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Re: Married But I'm Not Connected With My Husband, Hence I'm Depressed by sterlingD(m): 10:46am On Feb 23, 2020 |
Girlwhocares:This right here is the genesis of the problem.l thought even if a suitor approach a girl's parents,the parents will ask if the suitor has spoken to their daughter or tell the suitor to go and talk to their daughter and also ask their daughter in private if she agrees and accept the suitor's marriage proposal. You could have opened up to him totally from the beginning about this long before the wedding.As it is now you have got to open up to him.Tell him because you are in it together with him. 1 Like |
Re: Married But I'm Not Connected With My Husband, Hence I'm Depressed by mathesco(m): 11:02am On Feb 23, 2020 |
You are the cause of your problem, Reason; The dated a guy you love for Good 15yrs yet you could not marry him because you were forced and married to another guy; The fact is, you forget to let go of your old experienced with your boyfriend, so i advice you face the reality as married woman and stand by the oath you took on the Altar. Replicate the love your husband has been given you. |
Re: Married But I'm Not Connected With My Husband, Hence I'm Depressed by GodLovingMe2020: 11:09am On Feb 23, 2020 |
I had the same experience for 24 long years with a woman who was “madly in Love” but now claims to have no emotional attachment to me. The worse part was that she won’t leave my house so I could get on with my life. I couldn’t throw her out because she is the mother of my children. No sex, no affection, we were not sleeping in the same bedroom, we never had any discussion as a couple. We used to go to church together, and from the outside it looked as if we were an ideal couple. Only my children knew what was happening in our home. I am the breadwinner even though I registered her to study law, sponsored her law education and today she is a lawyer. I bought two cars fir her and did many many things for her. She had the audacity to open her mouth to tell me she never loved me. I asked her, so why did you marry me? She said, “Can’t you marry somebody you don’t love?” That was about six years ago. She said the only person she ever loved was a fellow youth corper she met while doing her youth service, before I met her. She wanted to continue with the guy after youth service, but the guy had other plans and told her to move on. When I met her, she was struggling in life but I offered to help her since I had a very good job and earning a fantastic salary. Just last December, she told me she was traveling to see her people and that was the last time I saw her. I understand she has a job at her place, but her things are still in my place. Her people have not called me to ask anything. The things some men go through at the hands of women.....,,,,,,........ 4 Likes |
Re: Married But I'm Not Connected With My Husband, Hence I'm Depressed by Exodora: 11:12am On Feb 23, 2020 |
Girlwhocares:Then is high time you walk away , before one of you looses his or life. Talk to him why you both have to let go of each other. Marriage can never be built on a compromise. If you don't love someone there is no two ways about it.Your happinesses are worth more than a mere marriage. |
Re: Married But I'm Not Connected With My Husband, Hence I'm Depressed by efficiencie(m): 11:20am On Feb 23, 2020 |
@Girlwhocares love is not an emotion...love is a commitment to sacrifice your convenience for the good of someone who may be less deserving. Your husband is already doing this despite your terrible attitude. Your husband is already being a beacon of hope in your marriage whilst you are busy trying to put out the light...you should ditch your emotions, for they are tricky and treacherous and make a commitment to fight for your marriage. Try to be good to your husband, even if it feels uncomfortable. Try to be around your husband even if it feels irritating. Try to be your husband's solace in bed daily even if you have to endure it...Lastly, pray to the founder of the first marriage to save your marriage. Seek counsel. Go for deliverance prayers. Jesus loved us so much that whilst we were yet terrible hurtful sinners, He died for us. Jesus was committed to sacrificing His convenience for our good even when we were less deserving...you should do the same for your husband or you might face even dire consequences! |
Re: Married But I'm Not Connected With My Husband, Hence I'm Depressed by kingofthemall: 11:25am On Feb 23, 2020 |
UjuJoan2: What's an open marriage?! |
Re: Married But I'm Not Connected With My Husband, Hence I'm Depressed by am4truth(m): 11:27am On Feb 23, 2020 |
Girlwhocares: Hmmm. I empathize with you. Can you take some time to fast and possibly pray in the midnight and cry to the Most High God for deliverance. Your past is affecting your present and if you don't act fast, it would destroy your future. I know you are a depressed patient, pls do what I have you without delay. God of Heavens would deliver you in Jesus precious name. |
Re: Married But I'm Not Connected With My Husband, Hence I'm Depressed by efficiencie(m): 11:28am On Feb 23, 2020 |
GodLovingMe2020: @Girlwhocares, here is a story quite similar to what you are saying but here there are more details. Clearly the lady in question here never committed herself to be in a marriage and after wrecking havoc in another man's life she vanishes. I wonder how people live like this and never believe retribution is waiting somewhere in the future for them! 3 Likes |
Re: Married But I'm Not Connected With My Husband, Hence I'm Depressed by Nobody: 11:31am On Feb 23, 2020 |
Re: Married But I'm Not Connected With My Husband, Hence I'm Depressed by Nobody: 11:38am On Feb 23, 2020 |
ezenwajosh:you're an ignorant atheist |
Re: Married But I'm Not Connected With My Husband, Hence I'm Depressed by row2ray(m): 11:41am On Feb 23, 2020 |
Girlwhocares: Love isn’t enough... I was crazy in love with my wife... and believed she was crazy I love with me too... now we are working on the official divorce.. so definitely in the scheme of things in marriage, love is no enough 1 Like |
Re: Married But I'm Not Connected With My Husband, Hence I'm Depressed by Nobody: 11:46am On Feb 23, 2020 |
