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Re: Dear Wives, Is In Sickness And In Health, For Better For Worse Really True?? by Nobody: 7:34pm On Mar 12, 2020 |
uruba23:so the women who look after these patients are jobless? 2 Likes |
Re: Dear Wives, Is In Sickness And In Health, For Better For Worse Really True?? by Nobody: 7:35pm On Mar 12, 2020 |
funmisticqueen2: Not anymore. I now follow the rules. Each has his/her role. It happened once. Never again. funmisticqueen2: They may not be, but their jobs are usually more dispensabke/flexible. If a man comes to tell me that he wants a day off to look after a sick child, I will just be looking like "why? Where is your wife?". |
Re: Dear Wives, Is In Sickness And In Health, For Better For Worse Really True?? by Nobody: 7:36pm On Mar 12, 2020 |
funmisticqueen2:Majority have their personal business |
Re: Dear Wives, Is In Sickness And In Health, For Better For Worse Really True?? by Nobody: 7:37pm On Mar 12, 2020 |
dominique:hope you are doing better now? |
Re: Dear Wives, Is In Sickness And In Health, For Better For Worse Really True?? by Nobody: 7:39pm On Mar 12, 2020 |
uruba23:lol. One case was a houseofficer in the hospital we worked. Her consultant was empathetic which is rare because the man is a terrorist. Her husband had a kidney stone. And the way things sounded, she was the breadwinner as the man's business hasn't been doing well for a few years. |
Re: Dear Wives, Is In Sickness And In Health, For Better For Worse Really True?? by Nobody: 7:41pm On Mar 12, 2020 |
RisenPhoenix:why not anymore? Aren't you her father, if your wife falls sick who will care for her. The ones that annoy me the most are the absentee husbands of women in labor. That's why I can never marry someone from the armed forces 2 Likes |
Re: Dear Wives, Is In Sickness And In Health, For Better For Worse Really True?? by Nobody: 7:42pm On Mar 12, 2020 |
funmisticqueen2:Well she louded it...Else you won't have hear meanwhile the man must have been enduring a lot taking care of his family quietly.. |
Re: Dear Wives, Is In Sickness And In Health, For Better For Worse Really True?? by Nobody: 7:44pm On Mar 12, 2020 |
uruba23:not really. Babe is kinda quiet. I heard this gist from the husband's elder sister who was my friend. |
Re: Dear Wives, Is In Sickness And In Health, For Better For Worse Really True?? by ObaOduaa: 7:45pm On Mar 12, 2020 |
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Re: Dear Wives, Is In Sickness And In Health, For Better For Worse Really True?? by Nobody: 7:46pm On Mar 12, 2020 |
funmisticqueen2:Okay o Enjoy |
Re: Dear Wives, Is In Sickness And In Health, For Better For Worse Really True?? by Nobody: 7:47pm On Mar 12, 2020 |
RisenPhoenix:we Target who is available. And it is mostly women I send. But I do sometimes have pity on the elderly female caregivers and help them with tests only the first time. I've learned my lesson not to run around for patients. 1 Like |
Re: Dear Wives, Is In Sickness And In Health, For Better For Worse Really True?? by bukatyne(f): 7:50pm On Mar 12, 2020 |
funmisticqueen2: Women should marry men who really love and care for them. Women should stop putting pressure on one another to be the primary caregiver. Women should stop letting men get away with only providing. Women should stop acting like their husbands are inept in child care. Might not be your way, however realize he also loves and is invested in the child. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Dear Wives, Is In Sickness And In Health, For Better For Worse Really True?? by bukatyne(f): 7:51pm On Mar 12, 2020 |
RisenPhoenix: @bold: How sad. |
Re: Dear Wives, Is In Sickness And In Health, For Better For Worse Really True?? by cococandy(f): 7:53pm On Mar 12, 2020 |
Instead of countering OP with facts, they resort to name calling and gas lighting. 15 Likes |
Re: Dear Wives, Is In Sickness And In Health, For Better For Worse Really True?? by Nobody: 8:01pm On Mar 12, 2020 |
bukatyne:true |
Re: Dear Wives, Is In Sickness And In Health, For Better For Worse Really True?? by dominique(f): 9:11pm On Mar 12, 2020 |
funmisticqueen2: Much better, thanks 1 Like 3 Shares |
Re: Dear Wives, Is In Sickness And In Health, For Better For Worse Really True?? by 24kmagic: 9:28pm On Mar 12, 2020 |
funmisticqueen2: This girl, you don de act mature oo. |
Re: Dear Wives, Is In Sickness And In Health, For Better For Worse Really True?? by Sixfeetbelle: 9:29pm On Mar 12, 2020 |
RisenPhoenix: At least you agreed to look after a sick person. Most men won't, leaving the sick child all to the woman. The post isn't about calling men trash but that they can do better. When someone is seriously sick, sometimes the best healing they can get is the support system. If the husband or son is always out hustling for hospital bills, and the person feels abandoned or neglected, chance of recovery might be drastically reduced. No one is saying don't hustle for money but make out more time to be there with the person when they are sick. 1 Like |
Re: Dear Wives, Is In Sickness And In Health, For Better For Worse Really True?? by Sixfeetbelle: 9:38pm On Mar 12, 2020 |
Davash222: It's not about feminism. It's about caring. In a situation whereby the parents only had sons, do you know they'll feel more loved when they are sick if their sons visit more often than with their daughter in-laws always present? See, people that are seriously sick recover better when they have great support system from close family member be it husband or son. No one is saying don't hustle, but endeavour to take out quality time and spend it with that person. From sickness may result death, let their last moments on earth be spent with a busy man whom they know loves and cares deeply about them. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Dear Wives, Is In Sickness And In Health, For Better For Worse Really True?? by PrimadonnaO(f): 1:25am On Mar 13, 2020 |
RisenPhoenix: What a thing to say! So crude! 2 Likes |
Re: Dear Wives, Is In Sickness And In Health, For Better For Worse Really True?? by Acidosis(m): 1:52am On Mar 13, 2020 |
