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| My Husband Has Said I Can Quit My Job If I Want To. by Diiiamoond: 10:54pm On Mar 28, 2020 |
I’m a nurse, obviously anxious about what dangers and nightmares lie ahead, and my Husband has just said that I don’t have to go to work if I don’t want to, and he’d rather us live on just one wage if it meant I could be kept safe. Has anyone else working in hospitals ever felt so nervous about what’s to come that they’d consider leaving? 3 Likes |
| Re: My Husband Has Said I Can Quit My Job If I Want To. by yomi007k(m): 10:57pm On Mar 28, 2020 |
Sure you can quit. Just know that when you or your kids need healthcare , the doctor or nurse too would have quit- because he is overworked or just puts himself first. The Lord be with you. 8 Likes |
| Re: My Husband Has Said I Can Quit My Job If I Want To. by Abfinest007(m): 10:58pm On Mar 28, 2020 |
my sister nor gree u can't quit n start depending on ur husband for everything oh he might be caring but will burn out some day 4 Likes |
| Re: My Husband Has Said I Can Quit My Job If I Want To. by Sharonstone7719: 10:58pm On Mar 28, 2020 |
You are the nurse. I imagine you have researched the virus. If you think the risk is unacceptable then leave. 1 Like |
| Re: My Husband Has Said I Can Quit My Job If I Want To. by FreQ: 11:02pm On Mar 28, 2020 |
Diiiamoond: The risks isn't worth the pay. Please quit abeg 4 Likes |
| Re: My Husband Has Said I Can Quit My Job If I Want To. by Diiiamoond: 11:02pm On Mar 28, 2020 |
yomi007k: Nurses should be prepared to put their patients first.... Before their own lives? Before their own children? I love my job very, very much - but my priority and loyalty will always be to my own family. If that makes me a bad nurse then I guess I am. 12 Likes |
| Re: My Husband Has Said I Can Quit My Job If I Want To. by Diiiamoond: 11:07pm On Mar 28, 2020 |
FreQ: I’m actually scared to hug and kiss my children in case I pass something on to them. We aren’t given the right PPE at work and are just expected to get on with it and hope for the best. 3 Likes |
| Re: My Husband Has Said I Can Quit My Job If I Want To. by Tripitaka: 11:08pm On Mar 28, 2020 |
At this time, the country and humanity needs you the most, don't let them down. Remember the reason you took up the profession, which I believe was to serve humanity. Yes you're a nurse so this probably doesn't apply, but The Hippocratic Oath goes thus: I swear to fulfill, to the best of my ability and judgment, this covenant: I will respect the hard-won scientific gains of those physicians in whose steps I walk, and gladly share such knowledge as is mine with those who are to follow. |
| Re: My Husband Has Said I Can Quit My Job If I Want To. by FreQ: 11:10pm On Mar 28, 2020 |
Diiiamoond: I visit medicare regularly. Also a practitioner please and please it's better you form a day care centre at home and charge 100naora daily per student as an alternative income than expose yourself to risks |
| Re: My Husband Has Said I Can Quit My Job If I Want To. by thorpido(m): 11:13pm On Mar 28, 2020 |
You could quit if you want but the world needs you. The most important people in the world now are health workers. I do not entertain this fear anyway,still go to work without fear.Sometimes,I wish I could go to Italy to even help out. 3 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Husband Has Said I Can Quit My Job If I Want To. by Tripitaka: 11:20pm On Mar 28, 2020 |
FreQ: Really? You know why Africans seldom excel in their fields? Because they enter it for the wrong reasons. When you made the choice to become a medical practitioner, you must have envisaged a time like this. No? 2 Likes |
| Re: My Husband Has Said I Can Quit My Job If I Want To. by Mizwisdom(f): 11:28pm On Mar 28, 2020 |
Diiiamoond: Better to stick to it. This one that you're contemplating it seems you're just in it for the money, real nurses know that their primary work is mercy, care and sacrifice, if any of these three qualities is missing in you, then you're not meant to be a practicing nurse. 1 Like |
| Re: My Husband Has Said I Can Quit My Job If I Want To. by Diiiamoond: 11:46pm On Mar 28, 2020 |
Tripitaka: It’s so hard. I don’t want to leave but nor do I want to be there. 1 Like |
| Re: My Husband Has Said I Can Quit My Job If I Want To. by Diiiamoond: 11:50pm On Mar 28, 2020 |
