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Why It Is So Hard To Quit Masturbation And How To Stop Masturbating by HappenStone: 8:45pm On Mar 06, 2020 |
Whether masturbation is a sin or not is a question of theology. Whether masturbation is right or wrong is a question of ethics. But whether masturbation is difficult to quit or not is a question of "try and see". You've stopped for a couple of weeks and you finally think you have it under control. Out of the blue, the urge just grips you and like the jaws of a rabid dog it never lets go. Before you know it, you are on your back to xvideos. This infernal cycle of "Quit-and-one-last-time" continues until you become an Addict, unable to control yourself. The presence of an audience that would ordinarily dissuade you from the act now becomes an added spice. What is responsible for the sisyphean nature of this undertaking? Why is it so hard to stop masturbating, even when it's a prominent part of your new year's resolution? Many, many years ago, Aristotle gave the answer: "It is frequent repetition that produces a natural tendency.The more frequently two things are experienced together, the more likely it will be that the experience of the recall of one will stimulate the recall of the other" In simple terms, when you remember the pleasure of orgasm; you remember masturbation. To you, masturbation equals pleasure and pleasure equals masturbation. It doesn't help matters that the pleasure is devoid of the commitments of a relationship. Now your brain associates masturbating to its own dose of dopamine. And there is no way in hell it is going to let you stop masturbating, just like that! How do you justify the halting of an action that is good for the brain (dopamine) to the brain. It is going to be hard. Neuro-Lingustic Programming(NLP) explains that, eventually, this association made by the brain seeps into your subconsciousness, outside of your control. That is the reason masturbation rarely takes front seat when you are actively engaging your brain but is quick to rear its head in moments of prolonged idleness. SO HOW CAN I STOP MASTURBATING? Stopping masturbation is not easy. In fact, it is so hard that people who successfully quit masturbation should win a Grammy Award or something. But it's not impossible. STEP ONE: RECONFIGURE YOUR BRAIN Associating pleasure to masturbation is the last seal that your brain places on your addiction to masturbation. Your first step is to RECONFIGURE that association. Associate masturbation to something you consider horrible and repulsive. Write it down. The moment the urge to masturbate sets in along with its promise of pleasure, consciously insert that repulsive picture in-between. I am fiercely independent, so I chose slavery as the repulsive association to reconfigure my brain. Whenever I get the urge to masturbate, I just ask myself "Are you a slave that you can not control yourself?" You must get off your bed after making this association ( This is critical). Repeat the association between masturbation and the loss of something you value greatly. Remember: It is frequent repetition that produces a natural tendency. So, repeat the new association as often as possible. Trust me, it works. If you have trust issues, then I am glad to inform you that it has been empirically proven in the field of NLP that, again, it works. STEP TWO: FILL THE VOID Whether you accept it or not, masturbation fills a void. Quitting masturbation is creating a void in yourself. If you refuse to fill it with something else, masturbation will majestically waltz back in. You must, therefore, find something to replace masturbation if you must successfully quit it. If you believe in God, you can resort to focusing on your relationship with Him. Pursuit of money, commitment to personal development and working out are other things you can use to fill the void. No matter what you do, NEVER LEAVE THE VOID VOID! STEP THREE: NEVER STAY ALONE Staying alone when you are attempting to quit masturbation is like locking a hungry goat with fresh tubers of yam. It will end in tragedy. Stay in the open and the pain of embarrassment will keep your hands out of your pants. Here, you are banking on your dignity as a respectable person to help you quit masturbation. You will need all the help you can get. STEP FOUR: KNOW THE NEGATIVES Finally, you must recognize and acknowledge the negative sides of masturbation. A writer woke up one morning to discover that he had ejaculated in his sleep and he lamented that "he had lost a novel". And I can relate with him. Once you ejaculate, you feel accomplished (face palms) and your brain is lulled into a feeling of comfort. The result is that your productivity is diminished. You can masturbate as many times as you want, since it's something you can do alone, and you'd be moving from accomplishment to accomplishment ( Lord have mercy!). And productivity will disappear from your existence. That is a major negative side to masturbation. I am not a medical practional, but masturbating can result in premature ejaculation. As you continue to masturbate, you would begin to notice a reduction in the amount of time it takes you to orgasm. It depletes gradually as you sink into the quicksand that is masturbation. For those living with others, it is even worse. They wouldn't want to be caught in the act and they would want to hurry it up, ejaculating in record time. Before you know it, they'd put noodles on the cooker and ejaculate before it is done. And like a slimy serpent, Premature Ejaculation creeps in. Those are some of the negatives. Embrace them and when the urge comes, trace the path to PE and lack of productivity rather than pleasure. STEP FIVE: AVOID PORNOGRAPHIC CONTENTS Hypersensitivity to pornographic contents is one of the harbingers of masturbation, avoid it. Movies, pictures, website and books that contain pornographic contents must become forbidden. That means all romance novels and most female celebrity threads. Pornography is like the Siamese twin of masturbation and if you can separate them, they will soon die. You will be free! 9 Likes |
Re: Why It Is So Hard To Quit Masturbation And How To Stop Masturbating by chatinent: 8:54pm On Mar 06, 2020 |
Pornography may also involve looking at a lady/man till you become lustful.
