prepresh:
There is this guy that is very close to me, he calls me often, but has never asked me out.

I don't know his house, he doesn't know mine, he has never taken me out on a date but does more than enough for me.

What should I do? Because other suitors are coming and I like him.

Over ten years ago, I fell in love with this girl dearly, I did whatever she wanted. I will call her and we will talk but I never asked her out from all indications she knew I was into her. But I never asked her out. I loved her too much but I feared rejection. We are both married but we ve kept in touch for over 10 years now. Deep down she will always have a special place in my life. But we were never meant to be. That guy loves you.

Enwhen:



That's wrong move...


He is only studying her, he is a cool, calm and caring guy, he just want to be sure of what he wants before the final move..as such, she too also needs to study him...those kind of guys can spend the whole world without nothing in return, if she is not what they want , he will leave her, that's the main reason he is not asking anything.

You might be so wrong ...

Enwhen:



Don't be impatient.... Others are coming , but your mind is with him...it shows u like him more... why not wait for the best ?, if others also love u, they would wait for u....let me give u expo as a guy..


I understand that kinda guy, he is calm, loving and caring, those kind of guys don't go into relationship , they don't ask girls out, or date, until they are sure she is what they want, they can spend the whole world for u, but if they discovered that u are not what they want , they will leave u.... Now if u treuly love him, u don't need to shoot your shot, or ask him, also study him to see if he is someone u can grow old with, because he is also studying u right now, u too do ur own study about him to know if u will need to wait and look at others...


Goodluck....

Bros! You have said it all. You just finished work.

Class dismissed.

The classic emotional deposits move,
He offer lots of stuff and make the calls but ask nothing in return, she feels obligated to return the favor, he holds back a bit and then goes for the kill...

And the cycle continues

merit455:
Move on,him no like you. He is just helping you bcs you are poor. You are not his type, seeking useless advise

You go heal. Weak man.

ValCon888:
You're like a cow he's fattening up for Christmas. The day he will lash you ehn, he will do 10 rounds in one visit. He will take more than enough from you including principal, collateral, and interest.

they are still good people with good mindset not as u think or u are

He gives u whatever you want? solution is easy. Tell him you him to be your boyfriend. kapish!

prepresh:
There is this guy that is very close to me, he calls me often, but has never asked me out.

I don't know his house, he doesn't know mine, he has never taken me out on a date but does more than enough for me.

What should I do? Because other suitors are coming and I like him.

You collecting his money his gift and all... but the day he will demand for that thing call sex ..don't say what has he done for you to warrant his request for sex,

Enwhen:



That's wrong move...


He is only studying her, he is a cool, calm and caring guy, he just want to be sure of what he wants before the final move..as such, she too also needs to study him...those kind of guys can spend the whole world without nothing in return, if she is not what they want , he will leave her, that's the main reason he is not asking anything.

Yes I know he is studying her but delay is dangerous. If he has been ‘studying her’ for over two years now and still not sure of her, what’s the point? She can heed my advice if this closeness has been up for a very long time. I see no wrong in doing that.

WoundedLamb:


The issue with this is that if something goes wrong in future and she comes here to share her story, the same people that gave her this advice will be the ones to call her olosho who threw herself at a man. It's never really easy for the women folks to express such desires.

If you show it to the right person you will deeply appreciate.

Alexun:


You might be so wrong ...

Never ... I have PhD in this kinda matter.

What if the guy is not even interested in a romantic relationship and just takes u like a friend or his kid sister.

I don't know why the average naija girl thinks all guys are interested in bedding them. Fish brains everywhere.

Enwhen:



That's wrong move...


He is only studying her, he is a cool, calm and caring guy, he just want to be sure of what he wants before the final move..as such, she too also needs to study him...those kind of guys can spend the whole world without nothing in return, if she is not what they want , he will leave her, that's the main reason he is not asking anything.

Need I say that what I told her to do is 100% correct. A woman must be proactive. Of course the guy likes her and she knows it, and she also knows that there are tons of them out there asking her out. She loves the guy and wishes he could make a move so she can face him alone. If the closeness is still fresh, then she can do away with my advice but if it’s like 2 years or more, she should go on and ask that question. That ain’t no shooting shot, it’s simply knowing the guy’s intentions. She’s not getting any younger

ValCon888:
You're like a cow he's fattening up for Christmas. The day he will lash you ehn, he will do 10 rounds in one visit. He will take more than enough from you including principal, collateral, and interest.

SweetCunt97:
He's married

He's so married!

