They say two (good) heads are better than one. I was hoping I could find some people with good heads here to advise on a matter - I don't want to ask relatives to avoid bias.

So the dude is old enough and people have been disturbing him for years to get married despite his fears about the financial implications.

The main problem is that I still don't have a regular job and trying to figure what to do with my life. What I do currently only gives me enough to take care of my expenses at the moment.

Now, there's a lady friend who's been telling me this is not an issue and shows willingness to support. She has joined the people who tell me things might improve after I get marry. But I figure that her reasoning might be because age is not that much on her side - I'm sorry to think that way actually.

To say the truth, it is her seeming understanding that makes me to be considering her as someone I could marry. But I'm worried that what if all that turns out to be a farce after marriage.

My financial status is the main reason (but probably not the only one) why I'm leaning more towards this lady. I'm now wondering whether I should just overlook this consideration and wait until things improve, although a question here is when?

For now, I think God has taken care of our basic needs for up to a year if we were to get married now, even if we both don't work. I'm trying to believe that things will improve along the way, which is why I just want to start somewhere. After all, I didn't necessarily have the money I spend today several years ago.

I'm rather confused right now if I could regret it later if I decided to let this lady go. What do you advise, please?

I can't advise my fellow man to marry if he's not financially buoyant enough to run his family.

Two jobless people want to get married?

What are the prospects for the future like... in terms of getting a steady, sufficient source of income?

U can get married even if you are not too bouyant finacially. That is, if you find a very good and understanding lady, just dont think of having kids until your finance is better.

plz don't do da mistake of marrying someone because she will be able to stabilize ur financial instability.

if u truly love her, u can go ahead and marry her (age is just a number)...

but if u feel that u ain't financially ready for marriage, plz work towards financial sustainability

Thank you all for your time!

@primadonnaO. Two jobless people? Um, I can't really figure where you got that from, though.

Yeah, I don't have a regular job, but I am not idle entirely. People whom I didn't discuss intimate matters with have always been surprised when for some reason I let them know eventually that I don't have a regular job. They usually thought I had a normal 9-5 job that paid decently well. Thank God for everything.

As for the lady, she earns her own living.

I actually have enough money to start a small business; just that I have no clue about that yet. I have never really been a business kind of person, although I now think I need to be!

@coolestofall

Companionship is what matters most for now. As for kids, those are left entirely to God to decide.

I'm tired of having to call my ma whenever I needed to go anywhere just for the sake of letting someone know. The woman be "chasing" me with calls to know about my whereabouts when on such journeys. At this age!

@anthonyuncle

I have been focusing on being a bit more financially secure. But, of late, I started thinking about my male cousins (both one year older) who had married some 7-10 years ago. To these guys, it's like I wanted to build a house or buy a car before getting married, which isn't true. Some other people probably think the same way based on advice I get. What if I finally get married without achieving anything "grand"?

The scary thing is that I know someone who waited but things never really improved by the time he eventually started a family around 40.

Marriage is actually not a "do or die" for me. Lately, I have just been feeling like: if I must get married at all I might as well just start now or forget it.

ThaThinka:
Thank you all for your time!

@primadonnaO. Two jobless people? Um, I can't really figure where you got that from, though.

Yeah, I don't have a regular job, but I am not idle entirely. People whom I didn't discuss intimate matters with have always been surprised when for some reason I let them know eventually that I don't have a regular job. They usually thought I had a normal 9-5 job that paid decently well. Thank God for everything.

As for the lady, she earns her own living.

I actually have enough money to start a small business; just that I have no clue about that yet. I have never really been a business kind of person, although I now think I need to be!

@coolestofall

Companionship is what matters most for now. As for kids, those are left entirely to God to decide.

I'm tired of having to call my ma whenever I needed to go anywhere just for the sake of letting someone know. The woman be "chasing" me with calls to know about my whereabouts when on such journeys. At this age!

@anthonyuncle

I have been focusing on being a bit more financially secure. But, of late, I started thinking about my male cousins (both one year older) who had married some 7-10 years ago. To these guys, it's like I wanted to build a house or buy a car before getting married, which isn't true. Some other people probably think the same way based on advice I get. What if I finally get married without achieving anything "grand"?

The scary thing is that I know someone who waited but things never really improved by the time he eventually started a family around 40.

