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bigiyaro:
madam, just focus on your children, old age will calm him down.

bad guy

Ouchbabe:
Pls my fellow Nairalanders,

I have been married for 8years now. My husband is nice and caring but I don't like the fact that he likes moving at night. He comes home as late as 12am.

He is currently looking for a job now and most times his reason for coming home late is because he is hanging out with friends. I have discussed this issue with him severally and expressed that I don't like his night movement. On such occasions he will promise not to come home late but the promise is never kept. I have told him the dangers of moving late in a city like Lagos.

The annoying part is that he is not coming home late from work rather because he i s with friends. Most times our young children will stay up late hoping to see him before going to bed but they will wait in vain as he will not be home before they will sleep off.

Note: Even though I'm working, I make sure the house is clean and food ready before he comes home. I don't nag and I'm good looking.

Pls I need suggestions on how to make him stop this night waka.

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i hate to break it for you ma. you have one idiotic lady eating your banana. i am sure she is now plotting to take over your man

she is promising him big paying job through her connections and you know what that can do to a jobless mind

Keep encouraging him and pray for him.

Ouchbabe:
Pls my fellow Nairalanders,

I have been married for 8years now. My husband is nice and caring but I don't like the fact that he likes moving at night. He comes home as late as 12am.

He is currently looking for a job now and most times his reason for coming home late is because he is hanging out with friends. I have discussed this issue with him severally and expressed that I don't like his night movement. On such occasions he will promise not to come home late but the promise is never kept. I have told him the dangers of moving late in a city like Lagos.

The annoying part is that he is not coming home late from work rather because he i s with friends. Most times our young children will stay up late hoping to see him before going to bed but they will wait in vain as he will not be home before they will sleep off.

Note: Even though I'm working, I make sure the house is clean and food ready before he comes home. I don't nag and I'm good looking.

Pls I need suggestions on how to make him stop this night waka.

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set him up with federal SARS,his brain will be reset after they pick him up once

[quote author=rex444 post=86742683]he can be coming back early na ...like 1am or 2am sef.... madam keep quiet ,no use children as your excuse . what do you want him to be doing at home with a boring lady that cannot come up with a healthy conversation but nags.... let him be [/quote
Try and get sense somewhere.If u don't have any reasonable thing to say u shut ur smelling mouth.

Graxie:
Those of you supporting him, continue until he is arrested by police in the name of raiding. This days they raid, take your phone and send you to a different dungeon. Sometimes they even place gun on your chest and tag you thief. A man is not working, can't he look for something to engage himself? Are there no menial jobs? All I see is a lazy man who doesn't want the kids to know that he is lazy. Madam, press ignore button, stop talking to him about late night. Make it a habit to ignore. With time he will come to his senses. Why wouldn't he be lazy? You are providing for the family, he feels he has nothing to worry about. Assuming he knows you are jobless and there is no hope, I bet you he will be very busy searching for how to feed you guys.

Have you used this ignore format on your husband and it worked?

fast and pray

rex444:
he can be coming back early na ...like 1am or 2am sef.... madam keep quiet ,no use children as your excuse . what do you want him to be doing at home with a boring lady that cannot come up with a healthy conversation but nags.... let him be

Your foolishness and stupidity is inborn. You are a big disgrace. Spit on you

Me dey waka well for night ooo

My wife don accept her destiny

So l no get any advice to give out

Even my wife always load condom in my wallet
Pls accept ur faith madam
Think of how to make more money

PatrioticNaija:
You don't nag, but you're putting up your husband on Nairaland for public discussions... you may as well crawl out with him

Senseless comment. Too many dumb fools on Nairaland

People like me can hang out and get home by 11:30pm ....but its wrong for a married folk tho

austyn0:
Firstly, I am sorry you are passing through such but hope you don't mind me asking if you didn't see this "staying out late at night" habit before you married him?

Madam,ur husband is OK once you can attest he isn't womanizing....
I just came bk from watching champions league...my wife also complains bt I normally counter her...cos bf we got married,we both used to watch football til midnight ....
So...she taught I could be changed but she failed woefully...our marriage is 9 yrs old..
So madam ,quit it...my wife eventually gave up after several attempts to catch me cheat but failed.... Pls let ur husband be... support him with prayers to help him get his dream job..all s best

EVILFOREST:

IF YOU GIVE every lady an OPPORTUNITY, they would want to put their HUSBANDS inside a BOTTLE, lock them up, and monitor them from the outside.

Even a 90 year old LADY fears her husband would dump her someday.

This comment is baseless and senseless

EVILFOREST:

U are not FAR from the TRUTH.
A MAN rarely runs away from an INTELLIGENT DISCUSSION.
Don't be shocked to hear that she competes with the same HUSBAND for T. V. REMOTE

I don't know how kids and fools dominated Nairaland

Randy100:
You are the only person that can keep your husband at home. So change.

Get d heck outta here! The woman is alway to b blamed. No excuse for his silly behavior, he should b helpful now his jobless instead of hanging out with friends spending d Lil he has on useless flexing.

When he gets his knee shot out or hand cut off by bandits, him hot Waka Waka leg go rest by force.

I can't even imagine what d comments would have been if it were a married woman keeping such late night.