Mizwisdom: I don’t think any of us have ever considered we’d have to deal with something this lethal and of this magnitude during our life. If, when I had my interview, they had told me that as part of my role I would, in 9 years time, have to put my life on the line, as well as that of my my husband,my children, and other members of family whilst not being protected by either the Government or my Employer, and expected to just get on with it, then I certainly wouldn’t have chosen to go into the career. But unfortunately I, and thousands of other nurses now find ourselves in this position. We are all scared for ourselves and our loved ones - but unlike everyone else in the world we aren’t allowed to consider our own lives, we aren’t allowed to be scared 8 Likes |
| Re: My Husband Has Said I Can Quit My Job If I Want To. by ibkayee(f): 11:51pm On Mar 28, 2020 |
All these people trying to guilt you into not quitting from their armchairs. The world needs you, but the world should also understand the position you're in. Do what you think is best for your family, your health, and sanity, especially if you can afford to do so. You're key to the tackling of this pandemic, but I also get it... Shout out to all the people on the frontlines 10 Likes |
| Re: My Husband Has Said I Can Quit My Job If I Want To. by Diiiamoond: 11:58pm On Mar 28, 2020 |
Our unit is in total chaos, nurses and doctors not being protected/kept safe, and nurses being made to work in situations and environments they haven’t been trained in. We go to work every day not knowing where we’re going to be sent to - more often than not it’s not our own ward - and no idea what is going to be expected of us. It’s like living in a nightmare that we know is never going to end. 5 Likes |
| Re: My Husband Has Said I Can Quit My Job If I Want To. by Sexyliciousbri: 12:02am On Mar 29, 2020 |
Nurses are poorly paid for what you do. If you don't need the money then don't do anything you don't want to do. It's your life , do what makes you happy and forget anything else. You are only human, it's natural to be scared. Don't feel guilty what so ever. You aren't paid enough to risk your life for others. 3 Likes |
| Re: My Husband Has Said I Can Quit My Job If I Want To. by ibkayee(f): 12:08am On Mar 29, 2020 |
Sexyliciousbri:Add the fact that many aren't even being adequately protected. If something happens to her now the most that will come from the strangers she's putting her life at risk for is a condolence tweet. I'm not trying to discourage medical workers because at the end of the day we need you more than ever, but I also can't fault those who are too overwhelmed to continue 6 Likes |
| Re: My Husband Has Said I Can Quit My Job If I Want To. by Spechialone(f): 7:44am On Mar 29, 2020 |
It's your call Sister . But your resignation will be in lieu of a months notice, right? Pls hope the FG gets to pay special reimbursements to all health workers? It will be so unfair not to. They should be paid weekly. And hope they start taking medicine and surgery UME and PUME candidates seriously, not after passing the exams they are given Fishery, physics, biochem, et al. Give them the chance to prove UME and PUME |
| Re: My Husband Has Said I Can Quit My Job If I Want To. by Theyoungmatron: 7:54am On Mar 29, 2020 |
Mizwisdom:  Humanity can go to hell, especially with COVID-19. Easy to type when you are cocooned in your room with your popcorn and coke checking NCDC numbers. Remember Nurse Justina Ejelonu, the nurse who was cut in her prime during the Ebola pandemic? She died with her unborn baby and that's just it. Nobody remembers her except her former classmates and colleagues. Hey colleague and other front-liners, the mantra is NO PROPER PPE, NO WORK. Do what is best for you and your family. Do not listen to this sermon on the mount preachers WITH their ""not being in it for the money and stuff"'. You can still get a job after this. 3 Likes |
| Re: My Husband Has Said I Can Quit My Job If I Want To. by Theyoungmatron: 7:57am On Mar 29, 2020 |
Diiiamoond:There is always a means to get out of there WITHOUT HURTING YOUR INCOMES. FIND IT. |
| Re: My Husband Has Said I Can Quit My Job If I Want To. by frozen70(f): 12:22pm On Mar 29, 2020 |
Diiiamoond: What your husband said about you leaving your job, is his opinion You taking that, depends on the economic position of things in your family Is he carring to a fault Can he provide for his family till infinity Do you contribute any thing and if you do, if you stop working, will it affect the family You see, it may not end well and you will be the recipient of the falls Women stay home and suffer whatever goes on and still face the children and their home challenges Men go out to wine and dine still come home late when the stress at home would have gone to sleep Talking about your job, every job has its own risk No job is free from risk 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: My Husband Has Said I Can Quit My Job If I Want To. by Nobody: 1:02pm On Mar 29, 2020 |