Marriage is actually not a "do or die" for me. Lately, I have just been feeling like: if I must get married at all I might as well just start now or forget it.

Ohh, I'm sorry. You made it sound like you were struggling, and you said she wasn't working, either.

Very well, goodluck then. I'm all for people getting married early, too... when they find love... and as long as they can get by decently. The rest will fall in place as time progresses.

You have something doing and she has something doing, well that may not be so much enough to take care of family. But for a start, it's just the two of you, if eventually the kids begin to come maybe a year later, the responsibility wouldn't have been much then and that gives you time to adjust and plan ahead no more as a bachelor but as a family man. She knows you're not that bouyant and still encourages you to go on(whether for age or whatever), she already knows what she's getting into and will see to its end. Why wait when you don't even know how long you're gonna wait. Till you're 50 or 60? what if it never turned the way you wanted it, will you then remain single?

ThaThinka:
They say two (good) heads are better than one. I was hoping I could find some people with good heads here to advise on a matter - I don't want to ask relatives to avoid bias.

So the dude is old enough and people have been disturbing him for years to get married despite his fears about the financial implications.

The main problem is that I still don't have a regular job and trying to figure what to do with my life. :OWhat I do currently only gives me enough to take care of my expenses at the moment.

Now, there's a lady friend who's been telling me this is not an issue and shows willingness to support. She has joined the people who tell me things might improve after I get marry. But I figure that her reasoning might be because age is not that much on her side - I'm sorry to think that way actually.

To say the truth, it is her seeming understanding that makes me to be considering her as someone I could marry. But I'm worried that what if all that turns out to be a farce after marriage.

My financial status is the main reason (but probably not the only one) why I'm leaning more towards this lady. I'm now wondering whether I should just overlook this consideration and wait until things improve, although a question here is when?

For now, I think God has taken care of our basic needs for up to a year if we were to get married now, even if we both don't work. I'm trying to believe that things will improve along the way, which is why I just want to start somewhere. After all, I didn't necessarily have the money I spend today several years ago.

I'm rather confused right now if I could regret it later if I decided to let this lady go. What do you advise, please?

Get married in a low-key, adjust you spending based on your earnings. Don't buy things you do not need. Always prioritize.

Good luck.

Jim007:
You have something doing and she has something doing, well that may not be so much enough to take care of family. But for a start, it's just the two of you, if eventually the kids begin to come maybe a year later, the responsibility wouldn't have been much then and that gives you time to adjust and plan ahead no more as a bachelor but as a family man. She knows you're not that bouyant and still encourages you to go on(whether for age or whatever), she already knows what she's getting into and will see to its end. Why wait when you don't even know how long you're gonna wait. Till you're 50 or 60? what if it never turned the way you wanted it, will you then remain single?

That right there is a concern!

The other is: will I now start thinking of starting a family late in my 40s if that were to be when things improve? I pray against that, though.

I appreciate your opinion, sir.

Thanks for your input as well, PrimadonnaO and biobash.

ThaThinka:
Thank you all for your time!

@primadonnaO. Two jobless people? Um, I can't really figure where you got that from, though.

Yeah, I don't have a regular job, but I am not idle entirely. People whom I didn't discuss intimate matters with have always been surprised when for some reason I let them know eventually that I don't have a regular job. They usually thought I had a normal 9-5 job that paid decently well. Thank God for everything.

As for the lady, she earns her own living.

I actually have enough money to start a small business; just that I have no clue about that yet. I have never really been a business kind of person, although I now think I need to be!

@coolestofall

Companionship is what matters most for now. As for kids, those are left entirely to God to decide.

I'm tired of having to call my ma whenever I needed to go anywhere just for the sake of letting someone know. The woman be "chasing" me with calls to know about my whereabouts when on such journeys. At this age!

@anthonyuncle

I have been focusing on being a bit more financially secure. But, of late, I started thinking about my male cousins (both one year older) who had married some 7-10 years ago. To these guys, it's like I wanted to build a house or buy a car before getting married, which isn't true. Some other people probably think the same way based on advice I get. What if I finally get married without achieving anything "grand"?

The scary thing is that I know someone who waited but things never really improved by the time he eventually started a family around 40.

Marriage is actually not a "do or die" for me. Lately, I have just been feeling like: if I must get married at all I might as well just start now or forget it.

marriage issa good thing,
u will do it when da time is right