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Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Nobody: 10:26am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Vyvyanvyvy: If he wunt agree. You have two options Take him to his father or father family Or go and stay on your own, don't depend on ur husband again 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Ken4ward: 10:27am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Vyvyanvyvy: Your problem is minimal since you can financially shoulder the responsibility. Get an apartment very close to you and put him there with any of your other siblings to monitor his movement. . When he leaves school, if he doesn't go for extra curricular activities like evening lesson classes he should resume immediately at your grocery shop. Make sure he only goes home late in the evening. This will help you train him in trade. All eatings have to be done in your shop and you have to check on him intermittently, unknowingly most of the time to know what he's up to. It could be late at nights or sometimes early in the morning. This will help you curb his excessiveness. God help you in Jesus name. Don't burden your husband if he's presently not comfortable having him inhouse. I'm sure he'll finally allow him if he's seen improvement in his behavior. |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by bosstim(m): 10:27am On Mar 13, 2020 |
This is bullshit, arant nonsense.. Was he not aware that she had two kids already before marrying her ![]() Davash222, lemme tell you what a real man will do. A real man will always keep to his words, and yeah the boy might have gone haywire but a real man will take the boy in and be a father figure to him, he'll mentor him in the right direction. It's so pathetic that you're even the first person to comment. #TypicalNigerianMan that's what you are, so thoughtless............ Davash222: 18 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Vyvyanvyvy: 10:28am On Mar 13, 2020 |
SenecaTheYonger:My son wasn’t a thief when he was staying with me he used to eat 3 square meals but in my brother he doesn’t eat like that , the wife always deprived him of foods and the boy had not other choice than to go and steel which is was a wrong step. That’s why I want him back with me because when he is here he will eat and won’t have any bad ideas about steeling 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by EgunMogaji2: 10:28am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Ladies, before you bed down with a man to procreate please 1) Make sure that you’re self sufficient. 2) Realize that if your marriage fails it’ll be hard for another man to play daddy to another mans children. Many men do but I’m part of those that won’t/can’t. 3) Be prepared to raise your children as single mums till they go off to college and then you can start getting into relationships. In this specific situation I would never accept the child to come and spoil my home. I’ll rather divorce first. 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Jaqenhghar: 10:28am On Mar 13, 2020 |
chinonso47:She is right. Why marry the woman in the 1st place? Did the child choose his parents? This is just punishing an innoce t child for nothing and the fact that you people see nothing wrong in it is just sad. If somehow the boy becomes a big man tomorrow everyone will shamelessly come to identify with him. 7 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by oglalasioux(m): 10:28am On Mar 13, 2020 |
You are a good woman. Put it to your husband that you must rescue this child of yours. If he doesn't accept leave him. Believe me you'll have rest of mind forever. But if you leave that boy on his own, you'll live to regret it. Be strong on your decision to give to this boy a life. 6 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Nobody: 10:28am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Vyvyanvyvy: Pls update us ooo.. We will be waiting . Make I book seat and pls Mention me when u come back with the latest.. Create a new thread and mention me 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by omoharry(f): 10:28am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Oyindidi:Exactly.I would not have set foot in that house, if all my children are accepted in the first place. The woman on the other hand, should investigate the reason for his sons behavior. Children are emotional and can act in various way just to get your attention. Meanwhile, children do inherited trait such stealing,aggressiveness and stubbornness ..I do not pray for such anyway. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Nobody: 10:28am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Vyvyanvyvy:So because you do all these you want to push everything down his throat ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by jboycrb(m): 10:29am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Vyvyanvyvy: Then stop paying the bills and use the money to rent a room apartment for him. Case settled. 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by GeneralPula: 10:29am On Mar 13, 2020 |
24kmagic: Nah lie she dey lie jare |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by akaahs(m): 10:29am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Vyvyanvyvy:madam this is ur problem. u think because u foot 70% of the bills in ur home ll quaranty u to bring ur son into ur husband house? please dont bruise his ego as the man of the house. just continue doing ur bits as the woman of the house and appeal to his concience to consider the hardship ur son passing through. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by segun18(m): 10:29am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Op I can relate to your story well.I have a friend who abandoned his wife with 2 kids in Nigeria for the U.S. He promised he was going to pick the Wife and kids when he settles down but this is 8 years after. He is married an American lady and recently sent a message to the lady in Nigeria that he will only take care of his children and can't marry 2 wives.It has been devastating for the woman. She has to move on .Op I feel you.I live Abroad and I have seen a lot of marriages broken up because the husband most time end the marriage for papers Abroad.I perceive your husband went into the marriage with his heart (love) and not his head.I have been in his shoes before financially.I perceive based on your story that he is financially handicapped . My dear Sister ,pray about it.Pls don't put it to his face that you are the one carrying most of the bills. Contact your Church member / pastor or Imam if they can help out temporarily while you put your boy in a boarding school.God will help you and your husband 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Vyvyanvyvy: 10:29am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Mymynd4u:Thanks I rather stay on my own with my children 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Nobody: 10:29am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Sixfeetbelle: U r a good lady.. U aint like those senseless ladies on nairaland... 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Blixon: 10:29am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Vyvyanvyvy Please come clean on what your son is accused of. Is it just stealing? At 12, kids are known to do a lot. Does your brother have his own kids that your son may have harmed or gotten into a scuffle with? Cos i'm pretty sure your brother would not toss him out for petty stealing alone even if his wife says otherwise. Its possible they may have mentioned other things your husband is scared of. Like does he keep bad company with older criminals? Is he sexually active? These things would make even a man of God reject to keep such child in their home especially when they have younger kids that are impressionable or could easily become potential victims. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by GamalNasser: 10:29am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Vyvyanvyvy: You had two children already and yet went on to marry a struggling man and start raising new family with him and now you want him to bear the responsibility for your wayward son. Where is your son's father ? Where is your son's father family? 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Jaqenhghar: 10:30am On Mar 13, 2020 |
