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Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Alexun(m): 8:09am On Feb 10, 2020 |
Feels good to be here already!!!! ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Nobody: 8:54am On Feb 11, 2020 |
scave: That's why we introverts make more sense....we try to see reasons to do things...... 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Nobody: 8:56am On Feb 11, 2020 |
Xzbit91: Why 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Nobody: 8:57am On Feb 11, 2020 |
Xzbit91:Why.... 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by oyetpel(m): 9:32pm On Feb 12, 2020 |
Why do i feel like i need people around me of recent. My solitary is getting too boring for me. 2 Likes |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Kintomadit(m): 7:22pm On Feb 13, 2020 |
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Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Kintomadit(m): 7:23pm On Feb 13, 2020 |
oyetpel:I’m feeling this way too and is getting me depressed. I need friends 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by chineduisaac(m): 8:53pm On Feb 13, 2020 |
oyetpel: It's okay to feel that way so go and socialize.. How you'll know that you're an introvert is that it will reach to a stage that you'll get depressed from over socializing 2 Likes |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by scave(m): 12:05pm On Feb 14, 2020 |
Kintomadit: Go and visit a friend, once in a while u may feel lonely, that's when having a friend or love one is important. If no one is available just go to a football house or social gathering and forget about Ur taciturn nature and be loquacious. Then come back and keep yourself busy, watch film etc. 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Xzbit91: 12:14pm On Feb 14, 2020 |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Alexun(m): 9:13pm On Feb 14, 2020 |
https://www.16personalities.com/ Let's try to take this test, honestly, and see where we need improvements!!! Do drop feedbacks so we can discuss our new discoveries. ![]() |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by chineduisaac(m): 7:39am On Feb 15, 2020 |
*1. They enjoy quietly being alone* Yes, we actually enjoy spending time alone. In fact, we thrive off of it. It gives us a chance to gather our thoughts and recharge. It gives us time to do more things that we really like to do such as read, write, or reflect on our day. Extroverts may enjoy alone time too, but our time typically needs to be in a quiet place and for longer periods of time. *2. They can be overwhelmed by large crowds* We don’t typically enjoy spending long periods of time in large crowds. While we may endure it for a concert, parade, or special event, we don’t look forward to being around masses of people. After a while, it can be really overwhelming and although we may not cover our ears, scream and freak out in large crowds, we secretly wish we could. *3. They really do like other people* Introverts aren’t necessarily anti-social. We just don’t get energized by people and sometimes it just takes us a little longer to warm up to someone. Be patient with us. Often, we want to get to know you better before we actually show you that we enjoy your company. We do like you, even if we don’t show it! *4. They are highly introspective* We seek to find the deeper meaning in life, sometimes to a fault. We tend to analyze situations that really don’t need to be analyzed. If it takes us longer to understand something, it’s not because we don’t get it, it’s because we are thinking about the deeper meaning. In general, we seek to understand the deeper meaning of life. *5. They prefer to get know fewer people on a deeper level* Many introverts are perfectly happy with a close, small group of friends. It can be overwhelming to keep up with a lot of friends because introverts feel like they need to really know all of them. So, they may prefer to have a select group of really close friends they can get to know on a deeper level. *6. They are great listeners* In fact, we love to listen. It gives us a chance to really get to know someone and understand them better. Introverts are typically highly engaged with someone they want to get to know. They are easily distracted by outside stimuli that may interfere with listening, because they want to devote all of their attention to the other person. *7. They have a lot of fun!* Introverts are not boring people. They just like to save their best stuff for the right people in the right situation. They can act silly, crazy, be loud, and even sing karaoke! However, even reading a book can be considered fun for an introvert. Reading a book in a crowded room full of people? Not so fun. *8. They sometimes wish they were extroverts* I sometimes wonder what it would be like to walk into a large group of people and to instantly become energized by the people around me. I always thought it has to be cool to have that infectious energy that draws people to you. As a guy, I used to think this was the only way to get the ladies (it’s not). I love myself as an introvert, but sometimes I wish I could live it up as an extrovert. *9. They enjoy a quiet night in* I actually prefer to stay home on a Friday night. I may go out with friends, a party, or out to dinner, but I actually prefer to stay in and avoid the large crowds. I live in a city so it’s difficult to truly get away and spend time alone. The best place I can do this at is sitting in my living room watching a movie or reading a book. *10. They don’t enjoy being the center of attention* Most introverts don’t like all eyes to be on them. It can be difficult to speak up at a work meeting, deliver a speech, or answer a question in front of other people. We typically like