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Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by martowskin1(m): 7:01pm On Mar 12, 2020 |
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Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Sixfeetbelle: 7:02pm On Mar 12, 2020 |
crackkhaus: It's not. Insinuations and valid statements are never the same in a court of law, so I won't claim one yeye prize ![]() Besides, that I suggested he might be 'molesting' her isn't exactly encompassing. He could be initiating her into witchcraft, cannibalism or the extreme: brainwashing her to be against her mother. I don't believe these two instances are categorised under molestation. (Correct me if I'm wrong) |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by bukatyne(f): 7:13pm On Mar 12, 2020 |
Davash222: What is your advice in this case? |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by bukatyne(f): 7:41pm On Mar 12, 2020 |
Vyvyanvyvy: Madam, I have gone through the thread and you have to stoop to conquer in this case. Yes, your husband backed out of responsibility for your son or did he agree because your son was far away? I see the whole 'I can fend for myself and I will rather be a single mom of four than let my son suffer bla bla'. Honestly? It is your pregnancy hormones talking. If you really WANTED to be a single mother, you would not re-marry after having a 13yr old son and 9yr old daughter. You would probably have side boos. What do you want to achieve? Your son living with you. What are your husband's fears? 1. He has a girl and we know the awareness against child molestation. No matter how saintly you see your son, he is still your third daughter's step brother. 2. He clearly said he did not want your son to corrupt the girls. Solution: Acknowledge his fears and appeal to him that the boy needs you both as his parents right now. Let your husband see that your son is just acting out and enlist him to be his father figure. A father is not necessarily biological. Also planning that you would solely fund your son while living with your husband is wrong. Your husband is not running a hotel service and might not want a boy under his roof he cannot be responsible for. I would not. Very young person under my roof would be accountable and cared for by my husband and I. If you become single again as a result of this issue, you would resent your children from depriving you of what you are looking for in marriage. In this case, you can have it 'all' if you married a reasonable man. 23 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Uniquewise: 7:47pm On Mar 12, 2020 |
At OP, hurting people hurt others. In this case, you may very well be the first victim of your son's inevitable anti-social tendencies, in future if this situation is not quickly handled. Please, look beyond everything right now and help this obviously hurting child. He didn't ask to be born, you are still primarily the one who should be there for him physically, emotionally etc. since his biological father absconded. I won't advise divorce, pls reach out to your husband again, and not as an entitlement this time. Be humble. Get people he respects to intervene. Don't let this child be destroyed. Above all, Pray. 11 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Nobody: 7:50pm On Mar 12, 2020 |
Vyvyanvyvy:Well sorry you are in such difficult situation...but you still need to plea with your husband the kids attitude might be due to the absence of someone to love him for him...Just keep pleading 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by sweetdude001(m): 7:57pm On Mar 12, 2020 |
Madam I am really sorry for what u r going through, I feel for u n ur boy, but I want u to swap places with ur husband and think about it can u accept anoda woman's children in ur home, u av to undastand, he loves u so he must love ur boy is easier said than done, him accepting 1 of your kids is an effort on his part, he his probably thinking he is too old for him to handle, listen meet him half way here, with social media n all u can't tell me u cant contact d boys dad or relatives, all d effort u r using begging ur husband, channel d energy in get ur boys relatives... Ur husband is not a bad man.. He is jus bin human..ur own siblings failed u, think more abt that 7 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Dexlomo: 8:05pm On Mar 12, 2020 |
martowskin1: Just the way he has a father, the husband knew of his existence and chose to marry the mother. If you can't stand the heat, don't come near the kitchen. 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Vyvyanvyvy: 8:14pm On Mar 12, 2020 |
sweetdude001:He met me when I was living in a room self contain with my 2 children he accepted them and has agreed that we will be together after marriage. I have suffered all alone with my children I wasn’t desperate for marriage and if I knew he would change his mind after marriage then I wouldn’t even be with him in the first place. Like I said earlier as long I’m alive none of my children will be living with relatives it was the difficult circumstances we had faced after marriage that was why I had to send my son to my brother or else I wouldn’t do it , nobody can look after my children better than me if my own brother and his wife are maltreating and do you think he will be better with his father relatives ? My children are my responsibilities they are not my relatives or their father relatives responsibilities 31 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by martowskin1(m): 8:19pm On Mar 12, 2020 |
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Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Ishilove: 8:23pm On Mar 12, 2020 |