Catty94: Yea that's the thing with ignorant ones...they call you ignorant |
Re: Married But I'm Not Connected With My Husband, Hence I'm Depressed by Kaypaparino(m): 11:50am On Feb 23, 2020 |
Madam. Kindly call me or text on 08168034467...I'll tell you what t do... |
Re: Married But I'm Not Connected With My Husband, Hence I'm Depressed by parismoore: 11:50am On Feb 23, 2020 |
All u need just do is turn things around by creating more time for ur hubby, there must be open communication if u really want ur union to excel. Remember u cant find a perfect man/woman rather u can build and create a perfect man/woman all u need do is try to be more closer with him by making him ur best friend from their the fondness will start growing then every other things will follow. This is just the first step...Good luck |
Re: Married But I'm Not Connected With My Husband, Hence I'm Depressed by Zinny25(f): 11:52am On Feb 23, 2020 |
these are what you face when you marry a man you don't love or have connections with maybe as a result of pressure or age or Making do with the available option. That's why I pity Ladies who say they can marry a man they don't love as long as the man loves them. |
Re: Married But I'm Not Connected With My Husband, Hence I'm Depressed by Nobody: 12:02pm On Feb 23, 2020 |
kingofthemall: You know you could have asked google right but anyway since you asked here already, Open marriage is when a married couple are seeing or dating other people and each person in the marriage is aware of it and ok with it but they are still married. 4 Likes |
Re: Married But I'm Not Connected With My Husband, Hence I'm Depressed by Brightgem(f): 12:03pm On Feb 23, 2020 |
Prec1ous:Just want to know, why exactly do some of you think everything in life for a woman is centered around wealth or money. Untill men stop thinking all they have to offer that makes them useful is money and women stop thinking their bodies can get them what they want, then divorce rates are still a joke. 3 Likes |
Re: Married But I'm Not Connected With My Husband, Hence I'm Depressed by Oluola89(m): 12:04pm On Feb 23, 2020 |
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Re: Married But I'm Not Connected With My Husband, Hence I'm Depressed by mymadam(m): 12:06pm On Feb 23, 2020 |
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Re: Married But I'm Not Connected With My Husband, Hence I'm Depressed by Sunnydays: 12:08pm On Feb 23, 2020 |
You needed mature advice from a married woman, well here it is: work on it! Love is a decision. Begin a romantic affair with each other. Send dirty jokes and texts to each other. Try and become more playful with each other. Make jokes, watch funny movies, share the same room, kiss in the living room. Go out together without your children. Save this response; there is a big chance that you'll come to regret it, if you continue like this. He may get fed-up with living a life without love and find someone else. You said he tries to please you. Ask him what will please him too and try. Don't expect love to just happen. Ignite an ember and fan the flames. Work on your marriage o. Work on it [q 3 Likes |
Re: Married But I'm Not Connected With My Husband, Hence I'm Depressed by Brightgem(f): 12:11pm On Feb 23, 2020 |
Girlwhocares:Hoping this is not super story as I hate wasting comment. Fact is you are being really honest with yourself. You should never have brought a child into this, but sadly mistake made already. If you are able to stand on your feet now, your parents opinion matter less, do yourself and this man a favor and leave the loveless union. Love can't be forced. 1 Like |
Re: Married But I'm Not Connected With My Husband, Hence I'm Depressed by tete7000(m): 12:18pm On Feb 23, 2020 |
Girlwhocares: Are both of you Christians, if yes, maybe you should attempt praying regularly together first. It might be a first step in bringing yourselves closer together. |
Re: Married But I'm Not Connected With My Husband, Hence I'm Depressed by pweetiedee(m): 12:23pm On Feb 23, 2020 |
Prec1ous: Everything isn't about money. What's ur problem? 2 Likes |
Re: Married But I'm Not Connected With My Husband, Hence I'm Depressed by moitimeintl: 12:26pm On Feb 23, 2020 |
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Re: Married But I'm Not Connected With My Husband, Hence I'm Depressed by dozzybreezy(m): 12:27pm On Feb 23, 2020 |
I love this trend. Guys, we must be careful ooo. All this girls get Satanic hearts. Just imagine that a lady u spend your money and time don't have 50kobo regard talk less of love for you. But you house her and a lot more... Mumu must end today. 2 Likes |
Re: Married But I'm Not Connected With My Husband, Hence I'm Depressed by pweetiedee(m): 12:28pm On Feb 23, 2020 |
ProtectMyMoney: Your post is so senseless!!! |
Re: Married But I'm Not Connected With My Husband, Hence I'm Depressed by ForbesHomesNG(m): 12:36pm On Feb 23, 2020 |
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Re: Married But I'm Not Connected With My Husband, Hence I'm Depressed by Nobody: 12:37pm On Feb 23, 2020 |
Girlwhocares: Is this a Contracted Marriage ? As in, who connected both of you ? |
Re: Married But I'm Not Connected With My Husband, Hence I'm Depressed by Prec1ous(m): 12:38pm On Feb 23, 2020 |
pweetiedee: Brightgem: Can both of you please tell me what was her reason for marrying him in the first place, seeing that she never loved him. Please tell me? If you don't love a man, what other reason will push you to get married to him? Answer me! |
Re: Married But I'm Not Connected With My Husband, Hence I'm Depressed by Amanda4life: 12:51pm On Feb 23, 2020 |
daddytime: This kind of feelings only comes when you know the man is a chronic cheat. But if not its not Norma. May be he is poor |
Re: Married But I'm Not Connected With My Husband, Hence I'm Depressed by TheArchangel(f): 12:53pm On Feb 23, 2020 |
Prec1ous:Parental pressure 90% of the time. Especially if the parents are wealthy like in her case. You don't go against daddy and mommy or they will cut you off kinda situation. OP was born with a silver spoon so it is not about the man's money. 2 Likes |
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