to listen to other people’s perspective and hear what they have to say. It doesn’t mean we don’t have an opinion, but sometimes it’s hard to articulate what we’re thinking. *11. They don’t necessarily have fun at parties* Even if everyone is having a great time, it doesn’t necessarily mean that an introvert will. A party with a lot of people just isn’t always fun. We know it’s supposed to be fun bu, large numbers of people in small spaces actually make us feel uncomfortable. It doesn’t mean we aren’t fun people or don’t enjoy people, it’s just hard to be ourselves in large groups. *12. They don’t like to talk about themselves* Introverts typically don’t like to brag about themselves. They are more interested in getting to know the other person first. They often have a lot to offer to a conversation but sometimes wonder if they add any value to a conversation. Also, they just don’t want to come across as a too much of a know-it-all. In other words, we might not say out loud how “stoked” we are about something. *13. They want to really get to know you* We like to build honest, authentic, “real” relationships. Sometimes it doesn’t come across that way initially because we can be guarded. However, we are interested in you and what you have to say. It just takes us a little more time to open up. We secretly revel in the excitement of getting to know someone better. *14. They work better in small groups* Employers should know that we prefer to work in small groups because it’s just easier for us to do it and we actually perform better. It’s also easier to speak up with fewer eyes watching you. We also like to get to know each individual in these small groups, because it’s less overwhelming when we don’t feel as if we have to know everyone in a large group. *15. They notice things other people might miss* Introverts are valued assets in the workplace because they often notice details that others might miss. Because they are deeply introspective, introverts might be able to come up with a potential solution to a problem that may have been overlooked. They may not speak up about it but doesn’t mean that they aren’t thinking about it. In fact, studies confirm that introverts can be great leaders, too. *16. They easily see other people’s point of view* They are typically empathetic to other people and what they have to say Even if they don’t agree with the other person, they make a good effort to see things from their perspective. They strive to get to know other people in all situations before judging or making the other person feel inadequate. *17. They aren’t necessarily shy* Shyness and introversion get lumped together because many of the traits between the two overlap. Sometimes an introvert isn’t afraid to meet other people, but they just prefer to do it in their own way. In fact, extroverts can be shy! A well-known Stanford researcher points out that many public figures are both extroverted and shy. *18. They are drained by high energy people* High energy people can be exhausting for introverts. They often feel like they have to match that level of intensity and may feel uncomfortable when they don’t. Introverts may need breaks from these high energy situations because unlike extroverts, they don’t become energized by these people. In fact, it’s quite the opposite. *19. They like to take things slow* Sometimes it just takes us introverts a little longer to move forward. We like to weigh all of our options and look at all possible outcomes before making a final decision. This can also be detrimental to us because we tend to analyze things too much. So, don’t take it personally if we just aren’t quite ready to take that next step. *20. They are not just introverts* Being labeled as an introvert can immediately put someone in a category. Although it is a useful term that people can relate to, it doesn’t define who they are. There are many types of introverts and many variations within those types. More than anything, introverts are people first. Being an introvert is just one aspect of who a person is. Many people fall into a continuum of traits and exhibit extroverted traits AND introverted traits. One definition certainly doesn’t define who I am, yet it’s helpful to understand that I am not the only one who experiences these personality traits. We aren’t crazy, we aren’t boring, and we aren’t anti-social. We may be some of these at times, but who isn’t?! In general, introverts are just people who prefer to slow it down a little and re-energize themselves from a quiet place of peace and tranquility. #Copied 11 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Professorcplus(m): 3:02pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
Happy Sunday my people. Hope you guys are doing well 2 Likes |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Nobody: 11:53pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by babyfaceafrica: 8:09am On Feb 17, 2020 |
Alexun:Your personality type is: Advocate INFJ-T |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Nobody: 8:58am On Feb 17, 2020 |
babyfaceafrica:I've taken this test numerous times. I always come out with different results each time. How's that possible? |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by babyfaceafrica: 9:04am On Feb 17, 2020 |
raptex: Lolz.. I took it just twice and it is still advocate!!.. I think why sometimes yours came out with different result is you do not really know who you are... Let your friend do the test on you behalf twice or thrice, you will see that it will come out fine.... U want to assume your friend knows you more than yourself 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Nobody: 9:10am On Feb 17, 2020 |
chineduisaac:great! 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Professorcplus(m): 5:40pm On Feb 17, 2020 |