This is not a decision that should be taken after consultation; especially not on NL. It is yours and your husband's alone to make. Whatever you decide, you're not to blame. 1 Like |
| Re: My Husband Has Said I Can Quit My Job If I Want To. by Nobody: 1:40pm On Mar 29, 2020 |
Please quit.... Don't let Nigerjans guilt trip you into doing your job if you don't feel the job is worth your life 4 Likes |
| Re: My Husband Has Said I Can Quit My Job If I Want To. by DBestDoc(f): 1:57pm On Mar 29, 2020 |
Diiiamoond: It’s ok to be scared at this time, you’re not wrong to be. The first time I found myself in a Nigerian working environment, I had HIV dreams for close to two weeks and I never stopped double checking and replaying my daily activities in my mind because the number of PLWHIV I got in contact with on a daily basis was alarming and too much compared to where I was coming from. It was all new to me but that didn’t stop me from doing my job rather, I had to treat every patient I got in contact with as a possible case and protected myself accordingly. Quitting is not the answer now as you’re highly needed but you’re only useful to your patients and family when alive and healthy so please your health and protection comes first before your patients. If you have to provide your own PPE, please do. When at home, treat yourself as a possible carrier and contaminant, don’t be too close to the kids, let them receive the hugs and kisses from their dad for now till we’re sure of where we’re headed. Stay Safe! |
| Re: My Husband Has Said I Can Quit My Job If I Want To. by craleonic: 2:53pm On Mar 29, 2020 |
Diiiamoond: Please quit if the risk is too much for you to control. Put your kids first. That guy would do the same if he were in your shoes. |
| Re: My Husband Has Said I Can Quit My Job If I Want To. by MMotimo: 3:07am On Mar 30, 2020 |
If you do quit, please do not become one of those women that give stay at home Moms a bad name. If your husband is an abuser, cannot afford to carry the family on one income, is a wakabout, etc - think clearly and think twice. 1 Like |
| Re: My Husband Has Said I Can Quit My Job If I Want To. by GboyegaD(m): 3:37am On Mar 30, 2020 |
Have you thought about how your service is needed at this time and the effect of this action on your future employability? |
| Re: My Husband Has Said I Can Quit My Job If I Want To. by tobyemmanuel(m): 7:49am On Mar 30, 2020 |
Diiiamoond: Please Quit! If you can't be provided with adequate protective equipment, why put yourself at risk? No life is more important than the other. Even the pay may not worth the job sef. All these ones typing and you better don't mind them. They cant do what you're doing and will resign if they are in your shoes. You are on your own if you die. Your family won't probably be remembered for anything. Resign abegi. Na person wey dey alive get hope. You can always get another job. |
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| Re: My Husband Has Said I Can Quit My Job If I Want To. by Kuns84(m): 8:03am On Mar 30, 2020 |
Diiiamoond: You are free to quit if you want. Everyone has the right to be selfish and look out for themselves. As for me, my decision to practice medicine was born out of sheer love for humanity and a passion to save lives. I will not give up just because of a mere virus of which most who contract it eventually recover. I take my registrar status in public health very seriously and will continue to play my part in curbing this virus. 7 Likes |
| Re: My Husband Has Said I Can Quit My Job If I Want To. by Nobody: 3:27pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
Abfinest007:Unless the man has empathy or is a very patient man. That marriage is going to go through thick and thin and might likely not survive if and when OP leaves her job. When men say do this, do not worry i have got your back, please consider that they are human beings too and the human factor in them will surface when the burden shows up on them. It is better you are on your own financially, even if its 20kobo per month. Than to stay and the man is bearing your burden. Ah my sister many who have towed this part will advice you to not try it. As for the professional aspects, its up to her reason for practising in the first place that determines the decision she will take. |
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