bosstim:Unfortunately we dont have real men in that country. Like I stated, if somegow the boy becomes a milionaire these same people will encourage the man to adopt the boy 5 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by ehmmy11(m): 10:30am On Mar 13, 2020 |
James289: ![]() Anyway mistakes have been made on so many levels -The man agreeing to marry a single mother with two engines when he knows deep down he can't accept it truly -Op agreeing for the son to live elsewhere in the first place no matter what.. After all couples with children still make babies in one room apartment -op not making sure she gets the contact and keeps in touch with her ex and his family members As for stealing nobody wants a thief in the house as its a very dangerous thing. As for a solution you will just have to call your husband's bluff and bring your son home after all he knew what he signed up for.. N.B : you must be a pretty woman for a man to still want after two kids .. ![]() 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by AuroraB(f): 10:31am On Mar 13, 2020 |
letskeeptalking:madam poster, this is your truth! Face it. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by LadyDoubleJ(f): 10:31am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Madam you failed that boy before pls. Don't fail him again. If you're husband can't accommodate you and that innocent boy then move away from his house and rent apartment for yourself and your children. He will come around if he truly cares about you but if he doesn't, move on with your life. unless you want your son to become an armed rubber and murder you one day. 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by kingthreat(m): 10:32am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Vyvyanvyvy: There is no best advice for this case. There is only one thing to do. Bring your son home. Anything your husband wants to do, let him do. Your son is at the formative years of his life. He needs love and character formation. If you dont act now, you will create a beast in him that will never forgive you for rejecting him. Also you dont have to blame your brother. He is not the father. He has done the best. Now you, do what you should. 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by SoNature(m): 10:32am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Vyvyanvyvy's issue explains why more and more women are seeking to be empowered to format the brains of many men who treat women unfairly in marriages. The truth of the matter is that most of our mothers survived abusive marriages because women were not empowered. By and large, most African men don't treat their wives fairly. That's why women are increasingly pushing for empowerment (feminism). If men continue with this trend, Nigeria will get to a level where marriages become mere contracts as it is practiced elsewhere in the world. To Vyvyanvyvy, get your son an apartment if you can afford it. Better still, your husband should support you to do that if you cannot afford it and the boy is old enough to live alone. Dear men, don't emotionally say yes to a condition you cannot honor just because you wish to please the woman 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Bbbwings: 10:32am On Mar 13, 2020 |
martowskin1:Op isn't giving us the full gist 5 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Nobody: 10:33am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Sixfeetbelle: But be sincere.. Accepting one is even a kind gesture talkless of two.. Forget it, the man has done enough, so he isn't a coward.. The only coward I see is the one that ran away from his family 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Nobody: 10:33am On Mar 13, 2020 |
u had two babies from ur formal husband or who exactly?.....I don't get it,I would have understood if it is just a baby 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Franzinni: 10:33am On Mar 13, 2020 |
so many back seat husbands and wives... giving advice on what they care not to know the effect of their half-cocked advice... let me add my own... madam take your son to your grandmother or grandfather ... uncle.... aunty.... you no be ophan.... somebody dey wey still get sense pass your brother to know that blood is thicker than palm wine. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Petbuk122(m): 10:33am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Vyvyanvyvy: If you pay the school fees, change him to a boarding school. During visiting days, beg your husband to follow you so that you two can visit him together. He would have to go back to your brother during holidays unless you are able to convince your husband to see the child's good side during the visiting days. You can also make an arrangement for him to learn skills or trade during holidays. the point is to keep him busy and minimize the time he spends in the house with your brother's family. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by nabiz(m): 10:33am On Mar 13, 2020 |
janvier27:the bes Mymynd4u:the best response and exactly what I wanted to say. The man knew that you had children and still went ahead to marry you. I think you should sit down and renagociate with your husband and if he refused, then the do your swort analysis and choose between your husband and the children 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by AlexRazzy(m): 10:33am On Mar 13, 2020 |
[quote author=24kmagic post=87382977]No one is talking about how a woman will have two kids for a man whose family and relatives she doesn't know, and who she's not married to. I no pity your condition one bit. That your husband sef... How were you able to convince him to marry you? You said somewhere that you foot 70% of the bills, I think that's why he married you. I mean, wtf? You foot 70% of the bills and you can't get your husband to accept your 12years old boy into his house. Asin, e get wetin you never tell us. Because something is not adding up. Bros na only u get sense for this thread 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Viicfuntop(f): 10:34am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Belafonte: He is 12. He is still a child. So what he stole? You think he just strted stealing because it was hereditary 3 Likes |
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