Oyindaberry:


Yes I know he is studying her but delay is dangerous. If he has been ‘studying her’ for over two years now and still not sure of her, what’s the point? She can heed my advice if this closeness has been up for a very long time. I see no wrong in doing that.

Yes, no wrong BUT NOT IN NIGERIA...she didn't state how long they have been friends...but I am certain , it's not even up to a year ....I am very sure of that...with that kind of guy, she must also show class to him , she shouldn't rush am.at all... I am.sure the guy is also a God fearing guy , very sure.

Do you want to fuvvckkk him then make a move

Mobi47:
go and read the story of Ruth In the Bible. if u love him, tell him how u feel and tell him u would love to b his wife. let him take it up from there. its not bad for a Lady to say this to a man she loves. A guy might love u but would b shy to say it just as Boaz was shy to propose to Ruth. But she summoned courage and told him the koko and he married her without wasting any time. Don't give him sex before marriage, if not he may taste u and run....some guys are mad. If he really loves u, he won't b boarded.

So many people skipped this particular comment

prepresh:
There is this guy that is very close to me, he calls me often, but has never asked me out.

I don't know his house, he doesn't know mine, he has never taken me out on a date but does more than enough for me.

What should I do? Because other suitors are coming and I like him.

My dear, many a-times seeking opinions on here can compound your situation as different people give their advices the way they see it. It is left to know to observe the opinions well and get what you want. You are not getting any younger, suitors are coming.

prepresh:
There is this guy that is very close to me, he calls me often, but has never asked me out.

I don't know his house, he doesn't know mine, he has never taken me out on a date but does more than enough for me.

What should I do? Because other suitors are coming and I like him.

It's best you ask him and get it out of the way (Read Proverbs 12:13)

Maybe he is married....hmmmmm...And he is warming you up for the kill
Maybe he is hiding cos he has a small koboko..He may not flog you well
Maybe..He is a good Samaritan...Making the world a better place by helping u..You better be wise and use that money to establish a business..Or something good for yourself..
Maybe he is so Darn rich..What he is giving you is chicken change..
Maybe you are pretty..And he likes pretty girls..That's it..
Maybe he is a ritualist..Giving you ritual money...
Maybe maybee maybe
What am I saying sef

My dear op...Just sum up courage and ask him why he is giving you money..
Not that you mind...But is he interested in you..
It either a yes,No,or its complicated...

You have your answer...

Oya..Next person ...

observing

He has asked you out several times. What do u think those things are for? That's a non verbal means of asking you out. Or is it only verbal u understand. ?

Enwhen:



Yes, no wrong BUT NOT IN NIGERIA...she didn't state how long they have been friends...but I am certain , it's not even up to a year ....I am very sure of that...with that kind of guy, she must also show class to him , she shouldn't rush am.at all... I am.sure the guy is also a God fearing guy , very sure.

Let’s wait for her response and hear her out

prepresh:
There is this guy that is very close to me, he calls me often, but has never asked me out.

I don't know his house, he doesn't know mine, he has never taken me out on a date but does more than enough for me.

What should I do? Because other suitors are coming and I like him.

Ask him if he has a girlfriend. The conversation can begin from there.

Never ask him out.

Oyindaberry:


Need I say that what I told her to do is 100% correct. A woman must be proactive. Of course the guy likes her and she knows it, and she also knows that there are tons of them out there asking her out. She loves the guy and wishes he could make a move so she can face him alone. If the closeness is still fresh, then she can do away with my advice but if it’s like 2 years or more, she should go on and ask that question. That ain’t no shooting shot, it’s simply knowing the guy’s intentions. She’s not getting any younger

Guys are different , with that kind of guy, it's not advisable to try such... and if it's up to 2years and such is happening, the guy is not a serious guy to grow with, she better not even bother to charge him, she should just look at others...

SweetCunt97:
He's married

True.

He is a nice guy, they always carry last.

eyinola:
same girl like u will post on social media dat no guy will do something for u without him asking for something in return, even some of u wants something too once u see a generous guy

they don't actually know what they want in life.

prepresh:
There is this guy that is very close to me, he calls me often, but has never asked me out.

I don't know his house, he doesn't know mine, he has never taken me out on a date but does more than enough for me.

What should I do? Because other suitors are coming and I like him.

Isn't he supposed to be the Mr. Nice Guy that girls talks about? Are girls beginning to like Mr. Nice Guy?

Oyindaberry:

Let’s wait for her response and hear her out

Sure