housewife, he should have gone for that initially, you can't know she is a career woman before marrying her and still use her career as an excuse to cheat or bring in another woman.

If both agree regarding the new woman I don't see that as cheating

24kmagic:
None of the above.

I can't be married to more than one woman at a time and I don't want my children to be products of broken home (cos I'm not one).

A mistress or mistresses would be ok.

Interesting so how do you guarantee that the mistress is going to be faithful?

If as a man, you can afford to cater for more than one wife and the children from a polygamous union, then please go ahead.
I'm all for it.

Polygamy only becomes a problem when there is neglect in some of the kids, or favouritism in favour of one of the wives.

24kmagic:
None of the above.

I can't be married to more than one woman at a time and I don't want my children to be products of broken home (cos I'm not one).

A mistress or mistresses would be ok.

They still don't like this one na

madridguy:
Polygamy. The guy should take 2nd wife.

Why do you think this is better?

faithfull18:
None of the above.

What's your preferred model?

It will solve his problem of sexual desire.

Smartchoiice:

Why do you think this is better?

Well, what if their wives are equally tired of them and want to leave too? So not just their call...


Meanwhile, divorce is better than polygamy. Better to call it a day and find new lives elsewhere...but where they both agree to the somewhat open marriage polygamy is, why not? He can bring his permanent puzzy home while she sort hers outside...all shall be fair in love and war .

madridguy:
It will solve his problem of sexual desire.

Polygamy does not solve problems of sexual desires.
Many northerners with three four wives still have numerous girlfriends outside.

sisisioge:
Well, what if their wives are equally tired of them and want to leave too? So not just their call...


Meanwhile, divorce is better than polygamy. Better to call it a day and find new lives elsewhere...but where they both agree to the somewhat open marriage polygamy is, why not? He can bring his permanent puzzy home while she sort hers outside...all shall be fair in love and war .

Chaos...

We need to ask this question, how many men want to marry more than one wife and have more children with these wives? vs how many men want to marry one wife, have children only with her but still get to have different sexual partners outside marriage?

Smartchoiice:

Chaos...

Why is it chaos?

Life has become terrible for them together...part ways biko

They can not afford to part ways because of the kids, tradition and what people will say....then stay together and work things out even if it means getting professional help.


If their definition of getting help is bringing in a third party for the husband...then by all means the woman should get herself help too from a fourth party.

You see, it is only fair that the two parties involved in a marriage get settled after a conflict. If their resolution of conflict involves the man finding solace in another woman's bossom, why do you think its chaotic for the woman to find solace in another man's chest too? You see why I think it is best to separate jejely...the women of marriageable age today are millennias not babyboomers...our ideologies are so different.

However, if the man is lucky enough to get a babyboomer in a millennia that could still treat the issue of polygamy like our ancestors did...lucky him.

sisisioge:


Why is it chaos?

Life has become terrible for them together...part ways biko

They can not afford to part ways because of the kids, tradition and what people will say....then stay together and work things out even if it means getting professional help.


If their definition of getting help is bringing in a third party for the husband...then by all means the woman should get herself help too from a fourth party.

You see, it is only fair that the two parties involved in a marriage get settled after a conflict. If their resolution of conflict involves the man finding solace in another woman's blossom, why do you think its chaotic for the woman to find solace in another man's chest too? You see why I think it is best to separate jejely...the women of marriageable age today are millennias not babyboomers...our ideologies are so different.

However, if the man is lucky enough to get a babyboomer in a millennia that could still treat the issue of polygamy like our ancestors did...lucky him.

Hehehe... Chaos

Mindlog:
We need to ask this question, how many men want to marry more than one wife and have more children with these wives? vs how many men want to marry one wife, have children only with her but still get to have different sexual partners outside marriage?

So far so good...men have been advocating for random sex partners

Smartchoiice:

Hehehe... Chaos

You see...difficult to see beyond the man. A marriage is a tango papi. He can't just decide to take anotjer wife and expect her to just accept. Its 2020 not 1964

Smartchoiice:

So far so good...men have been advocating for random sex partners

They don't want the commitment and responsibilities tied to polygamy or are men no longer "polygamous in nature"?

Smartchoiice:

So far so good...men have been advocating for random sex partners

Why enter the covenant of marriage if you want multiple sex partners?

bukatyne:


Why enter the covenant of marriage if you want multiple sex partners?

Covenant can be between multiple people

Smartchoiice:

Covenant can be between multiple people

Hahahahahahahaha!

Nice one, I did not see that coming.

Marriage covenant is between the first two parties that got married.

You do not have covenants with the side chics, you are only joining your spirit with theirs.

sisisioge:




You see...difficult to see beyond the man. A marriage is a tango papi. He can't just decide to take anotjer wife and expect her to just accept. Its 2020 not 1964

In the beginning men were polygamists that should be maintained for Peace in the home