SweetCunt97:
He's married

you be old hand walai

Shebi na fire go burn your mouth if u ask am out ...smh

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Crazy meeeeeeeeen!!
But any of what you said could be true expecially about he being "MARRIED".[/quote



Well... Hopefully she will ask him ...And get her answer

OP since u said this guy has been providing ur needs,let me ask u..what hv u done in return? Hv u ever bought him a gift? Or u r just a receiver and not a giver , if this guy is just a normal casual friend dat doesn't buy u tinz u won't be filling this way

prepresh:
There is this guy that is very close to me, he calls me often, but has never asked me out.

I don't know his house, he doesn't know mine, he has never taken me out on a date but does more than enough for me.

What should I do? Because other suitors are coming and I like him.

Except you're gold digger too, don't pick his calls, stop accepting his gifts.

When he has opportunity to meet with you, ask him what his problem really is.

He may actually has feelings for you, but clueless on how to say it.

If you truly has feelings for him, put fingers in his mouth to talk, so that you know your next move.

If he eventually declares his feelings for you, and both of you pull it through to marriage, don't forget this fact that he's not a talker.

Women love to hear the voice of their bae, so you'll help break his silence till he becomes what you want, and not start quarrelling with him about not toasting you all the time.

Wish you success.

That's why I hate being nice to girls most times.... Cos wen u are they start getting emotional. That's how I was nice to one beautiful receptionist that I was always going to their office to pursue a contract. She smiles alot and I like how she attends to people. Just because I bought a tiger nut juice for her and took her out on a friendly Saturday.... She started getting emotional. She didn't know I was just doing that so that she can keep giving me access without protocols each time I can to see her boss. She even threw subtitle shots at me wen I wasn't asking her out, I just busted her bubbles the next day by using me and my babes pics as whatsapp dp. A guy is nice to u doesn't mean he's into u.

When you start paying the price you will know that Nothing Goes For Nothing and free has a price

WoundedLamb:


The issue with this is that if something goes wrong in future and she comes here to share her story, the same people that gave her this advice will be the ones to call her olosho who threw herself at a man. It's never really easy for the women folks to express such desires.

Nothing good comes so easy

Op reminds me of a saying " whenever a man says hi to a woman, she remembers her pants". As I person no fit be your friend you in peace without any attachment

I detest ladies who sees gifts as the basis of love, Oh! Because he lavish gifts on you, You like him? Cheap ladies think Pomp and pageantry is the basis for love, Love if it is true is without any attachment to mundane things


(Sonnet 116)
William Shakespeare - 1564-1616




Let me not to the marriage of true minds
Admit impediments. Love is not love
Which alters when it alteration finds,
Or bends with the remover to remove:
O, no! it is an ever-fixed mark,
That looks on tempests and is never shaken;
It is the star to every wandering bark,
Whose worth’s unknown, although his height be taken.
Love’s not Time’s fool, though rosy lips and cheeks
Within his bending sickle’s compass come;
Love alters not with his brief hours and weeks,
But bears it out even to the edge of doom.
If this be error, and upon me prov’d,
I never writ, nor no man ever lov’d.

SweetCunt97:
He's married

Best answer so far; @sweetcunt97, you're lit

jaxxy:


I’m not sure I subscribe to this because they are not even dating and Ure already talking about marriage Is that how people jump into marriage talks so easily?? This Comes off as a desperate move and not very pleasing to the ear imo. If I like u doesn’t mean I want to marry u or even date u. Let her try finding out if he even wants to date her b4 u jump into that very uncalled for marriage thingy pls. There no rush here. We are not in Russia are we? Lol

I don't think it's a desperate move. Op is ready for marriage. Many suitors are coming for her. However, there's a guy from her church that has been hanging around her, communicating with her, being a nice guy, but has not said anything. Op seems to prefer this guy to other suitors.

Maybe the guy has a problem expressing his feelings. Maybe he's just being a nice guy/ nice brother. I think the Op needs her doubts to be cleared. This will enable her take a stand on the suitors coming for her.

She needs to do it tactically without sounding desperate. I don't think she's desperate. She's just unclear about what's on the guy's mind.

You may be surprised but it's possible in his mind, he thinks they're "dating", since he calls her very often, and provides for her too.

2dice01:
Baba is taking his Time

Acting Mysterious is Golden
Your Heart will be yearning for the person

True.

This is the type of games I play with these females nowadays.

It is a very interesting game.

Stay one place, Covid19 dey scare the guy

PrimadonnaO:
Please, just move on with your life.
If he wanted you, he'd have made his intentions known a long time ago.If you're not careful you'll end up in a friends-with-benefit situation, deceiving yourself that it's become a relationship.

Open your heart to someone else, and let that other one continue living his life.

is now is it a crime 4 a girl to ask a guy out

it 21st century Bae

only in Nigeria girls see it as crime
Nigeria girls are very local

SavageMaster:


Set up a meeting with him in a public place, say a restaurant. Thank him for the attention, care and for providing for you.

Then tell him you need him to define what both of you are doing, and what he is up to. Tell him you need him to define his relationship with you. Go ahead to tell him you have suitors coming for your hand in marriage, and you don't want him to receive your wedding invitation unexpectedly.