funmisticqueen2: You want the head of the house to give up his job so the woman can takeover the bills and nag the man to death? Well, it would interest you to know that women are the same reasons men can't abandon their jobs and travel faraway to take care of their parents. A woman would give the man ten thousand and one reasons to stay back and take care of his immediate family. She would remind him of God's 11 commandments, with the eleventh being "for this reason shall a man leave his father and mother and cling to his wife". The point is no woman on earth would encourage her husband ( and a good provider ) to abandon his job to take care of his parents. A lot of men won't do it out of fear of losing their worth (financial) in the home. Meanwhile, when a woman tells you she's resigning from work, be rest assured she's got a good a solid provider (a man). When a woman is doing so much to take care of her aged parents, to the extent she's considered resignation, then you should commend the man in her life. About listing men as next of kin, it's even wrong to list any child as next of kin when you have a responsible spouse. This is one of the important discussions you should have with your partner before marriage. 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Dear Wives, Is In Sickness And In Health, For Better For Worse Really True?? by Nobody: 7:00am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Acidosis:what of single men then, they are just as bad. What excuse do you have for them 6 Likes |
Re: Dear Wives, Is In Sickness And In Health, For Better For Worse Really True?? by crackkhaus: 7:06am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Acidosis:I hear this one loud...very loud Anyone who takes anything most of these women say serious will just jam rock. Today, men should put their wives and immediate family first. Tomorrow, one smallie is trying to be smart-by-half and implying the same man should leave his wife and kids to go stay at the hospital with his sick parent(s). 4 Likes |
Re: Dear Wives, Is In Sickness And In Health, For Better For Worse Really True?? by Acidosis(m): 7:08am On Mar 13, 2020 |
funmisticqueen2: While women are by nature better caregiver, we can't conclude that single men abandon their parents. By the time the parents are aged and inactive, majority (both men and women) in the family already are married. Let's not forget the fact that it is the same women that resist the idea of entertaining relatives. Usually when the man wants to invite his aged parents to the house, most wives are never comfortable. But when it comes to theirs (like we are discussing on this thread), they're willing to give up their master bedroom. You can't justify this trend/thread by ignoring the obvious fact that women are selfish. 1 Like |
Re: Dear Wives, Is In Sickness And In Health, For Better For Worse Really True?? by Acidosis(m): 7:13am On Mar 13, 2020 |
crackkhaus: Na so brother. The world must revolve around them for us to have peace. 1 Like |
Re: Dear Wives, Is In Sickness And In Health, For Better For Worse Really True?? by crackkhaus: 7:16am On Mar 13, 2020 |
funmisticqueen2:You did not think your OP through. When you see everything through a lens of men's behaviour versus women's behaviour, you become completely blinded to nuances...which is a big problem for most of you - one dimensional thinking. If you want an answer to this question, simply go back to your aged patients and ask them if they have any unmarried sons, their locations, before sitting down to form silly assumptions in your head. As for those young female patients who are married but you hardly see their husbands, ask the patients directly why their husbands are not always by their sides. They are the ones to give you reasons, not you jumping up and down looking for what isn't there. 5 Likes |
Re: Dear Wives, Is In Sickness And In Health, For Better For Worse Really True?? by crackkhaus: 7:27am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Acidosis:Like babies... Thank goodness I have the peace of the Lord with me. 2 Likes |
Re: Dear Wives, Is In Sickness And In Health, For Better For Worse Really True?? by Ishilove: 7:42am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Copied from where? The immutable reality is that biologically women are predisposed to nuturing while men are providers. In all almost all species of living things the females nurture while males hunt, except for a few cases like lions and even at that lions defend and protect their territory and pride while the lionesses nurture their young and feed the alpha male lion. We can try to analyse and nitpick at why women seem more caring than men, but the fact remains that that is how we have been designed. Argue with Nature...and your keypad. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Dear Wives, Is In Sickness And In Health, For Better For Worse Really True?? by CHoccolaTE: 7:50am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Look at them arguing fervently that men are supposed to provide. If tomorrow a woman starts a topic to say men must provide they will get angry and start shouting what are you bringing to the table? Mtshew As for the topic everyone should take time out to visit and car for loved ones whether you are the so called provider or not, even if it's only during weekends. Some men don't even bother to show face at sick beds, only making foolish long distance calls or looking for how to chase side chicks because the wife is finally sick and cannot stop them. 7 Likes |
Re: Dear Wives, Is In Sickness And In Health, For Better For Worse Really True?? by crackkhaus: 8:29am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Ishilove:Lmao... The thing is, even in situations where a male is present with the sick person at the hospital...it's still those nurses and ward orderlies that will be observing him in a funny way In Nigerian hospitals where ward orderlies don't like to get their hands dirty, it's the family member who does the cleaning, washing used sheets/clothes, and bathing the sick person. And the hospital staff prefers when it's a female... This one will just come online and be typing whatever she likes and some people will be busy nodding head like agama lizard. I grew up in and around hospitals following my mom to work and playing in the hallways (one time even spying in to witness a woman give birth), it's even the nurses that tell any male that has stayed too long to go and look for money to settle bills, or go to the pharmacy, or go get this/that...anything to get them out of sight. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Dear Wives, Is In Sickness And In Health, For Better For Worse Really True?? by Alfather: 8:40am On Mar 13, 2020 |
CHoccolaTE:we wont agree with you because we aren,t in love with you. |
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