Vyvyanvyvy:Doesn't he have family members? |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by sweetdude001(m): 8:24pm On Mar 12, 2020 |
Vyvyanvyvy:Well I think its ur boy attitude ur husband is scared of, I mean ur own blood/brother want him out. U r looking out for your own he also is looking for his own daughter... There is a possibility ur son in ur home backfires.. A possibility I said.. I av feeling u r acting like he must coz he said he d accept he the first place, besides how is his relationship with ur other daughter? Pls be honest. 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Vyvyanvyvy: 8:46pm On Mar 12, 2020 |
sweetdude001:My son has turned bad because of the way my sister in law has being treating him , a child who used to eat 3 square meal a day , now he is being deprived of foods and what do you expect him to apart from steeling ? I know what he did was wrong but he did it because he was hungry and his not a bad boy , that’s why I want him back with him because with me he will have his happy life back and he won’t go out there and steel 14 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by sweetdude001(m): 8:56pm On Mar 12, 2020 |
Vyvyanvyvy:You didn't answer my question.. Aw is ur husband with ur oda daughter? |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Oyindidi(f): 8:56pm On Mar 12, 2020 |
Davash222:Go sleep oga, you no make sense with this reply 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Vyvyanvyvy: 9:00pm On Mar 12, 2020 |
sweetdude001:He treats her very nice they are best friend , she is free with him and like him a lot. Financially he doesn’t buy anything for her but their relationship is perfectly fine 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Oyindidi(f): 9:00pm On Mar 12, 2020 |
martowskin1:Cry more, you want her to abandon her son because of man, it won't happen! 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Oyindidi(f): 9:07pm On Mar 12, 2020 |
Vyvyanvyvy:Which can stingy man be this? My sister follow your heart, it seems you're not enjoying your marriage. Test water before you dive inside, this man no be here o 5 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Nobody: 9:21pm On Mar 12, 2020 |
Vyvyanvyvy: Ma'am, kindly take him to his biological father's family or better still, involve your church elders... that's if you're a dedicated church member. The leaders in the church can adopt and take care of him. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Vyvyanvyvy: 9:25pm On Mar 12, 2020 |
Oyindidi:Thank you my dear for understanding my life but I decided to keep calm because not everything is good to say on this social media 11 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Vyvyanvyvy: 9:27pm On Mar 12, 2020 |
justnock:I will not take him anywhere why does he have to live like an orphan whyle im alive ? To be honest My son is more important than my marriage and it’s my responsibilities to protect him 18 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Oyindidi(f): 9:29pm On Mar 12, 2020 |
Vyvyanvyvy:I don tey for the game. I understand you perfectly. 6 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Nobody: 9:30pm On Mar 12, 2020 |
Vyvyanvyvy: If you can't convince your husband to take your son in, I don't know what to say to you, ma'am. Godspeed. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by samguru(m): 9:45pm On Mar 12, 2020 |
You goofed by telling him that you are bringing your son to your new home. Your husband was aware of your children before you married him, therefore if he truly loves you he would not have declined to have your son live with you. Going forward,go and get the boy and move him home ASAP and if he pushes your son out,pack your loads and go look for another accommodation and start living your life with your children. You need to act fast now before that boy becomes hardened criminal. 18 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Nobody: 9:58pm On Mar 12, 2020 |
Vyvyanvyvy: Send the boi back to his real father. Your man understands that the boi will always go back to his real father no matter what you think. 5 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by eniolorunfe: 9:59pm On Mar 12, 2020 |
samguru: You just typed my thoughts...lol @op, your son living apart from you isn't an option and I'm glad you already know that. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by eyinjuege: 10:04pm On Mar 12, 2020 |
Davash222: Would you give the same advice to a nigerian man who's wife doesn't want his child from another woman to live with them? 12 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by LadySarah: 10:14pm On Mar 12, 2020 |
Vyvyanvyvy: You are a good woman. Pls stand up for him no matter what. He needs a home and the love of a mother. Do all you can Me, my children comes first no matter what. 13 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by worworbabe: 10:35pm On Mar 12, 2020 |
Your Child over any man Insist 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Topleague(m): 10:35pm On Mar 12, 2020 |
i understand your situation and you just have to accept your son and give him the joy that he is being deprive of. God will see you through 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Vyvyanvyvy: 10:43pm On Mar 12, 2020 |
samguru:Thanks am going to pick him up this Sunday I will bring him to the house and let him do his worst. I pay the rent if he is not happy then he has to leave me with my children . This thing has been stressing me my bp is already high which is not good for my pregnancy I need to be alive for my children and I won’t let him stress me anymore 15 Likes 3 Shares |
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