I think you should be bit soft on him, since you really like him. If he is sensible, after your saying these, he'll take the hint and do the needful.

If he intends to marry you, he should give you a timeframe, and then you go back, think about it, and reply him later.

If he's not yet ready to settle down, I think you should move on.

just see this one

the guy here we are talking about as not ask her out and u are here talking about marriage

Nigerian girls with marriage I never see marriage marriage I never see

Mobi47:
go and read the story of Ruth In the Bible. if u love him, tell him how u feel and tell him u would love to b his wife. let him take it up from there. its not bad for a Lady to say this to a man she loves. A guy might love u but would b shy to say it just as Boaz was shy to propose to Ruth. But she summoned courage and told him the koko and he married her without wasting any time. Don't give him sex before marriage, if not he may taste u and run....some guys are mad. If he really loves u, he won't b boarded.

bro dont mind Nigeria guls

here in Nigeria is a crime 4 them to ask a guy out

In Oliver DE coque's voice 'uwa ekwe mmeta'. He takes proper care of u and never asked u out, never demanded for sex, never asked you to visit him but u still complain, am sure those suitors wouldn't be coming if he hasn't been shinning u like a shoe, audio suitors... Continue naa u go soon find Wat you are looking for

merit455:
huh.....,you like him because he does everything you need. If he was just a friend,you will not come and asekd for advice,stingy and greedy African girls

bro nothing just Africa girls but Nigerians girls in general

Naughtysite:

She can't express her desire, but she is busy collecting money.

bro that Nigerian girls 4 u always collection

prepresh:
There is this guy that is very close to me, he calls me often, but has never asked me out.

I don't know his house, he doesn't know mine, he has never taken me out on a date but does more than enough for me.

What should I do? Because other suitors are coming and I like him.

do well to ask him out. 'other suitors are coming'. Are u telling us suitors were in short supply until this bobo started greasing ur palms?

Married guy alert.

Most guys are still shy to express their desires openly to women, I think he is of that category, he wants to come in through the back door by playing hide and seek, and he is capitalizing on the idea of your appreciation for little things that you get as gifts, I will advise you get involved with a serious minded person that knows exactly want he wants and goes for it, not somebody who only wants to use you when he has the time, the calls and gifts are the baits to attract you, be wise

prepresh:
There is this guy that is very close to me, he calls me often, but has never asked me out.

I don't know his house, he doesn't know mine, he has never taken me out on a date but does more than enough for me.

What should I do? Because other suitors are coming and I like him.

Very simple my dear. Ask him out on a date and please let the bills be on you. Choose a nice location like a cinema to see a movie or so

prepresh:

Thanks a lot, this sounds good but the fact that he has not said anything at all I don't know how to go about it, we only see in church or home cell, he is always busy and so am i

My dear let me advice you. Dont ask him to define his intentions or ask questions like what do you want or what are we. Guys hate that question. It can even sound stupid.
You have two options or more but these are the one that come to my mind.
1. Bc it seems you both are believers, be careful with making the first move. Many brothers dont feel comfortable with that. Some brothers do shaa. For example in my case I was still trying to make up my mind when my girl told me she loves me. I had to tell her I love her too even though I wasnt sure then but the relationship became defined and I fell in love with her eventually
2. Alternatively, you can just keep quite. But make sure you are not the one asking him for things.
Send me a DM. I would like to follow up with you on this

The truth is, he is already in a relationship but he likes u and can't still want to keep you... that na long thing

uruba23:
Just tell him to greet his girlfriend..don't ask him out....men like to hunt...we have pride like lions.

true talk, someone like me will smell your desperation from 20miles away and stay off. That's how I've always been and trust me some gals can be pretty desperate. There are 1001 ways you can show him Reeaaaalyl GREEN LIGHTs that even a blind man will see and go for you.

NB: If he still doesn't come close to you, there's a chance he is a ritualist and he is keeping away from you because he likes you and he suspects that baba will soon ask him to bring a girl he loves.

cRobo:


individual difference, I will forever respect any woman who is bold enough to state clear her desire about me

well it all depends on the maturity of the guy

only kids will take such for granted

such ladies are rare and so special its not an act of desperation but going for what you want

guys pleads with girl and also ladies pleads with guys

unless the are kids

Na so them dey talk.. Ask him out at your own peril.

WoundedLamb:


The issue with this is that if something goes wrong in future and she comes here to share her story, the same people that gave her this advice will be the ones to call her olosho who threw herself at a man. It's never really easy for the women folks to express such desires.

D question is why is she sharing her story here? If she does, she should take whatever she gets from d forum

Tell him u want to visit him wen dat happens,ask him his intentions towards u.

Omar09:


Ikr? Then he gets friendzoned and cries foul.. You know the usual.

No, it hasn't gotten to that level yet, tho , she didn't state he duration they been together...but I am sure it's not up to a year...if it's up to two years , the best option is to move him to friend zone , and not go too close to him...

Chi59:

Na so them dey talk.. Ask him out at your own peril.

If she can't ask d guy out herself, then what does she want d entirety of nairaland members to do for her? Should we escort her to see d guy& ask him to ask her out?