Bugatie:


Just what if this man only hangs out with friends and doesnt engage in all you wrote there, imagine the seed you have planted in this young ladies head.

Thats why I dont support all this online request for hope because you'll end up leaving with bigger problems.

@op, I'll advise you engage him in a heart to heart talk, not as he comes back from his night crawl but in the morning, remind him of the dangers of keeping late night, safety issues and how much the kids stay awake to see him, etc. If he's the reasonable type, I'm sure he will change.

Be careful of the advise you take from here especially the ones suggesting hotels and prostitutes.

#Peace.

Fool spotted

I love night crawlers. Was he night crawling when you guys were in courtship before marriage? Did he just changed? Was he working previously and lost his job? do you make the house comfortable for him or you expecting him to stay home so he can cook and do the dishes why you are at work? Come out clean please

Become a Day own nah

Randy100:
You are the only person that can keep your husband at home. So change.

Senseless comment

EVILFOREST:

U are not FAR from the TRUTH.
A MAN rarely runs away from an INTELLIGENT DISCUSSION.
Don't be shocked to hear that she competes with the same HUSBAND for T. V. REMOTE

So one has to involve themselves in forced intelligent convo everyday as per MI agents or Mossad agent or KGB ba? Stop giving excuses to bad habits.

Tim16:
Senseless comment. Too many dumb fools on Nairaland

Maybe when you become employed, useful to your mother, and get married with up to 10years experience. Then I can answer you. BabyAdult like you

You're the problem not your husband,Next please, don't waste my time Witt irrelevancies

Tim16:
You are working, but he doesn't have any job yet. He comes home late everyday at 12am. You clean the house and provide food for the family, upon that you don't nag, and you are good looking.

Madam you married a very very irresponsible man, and people like him always engage in careless sexual activities with random girls/prostitutes. Most times he could probably be in one brothel having fun. I just pray he shouldn't someday infect you with HIV. same thing happened to my aunty, her husband was living this kind of life and infected her with HIV and both of them died of AIDS living their 4 young kids miserable. It will only take a Divine intervention by the Almighty to change such a man and make him live responsibly... I pray God to come to your aid and touch your husband's heart to become responsible and respect his marriage. I will advice you to become a prayer warrior because of this for there is nothing God can not do. You don't only talk to him you also back it up with fervent prayer I bet you you will see result. May God bless your home. AMEN

He could just be hanging out with friends and not in brothel. Not a good scenario to paint

LyfeJennings:


Ode ni e
Ode Okunrin ni e
Over reasoning wan kill U
So cos he is jobless, he shouldn't go out
Do U even realize this isn't something he started when he lost his job
What should he be doing at home knowing fully well he can clinch something on the street. A job, contract or something.
See as U dey reason like mosquito
Not every guy that keeps late night is out there with some girl, U know
I got my current job as a result of my late night Waka waka. And this job pays me 4 times my former job with full benefits.
Reason like a man and not an e-diot

why u dey downgrade mosquito na

>>>Pls I need suggestions on how to make him stop this night waka.

dinner in bed a few nights a week might calm ur husband nerves. it works for most men!

Starhearts:
Me dey waka well for night ooo

My wife don accept her destiny

So l no get any advice to give out

Even my wife always load condom in my wallet
Pls accept ur faith madam
Think of how to make more money

She should think of how to make more money? While d man thinks of how to crawl more at night bringing nothing to their table.

Ouchbabe:
Pls my fellow Nairalanders,

I have been married for 8years now. My husband is nice and caring but I don't like the fact that he likes moving at night. He comes home as late as 12am.

He is currently looking for a job now and most times his reason for coming home late is because he is hanging out with friends. I have discussed this issue with him severally and expressed that I don't like his night movement. On such occasions he will promise not to come home late but the promise is never kept. I have told him the dangers of moving late in a city like Lagos.

The annoying part is that he is not coming home late from work rather because he i s with friends. Most times our young children will stay up late hoping to see him before going to bed but they will wait in vain as he will not be home before they will sleep off.

Note: Even though I'm working, I make sure the house is clean and food ready before he comes home. I don't nag and I'm good looking.

Pls I need suggestions on how to make him stop this night waka.

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I understand how you feel about it

He wants to be with friends to kill bore doom but his friends would have helped him get a job if they meant well with him

You can't be running your home and still keep food for someone who is contributing nothing yet you keep dinner for him and he Comes home very late

Hope he knows the children are watching him and his attitude of night life

Pls look for money and get a keke for him to drive and be busy there is nothing like shame in any dignity of labour

I hope you are not planning to Stab the man to death for coming back late free that man before he starts coming home Early and start beating you since he is looking for job allow him to cool off his BP unless you want to add to his problems.

LyfeJennings:


Trust me, it is not in all cases.
Yes in some cases, it might be seen as irresponsible but we all are not the same. Going by the narrative, this guy is jobless. He might be out there trying to make something happen for himself. No one wants to be a deadbeat. Always give a second thought. A benefit of doubt. Look at the glass half filled and half empty, then U would find a perfect answer

There is nothing wrong if a man goes out looking for work late or is busy with a form of hustle late till 12AM or work graveyard shift or late.g uber driver ,bus drivers, factory workers, hospital worker and so forth. But if a married man is going out to hang out with his friends very late like 12am, then it is cause for concern. If he was single , I could care less.