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The more you view, the harder it is to break free. |
Re: Why It Is So Hard To Quit Masturbation And How To Stop Masturbating by javaguru: 8:56pm On Mar 06, 2020 |
I wasn't here |
Re: Why It Is So Hard To Quit Masturbation And How To Stop Masturbating by javaguru: 9:00pm On Mar 06, 2020 |
watching porn is the chief urge |
Re: Why It Is So Hard To Quit Masturbation And How To Stop Masturbating by HappenStone: 9:01pm On Mar 06, 2020 |
chatinent: Perhaps. But I want to believe that it is rare to descend to the level of masturbating in publicj at the sight of a sexually attractive person. 2 Likes |
Re: Why It Is So Hard To Quit Masturbation And How To Stop Masturbating by Martinez39s(m): 9:07pm On Mar 06, 2020 |
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Re: Why It Is So Hard To Quit Masturbation And How To Stop Masturbating by Nobody: 9:39pm On Mar 06, 2020 |
May God give us the will power to fight dirty act like masturbation in our society. The act kills gradually. |
Re: Why It Is So Hard To Quit Masturbation And How To Stop Masturbating by CyberEBOLA(m): 9:57pm On Mar 06, 2020 |
Masturbation is good for me, and till i die i will never stop it. |
Re: Why It Is So Hard To Quit Masturbation And How To Stop Masturbating by Nobody: 10:03pm On Mar 06, 2020 |
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Re: Why It Is So Hard To Quit Masturbation And How To Stop Masturbating by Xclusiveme: 11:17pm On Mar 06, 2020 |
CyberEBOLA: Do u have beards |
Re: Why It Is So Hard To Quit Masturbation And How To Stop Masturbating by CyberEBOLA(m): 11:30pm On Mar 06, 2020 |
Xclusiveme:Hahaha! Why are u asking? |
Re: Why It Is So Hard To Quit Masturbation And How To Stop Masturbating by Xclusiveme: 12:56am On Mar 07, 2020 |
CyberEBOLA: I have a feeling u don't |
Re: Why It Is So Hard To Quit Masturbation And How To Stop Masturbating by CyberEBOLA(m): 1:03am On Mar 07, 2020 |
Xclusiveme:I have beards. |
Re: Why It Is So Hard To Quit Masturbation And How To Stop Masturbating by ityP(m): 4:13am On Mar 07, 2020 |
CyberEBOLA: Masturbation is good for no one. Let it go for 30 days, and see what a better person you'd be during that time. Forget religion, even for an atheist, masturbation is not beneficial at all 1 Like |
Re: Why It Is So Hard To Quit Masturbation And How To Stop Masturbating by GreetMe(m): 4:29am On Mar 07, 2020 |
Let me not decieve you, the only time i truly stopped masturbation was when i gave my life to Christ. Masturbation truly helps in some ways, but the addiction is the problem. That's why we're asked not to engage in it cos it's hard to break free from. |
Re: Why It Is So Hard To Quit Masturbation And How To Stop Masturbating by HappenStone: 7:59am On Mar 07, 2020 |
GreetMe: Committing to something bigger than yourself helps substantially to quit masturbation. |
Re: Why It Is So Hard To Quit Masturbation And How To Stop Masturbating by ityP(m): 8:04am On Mar 07, 2020 |
GreetMe: Forget this theory of 'masturbation helps in some ways'. It doesn't. |
Re: Why It Is So Hard To Quit Masturbation And How To Stop Masturbating by Dominustimi: 8:29am On Mar 07, 2020 |
GreetMe: Masturbation has no help at all... It damages you psychologically, emotionally and self esteem ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Why It Is So Hard To Quit Masturbation And How To Stop Masturbating by ityP(m): 12:49pm On Mar 07, 2020 |
Dominustimi: This is nothing but the truth. Masturbation didn't benefit me even one bit |
Re: Why It Is So Hard To Quit Masturbation And How To Stop Masturbating by Albertone(m): 5:30pm On Mar 14, 2020 |
HappenStone:Did you study philosophy? |
Re: Why It Is So Hard To Quit Masturbation And How To Stop Masturbating by Sultan606: 5:36pm On Mar 14, 2020 |
Masturbation does a lot of harm to your body please stop, it even cause blur sight in the long run. |
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