I hope all is well @ JacksonMS. I went through all your posts hear and I realised how you have professed negative words about yourself. Being introverted is not a disorder. You're not just the only one with this trait, there are other people here even if you don't meet them physically but from their experiences, we all have familiar experiences. You already know who you are and there's no doubt as an introvert we do understand other people's physiological nature better even if only few can understands ours. Either way, you can develop and make the best out of it. I personally, I'm introverted in nature and mostly talk less, more of listening. Thinks alot and keep to myself especially if the situations brings unpleasant discussion I disagree with. I would rather keep myself busy than get involved in gossip about people around just to feel among. Yet, if it's one on one interaction, rather than making the person feel absurd, I give little smile and that help. People can misunderstood your personality but another trick is don't try to fitting into their personality. You might ended up making mess out of it. While growing up among peers, I just suddenly started withdrawing from the crowd all to myself, sometimes asked why am I weird this way, but in between, I developed myself and spend more time alone, not necessary following crowd. But right now, I have learn to love myself the way I am before I can try loving another person. There might be some time I feel lonely and depressed, It's is normal for human being to feel that way, even the outgoing ones you always secretly admire do feel alone and depressed, but you wouldn't know until maybe you have some hearth warming discussion. I have experienced this; I though I was feeling depressed and wishing to be my outgoing friend until they come to me expressing their deep thought telling me how depressed they were. That alone made me have a rethink. So if you are depressed, talk to someone you are can confined with, try listen to message/music or think about the positive thing around you and feed yourself with positive vibes or take a walk within your neighbour. You made mention of not having a soul mate. In that case while looking for one, try as well to increase your own self esteem. You've got many hidden potential and moving along with like minds can sharpen and bring it up. I don't know the environment you stay, but if there are quite number of people around, you can try get involved with any activities you seem interested in. That can help a the long run. cheer. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Alexun(m): 11:06am On Feb 18, 2020 |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by babyfaceafrica: 11:11am On Feb 18, 2020 |
Alexun:mine |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Alexun(m): 12:02pm On Feb 18, 2020 |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by babyfaceafrica: 1:42pm On Feb 18, 2020 |
Alexun: Lolz.. Dem no dey write am for face or on profile... Most of us here on social media dey catch fún.. But in real life.. |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Alexun(m): 6:51am On Feb 19, 2020 |
babyfaceafrica: That's true though... |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Israel20162(m): 3:01pm On Feb 19, 2020 |
I guess I've been an introvert all my life and I'm not blaming my mother but, she kind of caused me to be like that.she made me feel like I didn't neeed people or friends in life which made me very anti-social for a while like throughout secondary School. Most people just thought I was a quiet person that would only talk when someone spoke to him but secretly I just didn't want to get close to anybody.Ironically I've had 3 girlfriends in my life but they all ended the same way they said I was boring and not romantic. But the truth was that all the three of them were the ones that told me they liked me and got into a relationship with me.because I was an introvert I didn't understand their feelings most of the time and didn't know how to respond to some of their texts they sent me. When I was in my first year of University it caused me a bit of depression and made me reclusive throughout my first year. But being an introvert wasn't a bad thing, it made my teachers like me in second school because they thought I was responsible. I was even appointed as assistant Head boy because of it. And I guess those girls thought I was attractive because of my quietness. But last last don't let anyone tell u that u are useless (my mother) just because you are quiet 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Israel20162(m): 3:04pm On Feb 19, 2020 |
Djtm: Guy that's so true 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Israel20162(m): 3:32pm On Feb 19, 2020 |
Alexun:I got architect INTJ-A /INTJ-T |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by graciously03(f): 7:01am On Feb 20, 2020 |
It's killing me... I need friends... Dnt want to be an introvert nomore |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by maeola(f): 8:20am On Feb 20, 2020 |
Alexun:My personality type is Defender ISFJ-T ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by babtoundey(m): 9:46am On Feb 20, 2020 |
graciously03: You can't stop being who you are but can always adapt improve and derive utmost satisfaction from being you. No way, you will be good and enjoy doing somethings. Try and focus more on those things even if doing so yield no pecuniary gains or praise from external bodies (as long as doing it keeps you company and makes you fulfilled) As for friend.. You can count me one of your fondest friend... I will send you PM |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Alexun(m): 10:32am On Feb 20, 2020 |
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